Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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ok first of all for 2 years now, people have been spreading rumors about me saying that i am bisexual and IM NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today i got this really rude note from a girl named " hilary" ( i dont really think someone named hilary wrote it)
this is what is says:
Shelby,
you are a hore. some people even think that you are bisexual. i know thats what i belive. i know this because of last year. by the way, your ex boyfriend tyler said eww when he heard that you like other wemon.
Chow,
hilary
this is really making me mad and depressed. I DO NOT LIKE WEMON~!~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM STRAIGHTER THAN A BOARD!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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well most guys or some at least like bi girls. besides if you know its not true then it doesnt matter what everyone else thinks. the same thing happened to a guy friend of mine. but he just ignores it or laughs about it. so dont worry becasue there will always be a jealous b**** that wants to start rumors. so forget them!!!
SAM
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When a guy puts his arm over your shoulder when ur walking, what do i do with my hands? should i put my arm around his waist or is that wierd? (link)
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well you could hold his other hand or you dont have to really do anything with your hand. put your head on his shoulder, it adds a really nice touch haha
SAM
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Okay, so theres this girl that ive known for a year. and shes likee the biggest drama queen. so about a week ago, she goes and takes something out of my bag after i got up to throw something out.
and i notice how shes trying to make a run for her seat since she was at my table. so i was like..why are you going through my stuff? do i have to put a lock on my bag so people dont take things? and shes like mimiking me the whole time and was likee "shut up. who cares" all that immature bullish.
so im likee okay whatever.
so then i hear her from across the room saying she wants to kick the sh*t out of me and i ignore it.
and for the past week shes been talking **** about me so i can hear her. shes sayin stuff like "shes so ugly and she has no friends" when its really the total opposite.
i dont know how to confront her or what to say to her when shes talking this crap. what would you say?
whats a really good thing to say that will make her not know what to say?
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just tell her that she needs to get a life because it seems like she doesnt have one. and if shes gonna talk trash about you then forget about it and dont listen to her. my best friend is one of the most hated people i know -even though shes actually really nice- and she just ignores all the people that talk about her. if she says something so that ur hearing it you should talk to your friends while shes doing it as if she wasnt even there. trust me she'll get tired of playing stupid little b**** games soon enough. and if all else fails tell her that shes a whore haha.
SAM
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What are some signs that your boyfriend is gay ? Has anyone had an expirence where theyre boyfriend turned out gay? How did it go? How did you find out? (link)
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well i had a similar thing happen to me once. i really liked a good friend of mine and i wanted to go out with him. he showed ALL the signs of liking me and i thought he was gonna ask me out. he was hugging me holding hands and flirting nonstop. but then he said that he "wasnt in the position to like anyone" and i was like wtf? so a few weeks later he says "well im not realyl sure about how i feel. i dont wanna hurt you by dating you without acutally liking you. for a while now ive been gay..." so i was like ok its fine. i mean they cant control being gay...no one can. dont worry for now unless he does something to make you think he is. hope this helps some...
SAM
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Alright last summer, I started talking to this boy Ben, just like on AIM cause I had his screen name somehow.. like it wasn't real deep conversations just usually like hey whats up, how are you doing .. stuff like that, since we didn't really know each other, but all i knew was he was this kid at my school's neighbor[Lance] and that he went to my cousins school. Well anyways, I saw him a few times over the summer last year and I thought he was the most gorgeous thing but I never had the guts to talk to him or anything. Well, this year I'm extremely outgoing and I'm like hyper 24/7 ha, but anyways we were at this festival and I saw him there and we were trying to find cute boys :), so I texted my friend Chelsea[shes my cousins friend] and I was like dude find me a cute boyy, and shes like ha mee too. And then I said wanna introduce me to Ben? and shes like suree so then I found her, and she went up to him and said you should meet my friend and so I walked over and we were talking for a little bit by ourselves.
He was like where do you go? and I'm like ignatius. and hes like NUH UHH?! do you know lance?! and im like yeah he's my best friend![im friends with lance this year] and hes like no hes mine and we were fighting over it for awhile. and then he asked me if i knew a few more people an stuff an then all of our friends came over an we kinda stopped talking and he took a picture of me cause i was like dude if you take a picture of me im gonna blink so he did. and then i took a picture with a friend and he went away. and my friends said he looked like he was flirting with me mass? but i dunno lol. i dont really notice.
Anyways so I told my friend Matt, that I wanted him to hook me up with Ben .. like I was kinda kidding about it but I wasnt at the same time lol. and so he texted ben and goes do you like anyone cause i know someone who wants you. but he said who is this like a day later so i dont think he has text. but matt saw him later that day and goes you remember melissa right and hes like yeah and he goes would you go out with her and bens like no i dont like having a girlfriend really and we dont really know each other.
ahhh i got so mad that matt asked him that but anyways so i was like noo matt i didnt wanna go out with him i barely know him i just think hes hot and hes like whatd you mean by hook up and i was kidding so i was like you know and so he texted ben and was like oh no she doesnt wanna go out she wants to hook up.
so now the boy prolly thinks im like a hoe or something and he prolly thought i was ugly too.
ughh i feel so dumbb. but so i texted him yesterday and was just like hey this is melissa, but he never answered .. and he got on AIM a little after I texted him so I didnt IM him cause I didnt wanna seem like obsessive or something.
but anyways, should i talk to him next time hes on AIM or the next timee i see him.. which might be saturday at lances parrty? and what should i say to him? should i say something like dude matts gay i onlyy said you were hot or should i act like i dont know? or something completely different.
and im sorry this was probably like the longest thing youve ever read in your life, but i need help. thankyou (: (link)
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hey the same thing happen when my friend blurted out that i like this one guy i met at the mall. lol and she was trying to get him to ask me out. he said no but i dont care haha. so the thing you should do is be like "hey i dont like you either i just said you were hott and matt blew this way outta proportion. so lets just forget about this. [and then laugh a little haha]" well it is kinda funny and a bit embarrassing but its no big deal. he wont really care. so yea just talk to him at the party and you might end up making a realyl cool friend. =]
SAM
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what are some ways to masterbate to hit a good orgasm (link)
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use the water faucet in ur bathtub. it always works for me. put ur legs up against the wall and let the water do all the work haha.
SAM
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im not sure what to think this guy acts different around me
like at lunch today he wuz sooooo nice to me and then in my next class he wuz nice to me but sometimes he isnt nice to me i dont no if he likes me or not (link)
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ah well sometimes guys are just shy. but if he doesnt seem to act like he likes you then hes probably just a nice guy. some guys like that can be confusing. u should play hard to get haha
SAM
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I dont have a crush on anyone because I have been getting over 3 guys who I used to like at the all the same time. But now, I really hate not liking someone. It just makes me feel really lonely. Life is boring. And no one is really cute in my school to like. So I really hate this. My sister has a huge crush on the most populariest guy in her school. But ME, I hate this. Im ususally the super boy crazy type of girl. Why do I feel this way? It feels like the time to like anyone is never. (link)
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hey rite now im kinda the same. im getting over two guys rite now, well no mainly one who i really liked. but you know sometimes its better without all the drama of liking a guy. it'll pass though i mean one day a really cool guy will come along and there you have a new crush. haha being single and not liking anyone can actually be really fun too. do you have any guy frineds or do you ever go to the mall with friends? if you do then you can always flirt like crazy. it makes life fun. haha its what i do now.
SAM
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ok so i have this good friend that ive been hanging out with a flirting with more and more. well we we're hanging out on wednesday and he wants to take his tent out to his woods in his back yard and go in his hot tub...i feel like im setting myself up to hook up and maybe go even further than that!! is this his way of saying he wants to be with me or something??? (link)
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did he say he wants you to come with him? then he probably wants to get with you haha. have fun!
SAM
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So I'm 14/f, and I have these 3 bi friends.
The first[D] is 17, and we first kissed at my house during Mulan. idk y, that movie is just... mmm. Anyway, so we kissed, and went out for like 3 days. She's one of my two best friends, and is also bff with friend number 2[M].
Friend number 2[M] is 16, and she and I kissed two days ago, and she's got a bf. I love her to death, but we can't be together publically.
Friend 3[A], tried to seduce me at a party, and when we're in public, ignores me, but in private is amazing. She and M have this long history of hatred for each other. Its very upsetting.
I love all three, but have no clue what to do.
And there's the factor that my parents can't know that I'm bi????
HELP! (link)
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hey well im bi too and i know that this stuff can be hard and confusing. well it seems like u have to decide which one is gonna be the most devoted to you. to me it seems like friend 1 would be willing to give the most. friend 2 is taken and friend 3 ignores you in public. well anyways your parents dont have to know until you're ready for them to know. i havent told mine and im 14/f too. well if you ever wanna talk some more you can leave me a message in my inbox. ttyl
SAM
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ok theres this girl in my class who i have no idea wether she likes me or not :S here's why i think this. i went to a freinds party once but hardly any one one came just me him her and a couple of others then the boy (lets say his names andy and her names sophie) andy says to her (i think as a joke) oooh "sophie fancies you" she looks at him for a while then looks at me for longer and doesnt say anything now normally people say no i dont or somthing but it was silent then a couple of days after because i had driven my self near crazy thinking does she doesnt she i used to like her back in year 8 but i dont any more (now in year 11) but today and a few days ago she sent me some wierd texts that kept me thinkin they were 1) "i know you cant text back but i love you and allways will u allways listen to me if i have a problem" couple of days after she text me 2) what you doing today (i still cant text back at this moment) then today 3) X X X X X X X X X X X X - these are because i love ya. now please keep in mind that "sophie" is one of those cutesy kinda baby like people and i gotta wrap this up quick kus door bein knocked and she has recently broke up with her bf (went out for a year and something months) now she has a new BF nearlly 2 weeks after the break up and shes been with him for abotu 3 weeks now. plesae help (link)
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aww well she sounds kinda like me. when i like a guy i always will say i love u and text them or act like flirty in a cute little way haha. if shes not denying that she likes you than chances are SHE DOES! do you like her? if you do tell her you do and she will most likely dump him to date you. haha but if she doesnt and is just kidding around then dotn worry bout it. itll be fine. hope i helped bye
SAM
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i want to cut my hair when school ends.
i want a drastic change, something short, but not so much that i can't feel my hair on the back of my neck.
at the shortest i would like it chin length with my bangs a little shorter, at the longest i'd like it two inches off each.
the only problem is i don't know if it would look good with my face.
and i don't really want something plain like shorter cut and bangs, i want a whole new style, but not something i would have to curl or straighten my hair with.
by the way, i'm fourteen going into high school and have very straight dark/light brown hair.
i have pictures at http://www.myspace.com/dixiencoco but only five and if you need more information just tell me.
thanks ahead of time.
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ok well from what i can see you have thin hair right? ok if you do then short hair is great and ur face shape is fine. i have short hair but its kinda thick so its not that great. http://www.hairresources.com/images/sce/704mediumlayered5.jpg
something like that you dont really have to straiten or blowdry. i know i used to have my hair like that its a little longer now though. short hair is very fun haha i love it
SAM
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So I have almost been going out with my boyfriend for one month and he seriously cares about me but in person he hugs me but it doesnt mean anything like its a friend hug.. and this other guy likes me and he is really sweet and i've heard he is a really good boyfriend.. i dont think i like my boyfriend anymore which is bad.. and my best friends are going out with his best friends so i will basically get torn out of the group and i still want to be his friend.. what should i do?!? (link)
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tell him the truth, that you only see him as a friend. its gonna hurt him if he really does like you but maybe hes getting a friend vibe too. my best friend and i were gonng go out because well we are so close and everyone thinks we should but just when he was about to ask me out he said it was weird because he kinda didnt see me that way. at first it hurt me but then i realized that he was right, why should anyone have to date someone they dont like? tell him how u feel and you will both be glad that the truth was told. and plus if you like another guy then dating your "friend" isnt gonna help things. let him down easy but make it clear what you want. hope it goes well.
SAM
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ok so my gf had a weird dream where her best friend died, then later on in the dream her best friend came back, in her dream she had to go through shcool tellign everyone what had happened to her and where she was and that she was dead, then she came back to life and said she only thought she had been dead, it was weird. she had a diffrent dream where we broke up and she started dating my best friend, then me and her got back togeather but we didnt tell her and we were like making out right infront of him and he was like, "is this a joke?" it didnt phase him, and in the dream she was talking to him on a bed and it was weird. anyone got any idea what any of this means. don't leave a response if you don't know what your talking about, and if you feel the need to tell me you dont, if you do please tell me where you get your info. thank you (link)
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ok about the first dream
To see someone dying in your dream, signifies that your feelings for that person are dead or that a significant change/loss is occurring in your relationship with that person.
To dream that your best friend is dying, suggests that some aspect or quality that your best friend possess is dying within your own self.
second dream
To dream that you break up with your significant other, indicates that there is something in your life that you need to let go no matter how hard it may be.
go to http://www.freakydreams.com/freaky.htm and type in the whole dream. then they will get back to u with a specific analysis or go to dreammoods.com for more general interpretations.
SAM
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so me and this. Ive already asked this question before about asking him out. I still havent done it. But he hasnt called me or texted me in about four days and im begining to feel lefted out.Like is there something going on??I know theres no any other girls cause he barley talks to girls, and im the only sexy hot female in his life lol, but I guess it hurts when he dosnt call or text me, or dosnt reply...but last night i did send him one message and he called me "boo" (how cute) but it didnt cheer me up. What do i do? (link)
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i say u should go for it because honestly trying to figure out what guys are thinking takes too long and is sometimes not worth it. just ask him out tell him how you feel. if he feels the same then great you guys can go out. if not then oh well there will be other guys. i know this sounds harsh but its the truth. you dont want to let the opportunity pass you by, this way at least you'll know you tried. so have fun and dont worry so much! liking someone should be fun not frustrating! ok good luck to you!
sam
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i need to break upo with my bf, but i dont know how. im too scared to do it face to face. but is that necessary?
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yes i think its nessisary to do it face to face. over the phone or online is just plain mean. you need to see how he reacts and explain it to him. unless hes done some pretty bad things to you, you should try to make it as painless as possible. dont be scared, just tell him how u feel. he will understand...
SAM
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I really like this guy at my school and i have for a long time and now he likes me back, we flirt and everything and he is really sweet but suddenly i just can't bring myself to wanting to go out with him. What is my problem? (link)
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maybe your just not ready to commit. a lot of people have issues with it because it can lead to getting hurt, hurting the other person, and can even ruin a good friendship. but dont be afraid of all of this. if you've had bad experiances in the past where you got hurt dont let them influence you anymore. if this guy has told you how he feels and wants to date you you should give him a chance, but if your just not ready tell him exactly how you feel. he'll understand. good luck.
SAM
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allright, i have all guy friends. Im not a tom boy and they dont think of me as "one of the guys". I dont find this weird and neither do my parents, they understand that i just like them better. But at school im considered a slut. I dont do that much with these friends of mine, anything sexual i mean. Yes, dont get me wrong, i have done stuff with them, but i wouldnt consider it slutty. And to top it all off, the girls all think that i am a bitch. I think they feel threatend cause im prettier then they are. Also my friends are really shallow. They dont talk to girls who arent pretty, and they compare all the girls to me.. ghay i know. I've had friends that where girls, but i just found them really stuck up and catty, guys just like to have a good time i guess. Im not saying that i wouldnt like girl friends, cause i am kind of longing for someone to talk about boys to. But, I'm happy with having 6 (extremly hot) guy friends that i do everything with. They even come with me shopping. Lol i get nasty looks from some of the girls in the mall. I think its funny. But how do i get people to stop calling me a slut and a bitch. Im pretty happy with evrything. And how do i get a good girl friend that doesnt want to be friends with me because of my guy friends ? (link)
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hey im kind of the same way because girls can be very dramamtic and guys are just so much funnier and you can always count on them to have a good time. the other girls are just jealous and if your happy where you are you really dont need to worry about what they think. if you want to find a friend that is a girl then maybe you can try looking for some nicer [less catty] girls and get to know them better. you must be a really fun person if all the guys think your cool. so just look around im sure there are people who would love to hang out with you and all ur guy friends too.
SAM
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ok so this kid realllyyyy likes me. i used to really like him too but i got over him. but now my best friend likes him . he thinks i like him and my best friend knows i don't. i know she likes him though. but she doesn't know i told him she likes him. she told me not to tell him but i was mad at her at the time so i did. does that consider me a bitch? should i tell him i don't like him? if so, how? (link)
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well you should tell him you dont like him and make it on a day when you and him are alone. let him down easy by saying that you really like him as a friend but not in that kind of way. he'll get the message. reassure him by telling him that your friend likes him, but make sure you tell him not to tell her that he knows. probaably if they spend more time together, he will start liking her. that way everyones happy. hope it goes well.
SAM
oh well if you dont want her to like him then there its probably because maybe your a little jealous. maybe if your anything like me then you might not be completely over him. you say you are and think you are but a small part of you isnt so thats why you have these feelings. you cant control how she feels and its probably best not to mention her likeing him anymore. good luck. this stuff is always so confusing.
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For the summer.. I want to cut and dye my hair..... But theres a problem... my hair is reallly thick and I want to cut it shorter.. like a little below my shouders(right now it is middle of my back)... would that make it look thicker? or what are some hair styles? My hair is really dry and corse and just not the type of hair a girl would want.... what are some ways to make my hair look not at thick.... and i want some crazy laires... any ideas on anything...
and since my hair is so corse and thick would it look good dyed? (link)
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well it really depends because my hair is course and dry i mean its really thick and its not even shoulder length. most people like it but im thinking i need to grow it out shoulder length. the thing about layers is it generally adds volume to thick hair making it all poofy and big. what color you thinking of dying it? the texture has nothing to do with dying it. ive gone from black to brown to red to blonde highlights and it looks fine. have fun!
SAM
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