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Q: 15f
I have a HUGE crush on this guy but he's gay is it possible to turn a gay guy staight and if so how?
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No and even trying to turn him straight would be the most selfish thing to do! He knows he likes guys and is okay with it. Don't you dare try and change him!
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Alright, so my boyfriend and I of 11 months we were having phone sex, and apparently I was getting to loud at it and my father..which was next door he called attention to my mom, and after I got off the phone, she started yelling at me over it, and asking why I changed my underwear, and I was utterly embarrassed, so when mu bf called back he felt bad, and he said it was his fault and he would tell her we weren't doing anything, so he did..but than afterwords my mom kept bitching saying " I know thats not the truth" and she says I best tell the truth, it will make things better so I decided to tell her the truth. Now its the next day and she won't stop saying " I'm disappointed in you." " Thats so slutty to do." All those things. Also we were planning , sense my boy friend doesn't have such a great home life, his grand mother is all he has and she leaves him for months with no moeny and sense my boyfriend is a senior after this year he was going to move in. Now she says not until shes trusts us again. Now I don't know what to do now? All this is my fault according to her, my boyfriend and I were just expressing are feelings for each other, we don't have sex..we feel it wasn't anything bad. What is it that you guys think? Now I feel horrible, and embarrassed. :/
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You do not have to feel horrible! Your mum is being way too unfair! Does she want you to have actual sex? I think not. Everyone has ways of expressing their feelings, mostly causing teenage pregancy.
You found a safe, healthy way to express your feelings. This boy's grandmother sounds cruel and it is very unfair and rude to forbid you boyfriend from living a better life when he has the chance.
You need to sit down and talk to your mother. Tell her how you feel and show her this if need be. GOOD LUCK :)
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Q: I need a pros and cons list with regards to admitting a crush. Opinions and other comments are also appreciated. C:
Background:
There's this guy who I've liked for months at school, but nothing has happened to make us "more than friends." Arguably, this seems to mean that he is not interested, but the obvious "signs" of his crush cannot be ignored. "Hinting" at my feelings hasn't worked so far 1. because I'm a terrible flirt 2. because he is dense when it comes to dating/has never had a girlfriend. Still, there is no way for me to guarantee that the crush is mutual. I'm willing to tell him in person, but, should I?
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Hi,
Pro's of admitting your crush;
1. He might feel the same way.
2. You will finally have told the truth and will feel better.
Con's of admitting your crush;
1. He might not feel the same way.
2. Alot of people will find out you like him.
Crushes are a hard thing to figure out. Just like love.
I think you should look for the signs. Take your time to see how he acts towards you. If you can't figure out how he feels, confront him. :) GOOD LUCK!
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Q: I am very confused about guys (hence the title) and I found myself asking me a few questions. See, I like my best friend, whom I'm not sure likes me back. I've like him for 2 years. But a few select times, I find myself thinking about another guy as well. And I find out that I have a small crush on another guy, as well as really liking my best friend. Am I some kind of whore? Is it because my best friend might not like me? Is it because I want a boyfriend? I'm so confused!!
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You are not a whore! It is perfectally normal to like two guys at once. As long as you don't date both of them at the same time, it will cause no harm.
Maybe you should think about which one you have more feelings for and see how he feels about you.
Good Luck :)
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Q: 20 female.
I'm just asking for people's different stories about having sex with their best friends. Was it awkward, was it fun, was it the best sex you've had, was it the worst, did it make you two closer or did it make your friendship awkward? Any insight you can give me :)
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I've never done that. I think it is wrong. If you are planning to have sex with your best friend DON'T DO IT. Your friendship shall NEVER be the same.
Sex should be a romantic occasion with someone you truly love.
Friends should be people who can talk about anything with and who really care for you.
Friends and sex DO NOT MIX. Don't do it.
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Q: 18/F
Hi. I have a problem with guys. They just don't want to seem to date me or even hang out with me. I have never had a boyfriend, a kiss, a hug, or even held hands with a guy that I am not related to. I am now a freshman in college. I have been told I am cute/pretty/hott, I have a good figure, and my personality is great. (I hate saying this, even on here, because I'm not comfortable taking compliments or even sharing them, even with anonymous strangers.) I have made a great group of friends here at college which is new for me too. I have never had such a great group of friends who actually care about me like they do. I just don't understand why guys don't want to date me. Is there anything I can do to catch a guy's attention? You might want to know that I am rather shy and dress kind of conservatively (but I'm not afraid to show a little clevage). Can anybody help me please understand why I haven't had a boyfriend even though people keep telling me I'm so great??
Thanks in advance!! :D
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The first thing to rememeber is that having a boyfriend isn't the most important thing in life. It's great that you have a great group of friends.
Maybe you just haven't found the right guy. But you will. Don't worry. Good things take time. Might be abit hard to get there. Break some hearts, have your heart-broken. But it will all be worth it.
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Q: Ok so I have a boyfriend who i been dating for a month and is nice but my dad thinks hes sneaky and my dads pinion counts
then i have a guy frend that we have been hanging out all the tie and is amazing and my dad really likes him but what should i do i no he likes me and i no he is thinking of asking me out but should i stay with my guy or try something new
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Well, this is tricky. I love it that you take your father's opinon seriously. Alot of people don't. In the end, it depends on what you feel. Do you think "your guy" is sneaky? Do you still have feelings for him? Could you imagine a future with him?
Then ask your self this. With the other guy Do you have feelings for him? Are they stronger then with "your guy"? Could you imagine a future with him?
This is a tricky decision. You need to make the right decision. So, take as long as you need. This does involve your feelings and their's to, so you have to know that it is the right one.
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Q: We broke up earlier so he can get back on track with his life/career. He thought a relationship was a distraction. His family doesn't like me, so when they found out we broke up. They were happy. They thought I was a bad influence on him, because for some reason he would do stuff for me and not for them. I guess... They're intimidated by me? By the power I have towards their son? But anyways, he recently told me that he still loves me because ever since we broke up he couldn't stop thinking about me. We decided to be in a "secret" relationship, but towards his parents he's single?? So we're keeping it away from his parents, and we're limiting the time we see each other. Then, just now... I told him I was scared he was going to leave me again, he said he's trying really hard to regain his feelings back towards me. What? Who tries to regain their feelings back for someone? Does that even work? I know he needs time to get everything organized.
My friends say that he's obviously confused about his life, but he obviously still really likes me because I'm his first personal girlfriend that he actually loved. And he didn't want to lose that, especially since he keeps calling me nicknames and hugs me, kisses me, holds my hand in front of other people.
But the one thing that confuses me, regaining his feelings? He said, yes he still loves me, that's why he said he was going to come back to me. Uhhhh...
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It sounds like he does love you. Personally, I think you need to tell his family. If you two are going to end up together they need time to get their head around it. Try not to think about what they think about you to much.
Hmmm.."regaining his feels". That is quite strange. Ask him. That is the only advice I can give you. Tell him you don't know what he means by that and it is driving you insane!
Good Luck ♥
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Q: Ok, so me and this guy, we'll call him Bob, have become pretty close. He hasn't asked me to officially be his yet, but it's at that point where we might as well be. Well, the other night, I got kinda drunk, and I ended up kissing a long-time friend who's been crushin on me the whole time we've known each other. Actually, it was more like make-out. Afterwards, I felt really guilty, and he reminded me that I am still technically single. When I told my best friend, she yelled at me and told me that I did cheat. Now, I feel kind of guilty and kind of not. I don't wanna tell Bob, but I also don't wanna screw up a potentially really good relationship. Advice on what I should do?
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Well, it is a good sign that you felt guitlty because that means you really like this "Bob". Unfortunately, we all make stupid mistakes that we can't take back, no matter how much we want to.
As he has not asked you out yet, I suppose you didn't cheat. But you still feel guilty. In my opinon you did nothing wrong. You made a mistake and you realised what you did was wrong. That's good.
If you continue feeling guilty, you should come clean. See what he thinks.
Good Luck ♥
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Q: if u like this boy and crushing hym hard and looking forward to having a relationship with hym how do u kno he feeling the same way?
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Well, if he likes you he might flirt with you or want to spend alot of time with you etc. If you can't find any of these signals, as hard as it is ask him.
I hate when people tell me this answer because I am always nervous to ask but recently I have matured alot and learnt that if you want something in life you have to ask for it.
You will have to take matters into your own hands and stand up and be heard.
Good Luck ♥
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Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. She's a nice girl but I don't have those feelings of love for her. I've been trying to wait it out, thinking that I'd start to feel the magic sometime, but it ain't happening. She's really into me and I'm just not into her. She's nice and all but that's about it. How can I dump my girlfriend without hurting her? I know I need to let my girlfriend down easy but how?
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Be truthful. Thats all girls want. Not that "its not you, it's me". We're not dumb! We want the bloody truth. Just sit her down, tell her that you just dont feel that kind of magic anymore.
She might not take it well, but its better then stringing her along.
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Q: Hi, i am 19 years old..5'6'' an i weigh 90lbs. I used to weigh 105 but alot of thigs happened and i lost alot of weight..I know it is not normal to be like this, its causing me to be sick all the time. I eat but it seems like the more i eat is the more i lose weight..PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! What do i do to gaing weight?????
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When people want to gain weight, they consider eating alot. This is the worst idea, it can lead to heart failure and alot of other health problems.
You should go to the doctor and discuss healthy ways to put on weight.
Good Luck (:
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Q: Ok so the other day i had the scariest dream... i dreamt i cut open a persons brain and fried it for my brother and sister to eat the whole time dreaming it i was gagging and i was also doing it in real life... i ended up throwing up and choking on it while i was still sleeping... later that night i dreamt someone was trying to kill me one of the guys were my boyfriend any ideas why i am dreaming wierd dreams?
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T.V's are packed with those kind of gory details. So is our immediate environment. When you watch commercials, movies, read magazines, see posters etc, there are disgusting, gory details like that.
You may have seen in somewhere and it got stuck in your mind. Alot of people have weird dreams and they mean nothing.
If you continue having strange, gory dreams it would be best to see a specialist.
Hope everything works out. Good Luck (:
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Q: i'm 41 years old i'm married for 17 years and i have two teenage daughters i'm living with my husband and i feel that our marriage at the moment is falling apart he has always put his family and his mother before me and treats me as if i mean nothing to him my mother in law is a huge obstacle in our life she creates unecessary problems but as usual he will always part with her every tragedy i have been through in my life i had been through it alone but he is always there for his mother and always puts her first can somebody please help me i can no longer live knowing that i am inferior to another person i just want to feel loved by my husband
please help
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The most important thing is that you have a long, serious discussion with your husband about how you are feeling. Honesty is best!
I'm sure he does love you. I don't know how to explain why he might be doing this. You need to DEMAND honesty from him.
Good Luck (:
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Q: so this guy has had a thing for me since last year, and it was obvious. he would always flirt with me everyday. recently he talked to my guy friend about me. then we talked everyday from morning to night time, all of a sudden it stops. out of nowhere, and he didn't answer my text. he is driving me insane
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Well, it seems like this guy likes you quite alot. Maybe he is worried and confused about how close you are getting. He might be getting confused signs from you. Try and give him some time, then talk to him.
Good Luck (:
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Q: My children, particularly the 10 and 11 year-old, do not seem to have any regard for rules. Simple requests, such as bringing down dirty clothes and linens, are ignored. Their only response when asked why they did not is only a shrug or "I don't know". We have noticed that this behavior is carrying over to school, as well. When asked if they have any homework, etc., they almost always say no, but we have been contacted by teachers that they are not turning in assignments. We have removed games, TV, ipods, computers, cell phone use and at one point removed our oldest from basketball, but they really do not seem to care. At least not to the point of any improvement. I don't know how to discipline someone who simply does not care. Need advice...
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Well, this is a diffcult subject as each kid's behaviour is different. You should try and sit them down and lay out the rules. Write them down on a piece of cardboard and stick it up some where in the house.
Their should be compulsory punishments for each bad thing they do, example; not doing their homework = no T.V for 1 week or not bringing down dirty clothes = do their own washing.
A good thing to rememeber is to ALWAYS reward them in a small way, when they do something good. Perhaps having a chart with stickers and when they do something good with out being asked, you add a star and after they collect a certain number of stars they get a reward. Example; pick what's for dinner.
This will give them a good reason to behave well.
Good Luck (:
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Q: how do i get over my crush that i see everyday? he said he doesn't like me but we're still friends. i think it's going to be awkward though. help! thanks.
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It is very hard to get over a crush. The best option is to try and stay away from him. Not completely but just in a small way. This may not be what you would like to do, but I honestly can't see any other way.
Good Luck (:
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Q: Okay well i wanna lose my tummy fast & i hear that those sauna waist belts help alot & i was wondering if they actually do , i kno it doesnt do all the work & that would have to exercise & diet a lil but is it a good idea ? Ps im really busy so i dont have time to always go to the gym anywho thanks in advance !
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Losing weight, should be a happy experience for you. Do it yourself. By excersising anyway you can and dieting. You will feel so much better doing it yourself!
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Q: My brother-in-law moved in with us due to a divorce. He never cooked a meal, nor cleaned. He had my mother-in-law come so she could pick up after him and cook his meals. She started resenting the fact that I wasn't doing chores for my brother-in-law. She even demanded dinner when she'd return to the house with my brother-in-law. I told her I wasn't a cook nor a maid; that my priority was my husband, our relationship, our home and work. After she left, my brother-in-law's behavior deteriorated further and I told him to either get it together or to get out. He left. The guest bedroom was a mess and the bathroom was disgusting, feces all over the toilet seat, floor tiles blackened, stained. And although my husband agrees with me on all points, he hasn't stood up for me. His mother keeps calling, requesting this and that from him and she said nothing when told how her son left his filth in our home. Meanwhile my brother-in-law is "instructing" my husband not to release his e-mail address to me the same way his estranged is denied access to his e-mail info. I believe my husband should have told him that I was not interested in his e-mail info and that he should cease any attempts to issue orders with respect to me. So why is my husband being so complacent? Why isn't he setting boundaries and standing up for me, our relationship and our home?
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It is sometimes hard to stand up to people. Especially family! Your husband is obviously, confused about which side to take. You need to sit down and explain how you feel. Ask him once and for all, which side he is on. You need to know where he stands!
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Q: I'm looking for a interpretation of my dream. I didn't think much of it but now a certain part keeps repeating itself in other dreams. I'll like to hear what other people think of it.
The main part is when I'm in trouble and start screaming (never have in a dream before til this year) I feel myself struggling to scream loudly to grab someone's attention. Even when it's loud, no one looks but the person who is causing me the trouble (threatening figure/holding onto me/etc) One time people looked but didn't do a thing.
That scene has came up daily. It's odd..
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I am no expert but this may be caused by something you have seen/heard. Perhaps something you heard on the news or a t.v show. Such as CSI, NCIS etc.
If this dream continues, you should consider seeing someone. They may know a solution for this dream.
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Hi,
I've been through some hard times myself and would have loved someone to talk to and give me advice. Now I feel as happy as ever! I would REALLY like to give people advice and hopefully help them out of their current hard time. I am a fantastic listener (all my friends say so) and am ALWAYS there for anyone! Even strangers! :)
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Member Since: November 6, 2010 Answers: 54 Last Update: November 18, 2010 Visitors: 2432
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