I'm a woman in Texas. I'm married and have a school-aged child. I have a medical background. I'm quite liberal, socially. I love helping people with medical, parenting, and social questions. Don't ask me about tech stuff or finances, because I need advice on those things myself!
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how is it like there? in your info thingy it said that you live in texas. im going to move to dallas.. and im a 13 year old girl. like what cool things can you do there? are there beaches near dallas? amusement parks? how hot is it in the summer/winter? how are the kids and people like? are most people like cowboys and suff or have accents and like horses? because im not really into that.. since i live in hillsborough, new jersey now. how nice are the houses? do people smoke alot? are there alot of fashion malls such? are there like festivals in spring and stuff? haha im just asking. even if you dont live in dallas.. maybe you've gone there? or just tell me generally how texas is like. :) thanks! (link)
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Hey. Yeah, I live in Houston area, though I just moved here 2 years ago. I think Dallas is about 3-4 hours' drive from here, but I've never been there. I don't even know why I would go there. ;) I've been to San Antonio and to Austin and even driven across the state to El Paso. Texas is a very big state (used to be its own country) and it has many geographical areas. Just over an hour Southest of me is the Gulf Coast and Galveston Island. It's nice for a Colorado girl who's never been many places, but it's not San Diego beach. It's kind of murky from the tides, dirty from pollution, and crowded. About 2 hours farther south is Corpus Christi, which is a spring break desination and is supposed to be lovely. There are canyon areas in the west, near El Paso. There are the plains in the panhandle. There is the gulf coast area, some grassland areas, and what Texans adore and call "the Hill Country." That's an area near San Antonio where they have some rolling hills and a few rivers. It's cooler there than here next to the Gulf. It's less humid. Texans love to go there to hunt, tube down the rivers, camp, fish, and party. I've been there a couple of times. I like Texas.
Have you ever heard of a children's book called _They Have Gila Monsters at the Airport_? It's a book about how someone moves from a city to Texas and what his expectations are. Houston is actually very cosmopolitan. There are odd Texas things, like everybody serves a dip made from Velveeta and Rotel (canned tomatoes and green chiles) and in the winter, the fine ladies bundle up in their furs when the temp drops below 50 degrees. When they say "It's FREEZING," it's literally about 32 degrees. A Jersey girl like yourself will probably shrug that off. Dallas is very big as well, but I can't tell you much about what it's like because I've not been there. In Houston, there are so many nationalities of people I feel like I've met a great variety and have been exposed to many different cultures. One thing you don't want to get involved in is a struggle between those who are Horns (University of Texas Longhorns) and those who are Aggies (Texas A&M Aggies). Those are rival college teams and their disputes can rival the Hatfield and McCoy fights. Football means a lot to some people here, especially in the smaller towns. I don't know about amusement parks. There's a 6 Flags in San Antonio and there's Sea World San Antonio. There is an amazing waterpark called Schlitterbahn down in the Hill Country. Austin is the beloved State Capital and has very respected Universities. It's also the home of SXSW (The South by Southwest Music Festival). Houston has medical schools and a world-class medical center. Dallas has a reputation for being a very worldly city with great fashion and shopping opportunities and fine restaurants. Ask your parents about the 80's T.V. show "Dallas." There are a great number of wealthy Texans who call Dallas home. You will probably like the houses. For the money your parents are spending, they are likely to get a much better house than they could afford in New Jersey. Just tell them I'm warning them about the property taxes. Texas has no state income tax, but the property taxes can be another 50% of your mortgage payment on a monthly basis. There are a lot of festivals everywhere. Houston has about 4 million people in it, so there's always something going on somewhere! I really can't say anything about smoking. I don't know. What I do know is that Dallas has a very big problem with traffic. You will likely meet some people who dress like cowboys, but most of the agricultural people live away from the cities in the surrounding farmland. Most people might have a pair of cowboy boots and a hat just for fashion. Another weird thing about Texas is that the people are just COO-COO about it. They have a grocery chain called H.E.B. I recommend it. Get their Texas-shaped crackers and corn chips. Delicious. Texans love the shape of Texas, the history (REMEMBER THE ALAMO!!!), the flag, and the children pledge allegiance to the Texas flag every morning in school. The overpasses often have a state seal or a lone star on them. Texans are crazy about Texas. You will run into some people with accents, but from my experience, most of them speak very close to my Colorado accent. Those likely to have accents are those raised in the country or native-born Texans or girls who are flirting.
Regarding the heat, some people like it and I happen to be one. When I get cold, my hands get painful due to a medical condition, so I don't mind the heat. It gets over 100 degrees here and when the humidity is 99%, it can get oppressively hot and sticky. Those are the times Texans stay indoors. They crank their air conditioners (many two-level houses are built with two air conditioners). It's the worst time of the year for the electrical bill (which may also take your parents by surprise). It's sweater time for me because every mall, theater, restaurant, etc. that I go into has the A/C cranked up so much I shiver until my teeth almost fall out. So I wear shorts and keep a sweater tied around my waist. Yeah. It gets hot. But you should hear the people talk when in the winter the overnight low dips below freezing. You'd think they were witnesses to a truly amazing event. Even at Christmas, there will be ads in the paper stating that people should plant their Christmas pansies outdoors at that time. It's interesting. So winters are mild. In Houston, at least, I hung up my Colorado winter wool and instead got a light rain jacket for winter and several hoodies. Those work well for outdoors in the winter time most of the year. The schools down here even closed down one day this year when there was a freezing rain. They were afraid the roads would be slick. *rolling eyes*
If you want to know more about the experience, there are a couple of books I'd recommend you check out from the library. One is called _So You're Fixin' to be a Texan_ and the other is called _The Yankee Chick's Guide to Texas_. Here's a website for the author.
http://www.yankeechick.com/
It's a mixture of factual statements and humor.
I would be honored if you were to message me when you get down here and tell me how your experiences go! I hope you enjoy it. I would rather live in a different neighborhood right now, but I wouldn't want to leave Texas at this point. I never thought before my husband got transferred here that I'd be saying that!
Best Wishes,
Sabine
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of so i have a problem... prom is coming up in 23 days and i don't know who o ask... theres one girl who invited me to a baseball game on friday and we really get along good, but then there's another who i just cant stop thinking about and i've already tried to make a list of pros and cons and it ends up being the same for both...plz help (link)
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Here's something I do sometimes. Say I can't choose between a pickle and a pretzel. I think "what if Xenon from the planet Glorx (or someone else) were to come down in the spaceship and tell me I had to choose the pickle? What if he said I had to choose the pretzel? Would one of them make me sadder or more upset? Would one make me happier?" Mmmmm... pickles. I'm not pregnant.
Sabine
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Can anyone PLEASE tell me where i can check the balance of my gift cards for the following cards...
- Commerce Bank Visa
- American Express Gift Card
- Vanilla Visa Gift Card
- Abercrombie and Fitch
- Victoria's Secret
I really appreciate any help you can give me, but please to tell me to google it, or to check the website...
Thanks SO much!!
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Since you're not into the Google solution, the cards often have a toll-free telephone number on the back which you can call and use an automated system to find out the balance. If that doesn't work, you can usually go to, say, Victoria's Secret, hand the card to a worker, and ask her to look up the value.
Sabine
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I was a 32d until over a year ago when I went on the pill, and suddenly I don't even know what my size is anymore because everywhere I go say I'm something different! at one place im 32dd, at another I'm 30e, somewhere else i'm in f cups!! I used to think they were getting too large when I was a 32d but now I would kill just to have them back! none of my bras fit properly, just before my period they bloat up so much it gets painful to wear any of my bras! They feel soo big and i'm dreading the summer as I wont feel confident in any strappy tops and wont want to go out, I feel like they're taking over my life! breast surgery isn't really on the cards at the moment as I'm 18 years old, but are there are excersises or anything I can do to help reduce the size? I've got extra fat/flab at the tops of my arms/by my armpits aswell that I hate! And i'm actually not a "big" person, I'm 5"7 and wear a UK dress size 10 (US 6 I think)! And I do regular excersise, approx 5 hours a week? But am willing to do more! Please help =( any advice on what sort of excersises would target the right places, type of excersize or anything else that might help? ='( (link)
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Well, there's not really a standard sizing scheme in most lingerie, as there is none likewise in American dress sizes. I usually wear a 34D or 34DD and I'm about a size 8 dress. There's not much, other than losing weight, that you can do about your breasts. Sounds, however, like you have a body most of us dream of. At a size 6 you don't want to lose much weight.
I have a few pieces of advice for you. I know that big breasts can be uncomfortable and I'm not trying to diminish your discomfort at all:
1) Don't buy lingerie by the size on the label. Try on everything before you buy it. Even those of us with more modest endowments must do that. You can even go do specialty shops. Where I live there's one called The Bra Fitter. They can measure, give you recommendations for bras in the lines they carry, and you can try them on in the store. The sizes on the labels are just numbers.
2) Try 'minimizing bras' which are designed to flatten and squish the breasts together. Purchase sturdy bras with many hooks on the back as opposed to one or two. Usually, women with breasts that big need underwires. I do. Try to find these bras on sale because they will not be inexpensive.
3) Don't give up on breast reduction surgery. Most American insurances pay for it if you can show that you are being hurt by your breasts. You have to be able to show trenches in your shoulders from your bra straps or back pain from being top heavy or something of that ilk. I assume you're in the UK and I don't know what the guidelines are for getting the surgery there. A physician can probably tell you.
Best of luck to you.
Sabine
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Everyone in my family tells me that I have a great memory. On April 3, 2006 (the 2nd Night of Passover) I was having dinner with my mom, my sister, brother-in-law and 2 nephews I was telling them a story about how in 1998 when my younger nephew was seven I took him to see Prince of Egypt and once scene scared him and what happened that night when they were putting him to bed. Any way they denied it happened. And tonight my Mom said just because they dont remember doesnt mean I am wrong or they are wrong. But what I dont understand is why would they ALWAYS tell me I have a great memory and then do the above. (link)
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Just because someone has an excellent memory doesn't mean they remember everything perfectly. I wonder if that isn't what they were thinking. I remember things from when I was 18 months old (I had my tonsils out) and I remember them vividly. But that doesn't mean I remember everything. HOWEVER, that being said, I trust you and that you do indeed remember this incident better than they. Were they pretending not to remember as to save your nephew some embarassment, or to get you to change the subject? Was it uncomfortable? Second, people's memories are frail. If they don't remember it, then you don't have to feel slighted that they denied it. Their perspective is the truth in their world. You know the truth as it really happened. Don't worry about it too much. You're still holding on to this perceived slight from a year ago? If I were to say "what a lovely blue sky" and someone were to argue with me and tell me that it's actually a rather murky brownish-green, and I knew the truth, what difference would it make to me that they didn't know what they were talking about. Whatever. You know the truth. Try not to let it bother you.
Sabine
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ok this is a weird question but where exactly on a guys genitle area does hair grow (link)
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Yeah, what they said, plus basically the same triangle women have in front, around the base of the penis. I have never seen hair on the penis itself, but there are usually a few on the scrotum. (I was a nurse - my sex life is limited to one person.)
Sabine
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I am always really ,really ******* bored!!!!!!I get much more bored than any other person on the face of this ******* earth!!!!!!!!I don't understand why no one else gets as bored as me!!!I am bored enough to kill myself!!!!!!!!!I would do that but I know suicide is not an option,but dying is still a calming thought.Why am I so ******* bored?????????What the **** should I do???????????? (link)
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Have you ever heard the quote "The bored is more contemptable than the boring"? You are responsible for entertaining yourself. If you are bored, find something to do. Surely you have interests, whether they're scrapbooking or piercing or Sudoku. You just need to figure out how to keep yourself engaged. Take up writing, watch television, talk to a friend, take a walk, participate in sports, find a craft, find a book, go to a new place, try a new food, learn to cook, build a website, or shop for clothes. You don't have to be bored.
Sabine
Okay, after reading your additional info and your comment on my rating, I'd say please go find or form a community theater group. You definitely have a flare for the dramatic.
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my vagina lips are very big and im still a virgin. how could i get ride of biggness? (link)
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There are artists who have made livings cataloguing the many variations of the female genital anatomy. Each one is slightly different; some are pink, tan, some brown. Some have different areas of color in different places. Some labia are bigger, some smaller, and the clitoris can range in size and prominence. Some of them are even kind of 'ruffled' appearing. There are whole books about it.
http://www.bettydodson.com/vivala.htm
The important thing to know, though, is that you can't really change your vulva, but hormones will likely do some of that for you over time. Your vulva change in response to hormones during puberty, young adulthood, pregnancy, and menopause.
I hope I have helped.
Sabine
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Just to let you know this is NOT a pregnancy question
14/fm
I went to the doctor a little while ago. And I found out that I had some viral thing in my throat. When I was at the doctor's I told my mom what was bothering me. I mentioned to her that I have this problem. Whenever I stand for long periods of time, or sit down for a long time and stand up I black out, or pass out. My mom then asked me if I wanted a blood test. Im not a fan of needles so I said not really. Then she said not to tell my doctor. I did yell at her for asking me to lie to my doctor.
So I didn't tell my doctor. Its been about a week and my virus is gone. However, I'm still having that problem. I looked up my symptoms and theres a possibility that I am diabetic.
There are 3 different questions I have:
1) Should I get tested?
2) Should I report my mom for asking me to lie?
3) Is there anything other than diabetes I could have?
Please your ideas would be appreciated.
Please tell me your ideas! Thanks (link)
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Sure, it could be one of the symptoms of diabetes. But do you have others? Excessive thirst and peeing, weight loss, nausea, fatigue, etc. are more common than dizziness as things that bring people to the diagnosis of diabetes. Personally, I think you should look at this article:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orthostatic_hypotension
A lot of teens have low blood pressure or pressure that plummets when they stand up suddenly or stand for a long time. That's the most likely cause of your issues and it can be easily diagnosed by taking your blood pressure in different positions and possibly by doing bloodwork to be sure you're not dehydrated (which is detailed in the article). Another thing it could be is a heart condition due to an arrhythmia, though that would be rarer still.
So: 1) Yes, ask your mother to take you back to the doctor to speak about it because it could be serious. 2) I don't think you should report your mom. I don't know what kind of relationship you two have, but it seems extreme. 3) Yes, there is a myriad of other things this could be, some as simple as a need to drink more water. Don't worry until you have to, but take care of yourself.
Best of luck to you.
Sabine
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is there any possible way to throw off your period as in make it come earlier or later i CAN NOT have it around when i usually do ill die. without any pills. does a lot of sports or exercising change it. (link)
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Uh, without pills, you may have to just get your period and die. Birth control pills disrupt your hormones. There's no other way to purposely delay your period. If you stress out enough, though, you may not get it. There's no exercise that will change your cycle. Best of luck.
Sabine
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On the show The View, Rosie said something like the British and U.S. staged 9/11 to start another war. Does she have a point, or is this complete B.S.?
She also said that if we want to know what's going on in the world, we should go outside the country's media because it's frightening. Is our media really feeding us lies and omitting global events? (link)
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There are conspiracy theorists who say that 9/11 is a staged attempt at getting us into war. You can read some of Rosie's information by going to her website. Here's a link to some of her information.
http://www.cbc.ca/fifth/lies/
She said that nothing should have caused the collapse of Building 7 of the WTC and that it was caused by explosives to hide government secrets? I just don't believe that, myself. I believe that the blasts, fireballs, heat, and ground shaking of the structural collapse of the twin towers can explain the collapse of that building.
Here's what I think about what she said: I don't think she can back up a single thing she said, but she has been so vague about 'government secrets' (which ones?) and 'conspiracies' (by whom?) that no one can prove she's full of it, either. She didn't accuse any one person of hiding any one secret. She has no evidence.
The truth is probably somewhere between what we are told and what Rosie is alluding to. I believe we are mislead by our media and by our government. I believe we went into the Iraq war based upon lies and that we went into Afghanistan and invaded a whole country to catch a few extremists. I also believe that our national politics do favor Israel and that Israel was given land that belonged to Arabs because "God promised" them that land in the Bible thousands of years ago. The Palestenians have a right to be heard and they have a right to be treated fairly. However, land wars are the way land has been won as long as man has been organized into tribes. Countries fight over land. We, America, shouldn't be siding with anyone else, though, in my opinion.
Isn't it interesting to know that Tony Blair was basically forced out of his office as PM of Great Brittain because of his close and unpopular relationship with Bush? Did you hear much about that? The American press does not report all of the same things in the same way that the world press reports.
For all of our flag-waving and "freedom of speech" protestations, America is a flawed country. We have an obligation as Americans who love our country to get all the facts, think for ourselves, and try to get the right people to represent us.
Personally, I'd love to see Bush impeached!
I hope you find answers to your questions.
Sabine
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I dated my exboyfriend for over a year and last week he broke up with me...I was very upset becuase I love him. I begged him to take me back...and he wouldn't he told me that I stressed him out so much.
Then we started talking and the way he was acting it seemed like he wanted to get back together. So i asked him about it and he said he didnt. I said I wanted to come over to his house and he didnt seem intrested
Then last night he called me and was telling me all about his day and was like "Do you still want to come over tommorrow" so I was like sure.
I went over and it was awkward, we were watching a movie and i guess you could say we started playing footsies then he started tickling me, so i was tickling him back and then he just kissed me.
Then he was like "I really don't want to be in a realationship" and I was trying to find out if he would want to ever be with me again and I was like I'll change we can start over,everything would be different now. But he wouldnt. He then said "Maybe it wasnt a good idea for you to come over"
Then we started kissing again and He was like "I'm not sure this is a good idea, that we do this" but we did anyway, and we both performed oral sex on eachother and then I had to leave for work... So I left.
So I asked him if he was okay with what he did and he was like "are you okay" But I don't know....
I feel like he is sending me mixed signals, and that he isnt sure of what he wants, but I think if we continue to fool around it is just going to make everything worse. I'm not ready to move on to someone else, but I...oh idk...advice please? (link)
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My advice? End it. He doesn't want you when he's not with you and then he sort of gives in to his animalistic urges when you're there? This doesn't meet the needs of either of you. Make a clean break. He is not interested in a relationship with you, so move on. That doesn't mean move on to being with another guy, it means move on to being without him. You should probably take a step back and figure out what mistakes you made in the relationship (since you said you would change for him) and what your strengths are in order to prepare yourself for the next possible Mr. Right rather than dwelling on Mr. Not Interested Anymore. Best of luck.
Sabine
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So me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. I have been miserable for over a month now. I cut myself once to see how it would feel even though i was and still am absoulutly against it. I have no idea how my boyfriend found out but that is not important. So two days later he goes to the doctors to make sure his mono is gone. then the doctor told him he was suffering from depression again. we both know it was mostly my fault. and i can never forgive myself. my misery is getting worse. and im not sure what i should do. at random times my boyfried will just stop acting happy and frown and have an attitude and be annoyed by anyone around him. do you have any ideas on how i can make things right?
i can not talk to him about anything things are stressed out as they are. do you think its normal for my misery to be getting worse? has this ever happened to anyone before?
Please advice!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Your boyfriend is depressed because he doesn't have enough seratonin in the postsynaptic receptors in the mood centers of his brain. I suspect that you have the same issue. His moodiness could be a function of that depression or possibly just his teenage hormones. I know you say you cannot talk to him. You must. And you must get yourself some help for the stress that is threatening to send you into a deep depression. Tell you parents you need help, talk to a counselor at school or a trusted teacher, or do whatever you must, but neither of you will get better until you can both deal with your stress. It will probably help him deal with his own depression if he knows you have a plan to deal with yours.
Sabine
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sabine i appreciate your suggestions.hey please do somthing for my sister i will never forgot you in my whole life,i am crying right now, please call me on my cell phone or give me your phone number i willc all you,, my number is +1-...-...-.... thanx (link)
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Oh, dear. I'm a little uncomfortable saying this, but you should never give your phone number to a perfect stranger. Instead of being a 34-year-old soccer mom from Texas, I could be a burly, tatooed serial rapist from Detroit. You can't tell over the web. I know that sometimes one can use a phone number to reverse search and find your address and possibly your name.
I'm happy to give you advice by message, but I think for both of our protection it's not a good idea to give out phone numbers.
I hope you'll understand.
Sabine
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Get ready for this one, it might be a bit long.
Okay well my boyfriend and I had plans for today to get together so he could meet my cousin. Instead he gets drunk, calls me telling me that he can't come over but he wants me at his friends house to hang out at a party with him, then proceeds to tell me that I cannot bring my cousin who I never see. When I tell him no I can't just leave my cousin here he goes on saying oh well there are plenty of hott girls here who want to take their clothes off. Then I just tell him I was hanging up and he didn't even say just kidding or try to stop me he simply says k bye. That really got to me and I messaged him on myspace saying how he treated me was really wrong. He just replied back by saying soooo many b**ches so little time then he says where is the ky (as in the lubricant) G** Da** it.
So what I want to know is how do I let him know what he is doing to me is making me have suicidal thoughts. He really is a great boyfriend when he isn't drunk so I don't plan on breaking up with him. But how do I just let him know what he does hurts me. (link)
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Hmmmm... Alcohol is a funny thing. See, it doesn't put ideas into your head. It only makes you more likely to do things you might otherwise decide are wrong. Your boyfriend chooses to get drunk and act that way.
He is not allowed to treat you that way. If you allow it, then you are giving him permission to abuse you.
He obviously has a problem with drinking and not knowing what's enough and what's appropriate behavior, so you need to move on and let him go be wit' his hot bitches. If he thinks he can get laid so easily, let him go.
You, on the other hand, have better things to do, like find a man who either doesn't drink or can hold his liquor without becoming a man-slut. I would be willing to bet this this isn't his first time doing this.
Sabine
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Even though every incident happened to different people (and not Caroline) I am just curious if the following incidents did happen to one person who I will name Caroline and it happened to her over a period of ten years and Caroline posted each incident right after they happened and received answers that made her feel better should Caroline forget about the incidents because she got reassurance from this typs of website and each incident happened many years apart. HERE ARE THE STORIES: (A) In the year 2003 a male clerk tells Caroline who does NOT weigh more than 110 pounds she weighs 130 and he said this with her standing behind a partition and all he could see of her was her arms and face and she was wearing a coat; (B) In July 2004 a chunky girl tells Caroline (a thin girl who is always told by strangers, relatives, and friends she is thin/skinny, looks like a size 4) that the chunky girl thinks Caroline is average and size 8, then pauses and adds in size 10; (C) In June 1991 a cousin asks Caroline are you a size 8 or 10 and when Caroline says size 8, the cousin said I thought so; (D) In September 1997 a vendor tells Caroline who is thin/skinny; you have to be a size 10, my daughter is a size 10 I am selling jeans which are a size 10; (E) In August 1987 A masseuse tells Caroline who is thin/skinny with no cellulite "You should use a cellulite cream; (f) Caroline was standing behind the Xerox machine and asked another girl if she thought Caroline was thin, and first the girl said well in a hesitant voice but later on saw Caroline standing erect and told Caroline she is very thin, and only said well because she never sees Caroline standing; KEEP IN MIND THOSE SAME YEARS, AND YEARS BEFORE AND AFTER CAROLINE IS TOLD SHE IS THIN/SKINNY AND LOOKS LIKE A SIZE 4 (link)
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I can't believe you're still obsessing about this. You are thin. Why do you care about all of these things that people may or may not have been saying about you (given your interpretation). It's easy to know that you are the same poster who has been told time and again that you need to take people at their word.
Here's a revelation for you: there are many different size 8's. Each clothing line gets to decide what their size 8 is going to be. It might be a 4 or a 12 in another line. Most people, especially if they are either much bigger or much smaller, have no idea what a 'size 8 woman' would look like, anyway, because we don't usually share our numbers. Plus, 'chunky' women are more likely to think that you are a higher number because they know their own dress sizes and they wouldn't want to be that far off from thin. Men are notoriously bad at guessing weight. Moreover these are numbers and arbitrary ones at that.
I wonder why a massage therapist who sells cellulite cream would say you need it if you didn't? Maybe she needed the sale.
The bigger issue, which I have personally advised you on, is this: why are you letting a few snarky comments over the last TWENTY years!!! upset you to the point that today you're writing in and asking for validation from people who've never seen you that you are indeed thin? This is not healthy behavior. You are likely thin, but mentally maladaptive. Keep ruminating on these incidents and you will never move past them. Do you want to? Or would you rather be cataloguing every perceived slight for the judgment of strangers in 2027 because you can't let go?
Sabine
Your reply: "First of all the girl was standing behind a partition and all he could see was her arms and face and she was wearing a coat."
Well, way to miss the whole point. You keep asking the same questions over and over again. Good luck, honey. Good luck.
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What do you do when your friend makes a big life choice and you think to yourself, "Wtf? She's going to hurt herself so much!"? What do you do when your friend asks for your advice, you name the pitfalls you can see and give her suggestions on how to avoid or lessen them, but she goes ahead and makes a probably hurtful decision anyway? What do you do when your friend makes a decision and you are both excited for her but also aware that it probably won't end well? What do you do when your friend can see the pitfalls in front of her but doesn't do anything to avoid them? (link)
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You have done your duty as a friend to let her know that you forsee difficulties on her current path. Now you let her live her life and you are there for her if/when she falls.
Sabine
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My little sister is 10. She got her perod when she was 9. She is a pretty big slu* and she had sex 8 monthes ago. So know she is 10 and 8 months pregnant. I would like to know if their is any way she can get an abortion. My mom and dad will be back from their 6 month trip to Paris in 2 weeks and they can't see her pregnant or she will be put up for adoption or something please help, she may not be able to make it through child birth! (link)
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Okay, wait... you're telling me that you're the only one who has noticed that a ten-year-old is 8 months pregnant? WHO IS WATCHING YOU AND YOUR SIS? Your parents didn't leave you alone in charge of her, did they? Didn't you know that she was pregnant, like, 5 months ago? Why isn't Social Services involved? Doesn't your sister go to school? Don't her teachers know about her pregnancy? Don't lie and say she was raped. From what you've said so far, I already feel like the whole truth is not out there.
It's too late for an abortion. Yeah, she's too young to give birth and she will be at high risk of complications including death. Get her a high-risk OBGYN immediately.
I don't know how old you are, but if everything you said is the way things really are, there are several people to blame for this pregnancy. Two are your parents, if they didn't provide for someone to adequately monitor a 10-year-old child, possibly whoever was supposed to be taking care of her, and a little bit your sister. She is 10 years old. She should not be put in a situation where she could have sex. She is not old enough to judge the relative risks and benefits or understand the consequences. Someone should have been looking out for her. Those people failed her. I hope she can give her child up for adoption and I hope they're both healthy after the birth.
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Well I'am happily married man.Our lovemaking is awesome.the question im asking to any woman out there is that when my wife has an orgasim with me. why does she get emotional while having the orgasim? and sometimes it scares me to the point that i stop to make sure shes ok; am i doing right with pilling out to see if shes ok because i dont know much about orgasims? (link)
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I'm also unsure of what you mean when you say she gets 'emotional.' The best thing to do, though, is to tell her you've noticed this and you'd like to let her know that you're interested in making sure she's satisfied and happy, so ask her directly what she would like for you to do. It's entirely possible that your pulling out at that moment is extremely frustrating for her. It's also possible that it gives her a moment to regroup for the finish. Just ask her. I'm sure she'll be happy to know that you have her feelings in mind.
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I was diagnosed with ADD around December and I was prescribed this medicine. I have been taking the medicine and my grades have went from mostly B's to all A's. It was a really dramatic change in everything I did. So...my grandma thinks that it's all in my head that I have ADD, but it's totally not. But she just keeps saying it and now I'm getting the feeling it might be. I have all the symptons for ADD and when I didn't take my medicine earlier this week I couldn't slow down, do any homework, was distracted a ton, and couldn't remember important stuff. Do you think I really have ADD or it's all in my head? I'm not sure and it's starting to bug me. (link)
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I think you really have ADD. Didn't you try your hardest before you were diagnosed? I bet you didn't understand why things weren't as easy for you as others said they should be. You just couldn't do some of the things that were expected of you (ie pay attention for a long time).
My husband has ADD. My brother, a nephew, a niece, my husband's brother, etc. all have it. It is a real learning difference and the medications do help. There are just some people in this world who would rather think there's nothing wrong with you (maybe because they have negative associations with any brain-based medical problems and they think that people with mental disorders are just 'crazy.') Your condition is neurological, not psychological. Your grandmother would likely rather believe that you are lazy or that you just think you're ADD rather than admit that the tests showed ADD, the treatment works, and you obviously have ADD. Obviously, though, your physician and your parents agree that you have ADD and they are the ones you should be listening to. If your grandmother starts saying things, I suggest that you simply change the subject if you can or tell her that you're fine with things the way they are. There's no convincing some people.
Best wishes.
Sabine
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