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will swimming around a 14ft. pool 25 times with just my arms, help get rid of the fat under my arm?
if not what can i do that will work in like 1 week.
il rate 5s. (link)
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In a week? I don't think so. Nothing works in one week. Keep up the exercising and eating right and you'll see results is a few weeks
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a few days ago, i gave my girlfriend a hickie and her dad found out and isnt very happy. She then tells me that her parents might have us break up for good. We've liked each other since 6th grade, now seniors. What can i do to make things right with her dad so we can stay together?? Please help ASAP!!!! (link)
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No wonder! Hickey's are so trashy, and now you have made his daughter look like a piece of garbage...not to mention the two of you are almost certainly sleeping together and he has just realized this. I don't think there is anything you CAN do to make things better with her dad, his whole job as a dad is to keep his daughter from boys (that's how most Dad's with daughters views their jobs anyway), I'm surprised he didn't react with violence. I would think he is intelligent enough to know that he really can't "break you guys up" but he probably want to keep her away from you as much as he can. He looks at you as a sexual preditor victimizing his baby girl. My advice is to steer clear of him.
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Help me please, fast!
My aunt just called, and she was crying, and she never cries! So I asked what's up? And she said "You need to tell your mom to get a planeticket and come to America" (we live in europe) and I was like whyyy? And she said "Baby, I don't know, I don't know what to do..Your Grandfather is very sick. She needs to know, she needs to get here!" So now it's all on me!! How do I tell my mom that her father might be dying? Do I tell my dad so he tells her? I don't know about that though cause they've been fighting alot lately!! Or do I tell her, and if so, how? Do I tell my brothers (younger) so they know that they should be nice to her?
Please help me, please! She'll be home in a couple of houres and I don't know what to do! (link)
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Just tell her, time is of the essence here.
Good, I hope everything turns out ok honey.
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okay. well ive been havinh family problems. im very unhappy. because of this i havent had a friend over in 5 years! other then 2 girls that ive known my whole life. i hate my father, who comes over all the time. and my mom just doesnt get it. she sees how happy i am. but its almost like she doesnt care. and i think ive gone through so much in my life. i reallly want to move. and she has a boyfriend in another state that she is in love with. and it would be wonderful to move there. but everytime i bring up moving she just tells me to be quiet. i dont know what to do (link)
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Moving isn't going to solve your problem sweeite. Tell your mother how you have been feeling about your father, and what can be done about that. Then you should focus on your own life, which you can control. Make new friends isn't hard, it just takes some changes, like joining new clubs or sports teams where you can meet new people. I think your quality of life would improve quite a bit if you made some small changes instead of something highly dramatic, like moving.
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Ok, this guy asked me to a school dance. But, he is fat, and he is a real nerd. He was the first to ask me. Im afraid that people will laugh at me for going with him. I really want to go because it will be fun and we get to go to six flags afterwards. What should I do? Go to the dance with the fat nerd... or stay home? (link)
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Stay home, this guy doesn't need someone like you to bring him down.
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I relly need help. My hair used to look straight when it was long (down by my hips). I mean it was always wavy and the ends curled....but now people really notice it and I rather straight hair.
I straighten my hair at least once a week or once in 2 weeks and the other fews day it's wavy..i don't mind but when I straighten it...the straightening balm makes my hair luk oily. I was wondering if there's some product that doesn't make it luk oily but helps protect against heat damage? (link)
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Jonathen straightening serum. It feels like water in your hands and you would never be able to tell that there is any product in your hair whatsoever, but it's the best and most effective I've ever used.
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i am a 9th grader and at my school we got a pool.today we had to do a 3 by 3 which means swim three laps in the pool and three on the feild and then three in the pool again in less then 15 minutes. this week i havent been feeling to good. my period started of saturday so my stomach has been hurting, and my head. so today for some reason i was having trouble swimming because i was having a hard time breathing. i put in as much effort as i could to do my best becasue this was going to count as a grade. anyways the girls got a 2 minute head start and running isnt my thing and so when i ffinished tgree laps i was almost the last person in. my teacher decided to LOCK the gate that goes from the field to the pool. he told me that i had to go around which meant me in soakin wet clothes walk around the boys locker room and the wait room. so all that work i did was for nothin he is going to make me do it again.. i think that was messed up that he did that and he has no right. am i right? me and my mom r goin to have a talk to the VP about it tomorrow. but i was wondering if that is against the law that he just left us out there. he said i walked the whole thing which wasnt even true i ran as much as i could and when i got tired i stopped i even have other students see me running. and he said somethin that was not called for which was his 97 year old grandma could run faster then me. is the teacher allowed to not watch there students and leave them like that? (link)
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Sounds like an extremely poor and insensitive teaher- do not let this issue slide and definitely get your parents involved. I can't believe he/she thought that was an appropriate was to treat their students. At the very least, you should make sure you can switch PE teachers and they get repremanded.
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I'm a young, stay-at-home mom, with a 3 year old daughter, who's in day care, and I have another child on the way. I am dying to get some sort of job before this baby comes, but no one will hire me due to being inexperienced. Does anyone know any good work at home jobs or any good jobs, in which don't require any beforehand experience? (link)
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Grocery stores offer good benefits and vacation time, usually even if you are just part time. The hours are flexible as well, but I highly recomend something other then cashiering. Substitute teaching doesn't require any experience in most counties, and you can choose which days you want to work. As far as staying at home, you could spread the word that you are looking to becoming a daycare mom, and watch children in your home during the day.
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okay, so i can't go a day without having to wash
my hair. i have friends who only wash their hair about..
2-3 times a month, and their hair is never oily or gross.
im white by the way, and so are they.
and of course they shower daily, but they dont
wash their hair and it always looks perfect.
they say they 'trained their hair' ?
is that possible.?
like to go every other day then wash it,
then every two days and then every three days etc?
if anyone know lemme know plz =] (link)
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If you don't stimulate the oil glands (by washing) they will end up producing less oil to an extent, but honestly- what about all the other environmental dirt and product? What about using conditioner to protect your actual hair folicle from the elements. In my opinion, it isn't exactly sanitary to wash only 2 or 3 times a month. Daily is probably the norm for most people.
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well I started dating this guy, lets call him Bob (lol).. I dated Bob before like 3 or 4 times.. I really liked him this time to.. We tried meetin each other cause we would never get to see each other.. but he always couldn't go.. well he emailed me and told me I think we jumped into our relationship to fast well I thought we would still be talkin so I was sorta ok with it.. but its 4 days and we ain't spoken a word.. I think he likes other girls and stuff.. I should move on and just forget about him..More I don't speak to him the less I think he cares..I can't even get him out of my head..Do you think I should forget about him or not? (link)
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If I were you I would take all the signals as his way of telling you it's not going to work out. I would move on. It would be nice is he wasn't so non-confrontaional about it, but it really looks like he isn't into the relationship at all, even if it's just emails and chatting.
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My ex boyfriend and I dated for almost 2 years, off and on, when he cheated on me back in March. I haven't talked to him since.
He's tried to call me and talk to me but I was too mad and hurt.
Well, on my birthday, he came to my house and gave me a 10 min. long apology. As my gift, he gave me 2 tickets to a concert (Dashboard Confessional--my FAVVV band) and asked me if I would go with him. I told him I'd think about it and call him.
When I got inside, I opened the envelope that the tickets were in and he had written me a note. It said how great I am and that I didn't deserve what he did to me, etc. He said that he knew that the concert doesn't make up for anything but he'd hope it'd be a start to our friendship.
So, I called him up and told him that I'd take him with me to the concert.
Then, about four days after my birthday (today) he calls me and tells me that he can't make the concert because he *night* be out of town that day!! WTF is that? If you buy tickets to something and want to go, then you'd know if you were going to be in town that day or not! Am I right?
What do you think his problem is?
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His problem is that he is an idiot. You were going to let him try to make it up to you and he even blew that. I don't even care what the reason is, it just isn't right.
Once a cheater, always a cheater- you're lucky that second chance fell through before anything else happened.
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i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person? (link)
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You aren't horrible at all. If you don't want to have an abortion then your only option is adoption. If you have a miscarriage, you'll know. If that doesn't happen, then you really need to decide what you are going to do. I would advise making an appointment at planned parenthoof first, just to go over your options with a counselor who won't push anything on you, and won't tell anyone. They can inform you best about prenatal care, adoption options, telling your parents, and other questions you might have.
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i have this really good freind, maybe a best freind, and well to ALL of my other freinds she says I LOVE YOUUUU, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. but she never says it to me. like she says it all the time, liek if you didn't know her you may think shes a lezbian.. BUT SHES NOT. why doesn't she say it to me? (link)
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Maybe she doesn't love you.
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if a guy you are making out with puts his hands on your boobs like ONTOP of your shirt, not under it, is that sexual harrasment or assault? what if while youi were making out he put his hands in the back pocket of your jeans and squeezed your butt? is that harrassment? thanks so much! (link)
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He is ungodly rude. Once you tell him to stop or not do it any more and he does, it's harassment and possible assult. Tell him to stop.
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k, i know if 13 but i WANT bigger boobs, i hate waiting! i'm always being called 'flat' and i hate it, can i eat something or do something to make them bigger without stuffing or implants?! (link)
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Mine didn't finish growing until college. Seriously.
Let me tell you something, you think they are just the coolest, sexiest things ever at the age of 13. Once you get then though, they aren't so glamorous. They hurt, they sag (not sexy, they are always in the way, bras are expensive, working out is hard. I could go on....
Don't rush yourself, be proud to be small.
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i do not understand why everyone is always saying "don't have sex" all i hear from teachers now is "sex will ruin your life, it hurts you, its horrible, don't do it, you'll regret it, yada yada yada" um, you wouldn't be here if it weren't for your parents having sex. teachers shouldn't say this. it is actually a great thing if you do it at the right time. i think they should tell us the disadvantages of having sex when you are young, not just in general NOT HAVING SEX. is there a reason why people tell us this? (link)
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Of course there is a reason. Have you seen how many questions are posted on here by knocked up 16 years olds? Now wait until you're in your 20's and you look around you. Half the people you meet had kids when they were very young and at that point their life is a joke. You don't think about that when you're in high school. When you're 25 and you have a 7 years old, how many guys/girls are going to be asking you out? How often are you going to be going out with your friends? How's that mimimun wage job going, because you didn't have money/time for college or to follow your dreams? Not to mention the STD or two you might have picked up. Let me tell you, sex is the coolest thing to do as a teen, it's like your life is focused on it. Just wait a fews years and you'll understand exactly where those annoying adults are coming from. I didn't even get into the emotional aspects of it all. By all means, have a good time. Please use protection though, EVERY time. And I don't mean pulling out either.
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I seem to be having one of the unluckiest years of my life. Honestly! Nothing is going ont hr right track. My "love life", my relationships with people, family issues, school, NOTHING. I dont know whya dn this may seem silly but is there anything i can do to increase my LUCK? (link)
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That last answer was positively moronic.
Yes, you can increase your luck by getting some good Karma. Do positive things for others without getting anything in return. Be as nice and helpful as you possibly can. Sounds like sunday school BS but try it and you'll see.
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my mom has MS (multiple sclerosis) and she can still walk but not for a long period of time, and she can't really be active that much but she is still normal besides not being able to walk for a long time and definitely not run. is she going to die? i just thought for a while that its just a little disease that if you take your shots for it (wich she does) it will be alright. but then i looked up "multiple sclerosis" on advicenators and it said this girl's mom died from it. will she die? is this going to get worse? dont sugarcoat it please (link)
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I have a similar autoimmune diease, and it isn't fun. There is no cure, but it isn't likely that your mom will die prematurely from the illness. As long as she keeps up with her doctor's visits, takes her meds, and keeps herself as healthy as possible then there is no reason to worry. It doesn't sound as though your mother is at a very severe stage of the disease either, so don't stress! It might help to talk to her about your concerns, a lot of times parents don't realize how stressed out their kids get over issues the parents view as personal. Tell her that you are worried and let her set your mind at ease.
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i live in a low income apartment..all of my friends live in big houses. i hate living in a crapy apartment in a rich neighborhood. especially my crush! we talk a lot (hes an only child). and i always hear about his escalades and BMWs and i HATE IT! because i have a crapy car and i wish i wasnt ashamed of were i come from. i used to live in a crappy neighborhood but that was okay because i was the rich one of the poor people (even though then we were poor) now i have to transition to being on of the poor people. again. and i HATE IT! what can i do to change this feeling?
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That person who said they are up to their eyeballs in debt is more right then you know! I always grew up feeling like I had less then my friends, less nice home, cars, clothes, food. Then I realized when I got older that 90% of the families of those people I envied did not in fact have more money then mine at all. They were spending money they didn't have, and ended up with ungodly debt to show for it. You see when you get older I promise. For now, I know it's no comfort to you. Don't be ashamed to have less then your friends, and don't try to play it off like you do have the same things they do either. Just say "hey, I don't have all that much money to do that this week". It's really not a big deal. Think of it this way, your friends are being supplied by mommy and daddy, they don't take care of themselves. When they get old enough to be responsible for their own purchases, they'll be in for a rude awakening. At least you're being raised to not live above your means. Your parents are doing well with you.
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I have a formerly long lost sister, who I've met recently, and we've trusted each other rather quickly. She is a very private person, while I'm very open with my life. We've had dilemmas about a similar topic in the past, and this is our second time at this topic. Now she doesn't trust me with her personal business anymore, because I tell my husband about things that effect me about my life, which happens to also include her (like our arguments and such). She wants me to be a loyal and respectful sister, but how can I do that while being a loyal wife at the same time? Now my sister is acting differently with me and doesn't tell me about things about her personal life anymore. I feel like in order for me to help her as a sister, I feel to believe that she confides in me. I don't know. My sister is letting her past experiences (with not being able to trust others) change her into a more private person, and I think that's getting in the way of our relationship. I respect her current mentality, but I can't accept the way that her current mentality came to be (since I do know alot about her past experiences). I don't know. Am I wrong for not consenting her first to ask her if it's okay to tell my husband about things that effect me, which happens to include the both of us as sisters? (even though, she did tell me prior to, that if it involves me, then it's okay to tell, but she says that whatever she said is "in the past", and she recently changed her mind about what she told me back then). So yeah, I understand why she is the way that she is, but she doesn't seem to understand me. I know that every situation is not just simply black or white, but can have many gray areas (and this situation does have some grays). But with that aside, Who's right in this situation? Me or her? (link)
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I don't think you were wrong for telling your husband everything, because that is how you always have done things. Like you said, she is the opposite. Since this is her personally life you were discussing, it is in essence up to her whether you can tell other what she told you. If it is her wish that you keep it to yourself, then you must do that. Once she informs you that she doesn't want you to tell anyone, then you must not. Doing so (even to your husband) is a betrayal of her trust. I understand that she would be hesitent now to talk to you about her personaly matters. The best thing to do at this point is apologize and continue to just be there for her. She'll open up in time, just be sure to keep it to yourself unless she says she doesn't mind.
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