My name is Angel, and I love helping people. I'm anything but perfect, and I don't expect anyone else to be. I don't judge, and I don't try to make peoples choices for them. I simply try to help in the best way I can. I've been through some very good, and very bad times in my life. They have sculpted me into the beautiful mess you see before you today.
I'm here for anyone who needs anything I have to offer, so don't be afraid to ask, or vent. Whichever will help.
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ok so this guy and i were messing around and we ended up having sex. well he didnt have a condom but im on birth control (yaz). but im also on antibiotics which affect the birth control. so one of his friends was coming so we stopped cuz we didnt want anyone to know. so he didnt cum but could i be pregnant because i have been really tired and i've started to feel sick.
i just want to know if its possible to get pregnant if he didnt cum (link)
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It's possible, because of pre-cum, but don't panic. Just get a test, you can freak out then.
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How can I stop my negative behaviors?
I am at a weak point in life right now and am only becoming weaker. Life was always difficult. I've experienced an extraordinary amount of loss of various types--deaths, break-ups, a broken home, etc. I suffer from depression and low self-esteem, but I have never really seen a therapist about either of these. I crave love and acceptance from others but not openly because I fear being completely rejected. I carry myself in a way that nothing seems to bother me but I'm hurting deep inside.
I have been having sex with this man that is a little older than myself. He is not my boyfriend and I know he is really just using me. This is purely just sex with no intellectual connection what-so-ever (it's gotten to the point that we no longer even make small-talk before engaging in the sexual activity). I have told myself that I am with him only to feel like I am still desirable at some standpoint, even though I know he just wants what's between my legs--nothing more. I wish I can have a man who's mine and who will love me, but I feel completely undesirable and giving my body to this man is the only way I know how to "fix" that. This situation is only making me feel colder inside, and it's getting to the point where I feel that my soul is truly dying.
I feel like right now my self-respect is dwindling and I'm acting like a completely tramp. I KNOW I'm a whore for doing this (and I KNOW this so there is no need to spare my feelings in your response). I feel like garbage and, in the end, I know I will be played like I'm a piece of meat, used and discarded of when nothing more can be pulled from the bone. I just don't have any friends or anyone else around me that seems to CARE about anyone but themselves. I'm lonely. I feel terrible. I know I'm making a bad situation incredibly worse. I don't know how to stop, how to fix this, or how to be different.
What can I do to help myself? (link)
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You are not worthless, you are not a whore/tramp/slut, and your not a piece of ass. In this world it's hard to decide who and what we want to much, and even harder to be that. You want to be loved like everyone else. Some people drink and do drugs, others get involved in sports or work. You looked to someone older to give you support and guidance, and he took advantage of that. That doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you human like the rest of us. Everyone breaks, falls down, and is forced to see the world from their knees. Your fall was no worse than the rest of ours, so don't ever believe the lies they tell you.
You are beautiful and you are smart. You're everything your supposed to be. The reason it seems to you that noone loves you is because you haven't taken the time to love yourself. I know that sounds cliche, but it's true. Noone in the this world is more beautiful and desirable than you, they're just more confident.
The first step is saying No. Telling yourself and the world that you wont it anymore. You are just as good everyone else, and it's time you start believing it. Cut him loose, and don't run to anyone else. You're strong, you stand on your own.
Once you've made that stand it'll be hard to stick to it, you need a find a friend, a true one who won't break you down. And you'll find they are all around you, you've just got to look for them. But if you need someone to talk, or remind you how great you are. I'm here, and i'd be happy to slap some sense into you.
Next you need to find something you want to do that makes you happy, that makes you feel like your best self. For me it's anything artistic: music, drawing, ect. All it's got to be is something that shows you what your capable of. If you don't have any idea of where to start, make a list of things you want to try, and then start trying them! And don't give up because you don't think you can't make. I know you can do ANYTHING, you should too.
So just remember the first step in it getting affection from others is first finding the confidence to show them who you are. They can't love you if they don't know what they are loving. So start finding yourself. Once you find her, you'll that the world will too.
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my homecoming dance is this saturday, and i am wearing my hair curly. i have medium lenght, layered, thin hair. and i think it's a little fried too. it gets REALLY frizzy under different circumstances , and it looks bad. i think that before the dance i am going to wash it with herbal essence's "none of your frizziness" shampoo and conditioner (although i use this every day and it doesn't really help) and then blow dry my hair,straighten it, and THEN curl it. i know that it's not good to use so much heat on my hair, but i have to because otherwise it gets even more frizzy if i don't straighten it/blow dry it. i tried this all out on my hair today, and affter i curled it, it was STILL frizzy on the top and the sides where i curled it. i mean i don't get it, i did everything i could, i even straightened before hand. is there anything i could do to make my hair not frizzy? getting new shampoo is not an option, but if there is a certain way i can curl it or put some type of thing in it that would help then i would like to know. but i don't want to put too much product in my hair to make it greasy, because my hair also gets greasy easily. usually after i curl i put a little bit of hairpsray in it, and since i'm a dancer i only have hardcore hairspray like aquanet and such. but i do it from far away and not put a lot. i know that this would probably make it more frizzy, but i have to use it because since my hair is thin the curls would come out in like 2 seconds. so if anyone could right things i could do to make my hair not frizzy or smoother after i curl it, or something to do or put in it, that would be great. thanks! (link)
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I've been in your shoes all my life, now the best things for it is going to sound really nasty.
First thing tomorrow afternoon your going to need to get Two towels, saran wrap, and real mayonnaise.
Work the mayonnaise into your hair, starting by massaging it into the scalp and roots. Then draw it through to your ends until your hair is thoroughly coated. Pile the hair on top of your head. Take a couple of feet of saran wrap and wrap it around the top of your head to contain the mayo.
Take a pre-heated towel from the dryer and wrap it around your head over the saran wrap. The heat will aid with deep conditioning. After about 10 minutes, change to another heated towel and leave that on for another 10 minutes.
The rinse as usual-this is very important
OTHER TIPS BELOW
You need to wash, blowdry, and straighten early the day b4 the dance, sleep on it and curl it the next day. have you ever noticed that when your hair is oily it doesn't frizz as bad?
Some other things i do is soak my hands in hairspray once i'm done curling it and then smooth each curl indiviually
ten minutes later i use a dryer sheet like bounce or something. i just gently rub it down my hair.
then use some kind of finishing spray or shine.
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ohkay well i like this guy... and i THINK he likes me back, because he's teasing me that i like him!!!!!!! its soo annoying T.T
but i dont know, because hes the "class clown" soo, he might just be teasing me... AND he took my cool sharpener (its a baseball with a weight on the bottom so it spins) so i let him have it cuz, i like him LOL.
back to the question, so can anyone answer my question, if a guy teases me, does it nessecerily mean he likes me???? (link)
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Teasing is a general rule for determining whether or not a guy likes you. The reason being is, for someone to take the time to find something they can tease you about alludes to the fact they've been paying to attention to you.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule, him being class clown does make it a little harder to tell, but i'd say it seems like he does. He's picking on you about liking him, which means he's thought about the idea. That's usually a good thing, unless one of your friends called you out and he's just playing on what he heard. Then he could just be being a jerk, so i'd check around and see what everyone else is talking about.
The best way to find out is to jok back the next time he teases you about like him.
corny example...
"You think I'm hot."
"Who could resist you";)
so if he does he'll get the proper encouragement from you, so he's not too afraid to make the first move.
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my best friend and love of my life wants to join the marines wen he gets out of high school. he is into all the dangerous stuff n im so scared that something will happen to him. i want to be happy for him and i support him in his decision but i really dont want him to go. can anyone give some help on how to get through this because im having a really difficult time with it and ive even cried about it. and i dont want to tell my boy about it because i want him to know i support him in everything he does.i just dont want anything to happen to him but i always see how many marines die on the news and stuff. thank you for the help!!!! (link)
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I went through a similar situation last year, and it's hard, i know. The worry never goes away, and there is always a chance that things might go wrong. BUT they can go just as wrong here. People die in car crashes everyday, and yet we still drive everywhere. This isn't really any different, everything about life is dangerous, you just have to trust him to take of himself for you.
Maybe this bit of information will cheer you up, my boyfriend is a marine and he's set to be shipped out soon and he says that most marines never see the front line. It also depends on his job, that'll determine how close to the action he actually is.
But as far as you wanting to keep your fears from him, i think it's a bad idea. You shouldn't try to tell him what to do, but expressing your concerns only deepens your relationship. Talk him about what your feeling, nothing i or anyone say will compare to what his comfort will do for you.
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I'm a man in my mid-20's, and I've started to notice that my girlfriend of five years is very, very controlling. Like talking to a bunch of people (myself included) like she's our mother.
Now, I'm perfectly fine with a woman who can express what she wants, but how do you get her to realize that she can't control everyone, me especially, without it causing a meltdown? I mean, if this relationship goes to marriage, I need her to know that when I have a strong decision about our future, she can't just ignore me and do whatever. (link)
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You've got to talk to her. I know you've heard that one a million times before, but playing games will only screw you over in the end. You'll end up fighting so much you won't remember why you loved each other in the first place.
I suggest you sit her down in private and ask to let you have the floor. From your description this may be difficult for her, but you need to express how important it is that she hear you out completely before she jumps to any conclusions. At that point you have to tell her all your concerns, holding back anything is a bad idea.
But say it nicely, you don't want her to think you hate her, you just wnat her to understand that you're not going to put up with it. She doens't sound like a bad girlfriend, she's just dominating, and you just have to be up front with her.
Once you expressed your concerns the two of you should come up with like a secret code, nothing fancy, just something you can do that'll let her know when she's getting out of hand.
like with my boyfriend, i squeeze his elbow, even when we're not in public. It something intimate so he doesn't feel like i'm scolding him, but he understands at that point that he should stop. It always saves him the embarrassment of being called out, which means he won't get defensive.
I hope this helps, it worked for me, and hopefully it will work for you, just remember whatever solution you choose is going to take work.
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My boyfriend and I love each other to death, but we're drifting apart..
Any songs to help?
Thanks so much (link)
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jeff bates- long slow kisses
westlife- swear it again
hot apple pie- why can't i get to you
Kelly clarkston- where is your heart
buckcherry- without you
mindy mccready- maybe he'll notice her now
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this is going to sound pretty stupid but I'm genuinely curious about what other people do. i can't seem to make it through a day without thinking of a guy, going out with a guy, my future life with a guy...the weird thing is, it's not even one guy! i could really have no feelings for a guy friend but think about them a lot...i guess just because i always have to daydream about someone. how do you stop that??? i know friends with the same problem. just curious about answers. :) (link)
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I know what you are going through. I go through atleast twenty different fantasies a day about different guys. It used to bother me i always felt like i was living my life in my dreams, and leaving reality in the dust. The reason i think this bothers people so bad is we feel we're wasting so much energy on things we don't even want, when we could be doing more productive things with our minds.
All i can say is don't stop daydreaming, it just means your mind is rich and powerful. What you need to do is channel it. I write books, theres a huge market for romance, and you've got the gift. So just start writing these daydreams down. You won't believe how much it'll put your mind at ease.
If writing isn't for you there are other ways to express youreself and ideas. Music, art, storytelling.
You've just got to find your own thing, and you'll realize that once you really start getting involved in it your daydreams will become less frequent because your keeping that active mind busy.
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ok so i really want to lose weight. Thi month i am drinking only water and eating no junk food but fruit and vegetables. is there anything else i can do that can speed this process up like exercise or something? but i dont wanna do any strenuous exercise like five miles a day. do you have any ideas thanks! (link)
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When trying to lose weight we always imagine these impossible diets and extreme workouts, but thats just not the case. Those are for people who want extreme results. The best advice i can give, is go simple, it worked for me and my friends.
-when you get bored don't sit infront of the computer, go for a walk.
-if you watch TV do jumping jack, sit ups, or push ups during the commercials.
-stand on ur tippy toes while brushing your teeth.
-twitle your thumbs or tap your foot.
-laugh***
-don't ask people to get something for you, do it yourself
-take the stairs
-when your alone in your room, turn on the radio and shake what your mama gave you...and i mean all those crazy moves the world should never see (even if you only dance for 5 minutes, thats something)
-sing in the shower
-when you feel like snacking, but you arn't really hungry, drink a glass of water and go for a walk
-stop eating four hours before you go to sleep
JUST KEEP MOVING
I know it all seems small and unimportant, but little things add up. And the best thing about it is its not hard, these are just small improvements in your life.
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i need help finding songs that talk about:
a guy that is in love with a girl but she doesnt know who he is
(i already know about just the girl by click 5- thats not a good song that im looking for)
and about a girl that is friends with a guy and is falling in love with him.
if you can find anything- that would be great!!! (link)
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Here are some songs i think fit what your looking for, if you want something more fitting just let me know
a guy that is in love with a girl but she doesnt know who he is
*Let Me Go-3 door down
*Can't Let it Go-The Goo Goo Dolls
*Girl Like That-Matchbox 20
*Real World-Matchbox 20
*Iris-The Goo Goo Dolls
and about a girl that is friends with a guy and is falling in love with him.
*Invisible-Taylor Swift
*I'd Lie-Taylor Swift
*Teardrops On My Guitar-Taylor Swift
*How Did I Fall In Love With You-Backstreet Boys
*You Make Me Wanna-Usher
*Have You Ever-Brandy
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does anyone know of a site that gives you all the dumbest little details about weight loss diets... i am really interested in finding one that breaks the process by day telling you aprox how many lbs you'll lose within each day or week etc.... i tried googling but i dint know what to punch in (link)
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Remember weight loss is all about balancing the calories you consume with the calories you expend. so use a website like
www.calorie-count.com
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well im a cheerleader and we always have our arms up and are always in hot conditions and our uniforms have no sleeves. I sweat alot and i get musty. i've tried a whole lot of different deoderants and they don't work. i've even tried secret clinical streangth and that didn't work. Whenever the coach has a meeting about higene i think shes talking about me. I even heard some of the cheerleaders talking and they said if she stink again today we gon have to talk to her.they didn't say my name but i know they were talking about me and i don't want it to get to the point where they have to talk to me. it's really embarassing. please help! (link)
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I have that same problem! I can tell you what i do and hope it helps you!
I always put rubbing alcohol on my armpits, let it dry. Then i use degree. After that i use a makeup brush to lightly apply baby powder. But remember to use a light amount so you don't end up with white spots.
If nothing works see a doctor.
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im gnna sing damaged on thursday in the talent show
any tips if u know that song?
my friend noticed that whenver i sing it i tend to yell, well cos yeah the sng IS a yell-y sng
how can i make it sound good without sounding too yelly? Should i use falsetto? And if i use falsetto y voice is tooo soft (link)
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Stop trying to sing it like they do! Just sing it the way it comes out. It'll sound better, and you'll be amazed at how much easier it is to perform that way!
Other tips
*Drink lots of water
*Stand up straight
*sing to the audience not at them
*make eye contact
*BREATHE from the diphram
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I find myself constantly trying to be happy instead of just being happy. Everytime I do feel a sense of happiness and accomplishment, I let the following small bad thing bring me down.
Apparently, I'm not clinically depressed, or bipolar (I checked), so I'm just wondering, are there tips to meditate or let go, or just exercises to basically help me feel as confident as I was as a younger person?
Seriously, I'm open to anything at this point. (link)
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Everyone goes through moments of depression...it's what keeps us grounded, and more importantly it keeps us striving for more.
The best thing you can do for yourself is find time to live life one day at a time. That's what children do, and that's what you need. Try new things for no good reason.
Have you tried anything new, stupid, crazy, or odd lately? Maybe Skating, singing, painting, soccer, dancing, or kickboxing. You should! Change keeps us guessing, laughing, and young.
Stop trying to make yourself happy, and just be happy!
There is no magical answer to happiness, but there is a simple solution. You just got to live for yourself and the things you love!
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Ok , in the past my boyfriend has done alot of hurtful things . That has made me lose my trust for him , all of it . & i feel like i NEED to be with him 24/7 to make sure there is not anything going on. but everyone knows we can be with someone all the time . I'm the type of girl that if i cant get in touch with him i flip out , i worry , it drives me insane & amillion things pop in my head & not good thoughts either. I really wanna get over this because i know you cant have a relationship with out trust & that it just wont work. is there like anything i can do while im by my self to like keep my mind off of it or to keep me calm . I want things that i can actually do & will work . Thanks (link)
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Finding a hobby is always a good way to get your mind off things. You seem like an active person so i'd try something physical. For me kickboxing is a lifesavor...it takes my mind off the problem, and gives my body a way to release the frustration.
But if thats not your thing try an instrument, art, writing....there are a million things.
I can't promise that any of that will work because their kinda like a cold medicine, they only cover up the symptoms. The only real solution is to face the problem. You have to learn to trust your boyfriend again...if not, your going to drive him away. Love takes trust, so i suggest you talk to him, and find the answers your hearts looking for. That's the only cure.
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Ive been in a realtionship for three years and i cant let go because im so inlove and i dont remember how to let go anymore. I have been so emotionally abused. I have been throguh so much with this guy. Im so hurt by him i cant descibe the pain and he doesint understand me at all. He just wants things his way or no way he cant ever listen to me all he says is that ma words are just excuses and that i make him do mean things to me he says his unfaithfullness is because of me and all the above. I just cant take it anymore im so lost and confused i dont know what to tell him anymore when i try to explain how i feel he just pushes it to the side and cuts me off.. I need help to how i can let go because its so hard ive been through so much with him. When he cheated on me i felt like i was worthless and that i wasint good enough like it just hurt so bad because all i would think about is how he did it with the other girl did they do it the same way we made love it just hurt me so bad he cheated on me multiple times and i stayed with him because i love him and i couldint imagine myself with anyone one els. Also i thought he would apprcitiate me taken him back and understand that he has a good girl and wouldint hurt me like that again. But all he did was blame me for his cheating and didnt appreciate me taking him back. Why didnt he appricate me doing that? Gosh i just need hepl to let go. I need a answer...
thank you for taking time to help me... (link)
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We want to think that life happens the way we see in movies...we'll stick our heart out on the line for that bad boy, and in the end he'll realize how lucky he is to have us. All to often life doesn't work that way. When you took this guy back, he saw you as weak. The only way to start moving on is to start letting go. Tell him goodbye, and don't look back! He'll beg, and try to make you feel guilty, but you can't listen. His strategy for keeping you around is to break you down. Just walk away, and leave it in the past. If you look back, theres a good chance you'll go back, because things always look good in the rearview mirror. It's going to hurt! Letting go is never easy. But if you stick it out, you'll be stronger in the end. Even better, the next time love finds you, you'll know how to give it your all, which is much more than your boyfriend can do.
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This seems like the typical question, but I am honestly really confused. I'm 17f, I have only ever been in relationships with guys, but I have fooled around with girls before when drunk. I have always really considered myself as Bicurious. I have a bf, been with him for about 5 or 6 weeks. We havent slept together yet, but I have had sex in relationships with guys in the past.
I have been thinking about girls more and more in the last week, and last night I met this lesbian. It was at a party and I was with my bf at the time. This girl really fancied me though and I know that if i was single I would have really gone for it.
I guess my dilemma is, is that to determine what my sexuality is i am going to need to experiment. But i really dont want to break up with my boyfriend. What if I'm wrong? I really dont want to be bisexual though because everyone is trying to be as a trend.
I think I really want a relationship with a girl. What should I do?
Cheers xx (link)
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It's obvious that your boyfriend isn't doing something right for you, so i think the first thing to do is take care of that problem. If your battling with your sexuality you don't want anything swaying your opinion. Take a dating sabbatical. The space will allow you to think about which you miss more, the company of a male or a female. Once you've decided you have to find the courage to stand by your choice.
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okaay so i want to talk to a guy on my way home on the bus. the thing is that i dont know what to saay.
we've never talked before.
i was thinking about asking him for a quarter or something :P
any ideas?
and how should i keep the convo going, be sympathic and make him like me?
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Be prepared! Find out what you can about this guy, so you'll have things to talk to him about. Things like hobbies, sports, music, etc.
Once you have something to talk to him about, just approach him and introduce yourself. Guys like a girl with confidence so don't be scared. Just be like, "Hi I'm (your name), i heard that your really into/good at (fill in the blank).
And remember don't show how musch you like him, you don't want to come over love sick. Just be calm, and most importantly be yourself. Remember this guy is a person just like you so don't let it make you too nervous.
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I have had a crush on one of my best friends for like 5 months now. He always flirts with me and his friends think he likes me. Everytime we go place in groups he always asks me to be his partner and whatnot. Anyways we went on a fieldtrip about 3 weeks ago and he followed me
the whole time. We went on rides together and everything.We even held hands a couple of times. The next day we had a dance.During the dance he asked my friends where i was but i didnt go. Monday when i was going to tell him i liked him
i had found out that he had asked a girl out at the dance.She said Yes.
Even though hes going out with
her do you think theres anychance for us?
Plus i found out that she
doesnt like him. She only
wants a BF. Oh and should i tell
him?
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Judging from his actions I would say there is a chance he is very interested in you, but persuing this right now would be a bad idea.
If this girl really doesn't care about him she won't stay with him long. So have patience. If you run to him with gossip he may get upset with you. Plus you can never trust rumors. If you didn't hear it from her, it's null and void.
Just wait it out. Still be his friend, and as soon as she's out of the picture snatch him up!
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so theres this boy, we fight alot..we usee to neevr fight ! and i like him and he use to like me, but i dont know if he still does. but he also talks to many other girls, yes your typical man whore "why would you even bother type of guy"..i bothered because i didnt know him excatly like that, he wasnt like that at all when it came down to him and me talking. i guess hes really behaved when it comes down to almost realtionship stats. then this chick, aka the b**** well she got extremely jealous, and him and her use to talk, so she decided to come back into his life randomly? i hate girls sometimes... anyways, we stopped talkin for a while, then he had some away up about cryingg ? i thought something bad happened, so i asked if he was okay.. he just was upset a because he didnt have a ride to summer jam, june1st concert.. so i offered to take him, then later in the convo he says well can you do me a favor and youll do it if you care about me like you said you did.. so i said yeah like i said i did, and he said since ur giving me the ride, and the person i want to bring ur not friends with, can you make up with her? yeah guess who it is! thaa b****!!! mhm. well i agreed into takin her because i hate ruining peoples fun, im not getten walked on or anything, i just rather see someone happy other than pissed because i wont bring his little hotchie mama!, im not becoming friends with her, buh i feel so stupid evenn agreeing to bring him and her ! . well just brining him i didnt mind, buh brining her ! ugh. im a mess and i need some serious help ! (link)
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I know it's hard to accept but this is going nowhere. This guy is a user! Don't let him do this, giving in this time sets the stage that he can always use you. and trust me, he will as long as you let him.
I know you don't want to, but the best thing for you to do is cut all ties with him. He's playing you because he can.
You can either be the rival player, or just a piece on the board. What's it going to be
And don't be worried about ruining their fun, are they worried about ruining yours?
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