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Does anyone know of a place (online or a store) that you can get dog tags (the necklaces) with your initials inprinted on them?
Thanks!
http://www.dogtagsonline.com/
I'm not kidding, it is a real website.
Be4 anyone reads this that is a punk i have nothing agints you. i just dont understand you.
My problem is that my BESTEST friend in the whole world was like a pretty girl and was well prepy and now all she wants to do is be a sk8 boreder and wear black and she is always like pink is and evil color! She used to let me brush her hair and put her make up on but now she wont even let me touch her. I think that are relationship is floating away and i never wont that to happen. I know she has a right to be her own person but i dont like the person she os becoming and I dont want to change her bak its just i wont to understand wats going on with her and y she want to change all of a sudden i just am confused plz help me dont let our friendship fade wat should i do to figure this out and be able to understand her again.
-confused-
People try and find their own identity as they mature. Maybe this will work for her, maybe it wont and she will change again. Regardless, you are right, you can't change her back or do anything about this. Just maintain the friendship on the level she is comfortable with for the time being and see what happens. As people mature they try and fit in and find a social scene that works for them. Sometimes this is going to mean you lose contact with close friends as they drift away. Just always remember they are still friends, you just might not have so much to do with them.
Ok. One of my guy friends has a girlfriend, but he hangs out with me and my other friend more. So now his girlfriend is mad at him and now he can't hang out with us exept at school. It's really making me sad and neither of us wants this. What should I do?
Talk to him about it. Some girls get very jealous. He can either accept her wishes, or tell her to relax and that he still wants to hang out with you. It is his choice. If he is worried about losing her then either he can try talking to her and asking her along a few times so she feels more comfortable with you all just being friends, or he can start thinking whether he really wants a gf to choose his friends for him. Personally, if I were him, I would run a mile from her but in the end it is his choice.
This guy seemed to like me for a while and so i made a move by subtlely flirting with him. thing is-i ended up falling head over heals for him. everytime i'd see him...my friends would make a really big deal-almost everyone knew i liked him...but after that he started to stop smiling the way he did...and now we don't talk or wave or smile...what happened?
I'm only guessing here but the problem may be that all the friends knew before he did. Where he was friendly before, suddenly he is hearing from all sorts of sources that you have fallen for him. If all I had done was a little flirting and I heard that, I would be thinking "hell, she doesn't even know me" and perhaps conclude you were a pyscho. I'm not trying to insult you, just warning you. Flirting is fine and if people notice a few things well that is OK to. But as a general rule, try and let the guy you are interested in be the one that knows before everyone else.
Hey guys, I've been single for a really long time now and I really want a boyfriend. I'm 14/f, and I feel like I'll never get a boyfriend again. I still feel really bad from my last relationship. I have no guys to talk to or anything. When I go places, I hate seeing people with their boyfriend or girlfriend and having a good time, or even Valentines Day and Sweetest Day. How do i meet guys? I used to always go to the mall and the movies, and I liked people there but I'm really shy. It's hard to just go up to people and say something. How can I get some guy friends atleast, so I have someone to talk to? Thank you so much to anyone who answers! I'm so sorry this was long.
I know you might feel like it is a long time, but in reality it isn't.
One thing age teaches you is that a year when you are 14 seems like eternity. When you 34, it seems like a small bump in history.
Although I applaud your seeking advice on how to make some male friends, try and do so to make friends, not to "find a boyfriend". You don't need that kind of pressure and it usually means you end up making bad choices out of desperation.
As for making male friends, if there aren't any your age as enighbours that you already know or at school, try joining a club that has mixed participation. Try tennis or squash or whatever. I'm not sure what your interests are. Also, try remembering that most 14 year old boys are just as shy and looking for someone too. So even if you don't want to make the first move to talk to someone, at least try and make it easy for them to approach you. Be friendly.
This may sound like a stupid question but, what is the difference between a physchologist and a physchiatrist? Thanks -kait
If it helps I want to go into this field as a profession. Does anyone know any good colleges that have a good physchology program? Specifically helping Kids and teens.
Psychiatrists are doctors. The have gone right through mideical school and then branched into this field. They are essentially clinical in their treatment. They deal with disorders than are perhaps due to a chemical imbalance and prescribe medication. Schizophrenia, ADD, etc can all be treated medically with prescribed drugs.
Psychologists study human behaviour and get involved in counselling or treating problems through adapting behaviour etc.
The two fields overlap with many many patients having disorders that can be partially treated by both. For example, a schizophrenic may be prescribed drugs to limit their delusions, paranoia, etc. However, regular sessions with a psychologist may teach them techniques of how to adapt to the world around them without getting so anxious. The same can be said for depression where drugs like prozac are so readily used. Sometimes the root cause is more psychological and although medication may alleviate the symptoms, perhaps only counselling can deal with the root cause.
i am currently living in africa and i am feeling very very depressed as time goes by. i've been taken from the friends i love and i am slowly going into insainity. we moved cause my mom thought that the rest of the family hated living in texas, which wasnt true at all. i have left the girl i love behind and cant stop thinking about her, and now i am the most lonesome man on earth. i cant make friends here as they are all immature and just plain stupid. every weekend i am cooped up at home because we aren't aloud outside unless we are going to the store, anothre persons house, or skool. i'm am going insain. i need help before this is the last thing anyone hears from me!
Give it time. Don't expect people in Africa to be the same as back in Texas. They aren't. They may not be either immature or stupid, just different. They have grown up in a different society, culture and set of values. Try giving them a chance.
me an this guy have been good friends since we were little.. here lately things have been gettin pretty intense.. i think hes trying to be with me and i think i wanna be with him too ..
at the same time another one of my best guy friends is telling me about how jealous he is of every other guy i get with. You can be jealous but hes like my best guy friend do you think that his jealousy means he wants to be with me.
Then theres another guy who i have been with before, he wants to be ftf but i want a relationship and i dont think that he wants that. What should i do there..
I also have another guy who i was hanging out with for a while and he and i messed with eachother one night, well ever since he has been real shady but then at times hes real sweet, i really think i like him but then again i have no idea. He doesnt want anyone to find out about us and what we did.
THen theres more.. another guy the one i lost it to is always callin me an checkin up but hes known as a player should i give him wat he wants .. and be with him or not ? I am just so lost and confused too much drama
IF YOU HELP ME* YOUR LIKE NO OTHER - GREAT RATINGS PEOPLE PLEASE HELP ME
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I'm not sure what to advise because I'm not sure what your questions is.
You "think" you want to be with the first guy.
The "jealous best guy friend" probably does want to be with you, but that doesn't mean you have to. You don't even mention whether you are interested in him like that.
You want a relationship with one guy that might just want to be free to see others. Nothing you can do there except tell him what you want and if he wont go for it, you can't change him.
The next two you seem unsure whether you like them but you seem OK to shag them. Again, not sure what your question is for them either.
If you want some general advice, find out whether the guy you want to the relationship with is happy to do so. If yes, then you have to give all the others away so that answers the rest of it. If not, then consider the others and decide if you actually want any of them. Not whether they want you, it seems clear they are OK with being with you, but you haven't actually decided whether you like them or not. Until you do decide, how about not going with any of them?
i am a freshmore(15) any ways moving on i have a boyfriend whome i love very much and i assume he loves me to anyways hes the greatest any ways we had sex recently for the first time and now evrey time i see him he i guess think he want s to go that far evy time but i dont know..... i love him (an dim on birth control and he uses condoms) but im still scared. ami i just over reacting... and i know its not cause im not sure if i like him because i know i would give up every thing for him and he would give any thing for me so what shouls i do.......
apoolgy for it bing so long
~lauren~
You are being perfectly normal. Once you have had sex once, you lose a little of the innocence from the relationship. Of course he will be wanting it every time, he's a teenage male. But it is naturally to feel odd if you feel that the relationship has all become about havign sex and lost all of its initial appeal. Just talk to him. Tell him you don't always want to go that far and don't want it all to be about having sex all of a sudden. It wasn't before. Take it at your own speed and he will just have to slow down and be a little more patient.
FIRST WHAT IS yest infection???????
im sooo worried about my best friend she told me taht some time her girl part itchys and it might be yeast infection and i dont konw what to do ? also she told me that it dosnt itchys ever time and some the she take shower it the itchness go away and she think that is b/c of the shaving down there problems but i want to make sure thats ok!! it is yeast infect can u get rid of it and howwwwwwwwwww teach me plz and what kind medicins helps or some kind of cream it can helps also is YEAST INFECTION A BIG PROBLEM???? ill rate veryy hight!!!!!!!!!
It is not a big problem and relatively easily fixed with over the counter creams from the pharmacy. You can get a variety of creams. Not sure about what is available locally to you in terms of brand names, but the pharmacist can help. There is often a one day course or a three day. Most times the one day insertable cream will work. If not, perhaps tell your friend to go back for the three day version.
If that doesn't work, tell your friend to see a doctor as they can give her stronger medicine or it may even be something else.
Tell your friend not to have sex while she has a yeast infection. Not that it is a huge deal, but she can actually pass it on to her bf, who will then give it back to her after she has got better. So it is better to get well first.
Yeast infections are also sometimes a problem if your friend is taking antibiotics for any reason. The antibiotics can mess up the body's natural balance.
By they way, if the problem is one that comes back regularly, tell your friend to add yoghurt to her diet. The natural live yoghurt with acidophilus in it. It is a good at stopping it coming back as well as helping it clear it up. Some people use the yoghurt the same as the cream and put it on the problem directly but I always figured that was a little gross. Just have some for lunch instead.
14/m
i like 2 girls right now, GIRL-A goes to my school and lives REALLY close, but GIRL-B goes to a dif school but still lives kind of close to me. im good friends with GIRL-A but i dont think i have a chance with her(atleast not right now cuz she just broke up with her bf and she still likes him). i know GIRL-B likes me and shes perfect for me but we barely ever see each other(atleast not now). do you think that a relationship w/ GIRL-B would work out or should i just wait a while and see what happens?
-thanks
I don't understand why so many people have trouble with this. Girl B likes you. You like her. She doesn't have issues to deal with concerning an ex she still loves. What are you waiting for?
At 14 you might not even last the summer. Then see who is available then. You are way too young to sit around waiting for anyone.
i am trying to find out the formula for laying out rafters. if you know, or know someone to put me in contact with please e-mail me.
thank you,
chuck howard
Try google
I had this in ten seconds:
Steel Square, 2nd Edition
This classic text includes information on laying out rafters, braces, joists, and partitions as well as practical problems and detailed illustrations to show and explain the many uses of the steel square.
or this:
http://www.josephfusco.org/Articles/Roof_Cutting/raftercutting.htm
ok well there was this guy, he was like a nerdy inda guy. i dont like him, at all. and at a party there were these guys having a kissing contest and were trying to see how many kisses they could get foom girls. and the nerdy guy wanted to too and he asked me for a kiss. i asked him to wait a second and i left and never came back, he look so sad. i feel bad cuz i never thought id break someones heart. i dee him at school sometimes. i feel really really bad. what should i say if he asks me about it? thanks, appriciate it
You don't like him at all. Then try saying no. If the guy is stupid enough to ask you out when you clearly don't like him, thats his problem. Don't go making his broken dreams your problem, they are his problem. Do not be unnecessarily harsh or rude about it. Just say no, you don't like him that way, but thanks for asking. Also, don't run away to all your friends saying "Eww....he just asked me out...blah blah" because that is just childish bullshit. If you break his heart that is his problem. If you tell everyone else and break his soul, that is your fault. Say no, leave it at that and stop worrying about it.
is it possible for a guy to like a girl that is shy..? I'm always sort of quiet.. and it's not like I'm not outgoing sometimes but I'm not loud and I usually keep to myself because everyone in my school is against my opinions and I get shot down anyway.. and there's a guy I like and I'm not sure if he feels the same because.. he's always hanging around me, sometimes I'll look up and see him glance at me.. *sigh* just need some direction..
Let me give you ashlee's advice without the sarcasm. Of course guys can.
As to whether this guy likes you, maybe maybe not. I realise you are shy but that doesn't stop you doing a little to give him courage to talk to you more if he is interested. You don't need to bounce up to him and start talking or anything. But next time you notice he is glancing, try not to look away so quickly and try smiling. See if he smile back. Make eye contact and hold it for a little while. You will get your answer soon enough I think.
Ok I have problems trusting people..especially guyys! everytime I put my trust out there fully someone always smashes it... twice I had been cheated on, I have been lied to and ditched and I can't take it... but yea I want to know how do I trust guys more? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years....at the very beginning of our relationship he cheated on me but we moved on... I can't seem to fully trust him, I tell him I do and I believe I should but I can't help question him after he has gone out... he is really annoyed of it ! and me to, I dont mean to question but my head is filled with them... how do I learn how to trust him ?? (PS pleasse dont go saying how i should break up with him because hecheated, or because i dont trust him, IDO trust him...i just cant show it)
It is OK not to trust him completely. Besides, I don't think you can "make" yourself trust him completely or change your feelings. Instead, try changing the way you react to it. Basically the questions to him after he goes out are because you feel insecure. Try and limit the interrogation. Ask him how his night was rather than where has he been. He probably wont tell you enoguh to make all the doubts go away, but if it is casual then at least he wouldn't get annoyed at you. More importantly, try and find the reassurance you need from him some other way. Waht is more important? That you know every step he took while he was out so you know he didn't cheat on you? Or that he loves you? If it is the latter, ask him or encourage him to do things that show that he loves you. work on ways to find the answer to the insecurity without the questions and suddenly it no longer matters so much.
I have dark brown hair, it kind of looks black. People say I can't dye it blonde, but I kind of want to since people believe they can stop me. My skin has a natural tan, if that matters. My friend said I could dye my eyebrows to match. What do you think?
Go to a Salon but make sure it is a good one. A cheap place will try to dye it blond when maybe it is just too dark to do it properly for your hair type. Last time my gf tried going blond they used so much solution to get it blond it basically fried her hair. She lasted two days and cut almost all of it off. So go somewhere that you trust their advice. A place where they would rather tell you not to if it wouldn't suit than think "oh gee, I can charge X dollars for this".
I just found out that this girl i know is about to die because of cancer. I dont know how to handle it. someone please help me!!
Don't handle it. What do you expect to be able to do? Be sad. Cry if you want to. If she is a close friend, spend time with her and be the friend you have always been. If she wants to cry, let her. If you want to cry, do so. You have a chance now to tell her all the things that haven't been said between the two of you or to apologise for times you may have been thoughtless. Use it. As much as possible, try and be normal. She might be wanting to see you to feel like there are things in this world outside of her illness. Maybe she wants to know whats happening in your life so she still feels connected to everything. Maybe she wants to laugh at the same silly jokes you always have lughed at. Who knows. But really, you don't have to "handle" it. It isn't a problem you can solve. It isn't a situation where you always have to maintain control or composure. If you lose it now and then, so what? You're entitled to.
hi! im 13/f and im not loveing life to much.my mom is always yelling at me for nothing and slapping me alot and just hates me. then theres the thing that everytime i start to care for someone the dump me... and after the convince me that they like me or im pretty or something.. i really hate this. i got plenty more going on but yeah i dont need to dump all my shit on yall. but someone please tell me how to cope w/ this... ive been handleing this in a bad way for a little while now.. and i want to stop it..
thanks alot to anyone who helps me!
Handling this in a bad way? That doesn't sound very good at all.
I doubt your mom hates you. She just might have a lot going on in her life too. Instead of thinking your mom hates you, try seeing things from her perspective and see if your own attitude might be contributing to it or adding stress to her life.
As for people dumping you, life can be tough. Try being a little more independent. When you are happy with your own life without a bf, you will find you can choose one that will respect you and even if it doesn't work out long term, you will be so much stronger to deal with breaking up. Don't have a bf for the sake of having some in your life. If you do, you end up choosing the first guy, not the right guy. Then you get hurt.
Hey..I just want to lose weight..i'm 5 foot 5 inches tall and weigh 126 pounds..i participate in sports all year round..and I just want a way to lose some fat..mostly in the hips..and just asking if anyone knows how..
There is no magic formula. Basically you need to burn more calories than you eat. You are active, so perhaps you do not need to increase your sport but want to cut your calories. Just try substituting foods where you can. You don't need to eat "less", just less calories. More fruit, more vegetables, less fats and oils. You are not overweight at 126 lbs so you don't need to worry too much. A small adjustment will do the trick and give it time to work. See if you can lose 1 lb a week or fornight. Do not try and drop 6 lbs in a week or you will end up on some crash diet and all the weight will go back on the moment you stop.
... uh.. ya.. i just screamed at my parents at the dinner table since i got pissed off.. and guests were there.. i need help on blowing up like that.. people will think that i don't have any manners which is partly true.. anyway.. i hope that you have good advice on how to iunno.. calm down when i get mad and not scream at ppl. thx
You can't always stop yourself getting angry. You can control what you do though. Try walking away and coming back to it when you have calmed down more. You don't have to go far, just excuse yourself and give yourself time to breath. The other thing you might want to explore is trying to talk to your parents about things that are bugging you or them when it is a smaller issue. Don't bottle everything up to the point where you explode. If you deal with it early, it may save a later outburst.