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I dated my exboyfriend for over a year and last week he broke up with me...I was very upset becuase I love him. I begged him to take me back...and he wouldn't he told me that I stressed him out so much.
Then we started talking and the way he was acting it seemed like he wanted to get back together. So i asked him about it and he said he didnt. I said I wanted to come over to his house and he didnt seem intrested
Then last night he called me and was telling me all about his day and was like "Do you still want to come over tommorrow" so I was like sure.
I went over and it was awkward, we were watching a movie and i guess you could say we started playing footsies then he started tickling me, so i was tickling him back and then he just kissed me.
Then he was like "I really don't want to be in a realationship" and I was trying to find out if he would want to ever be with me again and I was like I'll change we can start over,everything would be different now. But he wouldnt. He then said "Maybe it wasnt a good idea for you to come over"
Then we started kissing again and He was like "I'm not sure this is a good idea, that we do this" but we did anyway, and we both performed oral sex on eachother and then I had to leave for work... So I left.
So I asked him if he was okay with what he did and he was like "are you okay" But I don't know....
I feel like he is sending me mixed signals, and that he isnt sure of what he wants, but I think if we continue to fool around it is just going to make everything worse. I'm not ready to move on to someone else, but I...oh idk...advice please?
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move on. even though you said you dont want to, you basically dont have a choice. a relationship is 2 people, and he's already voted himself out, so theres nothing left for you to do. by sticking around and hanging out like yall did watchin the movie and foolin around, youre giving him a "toy" so to speak and youre only giving yourself false hope that just maybe he`ll realize he wants you back, although he has clearly said he doesnt. back off, and make him really question whether or not he wants you by basically keeping yourself out of his life, for the most part. if he decides he wants you back, then great! if not, then he's not worth the time or energy. oh and for the record, dont change yourself for him or any other guy. if he doesnt appreciate you for the way you are, then it's his loss. good luck!
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I don't mean to be harsh but I truly believe that he is only keeping you around for the pleasure. I think what's best for you is to leave him alone. I know you love him and it'll be very hard but you need to try your hardest not to give in. Respect yourself sweetie and don't give in and let him take advantage of you. He may say this isn't a good idea and stuff like that but he's still going through it. He knows what he's doing and you need to see that. Like I said, I know you love him but love yourself, and don't let him use you. Be strong.
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My advice? End it. He doesn't want you when he's not with you and then he sort of gives in to his animalistic urges when you're there? This doesn't meet the needs of either of you. Make a clean break. He is not interested in a relationship with you, so move on. That doesn't mean move on to being with another guy, it means move on to being without him. You should probably take a step back and figure out what mistakes you made in the relationship (since you said you would change for him) and what your strengths are in order to prepare yourself for the next possible Mr. Right rather than dwelling on Mr. Not Interested Anymore. Best of luck.
Sabine
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