|
best friend has another best friend..
I never feel like my best friend likes me as much as I like her. We live in different towns and weve been having so much fun this summer..but then her other best friend came back from vacation and now shes going to be hanging out with her the whole rest of the summer. Im really sad because shes only known her new best friend for a few months and Ive known her for 6 years and I feel jealous & forgotten. She always writes xanga entries about the other friend and says how much she LOVES her and puts her in her profile and she barely says anything about me.. I dont know I feel like Im losing her. Her xanga said shes hanging out with the girl next weekend and we had plans for then. Im so sad. What do i do?? I cant talk to her, she has the friend over and I dont want to start drama/be jealous and stuff. Help???
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Just because your best friend has a best friend, doesn't mean she doesn't like you anymore. Call her and keep things as normal as possible. Maybe you could hang out with both her and her other best friend. Everyone has more then one best friend. Hope I helped!
]
I know exactly how you feel. It feels like I'm losing my best friend too and she's the only person in the world I'm comfortable around and tell everything to. I think what you should do is get her on the phone. Tell her that she's your best friend and you feel like you're second best or forgotten, however you want to put it. She needs to know how you feel, otherwise you'll just keep beating yourself up about it like I am. Don't make the same mistake I did, tell her how you feel. Maybe the reason why that girl is always in her profile is because she lives closer by and goes to her school. Unfortunately, things change, people change and sometimes there's not much we can do about it except hope and fight for what we want. If this girl's worth it, then fight for her, win her back. Hope things work out!
]
I know exactly how you feel. I've known my best friend for practically 10 years. We were best friends and every now and then she would just drop me for another friend, and then she would leave them for someone else. It's the worst feeling but there isn't much you can do. If you really love her, you should just step aside and let her be best friends with who she wants. Just be there for her. Even if it's in the background. Sure, you may not get all the attention, and it will hurt, trust me. But you'll know that you're doing what you can for her, and that you're a good friend. Don't give up, still be the best friend to her that you can be.
I hope everything works out. I know how much that hurts. <3
]
Unfourtunately, you cannot control what new friends your friend finds. I myself am personally going through this problem, too, but the advice I would give you is to just plain ol' ignore all of that. It may not seem to easy, btu just try to act as if the other person didnt' exist.
Maybe try making some new friends, too. Don't do this to make her jealous, though, never try to push your frieends away, because that just causes the both of you to grow apart, and causes more problems.
TRy to hang out as much as possible, even in different towns, and if you cannot hang out, use the phone often. It may seem hard with different towns, but, it can be overcomed, believe me, and I say this from experiance!!!
Please, feel free to write me if you need anything else at all.
]
More Questions: |