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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion."I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."
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he is a freshman, im a sophomore. ever since the last time we saw eachother at our friends' house he has slowly been asking for sexual things from me. [these questions came gradually.] NOW he thinks were having sex. [i never said no, but i refuse to.] in the begining i said, i dont know about that i dont think thats gonna happen sorry [i would never want to have sex now anyways] and he would just say ugh grr fine. but now, he is completely convinced that we are going to do it. its starting to scare me. alright, you may think im crazy, and maybe i am. but the only reason i have been putting up with his shit is because i want to see him. i dont know why, but i just really want to see him. although, he treats me like a hoe and only talks to me when he feels like it. but im hoping he'll be himself when i see him. anyways, friday night i was over my friends house on her laptop in her kitchen while she was somehwere else. he IMed me and asked me to send a naked pic and i said im at my friends sorry [i wouldnt do it anyway] and then he said, wow. oh my god were havin sex just send it. [by the way we arent. he just thinks we are. im just too afraid to tell him no] and then he was just being really cruel to me and demanding. he said, ugh you wouldnt send it even if you werent at your friends house, your just like that. i want it damnit.
and then i started shaking and getting scared because i didnt know what to say and i didnt want him to get angry. then he said, ugh do you want my dick or not, hoe. and i said, yo dont call me a hoe.. and he said, then send a pic later. so then i just said i dont know..and he said, fine im fucking your vag then. and i said, do i have to..? and he said, im gonna fuck your vag now. i dont care ill bring a condom.
..thats so scary. he sounds like he wants to rape me. even at one point in our conversation a few days ago he said something like, "im gonna pin you against the wall and fuck you so hard your gonna cry" i told him that sounds like rape. because it does. i am kind of scared of him in a way..look at this conversation..[i changed the names]
matt: your my sex slave
me: whatt.
matt:
you mess up in sex ill slap you in the face wit my cock\
me:
what the fuck
are you being serious
matt:
only if you get naughty (:
me:
...
matt:
suck it till i jizz down your throat
me:
you dont really think of me as your sex slave do you
matt:
no
but im gonna slap you wit my cock
me:
why..?
matt:
cuz then youll suck it
me:
ill do whatever i want
matt:
youll do what i tell you to do
me:
someones being demanding
matt:
i dont care
i cant believe he thinks im his "sex slave" that hurts. and makes me feel like im a nobody and he is using me and getting everything out of it and probobly telling all of his friends and then what am i left with? nothing. whenever i think about the things he says to me, i get this weird stomache feeling, not a good one. and im really scared because yesterday he said to me, im going to their housr tonight. i want your ass, go tonight. and i said, should i ask if i can go..and he said, nah its ok. just go march 28. and i said okay, do you not want me to go tonight or something? and he said, i dont care, but im fucking your vag without a condom so..
first of all when did i ever agree to that. but i dont wanna say no because then he wont go to their house on march 28. he even said, i wont be busy if i get to fuck you. I DONT WANT TO! I WONT LET HIM. all i want to do is hookup. i dont want to have sex with him, never. ever. but i cant tell him that..and then when were at their house, after they all go to sleep, he wants to go on the other side of their basement and do it. but i feel like..hes gonna be really mad if i tell him while hes about to do it to me..hes gonna be so pissed. and i dont want him to slap me. i want to see him though..i dont know why. what is wrong with me. im starting to scare myself
i know you want to see him probably because you just want to hook-up. honestly, this kid sounds like the biggest asshole i've ever heard of. if you don't stand up for yourself and flat out tell him NO IM NOT HAVING SEX WITH YOU, things will just get worse. don't care what he thinks and don't care if he gets angry, if he does then he's an even bigger asshole then i thought...and besides if you don't flat out tell him "NO" and you end up having sex, its not rape no matter what he does to you because you didn't say "no" or "stop".....there are sooo many nice guys out there to hook up with that won't treat you as a "sex slave" or a hoe or any of that crap. get rid of him and find someone that treats you right.
Can I have all of your opinions on this dress for prom? Ideally, it would be in either royal blue, or the platinum, which is pictured.
http://www.bghaute.com/style_details.php?product_id=741
aw thats such a pretty dress, i definetly like it. i'd say the royal blue if you're blonde and the platinum if you're brunette or red-head. have fun at prom :)
what makes a person easy to trust and easy to open up to them?
i just wanted to add to the answer below me that it takes time, and if you want to earn someone's trust, you need to be patient.
hey im 15.f
i have 2 questions to ask in this.
so heres the story (and oh yea who ever answers ill rate high because i really need help)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about almost 2 weeks and those 2 weeks he fingered me. i gave me head and we had sex. alot of sex. my question is can i be any chance pragnet since we didnt use a condom the very first time and we were in he shower and he felt like he was gonna cum so he pulled out and waited a little and then we went agian. but he never came. that same day we used condoms but we had sex twice after the shower incident. then i came over agian yesterday and we had sex twice again but with a condom he came but we had a condom and everything was fine. but im just worried that what if i am pragnet and if there is a chance i can be.. because since the first time in the shower my mood changed and i got a small pain like all the way in mmy lower stomach by my vigina. im really scared and i dont know what to do im going to wait ffor my period to come but i dont know by then it might be to late.
another question is i regret having sex with him so much he says he likes me a lot but i feel like our relationship is moving wayyyyyyyy 2 fast and it old him that he said everything is fine and that he wont leave me because we had a thing in the past where i was dating my other boyfriend and he tried to convince me to break up with him so he must like me but idont what to do bout the sex ...and the moving fast
any help ill rate high thank u so much =]
yes there's a chance you could be pregnant. wait and see if you get your period or not and if you don't, get a pregnancy test at like cvs or something. i'm not trying to be mean but if you have to ask these questions then you shouldn't be having sex. not to scare you but there's also pre-cum, which does have sperm in it and condoms aren't 100% effective, they could break and a lot of other things can go wrong. you said that you did this after 2 weeks...i understand that people go at their own rate and i completely respect that but i quote you: "he says he likes me alot but i feel like our relationship is moving wayyyyyyyy 2 fast".. you're definetly right. i don't know this guy so i can't judge him but i know from experiences and a lot of my guy friends told me that guys that move to fast don't care as much about the girl as the ones who wait...sorry to bring me into this but i talked about this with my present boyfriend and when i said "i think we're moving too fast" he didn't say "everythings fine" he actually stopped and told me he wouldn't go anything until i was ready. just want you to know that it hurts when guys take advantage of you. i hope you make the right decision.
this is mostly meant for those who have been in a relationship for a while, but anyone can answer. when(how many months) did you first tell your boyfriend/girlfriend you love him/her? thanks in advance.
my boyfriend told me after 4 months that he loved me. personally i was glad he waited because for me it takes alot to say something like that and if he said it any earlier i wouldn't have said it back because i wasn't sure...it's only fair to him that i said it back if i truly meant it, and i did...we're still together 7 months later =]
okay, well I was wondering if anyone could help me out. I get really bad breakouts on my face whenever I'm stressed, which is like practically all the time. And I have the type of acne that isn't generally all that bad, I'll get the typical one or two pimples each or every other week but whenever I get breakouts they're the worst (like severe acne all over my face). I've been using acne stress and other kinds of acne treatments and they seem to be working some what. But I'm not completely satisfied. So does anyone have any suggestions for me?
If so, that'd be great, thanks.
yours,
MichelleMonsterrrr
i used to break out alot but now i use clean & clear continuous acne clenser and it works really good. you can get it at like any drug store and its the one with the purple cap.
so theres this kid he calls me cute/ hot &stuff and invited me to go away w/ him in the summer and he sends me "
yeah it sounds like he does. guys usually don't send "
ok im not going to sugar coat this or anything im just gonna straight up tell you how it is. i need to get something off my chest and i want to hear what you have to say about it. im putting myself out there so, try not to be too harsh :/ i really appreciate you taking the time to read this and help me out.
16/f
been going out with my bf for 1 year and 6 months. let me just tell you for sure we definitely are in love, no questions asked. we go to different schools but only live 15 minutes away from each other and we make it work. even though i truly do love him, i have mildly [nothing horrible] cheated on him on several occasions.
okay, back last year when we were going out for about 4 or 5 months, i started to talk to this guy, G. he was blatantly flirty with me all the time and i guess sweet talked me into a situation i did not want to be in. one day in school he texted me saying to 'go to the bathroom' and meet him outside in the hall. so i did, and we were just walking around the school talking. we sorta got slower at the staircase and he turned around and kissed me. i kissed him back but it was just 2 short pecks held out for 2 seconds each id say. it felt like the WEIRDEST THING ever, i didnt like it. but it was almost like he had me brainwashed because i kept talking to the guy. over a break like the easter break or something when no one was home he snuck over to my house and i let him in... i kept him in my room because my brother was home and if he saw some guy in our house he would get me in trouble. so he almost forcefully laid me down and started kissing me. no tongue or anything, just kissing, like long pecks i suppose? so i felt sort of violated because i was very hesitant and it made me feel uncomfortable. right after i got up and didnt let him push me down anymore and told him he had to leave and i made him leave my house. i only told my boyfriend about the kiss in the hallway and i twisted the story and said that the guy kissed me but i did not kiss him back. eventually i realized talking to this kid got me nowhere but into trouble so i ended all contacts with him. so that was over. my boyfriend was upset of course but forgave me because he still doesnt even know the whole story.
next incident came in the summer, we were going out for 8 months. i went on vacation with my family to the bahamas at a resort. i made out with/kissed 3 boys within the vacation. nothing was passionate it was just regular kisses. out of curiosity i suppose? spur of the moment? the feeling of carelessness that the summer gives you? i was on vacation and i would never have to see these people again? im not sure why i did it but these reasons seem logical. right after every time i told the boys that i had a boyfriend and that i felt horrible that i did that. the first guy, B, it was his last night. we were walking on the beach at night after a teen activity that the resort had, and it was my first night there so i was naive. he said that he had never slow danced on the beach before and he asked me to. i thought it was the sweetest thing ever so i did as we listened to a song on his ipod. he kissed me 2 or 3 times that night, nothing passionate, just kisses. and he was really shy and inexperienced and would ask me if i was bad and stuff. i told him i had a bf and we both felt really bad and he understood because he had been cheated on before. the next guy was a total jerk, i was going back to the hotel room to get ready for dinner and before that i was with a group of my friends. he said he would walk me back and i thought that he was just being a gentleman, the naive person i am. little did i know he had other intentions. when we got to my door he leaned in fast and kissed me and grabbed my ass. i was insulted by this so i pulled away after a second once i realized what was happening. then i left him and went into my room. he later told my friends from the resort that he made out with me 3 times and that i let him grab my ass a lot, which was obviously a lie. the next time was with a boy, N. my group of friends was in the poolside hot tub one night. he put his hand on my leg and eventually i sat on his lap playfully because we were all friendly like that i didnt see harm in it at the time, but now i realize that is completely leading on. my friends ditched us thinking we wanted to hookup. once they left we started making out, i did think he was attractive but his personality was a jerk and he just wanted to get with girls, but anyway, after 7 seconds or so he started to go into my pants [ i was wearing full tank top and jeans bc i got pushed into the pool with my clothes on before] and i stopped him right there. i realized then that it was wrong and definetly did not want to go any farther. we met back up with my friends. later on a friend told me that he had said that 'he wanted to f*** me before i left" and that insulted me. it made me realize he wasnt a good guy. so then i went home. i told my boyfriend i didnt do anything and that one guy B tried to kiss me but didnt and lied about it and the last guy tried to get in my pants but i didnt let him. thats all i told him, basically a half lie. still bad i know.
the last incident occured around christmas time, we were going out for 1 year and 2 months. this time i didnt do anything physically, but emotionally. my bf and i were fighting a lot, had a rough patch if you will. i just felt unhappy a lot of the time so i turned to another boy. we had just met and just started talking through insignificant means, like facebook, IM, and texting. he started to tell me that he liked me and would also sweet talk me as the first guy did. it sort of persuaded me into liking him. i did find him attractive and i did like his personality. but i learned from the past mistakes and knew i would not kiss him. we wanted to hangout one time to get to know each other, as friends of course, even though we had little crushes on each other, but he respected that i had a bf and didnt want to mess it up'. i felt my bf couldnt know about it because he would feel jealous or start worrying, couldnt blame him though. so it was originally set up that we would hangout at the mall with other people. he would bring some friends and i would bring some. i was supposed to bring my friend jenny but at the last minute she couldnt go so it was just me. he had 2 of his friends with him, and we saw other friends while we were there too so it wasnt any sort of a date. my bf thought i was just at the mall with jenny though, bc that was the original plan. but thats all he knew. anyway, this guy and i never kissed or did anything innappropriate. i did later admit to my boyfriend that this kid and i were talking and that i had developed a crush on him. my bf and i had a long talk and i eventually ended contacts with this kid and stopped liking him, and things between me and my bf got better. i am completely over that guy. but i can tell my bf is still hurt that i could like another guy so easily and he probably feels insecure, which is understandable, i would too.
so there it is. he really only knows half or even 1/3 of all of that. i have a terrible conscience inside that reminds me of this stuff constantly. i was in denial with my self for a while and would refuse to think that i did any of that stuff, i just couldnt deal with it, i was so upset with myself and still am. i know i should tell him one day... sooner is probably better. but i am SO scared. he told me a few times that if i ever cheat on me he would be so devastated and heartbroken and it would show that 'i never loved him'. but that is not true at all. i KNOW i love him with all my heart, i dont know what i would do if he broke up with me, i would be so incredibly upset. i dont want to lose him but i know that what i did was very wrong and i am truly sorry for it. it was a mistake and i meant nothing by it, i never loved anyone at any point in my life but my bf. i used to be so naive and curious and just stupid and i see that now, ...i know i will never do those things again. i am just so afraid that if i tell him everything that he will just start thinking... and it will end up with us breaking up or something to that horrible effect. i really need advice on this. thanks so much for your time.
i think honesty is the best thing in a relationship, however, you should have told him right after that first incident happened. i don't know you so i can't decide whats the best thing for you to do, but if you see yourself cheating on him again you need to tell him everything you did and break up with him because that's not fair to him. if you really love him you will tell him what happened and never cheat on him again, AT ALL. and if it was meant to be he'll give you another chance to change.
i want to start surfing, i'm 17 though. would that be too late to start?? because, like ballet, if start late it'd be kinda impossible because you wouldn't be as flexible or something.. and are there any exercises i can do to make the first experience on a surf board easier? thanks.
it's never too late to start surfing! learning how to surf was one of the best, memorable experiences of my life haha. there isn't really an exercise that you can do but you need to have strong arms because you're pretty much always paddling. and if you own a board you can practice the "pop up" youtube it and make you sure know that before getting in the water. good luck! :)
(14-f) i kno i am very self conscience wen it comes 2 being around my bf anyway and it seems like acne just makes it worse i've tried any and everything 4 acne but nothing makes it completly go away.and I just need some help,also does anyone kno of somethin i can use 4 my acne. any "home remidies"???
coming from someone who used to have terrible acne and tried pretty much everything, i think the best thing out there is clean&clear continuous acne clenser, its amazing. also you should use a moistuizer too to keep your skin from drying and gettting more acne, just make sure its oil free.
What do i need to know about gettin my permint? I didn't take driver ed,do i need to or can i do something else.
well usually, depending on where you live, you don't need to take driver ed to get just a permit. i just went to dmv and took the test. you just need to make sure you have all your birth certificate and other papers with you. if you're talking about a license then usually to get your license sooner you need driver ed but you still don't necessarily need it. it would help if i knew where you lived though...sorry message me back if you need anything else
I am in a situation where I care about my boyfriend a lot and I love him a lot but I know that I am not in love with him. I have reason to believe that he is in love with me. The thing is that I really don't want to hurt him because I know that we will not last forever but I think he thinks that we might make it through high school and stay together for a long time. But at the same time I don't want to break up with him because I DO like him. I just don't know what I should do sometimes.
if you like him, don't break up with him. you can be boyfriend/girlfriend without being in love. love takes time and you might not feel that yet...or ever even. but that doesn't matter right now, its as simple as you said yourself, you don't want to break up with him because you like him, so don't. see how it goes from there, good luck.
okay so i just got out of a relationship and i still have feelings for the guy, but thats normal. he treated be badly and was a terrible bf. i keep daybreaming and thinking about what it would be like to have a good bf that i like alot and he lieks me and he treats me really good. i want to meet someone like that but i dont know how...is this normal?
hey i'm sorry things weren't good for you. yeah of course its completely normal...everyone deserves a good relationship. the best advice i can give you is try to get all of it out of your mind the best you can, and i swear the best things come when you least expect it...trust me on this one.
I live in Europe.
I'm just wondering why in the states, you have to be 16 to drive...but 21 to drink?
Here, drinking age varies from 16-18 in most places, but as far as I'm concerned you have to be 18 to drive.
Why the big differences?
And also which one would you prefer?
Thanks :)
well i'm 16 with a license and honestly, i don't get it either. we had a huge talk about this in class a few days ago. i heard from someone who lives in europe that kids don't abuse it as much as they do here in the states (correct me if im wrong). so i guess it was just set up that way. personally i would rather be able to drive than drink because i'm a busy person and i'm always out so its more convenient for me even though it sucks not being legally able to drink until 21, and its easy to underage drink anyway, especially if you're with small groups, you just have to have older connections to buy for you.
14/F My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months now. In the beginning I was so happy but gradually I started to lose my feelings for him, especially once school started again. Most of the time its a chore to talk on the phone every night and I'm just not happy. The only problem is that he's still completely smitten. He's constantly telling me he loves me and how much I mean to him and how he's so afraid to lose me. He doesn't have very good friends and besides video games not many hobbies. Basically, I'm a huge part of his life. I know I have to do this for myself but its going to hurt me so much to do this to him. I still care about him just not in the same way. We barely see each other outside of school and when we do he comes over my house. I've never even been to his. How can I breakup with him in person and make this as gentle as possible? Also, we have a semi-formal coming up in a few weeks and for Valentines part of my gift to him was a tie that matches my brand new dress I just bought. This may be a little awkward? I don't know please help. :( Thank you so much.
since you bought him that matching gift, i wouldn't dump him before the dance. but if you really don't feel that you should be together anymore than its only fair for you and him that you let him know.
How old do you have to be to get a part time job? I was thinking I would like to work at CVS or a book store, or some where like that, but I've heard you can't get a job until you 16. I know some of my friends have jobs teaching younger kids at their dance studio. I clearly can't drive yet, and both of my parents work, so I would like to find a job for after school, so I could possibly walk or bike to where ever from school. Thank you!!!... :)
in most cases its 15 or 16...but you can try babysitting, dogwalking, or if your school runs a youth agency or clinic you could possibly get a job there.
im 16, and never had my first kiss yet. even though im pretty sad that i still never had one, i love to hear stories about other peoples' first kisses! it makes me excited for mine :) so whoever reading this, hopefully youll share your story! thank youuu:)
my first kiss was actually the day after my 16th birthday..
we were at a party and we left to go for a walk just the two of us and he was telling me about how i was so much better than his ex and how incredible i was and all that cutesy stuff then he hugged me for what seemed like forever and then we kissed...alot of people's first kiss wasn't that great, or they messed up and were embarrased or whatever and thats what i thought mine was going to be like but i didn't think about anything and just let it happen and it was amazing =]
Okay well me and my boyfriend just got together yesterday.But it seems like he doesn't know how to hug or anything like i have to hug him because he gets embaressed or nervous,like i went to go hug him and just put his arm around my waist.But nothing more.And i don't want to take it to fast even tho we are going extremley slow.Like its still in the "awkward stage" but i don't know what to do because i don't think he has ever had a girlfriend before so its wierd.I really want to kiss him but i don't know how without it being awkward?
if you guys just got together yesterday i don't think you're moving too slow. i would say stick more with hugging without it being awkward and when he acheives that you can make the first move if you want, because he'll be more comfortable with you then...when you decide to though just lean in to him and see his reaction..if he leans in you know, if he doesn't then just pretend you were gonna tell him a secret or something ;] honestly, it would be better if you waited a bit like a couple weeks before the first kiss...'ve heard from a guy that it means more than if you rush it =]
My boyfriends coming to my house on valentines day. I can't think of fun cute things to do before having sex n stuff. Like watch a movie n order food is all i can reli think of just now. Any Ideas?
x
make up games and play them with him
cuddle
make a fire
tell each other stories
and for what to wear, usually i would just wear a semi-fancy shortsleeve shirt (low cut/v-neck) and jeans and later on in the night just change to sweatpants to get comfy =]
i need foundation that has good coverage. i have a bit of acne and i can never seem to hide it. right now i use maybellene mineral power liquid makeup and the concealer. i like the way it isn't thick and cakey, but i feel like it doesn't have enough coverage. what is a good kind i can get at a drugstore (no really expensive ones) that has good long lasting coverage, and is oil free?
i use a kind called maybeline pure makeup..it says shine free foundation with H2O and its oil free. its pretty good at hiding things and unlike other liquid makeups it won't clog pores.