Hi hi everyone! My name is Alice. That is my real name anyways. Everyone besides my grandparents call me Allie. I'm going to be 15 in March. I live in Philly, PA. I'm a Freshman and I play lacrosse and soccer. I made this site because I love helping people out with things and I will give you the best advice I can think of. My friend suggested I start this site because I give great advice. I will almost never give you a short undetailed answer. Unless it's like a yes or no question that is. Feel free to drop anything in my inbox.
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Location: Philadelphia
Age: 14
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ok so my boyfriend always asks me what i like about him and why i like him. but come to think of it i can't really put it into works like hes always there for me hes caring.. but i cant put it into words its actually really hard. i know this probably sounds corney but do u have any reasons why u like your bf or whatever just to sum it up? (link)
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I like my boyfriend because he's always there for me, he can tell when somethings wrong, he loves me even though I'm not perfect, he's brutally honest with me, he sees us having a future even though we're young, he tells me EXACTLY what is on his mind, he trusts me enough that he's cried around me and cried BECAUSE of me (=/) annd I just like him for being the best boyfriend I've ever had.
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alright i need to know none of my friends can really sum it up so what are a girlfriends "duites"? I mean it's really starting to get tricky and confusing.
Thanks in advance and I rate 5s! (link)
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Ok, well it depends how long you have been going out:
1 day- 3 months;
-You should approach him more than he approaches you
-You should not call him CONSTANTLY.. wait for him to call you. I read once that it's tacky to call a boy because then you have to keep up the conversation. If you do decide to call him call him no more than once every other day
-Invite him to go places
3 months- 6 months
-Call him, be there for him when he needs someone, go to any of his sports games, competitions, and maybe a few of his practices, keep track of the info you know about him (THE SPECIFICS-- favorite food, song, color, season, whatever he tells you)
6 months +
-It should be pretty easy from then on.
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Does anyone have really good (and very slow) "love" songs? Thanks in advance. (link)
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"Joyride" by Mariah Carey
"Crazy" by KC and JoJo --one of theee best, it isn't realll slow but it's a good love song.
"All My Life" KC and JoJo
I don't know a ton that are reall slow but I tried.
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Well lets start. I am 16 going on 17 my boyfriend is 18 going on 19 and my ex is 17 going on 18. Ok. I used to go with the 17 year old and i really fell for him like really feel for him. I know he loves me too but he just doesn't know how to treat me. When i got fed up w/the way he was treating me i met my boyfriend now i broke with my ex to be with him. We have been together now for 3 months and i really care about him. But the other guy has been trying to get me back since we broke up and i was like no cause he wasn't what i wanted anymore and i started to really fall for my boyfriend, but i never lost my feelings for my ex. Now me and my boyfriend are going through it and we dont talk like at all. I talk to my ex more than i talk to my boyfriend. He is really trying to get me back and i really do love him but i don't know, there is something telling me that shouldn't. I mean i do love but he has put me through so much already. I also care about my boyfriend now but our relationship is not doing so well and i really feel that we should just split up but i really wanna be with him. I dont know what to do. Do i break up with my boyfriend and go back with my ex (who i really am starting to want to be with) or do i break up with my boyfriend and not go back with my ex. Or do i just not break up with my boyfriend at all (which i really don't want to do). Please excuse the lengh. Please help (link)
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My advice for you is to go back to your ex if you want to so bad. It sounds like you are in l-o-v-e. And that does NOT go away. Before you do though keep this is mind--
--Talk to him about treating you right this time and if he really wants you he'll treat you right. Tell him if he treats you bad it's over. Maybe just to scare him a bit.
--Also keep in mind things might be a little weird for awhile. Something kinda like this happened to me and I went back to my ex and at first it was weird but it's all good now.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo
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Okay. I'm in love with this guy. I always have been. He doesn't know. He never will. I'm moving in less than a month and I am NOT going to tell him. That's not my question. My question is, this love for him is killing me. KILLING me, because I can't do anything (I AM NOT GOING TO TELL HIM, SO DON'T TELL ME TO!). I don't want to stop loving him. I know my feelings are true. But for my own sake, I have to.
How can I?
--thanks. (link)
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I know you said you're not going to tell him-- but let me tell you straight out-- that is one EFFED UP thing to do. You NEED to tell him.
Let me tell you from experience-- you should not continue keeping things in like that. This might sound corny or whatever but you have one life to live-- and it's a short one. Don't waste your time keeping everything in. Especially if it really is that deep.
And no, you don't know if your feelings are true. You can say that all you want and try to beleive it but you're not in love until you have someone who loves you back. I was in "love" with one boy for 7 years and I decided I would never ever love anyone and then finally I let go and met other guys. Now I have a boyfriend who Ive been with for a year or so and I know what love really is.
I don't care-- you can rate me a 1 or whatever but this advice is from my heart, hun, and I really think you should take it.
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Hey :)
Okey, so it was hard for me to ask this at school since no one gave serious answers, and I'm doing a poll for a school assignment.
If I say "favorite sports team" what is the first thing you thibnk about ?
And it doesnt matter which sport it is. Just give me the names of a bunch of your favorite sports team - or anything else that comes to mind when you hear that.
Thank you loads. (link)
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Red Sox
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me & my boyfriend really like each other a lot. we've been dating for a while now. we've madeout, but we've discussed it & that's as far as we're going to go. usually we'd do that at my house or his. [not the whole time, just occasionally] of course my parents were be home during this, but we never got walked in or anything..until yesterday. my mom didn't get mad. she was just disappointed because she doesn't want me doing that. she says i'm too young [i'm 14 & i'll be 15 in july] & that it can lead to other things. [which we've discussed time & time again & it hasn't & it's not going to] my boyfriend is 15 & will be 16 in may. my mom says when i'm his age, she won't see it as a big deal..but she says i need to wait. to make it even worse, she told my dad, who of course actually was upset over the whole thing. so my boyfriend & i discussed it all & decided we won't makeout anymore because we can live without it. but now i'm worried i won't be able to hang out with him as much because my parents will be all weird about it. even my mom said she can't trust me anymore so she seems to think we'll sneak & just makeout at his house. i don't know what to do. i really don't feel like i was doing anything wrong. i haven't done anything else & i don't want to. should i just stick with the plan i have now & wait until i'm older or is there another way around all of this? if you can help, thanks a bunch. (link)
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There is nothing wrong with making out and maybe you need to tell your mom that. If she's so fine with you having a boyfriend a year older than you or whatever, she should be comfortable with you making out.
If your not comfortable talking to her about it then invite your mom to like watch a movie at your house with you and your boyfriend or something so she can see that's not how you are.
Hope I helped. Allie boo
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14/f
Okay. I know this question is getting SO annoying..but I need an answer...and haven't found one that goes to what I need to know.
Alright, so I and this guy have been going out for 3 weeks tomorrow, and on Valentines day it will have been 5 weeks (That assuming I can count. :P ) We're both new to having a boyfriend/girlfriend, so we aren't really lovey dovey or "cute" or anything like that - heck, we don't even hug that much.
I want to get him something for Valentines day, but I don't know what. I don't want to get him anything big, but I also think it would be kind of awkward for me to MAKE something for him, because thats just not the kind of relationship we have.
He's in to music, horror and comedy movies, and acting silly almost 24/7.
What would be a good gift idea, something that isn't..strange..for our relationship, but at least something to say "Hey, its Valentines day and seeings as we're boyfriend and girlfriend, I thought I should get you something, because..thats how it works and I like having you as a boyfriend." (link)
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Get him a CD.. just make sure he doesn't already have it.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years now. His father was diagnosed with cancer back in May and when the finally did catch it, it was too advanced.
Today they officially gave him 6 months to live.
My boyfriend was all out crying when he told me. I've known him since we were 12 (we're both 18 now) and I've never seen him cry.
His brother committed suicide in October and even then I saw no tears.
I don't know what to do here. I don't know what to say and I don't know how to act. You'd think that after I've known him and his family so long that I would. But I don't. Not even after his brother. (link)
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It's probably really hard on him. The only thing you can do is be there for him.. to listen when he needs someone to talk to and anything else.
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This is probably going to sound pretty fucking wierd, but it bothers me.
Ok, Im dating this girl. Shes agnostic/athiest, Im christian, formerly catholic non denominational. Up to this point, with the exception of discussion, Ive not really had any issues with religions shit in our relationship. It doesnt bother me that shes agnostic, it hasnt bothered her that Im christian.
So, today we were talking, and I told her I was going to become a reverend in the universal life church. For those of you who dont know, its an online website where you can actually get legally ordained and become a reverend in the eyes of the law. I find this fucking hilarious, and have wanted to for a while, but never got around to it.
She reacted badly. First, she joked that she didnt want to be involved with a reverend. Then she got serious and basically made it clear that it would bother her for me to become a reverend while I was dating her (expressed so that it was clear she didnt want me to do it)
Then she tells me its "disrespectful towards my religion"
This is coming from a girl who Ive watched the jesus episodes of southpark with. Whom I have made catholic joke after catholic joke (Im entitled, I was raised in it) with and laughed with her. Whom I have had frank discussions about the real failings of certain christian sects.
And now this.
Needless to say, I reacted badly. I was, and am pissed at her, for reasons I cant really say. Given that she doesnt even have a religion (because atheism and agnosticism are no more religions than bald is a hair color) I dont see where she gets off getting on me for being "disrespecful" towards mine or having an issue with it when its not like...
Anyway. Enough impassioned speeches, my question to the masses, is what do you think. Am I out of line? Is she? Because Im going to do this, and shes not going to like it. And I dont like feeling guilty for doing things I know arent wrong. (link)
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If you really cared about her you wouldn't do this. Truth is, you ARE being disrespectful to your religion. This IS wrong and you should feel guilty. Unless, you seriously want to become a reverend then do it some other way. Your girlfriend is only respecting your religion and you shoud respect her for it.
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You OBVIOUSLY don't care about your girlfriend. I know my boyfriend wouldn't do ANYTHING like that if he knew I cared about it so much. You need to chill.. it's your choice- your girlfriend or some stupid reverend thing you want to do.
Something like this really is a disgrace to all Christians. I'm a Catholic and don't consider myself highly religious, but THIS goes too far.
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I've liked this boy for a while and he knows it. I asked him to winter formal and he said yes and he got me a corsage and matched me and everything.
A day before formal, I saw that he had left this girl on myspace a comment on this picture of hers saying she was beautiful and stunning and gorgeous. She left him one back saying thanks and he said no problem took the words out of my heart. That REALLY scared me. That girl is a whore. She has a new BF every week and shes ugly.
So last night at formal me and this boy had a BLAST. We seriously freak danced the whole time and held hands and got really close and he didnt even dance with her or anyone else. Just me. He didn't even look at her dancing and she was right by us. He even hugged me when it was time to go.
This morning I left him a comment on said that I had fun and thanked him for taking me and everything, he wrote me one back saying "yea i had fun" and that was IT.
SO does he like me or not? Am I wasting my time on him? I really wanna take things slow, but I dunno if I should even be liking him...
HELP!! I RATE SUPPPPER HIGH!!
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I say he likes you, but you have to look at the good and bad points of this:
Good points: He wouldn't have said yes to go with you in the first place if he didn't have some interest in you. Plus, he wouldn't have like held hands, and hugged you if he didn't like you at all. And he's a guy. Guy's don't usually leave long comments and stuff. But you should talk to him about it. I mean I know people are gonna tell you to talk to him, annd it might not be comfortable doing so, but if you really like him and think he's worth it than go for it.
Bad points: Maybe he isn't a typical guy. All guys I know leave short, to the point comments on Myspace's. But the stuff you said that he said about the other girl makes him sound like he's not that kind of guy. I would be a little weird about it if that's all he said back.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo
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14/f...okay I really really like one of my better guy friends named Warren. But no one knows it except me. Anyways I he was talking with one of my other friends and he said that he thinks that I like him a little (I tend to make things obvious). I totally freaked out and avoided him for a while so now he doesn't think I *like like* him anymore. It's good for now but I have a feeling that he *might* feel the same way about me. I'm not sure though. Even if he does we both don't want to make a move probably because we don't want the other one acting weird. I have no idea what to do. As far as how to act. Eventually I want him to know that I like him. But I'm not sure about the timing, or even if I should tell him. Should I wait for him to make the first move? What if he doesn't? I'm really confused...PLEASE HELP ME!
thanx
I RATE HIGH!!!^^ (link)
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Never wait for a guy to make the first move. Don't wait for eventually because you might pass up your chance, while it's happening. You're going to have to talk to him about it. Maybe, not in person but over the internet or on the phone. Never pass up a chance because you might regret it. I know I've done a lot of things I regret.. actually more things that I haven't done I regret. If you really really want him then your going to have to make the first move.
You're 14 and old enough to have the guts to make this move and I suggest you do it.
I'm serious about this- you really should listen to this advice. I've been in this situation.
Allieboo
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okay .. i dont really know where this would go .. but here's the background information .. january 19th was my dad's birthday. he would be 47 but he passed away when he was only 43. i was feeling very very down that day and was considering cutting .. but my friend was talkin about how when she's upset she pierces her ears instead of cutting. and i couldnt do my ear so i did my nose.
its how i took out my pain and grief i suppose.
okayy .. im not posting this so i can get the who "that was soo dumb" speeches. i see those all the time. i just want to know what's the important things to do with a newly pierced nose.
what i pierced it with is bigger than the earring thats in now .. will the skin grow back everywhere except for where the ring is? and its itchy .. but not red .. is that normal?
what would you suggest to do to keep it from gettin infected? thanks soo much in advance .. (link)
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It's pretty normal to be itchy and the skin should grow back. Just make sure to keep the earring in for at least 8 weeks before you take it out. I don't know how to keep it from not getting infected but I hope I helped with the rest!
Allieboo
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I am a 14 year old female who is recently living with my father by force. My father took me from my mother about 5 months ago because he read my little cousins diary that said i was doing drugs with my mother which is not true. my mother is desperatly trying to get me back but she has little money. I feel that I am becoming more and more of a danger to myself everyday here. there is no physical abuse but there is neglect. I am running away before the end of feburary and I need a SAFE place to go so that I am not on the streets. I am having problems finding a place to go many shelters will only hold me for 24 hours but i need more time than that. So I am asking advice on where i should go as a 14 year old female who is possibly suicidal. I have no transportation so i am also asking for advice on that. (link)
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Ok, where do you live? Killing yourself is not going to fix your problems. Depending on where you live I may be able to help you. Just drop something in my inbox. K?
Allieboo
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Well my best friend since 1st grade (im in 8th by the way! Well she has always been the goody goody type like when she goes out with guys all she does is the basics (kiss), well just this year she went out with a guy named mark and she didnt know this but he loved to go all the way just on the first date. so she goes on the first date and then goes back to his house. she didnt exspect to you know do anything. Well then they start kissing and little before u know he has hind down her pants and she didnt say anything cause she is "shy" well all through that night they were so close to haveing sex, she gave a blowjob and a handjob, but his dad came home so they didnt go any further. And I might sound over protected but to go all that way in one night i mean who knows what there gonna do. I am worried only because she was a mistake when she was born, so wouldnt you think she would be careful and not have sex?? should i talk to her about it?? or what???
please help
sincerelly,
lost at thought (link)
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Tell her. She'll understand if she's been your best friend for that long. You should definately tell her. Because if they do have sex and something happens (STD, pregnancy) it could be part your fault for not talking to her. Talking to her could make all the difference.
Please take my advice.
In addition to this. DO NOT send her mixed signals about how you feel. Don't say "I'm concerned about you getting in some sort of trouble and having sex with him" and then later tell her to have a condom just in case. That's just saying your concerned but she can do it if she's safe.
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I love this guy hes my bestfriend and i dont know what to do ive already dated him on and off about 20 times. Im afraid to give him a kiss one because it would be his first kiss and two because weve been bestfriends for 6 years...he keeps asking me to kiss him.. i mean i have kissed a lot of guys but something about kissing my bestfriend feels so weird i want to but i dont ..im so confused..please help! (link)
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Personally I think you should. There's a reason he's saying this. I think it's because he wants his first kiss to be with you. Just kiss him and make him happy, because it's not like your hurting yourself wasting your first kiss on him. If you've kissed alot of guys it really shouldn't affect you.
Hope I helped..
Allieboo
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I'm in the eight grade and I'm a 14 year old female. Some boys think that i am pretty. But I haven't had my first kiss yet. I want my first kiss to be spectacular, something that I will remember forever.
I feel really left out because all of my friends have had their first kiss and more. I just want to know the ages of people when they got their first kiss and details (like where, how, etc.) it will make me feel better. Thank you in advance! (link)
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I was 12 and in 7th grade. My boyfriend and I were walking and I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend being twelve. We ended up walking near my house and luckily nobody was home. But anyways we were at the side of my house and I told him I better go. Usually he would hug me good-bye. But instead he leaned in for a kiss and I almost fell over I was surprised. It wasn't the best kiss but I'l always remember it.
And don't worry about it being spectacular -your always going to remember your first kiss no matter what. If you want it to be soon then don't expect it to be great-- or you'll never get kissed if you expect too much.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo
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Its a long story but I'll just ask my question.
this guy I liked told me that he used to like me, but he talks to me about the girl he likes now and asks me if she likes him, well when he told me he used to like me I almost said something. but then he said "but then I thought that could never happen" AND YES IT DEF. COULD!! so what can I do OTHER than the obvious, which is telling him how I feel, which I will do if worst comes to worst.
THANKS! (link)
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Well, there's a couple things you could do.
First, you could tell him your pretty sure the girl he likes doesn't like him and likes someone else. Once he gets over her flirt with him but don't make to obvious. Just like do something like say "My hands are really cold tonight" and touch his hand and maybe hold onto it. If he doesn't let go that's a good sign. And if he does he just doesn't get it or he's not interested and you gotta try something different.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo
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Me and my girlfriend of over 2years have been having some issues lately. She says that she isent sure if she wants to be with me, and when she says this she cries and tells me how much she loves me, however, the reason she doesnt know if she wants to be with me, is because i dont hurry up and finish school. I love this girl so much and definetely see a future with her. Everytime we talk about this, we end up crying , so i decided to send an email, telling her how if she wanted I could brake up with her to make her decision easier, its been 2 days and i have not received an answer to my question, we still talk on the phone all the time and see each other, but no mention of my email is ever brought up. What should I do? How much time do i need to give her to make up her mind? its killing me knowing that she is contemplating braking up. (link)
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Ok, you're taking the wrong approach to things. If you care about her this much you can't go around telling her it's her decision. I've done this to my boyfriend before. The only way I stop thinking about breaking up with him is when he makes it absolutely clear that he doesn't want to break up. You can't go around telling her it's her decision or she's going to think you don't care if she does breka up with you.
Hope I helped.
Allieboo
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i am really pale. i'm 15 and i can't drive yet, so i can't drive myself over to the tanning places, and my mom never wants me to tan. i've tried the mystic tan stuff before but it looks too orange on me. is there any kind of products that will make me look like i have a natural tan and that actually work? (link)
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Wellll if you don't want to spend too much money just get a brozer and apply it to your cheek bones and like across the bridge of your nose and a little on your forehead. That works for the face because those are the places where someone naturally tans. Don't get anything too much darker than your natural skin tone or it won't look natural just corny. And you can add it to your shoulders too. But it's only gonna help your face and shoulders.
Hope I helped at least a little.
Allieboo
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