I am a 20 yr old guy, people call me logical and i look at myself the same way. I have been told i give good advice so i thought i would give it a try. I can give advice on pretty much anything, frienship, dating, emotional problems, health problems, pretty much anything. i dont however take any interest in answering questions like what should i buy a green shirt or a blue shirt. serious problems only. I like to help people, its a good feeling when someone likes what you have told them. and that is why i do it.
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i noe that nobody LIKES going to school, but i seriously dread it! what are some things that i can do to make school a little more.... fun?? i mean, like i could join a sport, but they dont have a chearleading squad at my school, so i go somewhere else, and i take ballet after school too... and i do outside school activities.... but what kind of things could i do IN SCHOOL that could help make it just a little more exiting?? thanks so much! (link)
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Think about it like this everyday that you go to school your preparing for the day you are going to be out on your own in the world, school just isnt about having to go your parents want you to go for a reason. After highschool you will have to get a job to support yourself, or you will go to college. Just think about everyday you go to school you are making your life better for the future. Make goals for yourself, you know like i am going to get all A's this semester you know a challenge for yourself(unless you already get all A's?) if thats the case no wonder school is boring for you!:-D hope that helped
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I have taken tests that show I suffer from moderate depression, moderate anxiety, and am most likely suffering from OCD, it is recommended that I get therapy and treatment. I don't know how to tell my parents how I feel depressed, I would rather tell someone (like a therapist) who has never been involved in my life about my problems. The reason I am afraid of who to tell, is because I don't have many options. If I screw up, that'll be my chance, down the drain. My parents divorced when I was four, I was very poor living with my mother growing up, I could live comfortably with my dad. He got married a few months after they got divorced. The day they got divorced they fought in court over me until I was about 10 or 11. I have three siblings, I feel like the older two don't even care about me. Let's say my name is "stacie". Everyone calls me stacierella, like cinderella. Everyone says I'm like a little mommy to my siblings, I do more than their mother does for them. I am in the grade I am supposed to be in, I am homeschooled, and it's a VERY BIG burden to get everything that I need to done. When I tell my friends that sometimes I want to kill myself, they say, "Stacie, don't kill yourself." and that's it. I am constantly asked at my dad's house if I have an attitude-which makes me EXTREMEMLY annoyed. My stepmother is nice sometimes, but I feel more like a servant to her than a step daughter. (I am writing another question about her.) I am not allowed to show my anger, like everyone else does. Just every week I am more about to kill myself than think about killing myself. I feel like nobody would even care if I died. I don't have an absolutely terrible life, I've got friends, I look good, well...I got an iPod for my 13th birthday. Does that count? Basically, I have four families (I got two from my stepparents), Each family either doesn't know or eachother, or only about one or two get along with anyone out of my four families. I have 45 people in my family, and I don't like about 25 of them. The people I trust to tell are : My dad, who will think those tests were not accurate, and defend everyone who I am mad at, or upset with, he will definitely (I am 100% sure) defend just about everyone, I don't really feel like I should tell him (or, he will try to talk to me himself, or just say he will get help, and I don't get it for a looooooooonnnnnggg time). My mom, who is VERY religious and will probably just say everything will get better OR make a humongous deal about it and get upset if my dad doesn't cooperate, and she will probably show me some scriptures and stuff. My friends, I have four new friends I barely know, I have a best friend (I just talked to her, I ended the friendship, but we might be able to work out our differncec, she has been such a good friend, for five years, I might see her this weekend) who I need to talk to and try to explain my life to so she can understand why certain things were going on (by the way I haven't seen her in two months, and her dad is wants us to see eachother and thinks I am being raised wrong), and my two other friends who are two years younger than me. The rest live far away and I don't see them much. WHO DO I TELL????!!!! (sorry this was so long, just need everyone to understand how difficult this is for me :( (link)
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Having depression is a very touchy subject and unfortunately the only person that will understand in a relating type way is someone who has experienced what you are going through. The most you can hope for is that your father will listen to you and tell him how serious you feel and that you want to see a therapist. It sounds as though all the responsibilities put onto you and the fact you dont feel as your older siblings dont care is probably the main problem. Fighting emotional issues can either make or break a person, either you will rise above or get dragged down below.. If you are unable to get to talk to the therapist or you feel as you dont feel comfortable talking to such a person you can feel free to ask me. I do have first hand experience on the affects of depression and anxiety. So you can talk to me and i will do what i can to help.
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okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!! (link)
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Alright first of all dont rate me if you feel like rating me low, i am giving my honest opinion. HAVING FEELING OR URGES FOR THE SAME SEX IS NOT I REPEAT NOT NORMAL, and however would tell you that is normal they themselves arent normal! you are very fortunate to not act on your urges, if ANYTHING go get urges with a guy its better than being tempted to kiss another girl. Dont you see what you are writing?! how does that sound "i am a girl and i want to kiss a girl" ok i am a guy mind you that was just an example. On one hand i am digusted and on the other hand glad not that what you do is any affect on me. Listen to me very carefully, you obviously have some serious major issues and you need to get help from a priest. Talk to any priest or pastor you know and talk to that person about the way you are feeling they can explain to you why it is wrong to act like you have been wanting to far better than i can. Feeling urges for the same sex is caused by too much time around girls and not enough around males, perhaps there is not even a male figure in your life? So do yourself a serious favor and follow my advice, you said yourself your not comfortable with this that should be your motivation to seek spiritual guidence. I Will guide you just ask.
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18/f. I was molested when I was little, and every once in a while feelings from that time surface and I get very upset and depressed. It's not so often - maybe once or twice in a year, but I don't want that time to keep haunting me for the rest of my life, I want to move beyond the past. Does anyone have any advice on how I can do that? (link)
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This is a touchy question in order to move on you must deal with the person that did that to you, either forgive them or make sure they pay in jail time. You must do something to make yourself feel as though that wrong was somewhat righted. Next i would go as far away from that person or where it happened as you possibly can, if you have already done everything that i have mentioned than only time can heal this wound in my opinion.
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Shit hook! What awful luck. My choir is having an opera performance a week from now, which I have worked the whole year to perform in, and I have a cold! Not exactly a cold; my vocal chords are clogged with mucus. Does anyone know any active solution besides Robitussin (man, that stuff tastes like poison) that will restore my voice in time for the concert?
Anyone who says tea with honey and/or cough drops will get a 1. (link)
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drink plenty of water to loosen the mucus in your lungs this will make the mucus come up easier so you can cough it out, and the only way to clear out your lungs is to cough the gunk out. sit on your bed lean forward with your elbows on your thighs and take in a deep breath hold it as long as you can then let it out this should also help loosen the mucus out of your lungs. Hope this helped
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i went to the doctors today and got wieghed at 184. my height is 5'7. im not fat i pretty skinny if you looked at me you would think i weighed around 140. i really want to lose weight because i dont want to weight this much. I have next week off and thinking about running 2 miles everyday unless its raining. maybe around 730am run. And do like 50 or so crunches. Would that help at anything. If not please give me some advice.
im 17 f (link)
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it would seem nothing against your other advice people but i dont personally think they have a clue to what they are talking about. 184 would be considered overweight however it could be that you are large boned and in that case there is nothing to do but tone up. you cant just exercise occasionally you have to excercise everyday running 2 miles a day would be great and so would doing 50 crunches and yes it would help. your eating habits stay away from fatty fast food or or fattening things dont eat lots of sugary things like candy or cake.salads, fish, vegetables, noodles and fruits that and plenty of exercise. Dont expect to lose weight right of the get go it will be at least a month before you notice much weight loss. hope this helps
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i dont need a lecture on how smoking is bad, i know. this is pretty pathetic, but i never realized how. how do you smoke, do you breathe in and breathe out? and is there a difference between smoking pot and smoking cigarettes? (link)
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all i have to say is if you smoke you will regret it i dont know you so i dont really care what you do but ignorance gets a lot of people into trouble since i am deemed the ADVISOR i must prewarn you as it is my duty to mankind. Smoking slows the healing process means dont you be needing any operations smoking makes you cough gag and spit junk up everyday. people lose lungs and get their throats cut open because of CANCER yea i hear cancer is painful and you have to go through all this even more painful stuff. dont smoke either and you wont make so many doctor visits. have a good day and if you dont like my advice dont give me a low rating i only speak the truth!
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I am very pale because I am almost 100% french. In france it is beautiful to be pale but in the U.S.A it seems as though pale is not as beautiful. I would really like to be able to wear skirts and not be afraid that everyone is thinking my legs are ugly and that im to pale.
What can I do to make my legs look not so bad in skirts? (link)
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Well you could try sun tanning for a short period of time everday, but since its winter hey try some nylons? or maybe some tall socks that go up to the bottom of your knee, the chinese girl in kill bill made it look cool :-d
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K I need to know for my own personal reasons if, all these things i'm about to list, are sins or not. and if they are sins where in the bible can they be found.
! Smoking Pot
@ Masturbating
# Drinking alchohol (under the age of 21)
$ Giving/Recieving oral sex
% Looking or watching "explicit materials"
I'd really like to know, so please help me. Thanks sooo much.
p.s im 16f if that helps. (link)
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When asking for advice consider the source, sins are basically things that are bad so with that in mind...
!smoking pot is bad for your health, could make you ill and does unknown bad things to your body. promotes lack of ambition and is very addicative. Seriously dont you have something better to do than hurt your health and smoke your life away?
@masturbating is bad, doing that means you have no self control. seems many people like being weak sure hope your not one of them. Oh heck ill be blunt its just a nasty habit dont start it. be careful of sex and that stuff it will cause you to sin quicker than you can say LOOKOUT HELL HERE I COME!
#you dont need to be drinking alcohol since your 16 its bad because believe it or not you are not mature enough to handle drinking responsibly!
$giving/receiving oral sex--Fire of hell may it incinerate your evil ways!ok serious obviously i feel morally obligated to stand 100 percent against this subject. In my opinion it is the purest form of evil i cant tell you why though its my soul telling me. And for crying out loud have some self respect and stay of your knees! its like this hmm scuse me could you give me oral sex i know i piss out of it but i just changed boxers so its clean i swear... HELLO what is wrong with people humans piss through that portal 1 WORD DISGUSTING! dont do it for the love of all that is good dont do it.
%looking or watching explicit material-- this is bad because it leads to not nice thoughts, guys look at it and become rapists. some anyway, dirty dirty dirty. your husband wont look very special after you look at some other guys body now will he?
We need more Christian people to raise kids nowadays. Good luck and do the right thing!
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my father,65 on retirement in 1998 had loaned 2 million rupees to a relative's firm by cheques but no legal documents were prepared as the amount was loaned in good faith.the understanding was that a 18% interest will be paid yearly and the principal amount will remain intact.over the years some amount was paid but never equal to the full interest amount .it was assumed that the remaining amount is credited with the principal amount.as on date the amount stands at 3 million rupees.
money stopped coming over the last one year inspite of repeated reminders.ultimately last month when asked to refund the full amount,the relative refused to give any more money back henceforth siting finnancial constraints.as there is no other source of income,my father is facing poverty.
my father has no proof of payment except the dates and the serial no. of the cheques paid.is there any legal way by which he can recover his money (link)
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does your father have copies of the spent checks? if so it would say who the amount was paid to however this would be near impossible to prove how much was or wasnt paid back, you could take this relative to court and unless this person will straight up lie to the judge that just might be the way to get the money. good luck
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my intersest is always been a well qualified doctor of medicine but 2 yrs back i got admission in dental degree b.d.s , i didnt like my college as well as subject,and i left it,and i ws criticised a lot in society, for two yrs i m doing nthing ,now i have planned to go abroad for m.b.bs coz it was my interest but now at this stage i think that coz the duration of course is 6 yrs and already wasted 2 yrs when i will get settle properly, was it a mistake leaving bds, wat i got, wat will happen, lots of such questions come to my mind and now i m very much confused as well as discouraged and i donno wheather i should go back where i left or go for mbbs but in mbbs now time factor some times make me worry coz i m a kind of character who needs inspiration excitement and interest in work but coz of the sayings of society my frnds advises and in all this i think i have lost my way i really dont think and know wat actually i should do ,advise me coz sometimes i think that i m here with nthing left and i must quit life but then momentary fighting spirit comes but i m confusd in making his decision , i donno whenm it will change please guide me and help,thts what my point is but now sometimes i also think why we come on this earth coz now i feel with nthimg left so i m confused ,wat must i do and how so that after making decision if any i dont repent later on and live a happy life where i am satisfied with my decision and work hard for success (link)
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Firstly your questions sounds pretty complicated like there is a lot of different factors at play here, would you mind telling me your age and gender? it becomes difficult to give someone advice when you dont really know that much about the situation. Also out of curiousity would you mind telling me why you came to me for advice? if any particular reason.
Let me advise you as to what i understand your situation to be, in those two years you did learn something didnt you? and if you did then it was not a waste, perhaps those credits can somehow be transferred for the time you spent? I dont think it would be a good idea to start where you left off because you dont sound as it is what you would like to do. and i believe its never a good thing to do things you dont like to do, of course in life we all have to do things we dont like but it sounds to me you do have a choice and with that in mind. What you should do now is take time to think clearly and in detail about what you would like to do, dont just jump into anything which it does not sound like you are doing. Research your passion, for example if you can spend hours at a time doing something and when its time to quit for the day or its time to do other things you dont want to stop.
maybe you like reading and cant get enough that sort of thing, that is what you should seek out.
Do not be discouraged but anticipate tomorrow and the good it may bring,you do have many questions that i feel require a lot of analyzing afterall you ask some questions i couldnt answer with a yes or no. I feel the same way being a character that needs inspiration, excitment and interest.to find those you must search until you find, i have not yet found my place but i am closer and you will be to as long as you keep up the search. Do not listen to those who are negative for they will only do you harm, be positive no matter what anyone thinks. Their opinion is just that an "opinion" it will not affect your life unless you let it. Your life is what you make it, if you feel as you have nothing find materials and build yourself something. Analyze your choice, research your choice and make the best decision you can and with that being said have no regrets.hope this puts some light on your questions, i tried to cover everything but if something i said is not clear do not hesitate to ask. oh yeah i hope your like my essay :-d
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I think french kissing is really gross.. the whole open mouth part. I wouldn't mind making out though even though I haven't done either of them. Do you have to french kiss before you can make out with a guy? And what exactly do you do when you make out with someone? Where do you put your hands? How do you know when the time is right to start using your tongue? Any advice? I rate 5s. (link)
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listen up, keep your tongue in your mouth if this guy wants to french kiss tell him you would rather not and he should get the picture. but it takes two to french kiss so dont worry the worst that can happen is you get a tongue slid in your mouth. dont panic! and for goodness sakes dont puke! ha j/k. french kissing comes after regular kissing unless the guy is really a kiss aholic and his has been around the block. you dont want him. you put your hands on him probably around his waist or his ribs. when you feel very attracted to some guy you will just feel like using your tongue you cant predict when it will happen so dont worry and just do as you feel. honestly though if you think french kissing is gross your too young to be doing it or thinking about it, stick to holding hands and small few second kisses play it safe.but if i were you i would stay away from physical stuff until your a little older you wont regret it trust me.
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16/f
well tomorow me and my sister are going babysitting for about 4 hours and we need some activities to do with the children mainly because i will be very busy with the baby and she doesnt have much expirience on how to occupy them. they are 3.5 and 2 (boy and a girl). we tried searching the internet but we couldnt come up with anything because the younger one isnt quit ready for preschool activities? any ideas the younger ones verbal skills are low so songs and stuff are kind of out of the question and they are not aloud to watch TV or bake or anything!
(easy crafts are good!) (link)
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get yourself a soft foam ball to throw around! play kiddie tag! read them storie books better yet how about interactive storie telling, make up some fun story and let the kids guess whats going to happen next. maybe the 2 yr old cant talk yet too good or at all but at least the kid will feel involved. tons more i am sure out there but there is a couple to get you started
good luck
THE LITTLE KIDS ARENT PROFESSIONAL ATHELETES OBVIOUSLY BUT HOW ARE THEY GOING TO LEARN TO DO ANYTHING IF YOU DONT LET THEM TRY. LITTLE GIRLS DO BALLET AT 3 YEARS OLD, YOU OBVIOUSLY DONT KNOW MUCH ABOUT KIDS YOU PROBABLY SHOULDNT BE TRUSTED TO WATCH THEM.
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I have to do a community service project for school and I can't think of anything to do. People are already doing the whole nursing home scene; and like donating stuff to charity. Anyone got any clever ideas? Thank kiddos =] (link)
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i think this is rather witty, community service right? like helping someone or something in your community? i dont know how old you are but you could take a small group of kids younger than you to go watch a movie at the theatre obviously you would have to sort kids out like how many movies do you see in a month and however sees the smallest amount gather them up and take them. get mom and dad to put down the money after all its for a good cause :-D and since you being the oldest you would have to go to make sure everything went smoothly ha. But if your like 12 that might not work. oh yeah G rated only, no bloody killing parents might not go for that good luck! 2 words= underprivileged youngsters!
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okay well ive always felt that ive had some sort of learning disorder. i am 16/f and get fairly good grades (all As and Bs) and take 2 honors classes but ive felt the higher the grade i am in the slower i get at getting things and mainly the dumber i am, i mean i know im not stupid but sometimes i just dont get things and have problems. i tell my parents that i think i have a slight learning disablitity and they just kind of laugh it off and say i dont. ive never had any kind of formal testing b/c my parents wont take me but ive taken some online surveys and they say that there is a "somewhat" need for me to see a specialist and my parents should consult my teachers and whatever...
what should i do? and are there any good websites that i can take good tests that are more than like 10 questions that could tell me if i could really need help? (link)
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I think your over reacting, obviously to me it would seem the higher the grade the harder it is for you to get it because you have not reached that level. Keep studying and it will come natural just like 2+2=5...er i mean 4.. haha. little joke.. anyway you might have a learning disorder if
A.you have to read and reread something 10 times and you still dont get it even though the teacher has also done everything in his/her power to make you understand.
B.sometimes you can spell, sometimes you can count and sometimes you can understand instructions.
c. You read things backwards or you cant remember how to use numbers.
Listen some teachers teach better than others, while one teacher might make you understand something.. or you understand something on your own all depends on your learning style. maybe you learn best by seeing things, hearing things, writing things, or using your major motor skills such as making a model for whatever subject you are studying. think about which one you think fits you best. a learning disorder is something you can do nothing about on your own, such as seeing words backwards. well hope that helped
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16/f vegetarian
How can I lose 15 pounds in a month? I know I can work out and eat healthy (cut down on sweets and stuff like that) but could you give me a detailed list of exercises and foods so I can lose this weight. If you need more information then ask for it in your answer and I'll add to this. (link)
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First of all it would be very unhealthy to lose or even try to lose 15 pounds in 1 month, 3 months sounds like a better goal. By losing that much weight that quickly you risk flabby skin from where the fat was lost. If you want to lose weight eat only light foods such as salad, fruits and vegetables as well as noodles ect plus drinking plenty of water aids weight loss. Stay away from soda as it is high in sugar and sugar is what makes humans gain weight. Jog/fast walk/swim everyday for at least 30 minutes and do as many situps as you feel you can do. I will tell you running is the best way to tone and lose the pounds. good luck!
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So I went out with this guy during my vacation. He could have had anyone, and it was surprising to me that we went out. We broke up (sort of) about a month after vacation, but we never officially made it clear. Since then, (It's been about 5 months since I've seen him) we text each other and he called about 3 months ago. We probably don't call each other more since it seems awkward. Anyways, it seems weird that every time I start to think about him and give up waiting for another text message, I get one and it just brightens my week. I cannot understand why he bothers when the next time I'll see him will be in August and I think he could have better than me. Back when he called me, he asked if I had a boyfriend, I answered "yes but we broke up" (which was true) he admitted the same thing, (Obviously a girlfriend not a boyfriend) My question is, does he really care about me or am I just something for him to hookup with when I see him again? He really seems like he cares, even if I can't see why he does. Anyone’s opinion about my question is appreciated; it'd be especially nice if a guy could make sense of his actions for me. (link)
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It sounds like things between you two are not serious and since you went with eachother but broke up for whatever reason this just doesnt sound like something even worrying about.I wouldnt hold my breath for him but if you feel strongly about him why not ask him why he doesnt call more? Find out his reasons for texting you and occasionally calling you. Hope this helps
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I'm really good friends with this guy and I kind of like him but he's going out with this other girl. But anyway, he got into a fight with his best friend but he wont tell me what happened because he thinks I'll tell everyone
What can I do to make him trust me?
I rate high for good advice (link)
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Try to look at it from his point of view, have you given him any reason not to trust you?Obviously trust is earned, i would start by telling him that he can trust you because your his friend.And you wouldnt do anything to break his trust, tell him why you want for him to tell you.. assuming you care about your friend and want to know so you can try to help him through it. hope this helps
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Well my friend at school is really beautiful and very flirtatious and all the guys like her, but im kinda the tomboy girl who all the guys "hang out with" but dont "go out with". but recently her ex bf has started to like me but he says he still likes my friend (his ex) and she still likes him too(she is in a relationship), soo please help and tell me what to do ! (link)
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Well for one your vague about what you need help with, you did not say at all if you really like this guy at all or not. So you give me a low rating because i went by the information you posted. just what are you asking and what is your situation?
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There's a new kid at my school who I think is really cute and I think that we would have alot in common as far as music and style goes. I finally took some of my previous advice from you guys to talk to him. I went up to him and said, "Hi, I'm Johanna." And he said "Uhhh...." and fled away. Girls or guys, can you tell me what you think he means?
Some people say I was maybe too perky around him, some people say he doesn't like me, and some people say he was really nervous to talk to me.
Any ideas? (link)
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lol kevins advice was amusing.. anyway lets keep this simple shall we, i just have to say you young people and your obssession with the opposite gender.. kids need more in life than just other boys and girls.. Look what he did was probably out of nervousness, you probably scared him with your amazing beauty :-d.I would ask him why he ran away when you tried to talk to him, you could start with that. and if you dont like his response then there are plenty of guys left to choose from.
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