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i live in a low income apartment..all of my friends live in big houses. i hate living in a crapy apartment in a rich neighborhood. especially my crush! we talk a lot (hes an only child). and i always hear about his escalades and BMWs and i HATE IT! because i have a crapy car and i wish i wasnt ashamed of were i come from. i used to live in a crappy neighborhood but that was okay because i was the rich one of the poor people (even though then we were poor) now i have to transition to being on of the poor people. again. and i HATE IT! what can i do to change this feeling?
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You cannot change your circumstances until you move out of the house and create your own life. So to be blunt, the only option you have is to change your attitude and outlook. I honestly do not think that anyone is judging you because you are "poor" as you put it (by the way, compared to the majority of the world, you are quite rich). Change the feeling that you have by making a list of the things you ARE thankful for. You could also volunteer at a soup kitchen and see people who are less fortunate for yourself. I am sorry you feel this way though.
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remember ther is always someone whos worse off than you. don't complain. ( not tryin to be mean ;) ) i had to learn that lesson too. my dad has this really old car its a mini van and it's rusted and it looks really bad. i never wanted him to drop me off at school because everytime he did i got laughed at. but i jus told them that some people who are walking and riding the bus wish they had my dads car. i got over it.they stop laughin too. in you're case some people that live on the street wish they lived in youre house. don't compare yourself to other people. one day youll probibly have a bigger house then they do and the'll envy you. so don't fret. $ JAZZIEPINK_09$
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ah i know how this feels.
you should try to realize that where you live or how much money you do or don't have doesn't define who you are!
it's normal to be jealous... i mean, who wouldn't envy someone who doesn't have to blink an eye at spending money, when you have to decide if you can afford a haircut or wait another month or two?! ;)
don't be ashamed of where you live. it's your environment, not you. anyone you judges you by your surroundings aren't worth talking to anyway.
hope i helped. keep ur head up :)
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Been there, done that. I was raised in a very poor household. I know what food stamps look like, I've used a Lonestar card, and what exactly you can get cheaper at Dollar General. Now, I've moved out. I'm not as poor as I used to be. I can pay my bills and get by just fine. And the reason why? I live below my means, I don't impulsively buy things, and since I'm so scared to death of being poor again, I make damn sure it won't happen again. I don't have a credit card, and the only debt I have is in the form of student loans (which isn't that much, and I don't have to start paying it off until I leave school).
Growing up poor was the best thing that ever happened to me, because now I realize how important money management is. Just by moving out and getting by, I've already made a huge accomplishment in my life. Not only that, but income does not establish your social status. If your friends look down on you for having less money, kick them in the face and find new friends.
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Well, I'm in the same rut. I go to a private school which I got a scholarship to, so I didn't have to pay. It's $6000 a year, which means everyone else there is pretty wealthy. Their houses are big with pools in the back and they always get whatever they want. I, on the other hand, am a bit on the poor side. I live in a house with my mom, it's okay. I haven't gotten a new outfit in 2 months and I have to wear the same clothes over and over again.
I'm an only child, but that doesn't mean I'm spoiled. That's a big stereo type.
Just thank God for what you have. Seriously, just go to google images and type "STARVING KIDS IN AFRICA!". We have a lot more than other people and we should help out as best we can. Don't be ashamed, be happy that you have somewhere to live and that you aren't on the street.
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That person who said they are up to their eyeballs in debt is more right then you know! I always grew up feeling like I had less then my friends, less nice home, cars, clothes, food. Then I realized when I got older that 90% of the families of those people I envied did not in fact have more money then mine at all. They were spending money they didn't have, and ended up with ungodly debt to show for it. You see when you get older I promise. For now, I know it's no comfort to you. Don't be ashamed to have less then your friends, and don't try to play it off like you do have the same things they do either. Just say "hey, I don't have all that much money to do that this week". It's really not a big deal. Think of it this way, your friends are being supplied by mommy and daddy, they don't take care of themselves. When they get old enough to be responsible for their own purchases, they'll be in for a rude awakening. At least you're being raised to not live above your means. Your parents are doing well with you.
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Try to focus on how lucky you are. You have a home, you have a car, you have people who love you. There are so many people in the world who don't even have that last one. So you don't have pretty things. That's okay. A person's worth isn't measured in how great their car is. If it bothers you when they talk about this things, just tell them so, and change the subject to something you can all relate to. Be thankful for what you have and proud of who you are.
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Just think, you have all this stuff and other people don't even have a house. I live in an apartment too and all my friends live in houses. Consider yourself lucky to have a home.
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