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What is going through his mind?
We broke up earlier so he can get back on track with his life/career. He thought a relationship was a distraction. His family doesn't like me, so when they found out we broke up. They were happy. They thought I was a bad influence on him, because for some reason he would do stuff for me and not for them. I guess... They're intimidated by me? By the power I have towards their son? But anyways, he recently told me that he still loves me because ever since we broke up he couldn't stop thinking about me. We decided to be in a "secret" relationship, but towards his parents he's single?? So we're keeping it away from his parents, and we're limiting the time we see each other. Then, just now... I told him I was scared he was going to leave me again, he said he's trying really hard to regain his feelings back towards me. What? Who tries to regain their feelings back for someone? Does that even work? I know he needs time to get everything organized.
My friends say that he's obviously confused about his life, but he obviously still really likes me because I'm his first personal girlfriend that he actually loved. And he didn't want to lose that, especially since he keeps calling me nicknames and hugs me, kisses me, holds my hand in front of other people.
But the one thing that confuses me, regaining his feelings? He said, yes he still loves me, that's why he said he was going to come back to me. Uhhhh...
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It sounds like he does love you. Personally, I think you need to tell his family. If you two are going to end up together they need time to get their head around it. Try not to think about what they think about you to much.
Hmmm.."regaining his feels". That is quite strange. Ask him. That is the only advice I can give you. Tell him you don't know what he means by that and it is driving you insane!
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I've been in a similar situation before. If a guy really wants to be with a girl, trust me, he will do everything he can to make that happen, but in some cases a guy can really want to be with you but like you said, he has alot of other issues. You can wait around for him, but if you ever feel like you're wasting your time, or he'll never be what you want him to be..that's when you let him go for good because it only gets worse. Don't let him think you need him too much because he will never get the big picture, that its about both of you not just him. As far as the family not liking you thing goes, dont worry about that, it happens all the time but if he loves you, he will not let anyone get in the way of that. Just remember, love conquers all!!
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He's obviously confused. I think he still does care about you and like you. Just give him time and hopefully he'll figure out what he wants. It'd be tough on the guy if his parents didn't approve of his girlfriend. So that weight is also on him.
I think the whole regaining his feelings would confuse me as well. He said he still loves you but he's probably just confused about what he wants and what he needs. Well, just give him some time to figure everything out and don't bug him about it. If he wants to be with you, then he will.
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well, he's somewhat confused for sure. He also has his parents on his back about not liking you. Something that would be very hard to overcome.
I would be very leary of being in a relationship with anyone where it had to be kept a secret. Just not a good way to go at all. He either loves you and wants the world to know it....or he's sneaking around. Not good.
My suggestion, though it won't be the popular one, would be to back off until he is ready to stand up to his parents and decide for himself just who he will have a relationship with.
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