HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
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killing animals, then skinning them for furs/coats/jackets etc. is wrong. is it still considered wrong if you keep the animal until it grows old and dies and then you skin the animal to make a new jacket/coat/etc. ? i'm really curious. (link)
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I am very against doing that when they are young, but if they are old, I think that might be the wise thing to do, actually. See, they would just end up decomposing, anyway, so we might as well use what's left.
Besides, it's not hurting the animal after it's dead.
Good luck with what you're trying to find!
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My parents have been smoking since they were teenagers. I'm just curious if everyone who smokes has a really high risk of getting lung cancer? It's not common in my family and I'm worried that my parents will get it. (link)
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There's no real set risk for anyone, but unfourtunately , it would seem that they have a fairly high risk now.
All those years, obviously damaging their lungs, make them more and more at risk.
Talk to them about quitting, though I kow it's very hard (my parents don't want to).
Tell them you're very worried, and find some good groups to help them.
Also, maybe get them to try patches or something for a week.
Something that may work, would be if you got them to go a week without smoking, using a patch or something, and they can see how they're doing without cigerettes.
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lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand. (link)
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I'm sorry about everything going on in your life, but you CAN over come it.
Everything may seem messed up now, but it all gets better with time, and if you hurt, or even kill yourself, when are you going to be able to see that good time??
Try to talk to your friend, since she's going through the same thing, but just know, that if she hurts herself, that dosen't make it okay. You both should try to seek out help for the feelings you're going through.
Try to write your mom a letter about how you're feeling, she should understand, if she sees you really mean it about this. You will also get your word in.
Please, though, dont' end up hurting yourself, really, I dont' know if you know it, but there are alot of people who care about you.
Also, with your weight issue, don't go anorexic. Really, with your bmi, I'm pretty sure that's the normal-underweight range, and anorexia wouldn't really help. People can't accept others these days for just the way they act, either you're too fat, too skinny, and if they don't find something wrong with your weight, they'll find something else.
Sorry if that sounded harsh or anything, but I really want to help you in this situation, and only being 14 really sends out a signal that you need help with this.
Email me if you need any emotional support.
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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I getting to know this really fantastically stunning girl,so I really need help from girls or guys on what do I say to keep the conversation going and be funny? for the girls, what do your boyfriends talk to you about? and for guys, what do you say to girls?, it would help if you listed some topics or joke sentences for me.so far I have talked to her about music, school and subjects, and movies.what else is there????thanks a lot for any advice given. (link)
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Memories are very good to talk about, especially funny ones, or ones that could emberass you.
Also, maybe talk about things going on in the world, or if you want to really connect with her, talk about things going on you wouldn't normally come out and say.
Also, pretend to make fun of each other, that's always fun =D
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My parents think every plan for a cellphone is expensive! That's why i'm wondering if that kidconnect plan from t-mobile for 19.99 a month is actually good? I don't care that it has only 50 minutes. Is this plan good for a 13 year old girl? (link)
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It sounds like a very good plan for a 13 year old.
Another plan your parents might want to look at would be Cingular's go phone plan. It's pre paid, which means, you do'nt have a monthly bill, but when your cell phone minutes run out, you buy new ones ((15 or 25, each with the minutes costing 15 or 25 dollars))
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I listen to pop/rock and I was just wondering if snyone had any good artists for these genres. Anything would be helpful! Thanks! (link)
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panic! at the disco
the pink spiders
fall out boy
afi
plain white t's
seether
evanescence
hawthorne heights
good luckk!! lol
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what is wrist banging? (link)
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'wrist banging', the term, is basically the literal meaning of what it's called. It is when someone bangs their wrists on an object, usually hard enough to cause bruising or cuts.
It is obviously a form of self injury, and can sometimes cut off blood flow, and since the veins on your wrists are very imporant, this could cause serious damage .
If you know anyone doing, this, make sure you give them a serious talk.
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what is straightedge? like if i person saya im straightedge. (link)
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straightedge ((sXe)) means you are a person who dosen't get themselves into bad things such as
smoking
drinking
drugs
ect.
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I am bulimic. Does God hate me for it?
It's a sin. (link)
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It may say that's a sin in the bible, I'm not sure of that though, but it also says that God loves you no matter what, as long as you realize what you did was wrong.
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Does putting eyeliner on your top lid, bottom lid, or both make your eyes look bigger and bolder? (link)
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I would think both lids, because the black around your eyes would attract more attention, making your eyes seem more colorful.
Good luck!
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Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me! (link)
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Cutting dosen't help. It relives stress temporarly, but the stress just keeps coming back. I'm sure you know this, but really.. what happens one day if you go too far? What happens to the peole who care for and love you?
Sorry if that sounds a little harsh, but I really, desperatly want to help you in this situation. Just look forward to the fact that you wont need to deal with your brother//dad, adn if you ever do need them, theres always the chance to visit, and theres' the phone.
Crying's very natural, too. Don't worry about that. Cry as much as you need to, anything to prevent you from hurting yourself, and those around you in the process.
I've found many sites, but some of the best things I've learned to help people stop cutting are things that either distract, or simulate cutting.
If you ever feel the need, snap your wrist with a rubber band, draw on your wrist with marker where you would want to hurt yourself, or most of all, call your boyfriend, he sounds reallly helpful.
Try to do this for your baby,too.
Please, write me if you need ANYTHING at all..xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Really, I'm not saying that out of kindness or anything, I want to see this resolved, and you and your baby healthy and happy.
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ok for some reason whenever i sign onto my aim screenname, it says someone else is also on it. I always kick the other user off, but I just want to know how to stop this from happening. DO NOT say to change my password because ive already changed it 3 times in the past 2 days. Its not working. Thanks ♥ (link)
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Your screen name is most likely linked to someone elses, that would explain the changing your password.
Check with your friends, adn see if any of them have linked your screen name without telling you, or if you forgot.
Good luck with your screen name situation!!
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i have a fish tank (a 10 gallon with little fish like guppies and goldfish and kissing fish)
so, i was wondering, could turtles live in there or not? (link)
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I wouldn't suggest that. I wanted a turtle when we had our tank, and turtles would need a fairly large land area, and like the others said, the turtle would end up eating the fish if they got too close.
Good luck!
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So i am going to my bf's tomorrow and we want to do something out of the ordinary. What would be a fun activity for the two of us to do that we wouldn't normaly do? Thanks in advance (link)
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Well, if you're talking about something just to plain do, nothing romantic, I would say just do really kiddishthings. That always gets a good laugh =o
Try playing pranks, cooking something weird, blasting music and dancing together. ANything you might do with friends, too.
Good luck!! Write if you need anything!!
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i have trouble sleeping at night.. what can i do besides sleeping pills? (link)
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Make sure there is nothing around to distract you. Sleep with everything around you off, excluding a night light if needed. If you try laying down for about half an hour, try doing something calming, like reading...NOTHING ELECTRONIC!!
Good luck, sleep well!! =D
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my playstation wont ever work.my games arent scratched. say i get it to work and then i restart or turn it off it doesnt work help me (link)
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My dad had this same problem. YOur playstation is most likely wearing out, and you may need a new one. There could be a scratch inside the cd drive, too.
Try taking it to your local eb games, or game boutique.
Good luck!!
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i'm a 14 year old girl and at the start of this summer i found out that i have scoliosis and pretty bad. i went back to the doctor later in the summer and now i have to wear a back brace. none of my clothes fit. my mom is taking me shopping and i would love some advice on how to stay stylish and hide the brace. i want to go back to school and still look good. this is all happening so fast and i just want to stay comfortable.
thanks!! (link)
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Try to wear clothing that looks a little baggier. Also, maybe a thicker material would be good, so you can't see the bumps from the back brace.
Dark colors would also be good, because it looks more solid, and also takes away from some of the buldge.
Good luck with everything, and I hope your back is better, I have a very mild case..so I kidna get what you mean!!
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I went to a casual back-to-school dance tonight. While I was there, there's this boy, Andrew that I danced with serveral times. My heart litterally skipped a beat when he asked me to dance each time. The whole time he had his arms around me it felt so good. When I got there, I didn't really give him much thought, I mean he was a friend of mine, but I hadn't really thought about liking him again. But ever since I left, I haven't been able to stop thinking about him. Me and him have gone out before, but we broke up.
How do I let him know I'm totally into him, without having to be too straight forward?
We're both super outgoing, so I'm not like shy.
But I don't see him alot in school, and
were both kinda busy with cheerleading/football
after school for a while. What should I do? (link)
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I would say write a note. Maybe include lyrics froma song, so he gets your point, but you dn't seem too straight forward.
It's awesome the way he seems to make you feel, and try to explain to him that if he'll forget about the break p, so will you.
About being busy.. find time for each other, there's always something. Maybe go to each other's practices//games//competitions, it helps with bonding and you both find time.
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I never feel like my best friend likes me as much as I like her. We live in different towns and weve been having so much fun this summer..but then her other best friend came back from vacation and now shes going to be hanging out with her the whole rest of the summer. Im really sad because shes only known her new best friend for a few months and Ive known her for 6 years and I feel jealous & forgotten. She always writes xanga entries about the other friend and says how much she LOVES her and puts her in her profile and she barely says anything about me.. I dont know I feel like Im losing her. Her xanga said shes hanging out with the girl next weekend and we had plans for then. Im so sad. What do i do?? I cant talk to her, she has the friend over and I dont want to start drama/be jealous and stuff. Help??? (link)
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Unfourtunately, you cannot control what new friends your friend finds. I myself am personally going through this problem, too, but the advice I would give you is to just plain ol' ignore all of that. It may not seem to easy, btu just try to act as if the other person didnt' exist.
Maybe try making some new friends, too. Don't do this to make her jealous, though, never try to push your frieends away, because that just causes the both of you to grow apart, and causes more problems.
TRy to hang out as much as possible, even in different towns, and if you cannot hang out, use the phone often. It may seem hard with different towns, but, it can be overcomed, believe me, and I say this from experiance!!!
Please, feel free to write me if you need anything else at all.
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I am a 15 yr. old female who has a boy friend. I am going over to his house on sunday. He wants, me to come prepared w/ a list of things to do. Everything has to be at his house And i have no idea what we should do. Please help me out. He is giving me till sat. night to come up w/ a list of things and he said that it better be a good one. Please help me out so that i can impress him. NO SEX!!!!! (link)
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Do something you guys normally wouldn't do.
TRy things like doing impressions, pictures are always great, too. Roast marshmallows over your oven and pertend to camp in your living room, lol, anything you wouoldn't see people your age doing.
Do things you would do with your good friends, it usually gives you a good time, adn you don't need to be nervous or an ything.
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