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today i got a detention for cheating on a test.this is the first time i got detention.my mom expects good grades from me and will be pissed the f off.what do i do!!! (link)
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Well what's done is done and now you have to face the consequences. You have to be honest with your mother. Will she be mad at you? Probably. Will she get over it? Probably. Question is have you learned your lesson from this? I think the thing to take away from this is don't cheat!
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For a few months, I've been trying so hard to get my life together since I spent so long sitting on my butt doing absolutely nothing. And I'm just so super stressed and anxious about my life and I feel like I'm not getting anywhere. I mean, I'm studying constantly and working on myself constantly, but lately I've just been way too stressed to do much at all. And it's so physically painful. And I feel like a total failure and like I'm getting absolutely no where. No matter how many times people around me tell me that I've improved an extreme amount, I still feel like I'm at the beginning. Like I really want to end it. Help? (link)
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Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I absolutely know how you feel I've been down that road before. It's hard. I can tell you that it does get better. I know when I felt my life was going downhill I needed to make a change but I just couldn't do it. My body hurt, I was always negative, and I didn't want to do anything. I had a had time even getting out of bed. I hated my life and myself.
You NEED to talk to someone. Yes it's cliche but it's the truth. You need to find a therapist or maybe an adult that you feel comfortable with. It's always good to talk out everything and get it all out in the open. Please don't think that there is no way out. Please go talk to someone ASAP. I hope you feel better soon!
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So, for my Gr 12 Prom,(dinner and dance) I am sitting at a table with my 4 best friends and this one really annoying girl. As in, the table seats 10, but after she joined, no one else wanted to sit with us.
Yes I know, we should be nice and all that, and honestly I have tried. I do my best to be as nice as I can. But seriously, this is prom. It only happens once. And there is no way she is going to leave us alone! I just want to be able to enjoy the night with my friends without someone extra butting in on our conversations, making them all about her.
She just has no appreciation for personal space, common sense manners, or other people's opinions. She won't take a hint, but if you outright tell her that she needs to tone it down/give you some space she will get really upset.
She takes over conversations, butting in to private conversations, and wants all the attention to be on her.
How do I enjoy prom night with my friends? I don't want to be rude to her, but I also would like to not spend the entire night with her yakking in my ear... (link)
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I totally know what you mean! When I was in grade school there was a girl that would never leave me and my friends alone. I was always told to be nice to her but at times nice doesn't always win. Have you tried having a heart to heart with her? I know she might get upset but that's on her. I've realized that you can't be afraid to tell people how you feel. And I'm not saying you should be completely honest about everything but just let her know how you feel. If she overreacts thats on her not you. I hope you have fun! Good luck!
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I am upset with my grandmother.She is the head of our family. Everybody respects her. My mother always takes care of her and her daughter in bad conditions. But now my mother is ill but she is humiliated by her and her daughter because of my mother's illness. I can't say anything in front of her as she is elder to me, but I am not able to see my mother's sad face. I don't know what to do.I am not able to concentrate on my studies too. Please help me if possible.I just need the advice as I am confused what to do.
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Honestly I wish there was something that I could say to make your mom not feel as bad. However you mentioned that your grandmother was the one that was 'bullying' your mother. I think you are doing the right thing in respecting your grandmother even though she may not deserve it. I'm sorry so to hear what you are going through with your mom. I send my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I would say continue to be there for your mom and let her know how much you care. I would say not to get involved between your grandmother and mother because it's not your battle. Sometimes its just better to stay on the sidelines. Good luck!
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Why my mom say to me
Lazy
Horrible
Bad
Rude
Selfish
Mean
Ugly
Jerk
Cuss words to me is not nice
My mom says to me I can't be friends
Not loving me
Grounded
Pusihment
Triaier
Brat
Every day what time should be bed on time
I don't even like 11:30 and going to take my phone away so addictive to my phone everyone does not care about me anymore in my life is touching me my heart is broken and crying busting to crying I want everyone to give me a break to leave me alone trouble maker every night is not even I wanted is not funny is about the truth (link)
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Have you tried talking to someone about this? Maybe like a therapist or a guidance counselor at school?
Words are tough. You should not have to deal with this. Have you talked to your mother about how you feel? I would maybe even have a talk about how you feel and how this affects you. If you're not comfortable with that maybe talking to someone else might help. I'm not sure how old you are but it you are 18 and over maybe consider moving out of the house and away from your mother. Good Luck!
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If your the breadwinner of a relationship of 4years and the other mate leaves to stay somewhere else because they stressed about not having a job or being able to do more and not tell you where they staying, and they haven't had a stable job in 4years, Do you stay with them or leave? (link)
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Have you talked to your partner? Have you already come up with a plan?
I would say if you've already talked to your partner about contributing then maybe it's time for you to move on. It takes two to make a relationship and it takes two to make it. If your partner is not willing to contribute it's time you move on and be with someone who does. You should not have to take care of your partner you both should be working hard. Good luck!
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I'm in 7th grade. My friend (who is in 7th) has a friend in 8th. She's super annoying. She is always talking about how emo she is. I went through an emo phase in 6th grade, I mean I still wear black, listen to the music, etc and I don't think I'll ever shake off the scene queen image I created for myself, but I stopped trying which made everyone categorize me farther into emo. I also obsess over tv shows, books, and movies which I guess doesn't help. But holy shit, was I really that annoying because fuck, she says every two seconds how she's an emo fangirl. And every time she does/doesn't do something she says she did/didn't do it because she's emo. Think of Raven and Tara and that's her. How do I make her stop? (link)
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"To accept the things I cannot change and wisdom to know the difference".
You can't change someone even though you may not agree with them. It sounds like your friend is just trying to find herself. Junior high is really a time where people try to find themselves (who they are or what they like). Maybe instead of getting annoyed try changing the subject. Or maybe talk to her about how you feel in a nice way. What is it that you like about your friend? There is always going to be something that bothers you but instead of focusing on that try focusing on the good.
Good luck!
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My bf talks to girls sometimes and I get very jealous because I'm scared of losing him. He's stopped talking to a few because of this but I feel it's very unfair and selfish of me to let him do that. So how do I stop being jealous of these girls and trust him???? I've got major trust issues btw
I think it's because I think these girls are beautiful and I'm ugly. And they game (which is his favorite thing ever) and I cant stand it....,,,,,,, and they're close by and I'm all the way across the world long distanxe (link)
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Has he ever given not to trust him?
I totally know where you're coming from..my ex was very touchy feely with other girls and I didn't appreciate that. That's one thing but his your boyfriend ever done or said anything to these girls that you know of? Think of it that way. Without trust in the relationship what do you have? Trust him. If you're worried talk to him but don't make him stop being friends with other girls. You are with him. He chose you for a reason! Just enjoy being together.
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So I have to give a little bit if background. I went on a birth control, shortly after I was feeling really sad and didn't want to be around anyone. Eventually I just found myself crying randomly everyday and just inhappy with everything and I was insecure. Of course this led to problems in my relationship, I was insecure and no longer trusted my boyfriend of 3 years( he did absolutely nothing different from before). Now I am off the birth control and am getting much better but I still have really big problems with trusting him and I would just like to hear some suggestions on how to rebuild that trust and maybe get back to the way we were before. I am a female and i am 20 (link)
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In terms of the birth control I would definitely speak to a doctor. When a doctor puts you on birth control its trial and error. Not all women take the same birth control because it affects them differently. In terms of the situation with your boyfriend I'm not sure I understand why there is a trust issue. Did he do something to trigger you? Or did he lie about something? I think the best thing is to talk it out with him. Tell him what's troubling you and how you feel.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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Hello, if a bloke flirts with you, that means he's only flirting with you or is there anything behind it? Thanks (link)
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As an outsider it's hard to tell. Maybe you should just ask him flat out or maybe ask him out on a date. Whatever happens happens.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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I had this friend that we'll refer to as "Ryan". I met Ryan 2 years ago and we didn't really talk until 2014 when I decided to talk to him more and more often. Then August of this most recent year I was dumb enough to make up something by telling him that I wanted to have sex with him. We didn't talk for months and this month his friends told me that he said that he didn't hate me but that he had no interest in communicating with me. I'm not satisfied with that because no matter what I do I still have the thought of it stuck in my head and it's hurting me emotionally and he's just ignoring people that bring it up. I'm also a guy if that's helps with anything. (link)
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I think you know what the answer is. If a guy is interested in you he will contact you. It sounds to me like Ryan needed some space and that he isn't interested. It's better to leave it as is. If he wants to talk to you then he will come to you. For right now he doesn't want any communication and you need to respect that. If you care about him like you say you do you'll leave him alone. After all there are other fish in the sea.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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how do I know if he wants to be friends or something more (link)
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Well has he asked you on a date? Has he mentioned that he likes you? It sounds like you might need to talk to him to find out. I'm not sure what your relationship is but if you like him just tell him or better yet flirt.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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i declared chapter 13 bankruptcy last year...three months ago i underwent bi-lat total knee replacements which in turn a relied on a loved one to care for my bills...i only had two..comed and cable which i closed both my accounts before entering the hospital...i had a total combined balance of about 400.00... well to shorten this up all they had to do was make a 20$ payment on each to keep them current and failed to so which led to collections and a 160 point drop in my score. they dont get how much they screwed me...how can i explain to them the the impact this has on me monetarily.. i should say us..
sincerely
james chicago (link)
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Hi James,
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It's tough. I'm not sure who you put in charge of your finances but you can definitely express how you feel. It's perfectly fine to tell that person that it's hurt you financially. However I think the more important thing to do is to work on fixing this issue.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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Hi so I have a friend who is in the group of friends that I'm in. She is such a nice and loyal friend, but the rest of the group don't really consider her their friend. Now don't get me wrong my group of friends are really nice and caring, I don't know why they don't but they don't really invite her to things that we do. When I did stick up for her and try to tell them that she should be invited to these things they just didn't really say anything because they don't like drama. So we have organised a big get together that everyone in our group is going to, but the person who organised it didn't invite her. I asked her if she invited her and she said that it's too many people. I think I will just not go to this gathering, and do something with her instead, but I'm really not sure because I will miss out on things that they will probably talk about a lot. I don't like drama either and I think they find it annoying that I keep telling them we should include her more. I don't want to miss out on it but I think it might be the right thing to do. I'm not sure. What do you think I should do? (link)
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You're an amazing friend!
Good for you in wanting to include her and stick up for her. She's really lucky to have a friend like you. It's a tough situation but I think you are making the right choice. And as for your other friends they say they don't like "drama"..but it sounds to me like they are the ones starting it. Not including someone that hangs out with you is mean. So everyone else is going but not her? You think she won't find out? The fact that you'd rather spend time with her shows the type of friend you are.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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One of my New Year's Resolutions this year is to speak up more. I have a tendency to just sit quietly and listen to everything going on around me, even if I have something I would like to say.
I do this whether I'm hanging out with my friends, in class, or in small group at Youth Group. I know that in class I'm a little scared to speak up, I am afraid of being judged, its kind of a social anxiety thing, but with my friends and at Youth Group I feel totally safe talking, I just don't say anything.
I want to come up with some ways to prompt myself or give myself courage to just say what I want to say, or to raise my hand in class. I talked to my Youth Group leader about it, and he said that he will make a point of asking me questions in small group, just to help me out a little bit, so that's good. However, I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions to help me out with this. Any little things I can do to help myself? (link)
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I'm in the same boat. It's hard to speak your mind sometimes especially when your in a room with a lot of outspoken people. What I'm learning is that you just have to push yourself a little and move out of your comfortable zone. Voice your opinions more even if you don't feel comfortable. I've been told that the more you do it the easier it gets.
Peace & Love,
Advice Mistress
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Mt boyfriend wants me to sing for him but I don't know what song I should sing.... Any ideas on what I could sing? (link)
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What song makes you think of him? What song describes your relationship? Make you Feel My Love by Adele is beautiful. Weak by Jojo is cute (I know these artists covered the songs). Sing from the heart that's what matters. Don't think too much about the song!
Peace & Love,
AdviceMistress
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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Sometimes people don't know how to comfort others. My friends sometimes ask me what exactly I'm looking for. I know it's easier if friends already know how to handle the situation but in this case it sounds like you need to tell them exactly what you need. Good luck!
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Hi I'm 16 years old and recently I have been on summer vacation, in the beginnings of summer I had this friend who would constantly call me every day or at least every two-three days twice. In July I didn't mind it because I wasn't busy and I was bored so I'd answer her phone calls but now that it's August back to school is next week I've been busy. She calls me 24/7 and I'm not exaggerating in July I went to a party and she called me after I told I was at the party. The next day I went on a walk with my friend she called!!, I went to the mall with my family she called!! The list goes on and on. So finally August I just dodged all her calls because enough was enough because she always talked about the same thing and I was just done with it. Now she's mad at me and I can tell because I texted her saying I went to another country (went to Buffalo, USA) from Canada which where I live is a 3 hour drive and all she said was "lol" then I told her I'd call her on Monday and she never replied since. What do I do to get her to stop calling without getting her mad? School starts next Tuesday (link)
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Have you ever questioned why she was calling so much? Does she have other friends? My feeling is she might be lonely however that does not justify the amount of times she calls you. I would try to have a talk with her not over text but over the phone or face to face. Just be honest with her and nicely suggest that she needs to tone down calling you or texting you. Every once in awhile is okay. Make sure to be nice about it and if she doesn't get the picture then I would ignore her.
Good Luck!
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24/f in college
The semester started two months ago but there was this one class that just started in the middle of the semester. It was suppose to be my first day in it and I was feeling very sick since the night before. I thought it was nothing and was going to sleep it out. I would feel better tomorrow and go to school. The next morning, I woke up and could barely move. I got out of bed and felt my heart beating really hard, my ears were buzzing, and I temporary blacked put. I kept thinking I can sleep it out. As the day went, it got worse. I quickly emailed my teachers and told them I'm sorry. I was sick and will miss their classes since I was going to the ER. Apparently, something triggered the disease I have. I was rushed into ICU. I have a serious pre-existing medical condition which my primary doc said was being maintained. The doctor said if I waited longer I would have died. Surgery was performed right away. Luckily, it was a success but I am in a lot of pain despite the painkillers. Post op, when I finally got a hold of a laptop, I checked my student email. The new teacher sent me an email. It sounded like he didn't receive my earlier email about going to the ER. He said I was irresponsible for missing the first day with no excuse, made assumptions about my priorities and work ethics. The things he said and the tone was very belittling. I'm a straight A student. I never missed class unless I have too. I never even meet this teacher and for him to accuse me of these things made me feel awful. I cried. The nurses thought I was in pain from the surgery and kept giving me painkillers. I was just discharged. What should I do when I meet him in class? I might be emotional from the whole ordeal but I feel like I don't want him as a teacher if he said those things about me. (link)
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I would definitely talk to this teacher and make sure you get a doctors note to let him know. Just sit down and have an honest discussion with him and tell him the situation. If he doesn't understand I would definitely talk to a guidance counselor or maybe another authority at school. Feel better!
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20/f
I don't know how come,but literally every girl is beautiful and I am not. I always ruin photos,they look gorgeous and then there's me. I'm 160 cm tall and I'm plus size but not fat. I just don't feel good being me. I feel ugly and am ugly. Why is everyone blessed with beauty and I am not? I am dressed up most of the time,I have nice clothes on,jewelry,make up,everything. I try to eat healthy,I exercise an hour and a half three times a week. Yet despite all of that I'm still ugly. I can't even get a boyfriend,and my best friend will be married in 2 days. In short I'm simply desperate. (link)
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I think you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. I think the one thing you need to do is love yourself. I personally use to beat myself up about the way I looked but in the end this is what God gave me. Don't put yourself down it's not going to help you. You only have one life live it!! You deserve to just as much as anyone else. How do you expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself?
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