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Hey whattsupp, my names Erin, but i sign E whenever I answer a question. I'm a sophmore in high school. I used to run, but strained my back and now i'm done. I love track so if you need any help in that I'm your girl! I'm love giving advice and helping people with their problems. I've been through so much in 15 years, that I can pretty much help anyone. Feel free to ask me anything I'd rather tell you that i don't know than give you a bad or wrong answer.
I love clothes so i'm best at answering questions about style or fashion. When I grow up I want to be either an actress or a fashion desighner. So these are my best subjects! Butt, I can help in pretty much all of them :). Please feel free to ask me anything, I'll ALWAYS answer to the best of my ability, and come on here as often as possible!

-E!

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13/f

okay so i really like these two guys caleb and dan. i met dan about a month ago and he was really really sweet and was funny and we had alot of stuff in common. he goes to a school where my one friend knows alot of people even though it's kind of far away. he kissed me and told me that he really liked me and i told him i liked him. but the only thing is he hasn't talked to me sicne then. and this was a month ago. but then at my graduation dance caleb(who goes to my school) and i were hanging out and we were dancing together and stuff. so i'm super confused because i don't know if either of them like me, and i don't know what to do now. thank

Flat out ask them both. I think that if Dan did that a MONTH ago, that chapter is done ans sealed. I think that it sounds like you and Caleb have something, or something that could be something. (HOpe you followed that =]) Anyway, keep hanging out with Caleb and making the effort to get to know him. You will then know if what you really feel for him is LIKE LIKE or just like. If you see him as somthing more than go for it. Why not? I think that if you keep wasting your time on Dan your just going to regret it. Move on, you've found a guy who goes to YOUR school, lives close by, and you guys can actually like hang out with out a long drive or anything along that line. I think that in the long run it sounds that you have the most potential as a relationship with Caleb

hope i helped!

-E

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I've liked this guy for 2 years and i told him that i liked him the 1st time in front of all his freinds butt he said i dont believ you. Sooo i tried this year and he said the same thing.BUt he said he had a Gf but it doesnt seem like it because he sounds like he makes stuff up. When im not around he sayy goshh i miss Rika soo muchhh and everything like he wants my # and wants to talk to me.When we both see each other we both smile at eachother.BUt idk wut to do if i should tell him my true feelings to himm.Im having party and i want to slow dance with him at the part and telll himmm that i like him again
WHAt should i dooo.I NEED HELLPP!!!!

AWAHH!!! I would text him and start a convo off normal. Then after the hey, whats up, n2m, you, stuff...like right when it starts to say aqward say guess what. he'll say what ssay i'm not kidding this time...but i like you...a lot. If he says that he doesn't like you like that then fine. Move on.
If youu can't text then call him and say that.
if you can't call tell him in person...alone. pull him off to the side. AWAY from his friends.
Even if he doesn't like you, just say hey, can you still dance with me at my party. If hes a nice guy he'll say yes. And if he says no ... then why are you wasting your time on him. he must be a really big jerk!

Or wait to ask him to dance. Wait till the song comes on and be like will you dance with me? He'll say yes, because you NEVER say no to the host right?!

hope i helped
if you need anymore help just drop the question in my inbox!
-E

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13/f

Well its kind of a long story but we were at my house for my birthday party and my friend is going out with this guy and my friend really hate kiley like REALLY HATES HER and so we texted her boyfriend on my fone pretending to bve "kiley" to see what he would say and he told "kiley" that he wood go out with her if he wasnt going out with my friend and so he didnt know it was us so now she knows that he would talk to kiley like that and not even tell her and so now they are in a really big fight and mite break up does this make me a bad friend for like letting her know that he would talk to other girls like this and what should I do Like he said that if he and my friend broke up he would go with kiley WHAT SHOULD I DO????

Your deffinetly right here. I mean if your a "true friend" you'd tell the other. I would want to know. Wouldn't you? I mean if my boyfriend would go out with an enamy on the rebound do you really want them as your boyfriend in the first place? I think that now that you've told her what she needs to know you need to lay low for a little bit. Sure, give her advice and everything and keep her posted if you find out anything more but make sure the guy doesn't find out because then if that gets around school no guys would want to date YOU. And no one wants that! I don't think you were wrong at all. And honestly, i would break up with that guy. Like i said before why go out with someone if they don't mind going out with someone else. That makes me t hink, is he using your friend? does he just want a girlfriend? is he afraid to be alone?

hope i helped
if you need anymore help just drop a question in my inbox!

-E

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Okay; im Jessica. and theres this boy his name is will, and we went out for a while. but there was no love in there (well for me). we broke up. i wasnt heart broken or nothing. we stayed friends. then we started talking in school and online alotttt.. like a couple days later he told me he was moving to florida. and he left at lunch. hhe pulled me out of the cafeteria and huggedd me tightttly. and he said hes gonna miss me .. then i started crying my eyes out right there. and ever since he left. i cant eat. sleep or nothing. i cry all day idk what to do. =[
help me!

Aww, thats sooo cute! You deffinetly need to keep in touch with him. Maybe, tell him how you feel. I think that you two like each other... Maybe if you guys knew how each other felt you could visit each other and try to make a long distence relationship work. Call him, text him, e-mail him, wright him, do whatever it takes to keep in touch with him. If he means this much to you or if you meant htat much to him, you both will put the extra effort in to keep contact and to try to atleast have a friendship.

hope i helped

-E

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Theres this guy at work that I really like but I'm kind of shy and don't really know how to get a conversation going with him, and plus, I don't know for sure that he is single. Does anyone know a subtle way to find out if he is seeing anyone?

Start the conversation off easy, talk about work stuff. Ask a simple question. Try to stretch it into a conversation. After doing that for like what..3 days? Just go right out and ask him. Be like you know, i have a date with chinesse take out...wanna come? and if he says sorry i can't i have a girlfriend or something like that. just be like Oh, well sucks for you!! but say it jokenly kind of flirty. However, if he says sure...YOU'VE GOT A DATE.

But, just because he goies with yo doesn't mean hes single so ask him. FLAT OUT!

-E

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me and my mom got kicked out of our grandparents house and she got fired from her job we at her ex boyfriends house for one night then we have to live in her car and we have no where to go what should i do i have been crying for the last 4 hours

Aw, i'm sorry. I would try to find a friend who doesn't mind you two spending the night for a day or two. Just move around friends houses if you can. Try to get a job, you know to help with the money being tight. Help your mom get a job. Keep your mom strong. Its not about how you fall down. Its about how you build yourself up. Buildyourself up stronger. Be the best that you can be. When life hands you lemons make lemonade. I know that you can get through this. But as long as you work for it you can do anything.

-E

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my best friend and i have both had a difficult year with our significant other. i have had an on and off relationship for the past year with a guy who is graduating next week and she has had the same relationship with his best friend for three years. they've recently broken up and my guy and i have just stopped talking. the two guys are both best friends as well and they've randomly stopped talking. my friend's ex goes to my school with me and my ex and he has been showing a lot of signs that he likes me and isn't doing it to make her jealous bcs he's had feelings for me prior to their relationship and i'm afraid i'm falling for him too and know i shouldn't pursue anything but i don't know what to do bcs i can really see this going somewhere but am completely against hurting her in anyway and understand that it should be chicks before dicks and all that. but is there any reason why it wouldn't be..?

This is a situation where you have to choose, either the guy or the girl. No one else can make this disition for you. People can help you, but YOU have to make it. Think of it this way, what if you went with the guy. Your best friend left you. Spred around the whole school what you did. No one wants to be your friend. Then the guy leaves you. YOU HAVE NO ONE. I know that if you like this guy its not going to be worth it. It will hurt you sooo much in the long run. Heres a better way to put it. WOuld YOU be mad if your best friend went with your ex? If you think no. YOur wrong. YOu knoowww you'd be pissed. I think that if your a true friend you'd choose your friend. Your friend wouldn't do that to you. So don't do it to her.

-E

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This one girl who sits next to me always says "you wear pink alot." and so I always go, "you wear black alot, but I don't say anything." I don't understand what she makes these comments. I guess shes kinda weird, but I don't say anything mean to her or anything. I'm not annoying, and I'm not always saying oh my god!!! I'm not like that. I'm nice, I smile alot. But, whatever. Anyways, the other day I take out a pink pen to write something. She goes, "I hate the color pink." So I said, "I think I've figured that out by now." So then I decided to ask why, its just a color, why do you care. So, then this boy who shes friends with is like, "You're a typical high school girl." And I go "what?" he rolls his eyes at me and turns around. So then I freaked out and started fighting with them.

I've never hardly ever talked to this girl before. I don't get it, why does she and her friends seem to have a problem with me and other 'typical high school girls' i'm not really bad or anything, or not enough to get around school or for it to be much of a big deal. I or anyone else I know has a problem with her friends, they don't talk about them or anything. Why are these people always feeling bad for themselves? what do they have against me and people who are like me?


I don't get it.

Okay, so i think that these people are just bored and look at making fun of people as something to do. Don't care. The reason these people do this, its becuase they can. If your bothered by it it gives them more of a reason to. I think that if you just ignore them everything will turn out to be okay. If she wants to make som smarty comment about pink just reply by saying nicely, "Good for you." Don't waste your time fighting with someone over a color! Your both wrong in this situation. Be the bigger person and well...GROW UP! If they want to act like children let them but let them know that you don't want to be part of that. These people, obviously, are just looking for trouble so don't give it to them. Summer is here and hopefully you won't have them in any of your classes next year!
hope i helped
& if you have anymore questions just drop them in my inbox

-E

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13/f

I have been babysitting for my step mom's home daycaring service for 2 summers now. A couple of weeks ago I told her that I would work for her. Last week an offer came to my doorstep, someone my sister works for neeeded a baysitter. My step mom gives me $12 and day while the other #30 - $40 a day. I am going to high school next year and I am planning to save my money for college. I told my step mom that I can work for her the days that I am off and she got upset. My dad said that I should have stuck with my step mom... but this isn't all for me... this is for my furture of dreaming to go to vet college and become a vet... Now my dad wants to talk to me... what should I do???

explain to him EXACTLY what you explained to us. Let him no what the money is going for. I think that if its going to college money do it. Your dad will understand as long as its for something other than shopping money...if you know what i mean! HHA!!!

hope i helped

-E

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I just got a 93% on my english final.
It brought my grade to a 89.52..which is a B.
ALL my other teachers counts 89.5 and above as an A except this teacher. =[
If I go in tomorrow to tlk to him, is there anything I can say or do to try to convince him to raise it to an A?! maybe do extra work/bring in something?
it will raise my gpa to a 3.5 instead of 3.3 if he raises it!
which helps balance out my gpa since its ALWAYS been a 3.5 throughout high school!
thanks a bunch =D

Why not talk to him. The worst thing that can happen is that he'd say no. And if he does then oh well you tried. And then you can just work extra hard to prove yourself in the class that you diserve the A. Then maybe he will change it. But, If i were you i'd rather get the B+ knowing that i tried to actually get the A then not trying at all. And to me thats the most important part or a grade that you had to try for it.

hope i helped
-E

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Steven is like by best friend and yes he is a guy. No I am not dating him but he's so much more trustworthy then some of the girl-friends I have. Well he is dating a girl named Melissa and she's CRAZY! She gives me deat stare whenever I talk to Steven, and aoids talking to me. Not that Im rushing to be her friend. And then today I accidentailly bumped into her apoligised and she was like "What is your problem?! I know you love my boyfriend but he's mine!" I was like woah now simmer down...
She's really starting to scare me but Steven really likes her and I dont wanna do anything to hurt him but jeez Melissas gunna like shoot me or something!

Okay, i would talk to both her and Steven. You need to tell her that hes your friend nothing more. you need to tell him about this and if he freaks out about it then...whatever...you tried. But if shes going to think that then don't worry about it. Don't listen to her. Just because your best friend has a girlfriend doesn't mean that you guys have to stop tlaking or hanging out.

Your friends...nothing more. and if she doesn't think so..then what are you going to do? you can't do anything you can't force people to think things if they don't want to think it.

But the person before me is right, you shold --if happening-- tone down the flirting. and just act like old times but if there was or is flirting going on between you to...even if its just playful. it needs to stop. if hes really your best friend and you care about what he feels then you're not going to try and brake up him and the person he likes.

hope i helped and if you have anymore questions just drop it in my inbox

-E

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Okay so my friends house burned down this morning. I'm still in shock. I really want to help her through this. She lost everything, except the clothes she's wearing and her cell phone. Now I know this should be common sense, but I need your help. I need to help her out and help her through this. I just dont know how to go about doing so. I'm going to ask her if she wants to spend the weekend at my house or if she wants to hangout. Also she's a huge Jonas Brothers fan so i'm giving her a bunch of mine. I'm just wondering what else I could do. Like obviously i'm going to be there for her if she needs to talk and all but what can I do and how do I go about doing it? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

You could help by letting her borrow clothes. Giving her some money if she needs it. Having her over as much as possible so she has food, and a house. Taking her family in. Like providing them with a home untill they can find an apartment or another house. Also, having your parents help them look for apartments or another house. Just being there in general is important when someone goes through something like this they really need people to be there for them. Also, don't act like your ggiving her everything...she might take that as an insult. Ans thats deffenetly the laste thing you want her to think.

-E

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i have a terrible, litterally HORRIBLE case of stage fright. no its not just a little bit of fear its extreme. when i have to give speeches no matter how well practiced they are i shake. like litterally i will we standing there and my voice and whole body will be shaking. its weird since im fine with being outgoing and talkative but speeches are such a problem. i cannot calm down. nothing works. i have a big 10 minute speech i am going to have to make in front of 40 kids next week and i was wondering if anyone has any useful tips. like is there technique? any drug i can get from my doctor? its our final grade and i need to ace it but it is all about presentation and voice inflection and eyecontact... which i stink at! so pleasee.. help a girl out:)

Look at the back wall so you don't actually see the audience your talking to but it looks like your ljooking streight at them. Speeches are supposed to be like regular conversations imagine your just tlaking to your friend. or, practice with a friend and just find them in the audience and just talk to them. When your tlaking "to" a person your comfertable talking wjith stage fright won't be a problem

hope i helped
-E

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Alright I know I need to talk to her about it, but help me out here. Okay so my friend, we'll call her "B", decided she was going to save herself for marriage. Her mom got her this really nice purity ring for christmas. Then B left it in the girls bathroom at school, so of course it's long gone. So her mom baught her another one. There's only one problem now. It's that she didnt keep her promise. Now she had talked about saving herself for marriage and everything for a while now. Then she goes off and does this, with a guy she met only like 2 weeks ago. Not to mention the fact that he didnt even ask her to be his girlfriend until like a couple days after they had sex. She's just going about like it wasnt even a big deal or anything. I dont know if I have a right to be even a little angry. And if I do, what do I do have a right to angry about? I dont know it just kind of upsets me that she did that. Whats your opinion? Am I overreacting? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

I don't think your overreacting i think your just scared that you might lose you friend. I mean doing what she did was her dissision and if thats what she wants to do then you need to support her as a friend. There is really no reason you should but upset. its not like she stabbed you in the back or anything. Maybe you could just talk to her and just say what you just said about the whole ring thing and how it sort of upsets you.

i hope i helped

-E

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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more

I would say that a guy who cheated on ME would be pushing his luck with 3. It doesn't matter how you say, but the fact that you actually do it. If he begs you not to..why can't he go and be with one of the poeple he cheated on you with? Your much to good for him and honestly, why would you want a guy like this in your life? You need to flat out say that this isn't going to work and when he says i can change say the truth, BULLSH*T! haha! but make it very clear that hes a player and that he can't use you. Tell him 17 times is more than enough times to break your heart. lie it down hard...he'll get the idea

-E

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I have a scar on me that I got when I was about 7. I'm 13 now, and its really bugging me. It's on my right kneecap, and it takes up the whole space of that part of my knee. It makes me feel insecure when I wear shorts and skirts. What could I do to feel less secure?

scars are what makes people special. i'm sure you have an interesting story about that. when i was 3 i got burnide on my left hand from a currling iron. EVERYONE askes what its from and i have to tell them. i have a scar on my knee too, but there is a really funny story behind it. i have a scar between my eyes from when i broke my head open. i have another scar on my left hand from when my dog scratched me. you see, i'm not like everyone else because i have certain things about me which make me special and different. scars aren't that big of a deal. its not going to be like people won't talk to you because of it. and if they won't, do you really want to be tlaking to them? anyway, what i'm trying to say is that if your feeling like this you don't have to. I sometimes feel the same way but then think of all the people who have NOTHING unique about them. i feel bad for them, rather than myself.

hope i helped
if you need anymore help just drop it in my inbox
-E


btw, don't get the scar removed its a waste of money and time. =]

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15/f

My 12 year old brother hangs out with this 16 year old named Tyler. Well apparently tyler thinks im the hottest thing since microwave popcorn, which i am perfectly fine with haha :)

heres some problems:

-they live in indiana. Now i live in kentucky but i visit my dad every 6 weeks and during the summer i will be there for 3 weeks. If anything happens it will just be a fling, and im willing to take the chance on getting attatched.

--everyone thinks he is a player because he has a girlfriend and likes me and is interested in me. I dont think he is a player...he could always dump her for me, which dont get me wrong he has a girlfriend im staying away i dont play that game.

---a kid was recently bullying him and he beat him up at a baseball game in self defense and when his brother found out about it he beat the kid so bad they had to take him out in a wheel chair...but that dont make him a bad person...

-----when i heard about the above comment...i began freaking out. I just wanted to reach out to him and hug and comfort him...why??

so if you could just explain all of that for me i would be grateful!! :D

Sorry for the longness

Don't worry about it, long questions are the best to answer! haha. Okay, so just because a person likes another person while there going out with another person that doesn't make thema player. a player is when a guy goes out with girls just so he either can, wants to sleep with them, or wants to do stuff with them. When someone gets hurt your immidiate reaction is AWWW! haha. I think that you may have a kindergarten crush on him. --thats the kind of crush that doesn't really mean anything...but its still there. This is okay. If you see him and you start to feel like things can work then you guys can try to have a long distance relationship otherwise, you can either have it be just a fling or just hang out like REALLY good friends...

hope i helped
if you have anymore questions feel free to drop them in my inbox

-E

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So I'm 15, a freshman girl in high school, and despite the fact that's there's 1,000+ kids in my school, I don't have any friends. I don't get why. I talk to people who are my acquaintances, but I know I don't say too much because I'm afraid they'll think I'm annoying. I do raise my hand a lot in class, and I'm trying to stop, but is that annoying? Sometimes, I joke around with people that I talk to more, but is that annoying too? I get straight As, and I guess I'm somewhat decent looking. A girl in my Spanish class said I'm pretty, but I think she was saying that to make me feel better. Why doesn't anyone like me? I did drama and I'm on my track team and in a youth group. I met lots of new people, but no new friends. Everyone's just really clique-y and I don't fit in. The same girl who's in my Spanish class is in my art class, (which is after Spanish) and we walk together. We never say anything. I don't think she really likes me, she just doesn't want to walk alone. A lot of times, one of her friends will come up and talk to her, so I have to go ahead. It seems like people only talk to me when they want something, whether it's help with homework, to borrow something, etc. I always feel so awkward in gym because I just hang around these girls, but we're not friends, so I just stand there. Last year, I had friends. Over the summer, I did a camp, and there was a younger girl who was the sister of this guy I talked to. I found out from her that he thought I was really annoying and that another guy though I "stalked" him when I didn't even talk to him that much. This summer, I don't have anyone to hang out with, and I'm not doing the camp again because I'm not friends with anyone, and it's too late to join anyway. What am I do doing wrong?

the only thing your doing wrong is not putting in the effort. If your on the track team your around people everyday find someone that you like go up to them and start aconvo wether its about track,school, or...FOOD lol anyway, then if they introduce you to there friends then you got FRIENDSS! haha but you sometimes have to ask THEM to hang out. You can't always expect people to make the plans with you when they hardly know you. Some people find what you were doing annoying but a lot don't. So what if 2 guys thought you were anoying..it was probally cuz you hung out with his sister. but who cares?! do what ever YOU want and have fun. If you have to change who you are just to get firends...is it really worth it?

hope i helped
-E

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Let's call her Courtney. Well, Courtney's being such a bitch to me lately. She's my supposedly or used-to-be "friend" even though we were never really close. Anyway, I get this feeling she's trying to leave me out. If she's nice to me, I get a feeling that she's using me, which I bet she is. You see, she's my partner in Science. Today, at this academy that two of my other friends go to, she led us to this three-seat place and motioned for my other friends to sit there. A week ago, at a four-seat place, I almost sat next to her, but she was all " no no no, I want to tell Krista something,so sit next to Jenny." Even when we were taking pictures today, when Miss. Salinaek took us to this photo booth, she took sticker photos with my friends and completely ignored me. In Science, she says "you do all the work. " Also, she tries to make me give things to her. I'm in a singing part for a musical, and she didn't get any parts. Later on, she narrows her eyes at me and says sarcastically " did you have fun?" then she puts her arms around my best friend and starts talking to her. (they have the same set-design role.) Also, she keeps on talking about me like I'm not there. " I don't think Moana is right for the role, she gets so nervous and scared, and she doesn't sing well." My friends look at her like she's crazy and go " No she's not." She only acts reall phony-scary nice when she wants to go to a party I throw. At first, she was really kind when we first became friends. Now, she's like a total asshole. I can't "talk" because we aren't that close and she didn't do anything pointedly nasty except in class, when she begged me for candy, and I said I didn't have any, she said " I hate you" but she could very well have been joking. Ugh, get this bitch out of my life!

Ignore her, if you have real friends then why do you need her? Also, ask your teacher if you can switch partners. If that won't work, then just be like i have so much after school so i can't do everything this time you need to start helppin and if she says no tell your teacher and then your teacher may not give her a grade because seh ddidn't do anything
hope i hlped
-E

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so ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months. i knew him 2 yrs prior as my sisters friend. but weve always had a thing for eachother during those 2 yrs. infact we dated a couple times for maybe a day or two but this time we wanted to really give it a try. well id like advice on what to do. the other day we celebrated a friends bday- when he gets extremely wasted he becomes another person. not physical but very mental, he will bring me down and call me names. im not defending him but i do use the same game back until its like a hurricane hit us and were left with the aftermath to clean up. well this time i had enough so i broke up with him. he said something ill never forget and i cant believe im sharing it online becuz i cant even tell my friends in real life but i have to get this off my chest. he said outloud (and i really dont think he knew he said this, he really was out of his mind)...he says "quit embarrasing yourself your f***ing a fat obese person".

im a big girl, so yes hes talking about me. first i was shocked, he wasnt facing me when he said it its like he just blurted it before his brain processed it. after a minute i said "are you serious did you just say that?". he didnt realise what he said you can tell, he changes the subject asks what hes supposed to do and goes home. i broke up with him before his comment and he called me 9 times in a row the next morning to aplogise that he was "real drunk", i yelled at him and told him it was completely and officially OVER. i havent spoken to him in 2 days but his myspace page clears hes depressed about the break up. i dont know what to do...ignore that he said that becuz i want to be with him, but i dont know i havent even cried. please help?

It's obvious that this guy cares for you...but what he said is hurtful and can never be taken back. If you trully, honestly, belive that he can change then give him another chance but tell him if this happens agian its over. He needs to know that drunk or not drunk saying something hurtful like that is rude and you don't like it. Tell him you'd like it if he didn't drink so much. Only you can trully decide what to do. I hate to say this but he may not be that great of a guy if he thinks that. Sorry, but most people say the truth when their drunk. But your probally not fat...trust me unless you weigh over 5646513161lbs your NOT fat =]
i hope you make the right choice.
But if any guy has the nerve to say that to any girl you should dump his a$$ on the spot! lol.
Cuz, then it proves that hes not a gentalmen and who would want a mean guy in thier life?!

hope i helped

-E

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