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Theres a new girl at my school; Lizzie.
She seemed really sweet and over the past 2 weeks we've become [ or so i thought ] great friends.

The first day she got here, she asked me like who are good people to hang around, who to trust/not trust, who the populars are, who would get you in trouble, and what our school is like.

I told her in my school you can't trust anyone. I told her about a girl on our Team that is so stuck up and self-concieted and thinks she popular [ and shes deff. not ]And I told her my opionion about other people too. Well Lizzie ran off and told all those people what I had said about them and how not to trust me. This made me mad cause she specificly asked about these people then stabbed me in the back by telling them my opionion about them.

I don't wanna confront her about it though; I'd feel so embarressed. What should I do?

Well, the only thing you really can do is confront her... There's really no other solution. Just tell her how angry it made you for her to do that to you. To me, (even though I don't know her) she doesn't sound like a very trusting person. Or she is just looking for friends and she thinks that by telling them what you think of them will make them like her more. (*hmm*)
And for what you said about the other people, its never good to talk about people behind their backs... unless its with someone you really know well, and trust... probably not the best thing to tell a new girl.
And as for the people who she said it to (if you care that they are mad at you) All you can do is say your sorry....
So basically just talk to the girl about it. Who knows... there might be more to the story than you know

Well I hope I helped :-)
~*Ashley*~

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i'm 15 and my last serious bf was when i was in the 7th grade. i'm not shy, i talk a lot, i get along with everyone,i have a good sense of humor, i don't want to sound stuck up but i'm not ugly. my two best friends have bfs one of them has many pimples on her face, my other friend has been know as the ugly duckie. their bfs are really cute. is there something wrong with me, that i can't get a bf? i feel so alone and behind my smile there is a girl depressed that has a problem with self harm, and has no one to talk to, and feels unloved!

Well, no offence, but maybe its because you call your friends ugly duckies and talk about their pimples... its just a thought. But, also.. you really don't need a guy to make you feel happy. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, maybe its just that you need to find a guy you like personaly... start flirting around. For all you know there's a guy out there that likes you! You have no idea... so don't get depressed over it! Be happy and get down wit ur gurrllzzz. lmao!
Hope I helped ;-)
~*ash

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i have heard a or that one of my close friends doesnt really like me, but we still hang out every day. but i heard this from a lying "friend", who doesnt really like the i first started talking about. would she make it up?? what should i do???

You should talk to your close friend about everything and ask her about it. Ask her if she still likes you and tell her someone told you that she didn't.

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Me and my friend have been friends since Kindergarden. (currently in 8th grade) And in 7th grade this girl moved here and we've been friends ever since. But i try very hard to include both of them in all that i do.. and not ignore them. But then when she was in 5th grade here and this other girl became friends and ever since and it seems like i'm always being ignored by her. I understand that she has to have other friends and stuff but i feel like i should be indluded in some of the stuff she does. like occasionally go to her house. and when i invite her to my house.. it always seems like something 'comes up' and she never gets to come.. either that or she already has plans with the other girl. I don't wanna break the friendship.. but i just don't know what to do.. Any suggestions?

OOOOk! what you need to do here is just talk to your friend about what's bothering you. I'm in 8th grade too... and I know how it feels to be left out. It happened to me a lot last year, but I just talked to my friends about the way I felt and now everything is great! There's no reason for you to break this freindship up because it seems to me like you really care for her. But, when you talk to her, you have to take the right approach. Make sure she know's exactly how you feel, if your angry, tell her your angry. If you are just felling left out, tell her that. Don't let your messages get mixed up and don't yell about it if you still want to be her friend.
Hope I helped!
~*ash

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my friend says she is always excluded but thats not true and its really annoying when i go to ride my bike with some friends and she gets upset cuz we did not invite her well she lives to far away and does not know how to ride a bike this is a really bothering me what should i do to make her see she is never excluded???

Maybe you can start doing things with her just the two of you. That might make her feel like she's wanted a little bit more. Or maybe when you go to ride your bike with people you can even invite her... Even though she lives so far away, she might appreciate it. Just start inviting her more. I don't think she would say something like that if she didn't feel that it were happening.

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my best friend and i have always stuck 2gether, but lately she found this other friend who she keep on hanging out with...i know that you are allowed to have more than one close friend, but i kinda feel hurt that she rather hang out with that girl then me. She has been totally ditching me lately. she acts like i am her best friend when the other girl isn't aroung though, but not the same as she used to...please don't tell me to forget about her because i just can't...please help...
thanx a bunch!

Aright, this is an easy one.. just talk to your friend about what is going on and tell her how you feel. Don't make it seem like your mad or anything, just hurt that she'd rather hang out with this other girl now more than you. If she's your best friend, then she should be able to listen to what you are saying and be able to talk to you about what is going on. Don't get too upset about this though... It may just be that she just needs a little space from you, and in that case, don't sweat it. People need breaks from other people all the time when they're close, and its perfectly normal.

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Well, So far alot of guys have turned me down. SO i asked my ex why he broke up with me, and he seyd "well, All the guys say you really need braces so they dont like you" .. i have 2 teeth on the bottom that are slightly crooked, but i cant get my braces on till July, whut do i do?!??!

WHOA! you should never try to change yourself for a guy! never ever ever! If a guy can't like you for you then he's not worth your time. As for what you should "do"... you shouldn't do anything. Just be yourself. You shouldn't ever change yourself for anyone... even if its something as little as your teeth. Don't sweat it for now .. guys are shallow but they'll grow up sooner or later.. trust me!

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Hey guys...well my dad is really mean to me sometimes and I'm really tired of it. He'll be nice to me one minute and a total grouch to me the next. What should I do? I'll rate 5's to GOOD answers!

I'm 14/f

I know you've probably heard this a lot, but you need to talk to your dad about what is bothering you. Tell him that you feel that he isn't being nice to you. Sometimes parents can be waay too harsh, and they don't realise it. Whenever my mom is being a total jerk I just talk to her about what's bothering me. You can't get totally mad about it though, and freak out.. cuz that never helps anything, it just causes more tension.
Well, I hope I helped...
~*ash

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okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...

sincerely,
Sojelous

Hmm.. I think one of the biggest things I've been saying to everyone is to talk about it. You remind me of my best friend.. actually the same exact thing is going on (really, its kinda scary) with her. She says she feels like she's slipping away from our group. I understand how you feel. It always hurts to loose some friends that you have been best best friends with for a long time. You should just talk to them. Its totally normal to feel jealous. But, if they laugh at you or get mad at you for trying to talk to them about it them they're obviously not worth it! And I mean really. Friends are there to listen to your problems when you are haveing them and to help you out when something is wrong. They shouldn't laugh at you when you try to talk to them about it, and if they do then (I hate to say this but) they aren't "true" friends. They souldn't get mad at you either.. because that's not right. If they do then you are soo much better than them and it might be time to move on. I know its hard to move away from people you have loved and trusted for such a long time, but its really the best thing for you when you are being treated like dirt. I really hope I helped :-)
~*ash

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If it matters, I'm seventeen, and a girl.
Okay, so I've been really close with this friend of mine for about two years. Then all of a sudden, she decided she was too good for me. She dwells in every issue she has until she makes herself depressed. She's getting all "emo", for another thing, and pushing EVERYONE away, except our mutual friend, who happens to be a guy.
Now, she even admitted to him that she had a crush on him for awhile, but she "got over it". Somehow, I don't think she did. We're in a choral group and she always manages to position herself next to him, which bothers me - not because I like him - because I'm used to hearing his part in my ear. I'm used to listening to him. We always used to practice together for concerts, we sit next to each other in choir because we blend, and all that.
Anyway, so the main issue I have is, what do I say to her, if anything? She suddenly decided she was too good for everyone except one guy - oh, and her "college friends" which are her only "real" friends. Most of my friends are in college, and I still don't act like that.
I almost want to confront her about her pompous attitude, and about her supposed crush on our friend, but it would make everything awkward, I know.
What would you all do in this situation? I'm just curious.
I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. =)
Thank ya for your opinions.

Well... I think its always best to talk to someone about what's going on. First off you should talk to her about how you have been noticing her acting different and how you have noticed her pushing people who care about her away. You should try to understand what is wrong with her because maybe something is bothering her that you aren't aware of. Who know's maybe all she really needs is someone to feel sympathy for her and make her feel like she's wanted. Maybe that's why she's acting like she likes this guy. She sees you with him and decides that she wants the attention with him that you have. She's probably just jealous. Also she probably dwells on everything because she doesn't feel as important to anyone and it just makes her depressed... I hope I was of some help
~*ash

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I have a cousin who puts my probles on here for the world to know! It's really annoying me..what should I do..I don't want to seem mean though..

Hmm, well.. first off you just need to talk to your cousin.. ask them why they are doing this and if they would stop. Tell them exactaly how you feel but don't make it seem like you are, well, angry about it, just upset and annoyed. You just have to lay it down and try to be as nice as you can about it... which is hard, but very awarding in the end when you are annoyed.
Hope I helped :-)
~*ash

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One of my best friends has been dateing this guy for a year. we are both 14. well i have always thought this guy wasnt good for her, i mean he has kicked her, black mailed her, and even sent threats. the threats were jokes, but they wee serious at the time. like there was one rape one. well lately she has been ignoring me for him. it is true that he hasnt been so bad lately and it seems like her does love her, but i still cant take it. it doesnt seem fair that i have always TRIED to be with her, and he hasnt and she takes the side of him. what should i do? should i tell her? should i just let it slide?

The best thing to do is talk to her. Never let something that's bugging you "slide"... that could be the worst thing to do. Maybe its that she doesn't relise she's ignoring you at all, and she's probably not doing it on purpose. Tell her that your friendship means so much to you and some guy shouldn't ever get in the way. Don't make it seem like your mad at her, because that never helps anything. Try to be understanding but at the same time get out what you really want to say to her. She should be able to understand where you are comming from.
As me and my friends always say "Friends forever guys whatever." haha hope I helped,
~*ash

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I think I have sort of created some sort of irreversible obsession over my best friend. I'ts not that I cant live with out her. It just that I refuse to do the simplest thing without her consent or at least knowledge. In some sort of twisted way, I cant think without her.... Shes sort of that one thing that completes me in almost all aspects of my life. I'ts scares me day by day because i feel that such a good thing is always lost... Im paranoid about losing one of the only things that makes my life, worthwhile.... Praying for her everynight doesnt seem enough and even when I'm sleeping next to her...I sleep with the deep penetrating thought that She wont be there when i wake up.... My question to you is this.. Is this a friendship or some sort of ill obsession?????

Please help me?????

19...Female

No way! No obsession! That's why she's your best friend... because you need her. Maybe even you see her as more than a best friend more like a sister... that's how I see my best friend. Best friends are someone that you can depend on no matter what and someone you can always feel comfertable with. You wanting to know what your best friend thinks about things is what most girls do anyway... I know I do at least. You and her are obviously close and that's a great thing! As for worrying about wheather or not she'll be there when you wake up.. stop worrying. I bet she feels the exact same way as you do about her. And if she does, then she'll never leave you.. Never!
Hope I was of some assistance,
~*ash

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ok well my b/f was sapose to come over to my house on fridy and he seemed like he really wanted to come like when i was on the phone with him he was looking up my house on map quest and he was telling my friends that he couldn't wait to come to my house but he also told my best friends thta he was scared..in the hallway i was like when r u comeing over and he go well my parents are goign to my grandpas birthday soo their gonna drop me off then and i was like u can't miss your grandpas party b/c of me and hes like yeah i can its the same thing every year and ive been waiting all week to come to your house then later he called me and told me that his grandpa was going to flip if he didn't go to his party so i was like ok and hes liek i really wanted to hang out with you though and was like i promise well do it over break so i was like ok well its his grandpas party...later that night i even drove by his house and there was no lights on but today someone told me that they saw him at a laxcrosse game on the same night..this really doesn't sound like something he would like im soo surprised that he did it b/c we have been going out for a whille and he acts liek he really likes me i dont know what to do please help me!!!1

Well, first of all who know's if he really was at the game... Who know's if this person was lying about it or whatever. And who know's if it was even your boyfriend that they saw there. The best thing to do is just talk to your boyfriend about it without getting all worked up about it. You have to make sure you don't point any fingers or make him feel like your angry at him. If you make it seem like your angry at him then he will think you are trying to blame him for something and everything will turn into a big mess.. trust me.
Well, I hope I was of some assistance
~*ash

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I like this guy I'll call him Brian, when he had a girlfriend he always flirted with me, but Friday his girlfriend broke up with him then he was at a dance I went to and we barely spoke. I kept trying to talk to him but he barely said a word. I'm wondering why he didn't talk to me. Also there's a rumor that he likes me, do you think he does. (Sorry that its long)

He might just be upset about the breakup... just give him a little while before you jump to conclusions...

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