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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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um.......I am dating a 24 year old guy and i am 16 we have bin tagether 4 like 2 years do you think that it is a bad thing like gross or anything to b wit a guy that age?????????

I don't think it's a bad thing, at all. You guys have been together for 2 years, so it's really not that bad. If you love this guy and you're happy with him, that is the only thing that counts. Don't worry about what others think about the relationship. It's you and him in the relationship. Not you, him and others.

im an emo and need a depressing or sort of msn name on the lines of that i thought maybe yu could help me

I'm not very good when it comes to things like this. I've had the same MSN nickname for the past year or so. You could either search up some quotes site and pick a quote you like. Or, you could just listen to a depressing song (or any song you want for that matter) and put your favorite lyric as your nickname.

Ok so theres this really cute guy thats in like ALL of my classes. He is always flirting with em and i reallly like him! But there are a few problems. He has a gf who he never talks to and im not sure if there even still together. Another problem is that im alot taller then him. About 2 or 3 inches. I just dont feel comfortable going out with someone shorter then me. Im pretty sure he is gonna ask me out soon. should i say yes even though i have that weird problem with him. PLEASE HELP Soon!

Is him being short the other problem you have with him? If you like him and you WANT to go out with him, than do so. It doesn't matter if he's 2-3 inches shorter than you, that shouldn't matter at all. What matters is you both like one another. If you like him, go for it and say yes. Follow your heart and do what it tells you to do; your heart never lies.

more or less every day i hav a thick discharge on my underwear i never use to get it it does not smell but somtimes it can smell relly badly please help x

Yes, this is very normal. Some girls get a lot of discharge, while others only get a little. It just depends on the girl and her body. If it's bothering you that much, just wear a panty linner (the thin ones.) If it's starting to smell too bad, just go for a shower and wash good.

Hello. I lost my lighter, would it be okay if I lighted my ciggarettes with matches instead? Please let me know. I know this sounds dumb but I just need to be sure! Thanks!

Yes, you can light your ciggarette(s) with a match instead of a lighter.

Ok. I am a girl who is 13 and the guy I like is 14. We are good friends. I went on a trip with this guy and we hung out for a week straight. When we got home we still talked. I decided to tell him I liked him. Before I did my friend asked him if he liked me. He said: "No!!!! Definetly Not!!!! I think she is really immature. She told you to ask me didn't she!!!!" Now he thinks I told her to ask that and I didn't. He also knows I like him and he thinks i'm really immature and he doesn't like me back!!! What do I do!!!!??? I see him everyday at school!!! How can I still be friends without being uncomfortable around him??

It's going to take some time to be comfortable around this boy again. I mean, he did say some harsh things about you. He should have just said that he didn't like you and he much rather just be friends than saying what he said. I think he's the immature one since he handled the situation very wrongly. I suggest trying to talk to him about this and see what he has to say. If he's rude to you than just forget about him. He doesn't deserve to be your friend if he doesn't respect your feelings.

im 17 and i am very close with my 19 year old cousin. i hang out with her and her friends close to every weekend.we do drink and party etc..when she was a sr in high school i was a freshman, so i met her friend mike. a few months ago we were all at a party and mike tends to show interest in me. but he always felt bad because hes 20. i started to have feelings for mike so one day i IMed him online. he actually wanted to talk, and that made me feel good like he didnt push me away, he actually wanted to ) we talked alot every few days because hes usually busy at school. i saw him a few weeks ago and it was weird, he was acting pretty shy.so this weekend when my cousin had a party, he was all over me and we ended up making out and then we dropped him off and we kissed, he called me late night and wanted to pick me up but i said it was a bad idea because he was too drunk to drive, and he aggreed. the next day he IMed me right when he came on and wanted to hangout so i went to this other kid, tom. my cousin and her friends went to a college so i was the only girl besides two other girls and like 6 boys. he was very shy at first and it was a little awkward but then we grew to be more touchy, snuggled on the couch, madeout and he was tellin me we should go out to eat sometime. him and his friend dropped me off late night and i texted him thinking hed text back but he called to make sure i was okay and i told him id talk to him monday since he was going to the patriots football game all day/ all night and he said hed call me. like i dont want to get my hopes up but i think he might like me, even tom said he thinks he does. so what do you think? thanks and also what should i do so it doesnt seem like im like obsessed or like him this early

I think that he may be crushing on you, too. If his friend is telling you he has feelings for you than he probably does. I mean, you do have some clues here. He's always talking to you. When he drops you off, he calls you to see if you're okay. When you're on the computer, you talk all the time. But while in person, he tends to be a little shy. When guys are shy, they're usually crushing on that person they're shy with. He does seem like a shy person, so I think you should take the first step and tell him you're crushing on him. You'll never know how he feels until you tell him how you feel about him. So just explain how you feel about him, than take it from there and see where it goes.

Also, there's nothing to worry about with the age difference. There's loads of couples out there that are different in age. You guys are only 2 years apart, that's not a big deal at all. My boyfriend and I are 4 years apart and no one seems to care. Age doesn't matter, though. If you like him, you like him. You can't help what your heart feels.

after having an orgasim i loose all my energy and stop doing what me and my partner were doing is this normal...and alot of the time i hav a lot of thik discharge in my underwear is this normal thankz x

I too loose all my energy after having an orgasm. Sometimes I'm set to go some more, while other times I just want to go to sleep because I'm so tried. I guess it depends on how turned on you are, or how much you're enjoying/into it. This is normal, though.

which is a more trusted brand:
trojan or lifestyles?

I personally prefer Lifestyles.

15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering.

It depends on what cologne you're going to wear. If you're wearing old cologne, of course girls are going to say you remind them of their grandfather or father. I suggest Axe, Adidas, Old Spice, or anything along those lines. They all smell really good. My boyfriend wears Axe and I just love it. I don't know what girl wouldn't want their boyfriend wearing cologne.

Hey can any one tell me what an IM is?

IM means instant message. It's where you're able to talk to people on the computer; the same way you'd talk to them if you were having a conversation with them in person. But, instead of talking, you type. You can do this on MSN Messenger, AIM, AOL, Yahoo instant messenger and so on.

after your "cherry pops" when is the bleeding supposed to go away?

It depends on the girl. Since everyone is different, this is going to be different for every girl. Some girls don't even bleed when their "cherry" pops, while others bleed a lot and some only bleed a little. It shouldn't bleed too much. It could bleed for a couple minutes, hours, or a day. It all depends on the girl and her body.

Well i am 17 and i like this boy chris as well who is seventeen. we are both juniors at the same school and were introduced this summer. my cousin who is 19, hangs out with his brother and i am usually with them weekends or close to every two weekends. so i know his brother very good. his brother matthew is really nice/goodlooking and always hits on me but chris is not very goodlooking or " cool" which i do not care about but i think he is very shy around me and i honestly do not know whether he likes me or not. one day i was waiting out side of school and he asked me if i needed a ride home, and i didnt. one day i called my friend brendon to see where the party was and he said he couldnt get me, so i called chris and he came right over to get me supirsingly. he never IMs me online, i always IM him and i dont know if i should because what if he doesnt want to talk to me? i always ask why we dont hangout and he just says lol or "i love you laurrryn" what can i do because maybe he just doesnt know if im serious or just playing around. what can i say thats not telling him i like him? thanksss

I think you should just tell him that you're crushing on him. It seems like you really like this guy, or you wouldn't be asking me this question. Just spill it and tell him you have feelings for him. You'll never know how he feels about you unless you ask him or tell him. You and him might be perfect together, but you may be throwing that all away because you're too scared to tell him. He might like you, but he may be too scared or shy to explain his feelings towards you, too. Some guys are shy when it comes to expressing their feelings towards someone they're crushing on. I think you need to take control and tell him how you feel about him, than take it from there and see where it goes.

I've had dry sex many tiems and I've never thought about it but if a guy only has his boxers on and a girl on has her underwear on could the sperm seep through a girl's underwear?

It's very possible. But for you to get pregnant from something like this is really rare. Sperm can't go through clothes and it dies 30 second after it hits the air. So, if you and him both had underwear on, I don't see how ANYTHING could go wrong. So, no. Sperm can't seep through underwear.

Is it true that dance dance revolution will make you lose weight?

Yes, Dance Dance Revolution will help you lose weight. Dancing is an exercise, so of course you're going to lose weight if you do it daily. They're actually putting Dance Dance Revolution in some schools for gym class; great way to get exercise, plus it's fun.

i dont think im fat or anything, but compared to my stomach, my legs are huge. i have a lot of fat on them. i want to drop down a pants size or two.. so what type of excersizes can i do for my legs and hips? and also how much should i do these excersizes each day.. and if i do how fast will i see results?? thanks so much!

Here are some great sites you might want to check out:

-- http://exercise.about.com/cs/butthipsthighs/l/bllegsbuttthigh.htm
-- http://www.101lifestyle.com/health/legexercise.html
-- http://exercise.about.com/cs/exerciseworkouts/l/blsupersetlower.htm
-- http://www.prevention.com/article/0,5778,s1-2-67-682-4197-1,00.html

I think you should work out for at least an hour a day. I'm sure you'll see results if you work out everyday. Be sure to drink lots of water; at least 6-8 cups a day. Eating breakfest, lunch and supper will also help with the weight you want to loose. Also, don't eat after 7PM.

Hey! Um, how do you know if someone excepts you or denies you as a friend in myspace from a Myspace friend request? Thanks :)

There's no real way of knowing, actually. If you want to see if someone accepted you, check your "pending requests." If they're still there they probably didn't accept you, yet. If they aren't there, they more than likely did accept you. To find out if they're on your list or not, check your friends' list or simply send them a comment. If it goes through, then they added you to their friends' list. If it didn't go through, they either didn't get around to adding you or they didn't want to add you.

I tried deleting one of my questions, and this came up:

"Looks like you forgot to type anything in the answer box. Please go back and enter an answer. "

How can I delete my question? (If it helps, I'm a moderator)

You can't delete your questions anymore. If it's bothering you that much and you need to delete it, just talk to DangerNerd.

How do you effectively clean a mirror without it leaving streaks or "fuzzies" from the washcloth?

The best thing to use would be Windex and a couple of paper towels. Rub in a circular motion so you don't get any streaks or "fuzzies" from the paper towel.

Alright, well, I've never been kissed ( and I'm 15 ).

So I mean, I've been asked by guys ( which I find funny in some weird way and then just put it off ) because I guess I don't want my first kiss to be that way, and tonight I was asked again, and of course, me being me, I said no. And I'm just afraid that's giving guys vibes that I like, hate them or something which isn't true. I just want my first kiss to be special, but lately I'm just like,"God, do it, get it over with, whatever." But I don't know, I don't even really know what my real question is.

I guess I'm just asking for your opinion on things. Like; what would you do if you were me?

Lots of people your age haven't had their first first kiss yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get their first kiss when they're 12; others when they're 13 and some even only have their first kiss when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first kiss, yet. You're only 15, hun. You have tons of time for boyfriends and kisses, believe me. But, I promise you in time, you'll find that special guy and you'll get your first kiss. You just have to give it some time. For now, enjoy being a teenage girl and having fun with your friends; you only live once.

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