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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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My hair is blonde and goes down to about my shoulders. Im thinking about getting my hair layered, but i need a good idea of what I want my hair to look like. DO you have any links or pics of what i should get my hair cut like? THX SOOO MUCH GUYS!!! YOUR A LIFESAVER!! I rate high!

try some hair magazines im not sure of any websites but any magazine will have celebs in and im sure you will find a hair style you will like

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My heels on my feet are seriously cracked and dry. Its disgusting. How can I make my feet smooth for summer? Are there any lotions/treatmants you recommend?

Any baby lotion should work it will soften the skin on your feet. or try foot soak in a foot spa. hope i've helped
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I currently attend a small private school and am going to a huge public school for high school. I'm really shy, and worried that I won't make any friends. Does anyone have any specific tips for friend-making without being annoyingly outgoing? Thanks!

Well i was really shy when i moved to my school, just start to talk to people in your class try and talk to the shy people too, just be yourself!
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dear michelle there is dis gal who i really luv but she is my best friend i told her but she said sorry how can i get over her without losing her as a friend

hey, well i dont know how long it will take to get over her becasue if it is true love and i think it is it will take quite a while, Just dont treat her differently i know it may be hard for you becuase you want to be with her but you have to just act like everything is ok. you never know she might get to love you too!!! good luck and try not to let it get you down, there are plenty of other girls that will want to go out with you. hope i have helped you
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16/f--I have this friend whos mormon. She's really nice & everything, but she's always trying to get me to go to church with her. But the thing is, I'm a proud Christian. I love learning about new religions, cultures, lifestyles, etc. But going to church with her is something I don't really want to do. Also, I've talked to my mom about it, and she doesn't want me to go either. Part of my not wanting to go, is that I've talked with a few people who have gone to church with her (also friends of ours) and they've said that they take down your name, address, number and sometimes take your picture. And thats not something I feel comfortable with. My church on the other hand, won't do that. They'll treat you like a guest and they tell you, you aren't obligated to do anything. But for some reason, everyone has said that the mormons try to talk you into some things. And I'm not disagreeing and bashing on the mormon religion, but its not something I want to be a part of and I've pretty much kept my feelings to myself rather than spreading them or whatever. But I don't know what to tell my friend when she invites me places anymore. Usually I'll say "I'm doing something" or 'I can't wake up that early'. And I feel bad. And now, my other best friend just became mormon...so I'm not sure what to do. And I don't know if my friend's mom would want her to come to church with me, since she's really overprotective (I was thinking mabe we would both experience other churches, but it might be a bad idea).

That church is really weird! they shouldnt be allowed to take names and addresses and pictures! Just tell her that your family doesnt want you to go or invite her to yours.
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hi...i really need help. i am on a dance team and they told me that i had to lose weight. this was about a year and a half ago. right when they told me that i had to lose weight to stay on the team i started getting ideas that i was too fat. and now i think im fatter than fat. so during that i year i decided to skip a meal to see if that would help but then i started to skip 2 meals and now im not eating at all. my best friend keeps saying that im anorexic but i dont want to believe it and i dont think its true. either way i am really scared because im losing weight really fast and all but i dont want to lose it this way and im scared that im going to die or something. i dont want to tell my parents so i dont scare them so what do i do......PLeASE HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!

You have to start eating. skipping meals doesnt help!!! your whole body starts to shut down (read magazines and it will tell you how dangerous not eating can be) It will probably be hard for you to just start eating again so try a little bit at a time. tell your parents they ill understand! and for this dance team, i'd join another one. Your friend is looking out for you and you have to belive her!
luv shelly

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Ok alot of people i know think that i'm not a virgin ( even my own family). I haven't had sex and so what i know alot about sex. and they think i've given oral too.which i have not.i tell them over and over again but thyey don't belive me. And ruemers are already goin around that i'm a ho. What can i do to make them belive me?

There isnt much you can say rumours are horrible. Your family should belive you anyway! tell them that you did not do it and that they should belive you. The rumours will stop!!! hope i've helped you
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A week months back I was informed my friend gave someone else a hand-job. She's 14. I know, to some people this is normal, but we live in a nice small town where nothing like that ever really happens. Here it's different. I asked her if there was anymore and she 'swore on her music' I told her to never let him back in her house again because she claims he forced her into it. (She's in love with music, anything that has to deal with music). SO, naturally I believed her. Yesterday I found out new information. She had given a hand-job twice, a blow-job one, made out alot and let him feel her up. She never told me. She claims that she's scared, I would be too. I'm so mad about her not telling me. I'm her 'best friend'? Why don't I feel like it?

I know that you are probably really angry at her but whatever she is saying then you have to think can you really know that it is the truth for sure? She may have been scared yes but she should have told you that way you could have tried to help her. Tell her that she has to say no to these guys becuase they will just use her again and again and it isnt fair! Hope i've helped you
luv shelly

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i lost a parent a year ago. my other parent is getting married in the summer. how do i show this fiance that i still love my parent, but i'll try to have a relationship with the fiance.

thanks

Just be nice to them/ try and talk to them about it that you will try but they cant replace your other parent. hope i've helped a little.
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I asked my best guy friend to the dance. He said he doesn't know and it is because we are friends. But all i want to do i go to the dance and just be friends. So then he tells i am going to ask some one else! And it is one of my best friends! I ma really deppressed! Because i really like him! I need help!

Lonley and Hatin it!
I am 13 and he is 13

Just tell him your only wanting to go as a fried! and you never know waht might happen there
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my best friend got in troble wit a guy she did THINGS wit. and she got her cell taken away and everything like that. all she talkes about is him. i talk 2 his sis alot , and she tells me he is chealing on her wit 2 girls. i told her and she cried. the next day she still is in lov . what can i do 2 take her mind off him????




male 13

nothing much she loves him it will take time. She'll soon realise that there are better guys for her!
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What are some ways I can keep my hair healthy (breakage, damaged hair .. etc) but still make it look great everydaY? I rate high! :)

get a really good shampoo for damaged hair it will protect it. and if you straighten your hair then get some straightening serum or heat protective spray! hope i've helped
luv shelly

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my face is breaking out!! okay i have 2 ? any way one is anyideas on how to reduce these pimples?? and is it true if you put toothpaste on them they get better?? i know it sounds weird but thats what i heard!
thanks

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Yeah toothpaste does work! also get some clean and clear deep cleansing wash. it stops the redness. or maybe clearasil deep cleansing cloths. hope i've helped
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Okay so theres this guy that I really, really like, and I know he likes me too.. The only problem is, I know he's going to ask me out soon, but every time I get a boyfriend, I freak out and think that they don't like me and I get convinced that they're only staying with me to be nice, and I really don't want that to happen with this one.. Any ideas on how to stop freaking out and just let things happen?? thanks so much!

Guys wouldn't be with you if they didnt like you so they obviously do! just remember that and you will be fine! hope i helped you
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I like this guy.. we hardly ever talk but I still like him.. what to do?

talk to him! get to know him first and then when your on speaking terms ask if he wants to go to the movies with you. hope i've helped
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i have never baby sat for kids before but my neighbour has asked me to help. I really want to do this but the baby is only about 11 months old and i've no idea what to do with it . I'm really scared that it might have a cot death, or that i might drop it. Any tips?

just dont let the baby out of your sight, small childen have a habit of putting whatever they are nearest to into their mouths, so keep them away from small things. good luck!
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Well lets see where do i start.. My mom and step dad got in a fight yesterday over my step dad not going places with her *like movies,out to eat,work out..* well anyways after a couple hours of all this my step dad left to go to work.. so then a little bit later my mom called me down stairs and was like you better end your relationship with your boyfriend soon cause he'll get you to where you dont wanna leave him *he already does* adn then he'll hurt you and he wont want to do anything with you anymore.. well then it turned into a big arguement with me and my mom she never exactly met my boyfriend *we been together almost a year.. and she thinks she knows this boy and thinks he's a complete asshole like my step dad is to her.. well anyways i said shit like that to her.. and she said okay whatever you'll see then... Well later on that night i was talkin to my boyfriend and then i started think bout what my mom said * i know i shouldnt let that shit get to me* but it bothered me and i brought it up to my boyfriend and he got mad and i hung up on him... then he texted me and said *baby im so sorry i love you, and that he dont want my mom interfering with our relationship..cause im the only person who he needs in his life cause im always there for him through anything..* Aww isnt it sweet well him and me are cool... but what should i say to my mom so this dont happen again...?

Just tell her that your boyfriend loves you and not all guys are the same! Tell her that she cant just go around assuming that you bf is like your stepdad. Maybe bring him around to your house that way she can meet him and she'll realise that you love each other! hope i helped you
luv shelly

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Ok i am 13 and i am a female. Ok well i went out with my really good friend about 2 months ago, well recantally he broke up with this girl who didnt like me and i had no clue who she was like i new her name but i had no clue who she was. well i like him again but see some of my friends tell me to just forget it and stop likeing him, but see i cant because hes always so nice and he messes with me and stuff and its so hard not to like him. and i want him to still mess with me but i just dont want to like him. or i want to like him but i just want him to like me back. do you have any advice on what i should do?

I can just say be yourself! its the best thing to do. Been false around guys can put them off. Dont listen to your friends if you like him, then you like him you can t just stop liking him automatically! ask him to the movies sometime. hope i have helped you
luv shelly

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I've been thinking alot about my career that i want to pursue, and I happen to love the french language. I was thinking about some jobs i could have by speaking different languages, but i'm just not sure. Does anybody know of any jobs i could possibly have by doing what i love? Thanks!

Janine

How about a French teacher, You Like french and you would probably enjoy it. hope i've helped
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Im gonna buy my boyfriend some stuff for his birthday, but then i also want to make him something creative. I have no idea what to do! Can someone please help me???!?!

Make your own photo frame and put a picture of you and him inside it.
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