Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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I like this guy a lot. And only my best friends know I like him. And I think I love him. We talk from time to time. But we arn't friends: he is popular and I have lik 20 close friends, but we're not popular, just really friendly. So we talk about hockey (Because we both play) and that is basically it. I was planning on telling him how i feel about him next time I see him.
But today, I was talking with my really good friend who I just told the other day (making her the 4th person who knows) and she said that he smoked pot. Now, this person isn't one to gossip--- she never does, doesn't say anything unless its true, but today, she said she was almost positive that ricky smoked pot.
My dad is very ANTI drug ANTI sex ANTI anything illegal. But he really likes this kid; they met via my hockey. He says we would make a great couple.
I would date him if he smokes, because I care for this guy so much, I think i might be able to change that *it sounds mean,-- i dont want it to* but my dad wouldn't stand for it.
I really don't know what to do. I'm sure if I tell this guy that I like him, he'll like he too, because everyone knows he has a thing for me. Please help me!
Thanks
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If you really like this guy then I suggest you tell him how you feel.
As for the smoking pot business, there are certain things that you can't change about a person and this is one of them.
Smoking becomes addictive and if he's being doing it for a long time them it wont be easy for him to give it up...that's even if he wants to give it up.
You can't really change it about him or make him stop but you can let him know how you feel about it and that it's not good for him.
If you guy's end up together and you keep harping on him to stop smoking because your dad wont approve of it he might decide to leave you.
Just remember that if he's into smoking and your not, it might affect you and you could start too.
Then again if he really cares about you like you care about him, he will make an effort to stop smoking.
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my cousin is having money problems right now is there anyway that you guys no of that I can do to help her thanks? (link)
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Well if she has a job she just needs to manage her money better. Tell her to set money aside or leave money in the bank for emergencies.
Tell her to pay her bills off not to pay them all at once so she's not short for the week.
If she doesn't have a job.. well then i suggest for her to find a job and earn her own money, then again she should still set money aside for emergencies.
Hope I helped.
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what are the chances that you already broke your hymen? from using tampons, going horseback riding and that sort of stuff, not doing sexual things. (link)
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You are still a virgin until the penis enters the vagina but there are many ways that your hymen can break including horseback riding and using tampons.
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Ok, first of all I'm very self concious about the number of friend I have so I was wondering how many is a good amount? Or just any advice on that problem at all?
Next, I'm starting a new school next year and going to camp this year and all that jazz. Do you have any tips on making new friends? (link)
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Ok you don't need a huge amount of friends. It doesn't matter how many friends you have just as long you all have fun right?
my group of friends contains of 10 people 4 boys 6 girls. Another group that use to sit next to us only had 3 people but each and everyone of us were happy with who we were friends with.
Tips on making new friends...don't be afraid to talk to them and be yourself!!
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My girlfreind want me to eat her out after we have had sex .We dont use a condom as she is on depro needle. My question is if i like doing it and knowing im eating my own sperm does it make me gay (link)
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No this doesn't make you gay. It's perfectly normal, think of it as pleasing your girlfriend not eating your own sperm.
My boyfriend does it to me and he's not gay.
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im a single mom my daughter is one month old and im scared to death. Back in august my daughtes father proposed and i said yes. in sept i got pregnant and then her father told me he was going to fight for full custody of her. so i ran but now social services has required that i file for child support. and if i get it cant he reques visitation rights. what you need to know though is that he lied to me about everything hes a decade older then he told me he was he lied about his middle name and a lot of other stuff. i need advice i dont want him getting any rights to her what can ido (link)
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Hey there.. I work as a secretary in a lawyers office in Australia...I assume your from America?? correct me if i'm wrong.
I suggest you get a lawyer. Things may work differently to how they do here but if you make an appointment to see a lawyer they will be able to draw up a contract or orders, take it to court and you can gain full residence/contact of your child with visitation rights for the father.
It can be a long process.
If you don't want any visitation rights for him to see your daughter you must see a lawyer and tell them that.
You must tell your lawyer everything like that he lied to you and you don't think he's a fit father to be around your child.
If you need anymore information on how to go about getting a lawyer... ask me!
Hope I helped :)
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ok theres this guy, cory, iv always liked/loved we've been through alot togeather he was always there when i needed him we were like best friends, but im afraid that thats all we will ever be, i have a boyfriend (but he dosnt even compare to how much i like cory), and he has a girlfriend and it seems like they love eachother, but sometimes the get into relly bad fights, they date on and off, i think he dersirves better and i think i could be the one that treats him right but i dont want to tell him anything because im afraid that it will ruin our friendship can anyone help me? (link)
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Tell him that you think he deserves better.
Let him know that you have noticed that he isn't being treated right.
Maybe be a bit more affectionate towards him but not over the board to start off with.
Drop a few hints before you start anything...just start off slow.
Take him to his favourtie places and give him a really good time. Show him that you are the right girl for him.
he'll appreciate what your doing for him and he will notice you a lot more...who knows he may like you as well!
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One of my bestfriends has like tons of guy friends (and alot of them are really hot) they always come up and talk to her. When they come over to her i dont know what to say to make them notice me too!! help with some convo. starters that arent like so how are you and hows it going! ha ha ha!!! (link)
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Maybe get your friend to introduce you to a couple of them.
Or you could approach them while she's not around therefore they will focus on you.
Introduce yourself if they don't know who you are and be yourself.
Talk to them about what their interested in or find things out about them before you talk to them so you know what to expect.
Good luck :)
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16/f and I can admit that I can be a bit spoiled/bratty at times but I've been trying to work on it. I really have.
Well, my boyfriend, and I know he doesn't do this to be mean, sometimes calls me things or says things to me about the way I act that really hurt. For example, when I try to get my way (like with what movie we see) he always says "Of course, princess!" and turns away. Well, you'd think that sounds nice, right? NOT.
He started calling me "princess" when he was over at my house once and I was mad because some family thing. When I walked out of the room, my sister and him were talking (so I listen in on conversations, who doesn't) about how if things don't go my way, I think it's the end of the world; like I'm a "little princess".
It pisses me off so much when he does this because he KNOWS that I'm trying to get better. But it doesn't help when he calls me that because I know what it means. And he knows that I know what it means too because I've tried to talk to him about it. He'd stop for like a week and then start saying it again. What can I say or do that'll get it through his head?
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Tell him that he should be here to help you not to make you feel bad.
Try talking to him one more time, tell him that you don't want to be called a princess in the way that he means it because it hurts you and makes you upset.
If you are trying to get better tell him that he's not helping with the things he is saying to you...it makes it worse.
Maybe show him what you've written on here.
Good luck hope I helped.
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I'm in my first serious relationship with an amazing guy. My family & friends all like him, and of course I like him very much. The problem is, since him and I have been together, I've spent less time with friends. They have been trying to hangout with me, but for some reason I have more fun with my boyfriend. I feel like a horrible friend because these girls are great friends. Is it so wrong that I'd rather be with my boyfriend at this point in my life? (17/F) (link)
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No its not wrong to want to spend time with your boyfriend. Try getting your boyfriend and your friends and you to spend time together.
If they like him, they wont have a problem hanging out with the both of you.
It would also be a good idea once in a blue moon to spend a night with the girls, if your boyfriend loves you..he wont mind.
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My iron has black stuff on the bottom and it keeps rubbing off on white clothes but it won't be wiped off. Any tips for getting it off and any idea why it's there in the first place?! (link)
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Try putting vinegar on a cloth and rubbing it off.
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i can do watever i want to it but i am not sure what i want i am 13 and love color i need ideas please i am desprate!!!!!!!
my room is small so i have no rooms for big peices of furniture help!!! (link)
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Try painting your room, paint each wall a different colour. Or you could paint 2 walls one colour and the other 2 walls another colour.
Paint pictures and put them around your room. Buy plastic flowers and put them in a colourful vase.
Get your old CD's that you dont listen to and make them into a mobile.
Make a collage of you and your friends or family and put it on a pin up board on your wall.
Put posters of bands or celebrities that you like on you walls.
Put photos of you and your friends in colourful frames and hang them on your walls.
Use your imagination..hope i helped.
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i have played basketball for 2 years now im pretty good but not the best well now i moved and i made alot of new friends i really wanna play basketball next year but they all keep saying no dont play only popular girls play ( im not a nerd or geek, im just also as my friends say not "popular" ) should i listen to my friends or should i just try out for the team (link)
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If you think your good play, dont listen do what other people say.
By playing sport you will make new friends.
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I went to the doctors about two weeks ago and found out that i am for sure pregnant. My boyfriend i am currently with is the father. My parents and his parents know. Also our siblings know. My mother has been telling me what to name my child. The middle name my child has to have if its the girl. My mother is telling me the child has to have my last name. My house is very stressful and im scared to stay here because i dont want to cause a miscarrage. Im not sure what to do. My aunt had a cat and while she was pregnant the doctor told her that was the cause of her dizziness and vomating. I have 7 cats. i am wondering if thats the cause i cant get rid of them because of me. I want to find away to move out of my home, before i am 18. Any ideas on all of this. It is driving me crazy. (link)
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Approach your mum, tell her that you are having a baby and maybe you and your boyfriend, who is the father would like to find a house to move into together to start your own family.
This a serious mature thing to do and your mother should understand this, your whole family should.
As for the baby naming... its your baby, find a name that you and your partner agree on.
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i dont know what to say to my mother when she calls me a stupid lesbian, a worthless faggot, and other demeaning things. it doesnt hurt me like it used to (everyone knows my mom's a bitch, and that she's the epitome of insanity) but it makes me pretty mad. i really dont know what a can say back to her to get her to shut up and back off. bitch doesnt phaze her b/c people call her that everyday. i know i sound like i'm putting her down, but that's what she's always done to me since i was about 5 (i'm 16 now). anyway, i'd appreciate some suggestions on what i could do or say to make the situation better. i really cant take it anymore.
and please dont leave me an immature comment saying 'oh well why don't you just quit being bi' or somthing like that. it's just not that simple. (link)
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Talk to your mother. Show that you are a mature adult and you want to talk things over, tell her that what she is doing isn't right.
Tell her that you are her daughter and she should love you no matter what or who you become.
I'm not bi or gay but I know for sure that all my family would be against it.
I don't have anything against people who are bi or gay or lesbian, I give them credit for 'coming out' and telling people.
She should see that you are happy being this way, don't let her get to you, you'll just show her that she's won and she obviously wants that satisfaction.
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Well every school year I always have a bunch of books I have to take everyday. Does anyone know away I can take all my books without having to carry a huge book bag? Any tips on looking more fashionable in a school with uniform? But the main problem is how to carry around all those books. And please dfont say to get a locker because I still have to carry alot of books home with me. (link)
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Well i'm from a country school in Australia, so our school uniform were pretty much our PJ's lol. I always wore school uniform though... I looked like a dag.
Although I always did my hair nice and put a little bit of make-up on, try making yourself look respectable with you accessories, as for the uniform...if you have to wear it there's not much to it than that.
As for the bag... that was my trademark. I had the cutest little backpack. I collect keyrings and little badges. Try decoracting a plain backpack, draw on it if you have to...paint it. Use your imagination.
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i recently (like a week ago)moved from reddeer to calgary i have lived in calgary before i didnt really like it but i moved to reddeer and i loved it i was popular and not afraid to show who i am (and i was afraid in calgary)i found great freinds and a good job so when i moved back it hurt me alot when i told my freind i felt unhappy she told me to get over myself and atleast try i got pissed off and told her she had no clue wat she was talking about but then one day i ran into this kid who used to bully me with my sister it really affected me to see him then my sister got mad and said i should get over myself and try to make freinds.
wat is ur opionion?are they right and wat do u think i should do?
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People take things differently. When I was in Primary school through to about year 10 I was very unpopular. I had no friends and spend most of my time eating lunch by myself wishing i was with the 'pretty people' but I got over it.
By the time I hit year 11 I was in my senior years. I changed my appearance, not for anyone else but me, put a smile on my face and became one of the most popular girls in school with everyone still knowing that I used to be the kid that got teased and ate lunch by myself everyday.
What i'm trying to say is that it doesn't matter where you live who you see and who you used to be teased by you are your own person and you are just as equal as everyone else.
Show them that you don't care what they think and they are no better than anyone else.
Be yourself they'll love you for who u r
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I am really confused what to do. Long time ago when I was 13, I met a guy who had a crush on me. It developed until I felt the same way. that guy was 3 years older than me and he felt I was too young so he decided not to pursue anything beyond friends.
Now I am 19. I've moved on with the other though it really hurt because i love him so much until now. I have accepted the facts that we are not meant to be. I met this awesome guy. He really loves me more than anything else in the world. Because of this love from him, I want to be with him because i know he will make me happy. So, I am with him right now. Not long ago, the guy I met 6 years ago and I started chatting online. then, he told me that he loves me and he is willing to wait for me. I am in overseas studying so we only communicate through email/chatting. I know i love him more than the guy I am with right now. But I know for sure that the guy I am with right now loves me more than the guy i met 6 years ago. What should I do? Should I stay with the guy I am with right now? or should I go with the guy I've been waiting for all my teenage years? I'm not even sure if the guy i met 6 years ago is serious or just playing around. I dont want to get hurt from him anymore because it's so hard to move on. I have never loved anyone as much as I love him. please help.
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This is a sticky situation. I say go with your heart not your head.
If you really love this guy you met 6 years ago then stay in contact, get to know him again, find out how much you have in common. You may find yourself just wanting to be friends.
As for the guy you are with now, he loves you so don't hurt him, be fair to him. If you find yourself wanting to be with the other guy don't pull this guy along. It will only make things worse in the long run and you will hurt him.
You are still only 19 years old, your young and have your whole life ahead of you.
Work out what you want, what you think feels right, make yourself happy.
Good luck...hope i helped. :)
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I can't stop masturbating. I am only 13/f and I usually masturbate up to...well let's just say WAAAAAAY more than 3 times a day. I think it's because I get bored, but I still want to stop. I can stop for a little while, but then I think about it, and I start all over again. But it's not only the physical feeling, it's the emotional. I really need advice. And please don't tell me "find a hobby" or "hang out with friends" because no matter where I go, or what I do, I am always horny. Well not ALWAYS, but most of the time. I feel so gross sometimes and I just know that I need to stop. It's way out of control. (link)
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masturbating is totally healthy, it can even be a lot more enjoyable and a lot more fun if you have a partner to do it with.
The more you masturbate the easier it will be for you to have an orgasnm during sex when you are ready.
Its perfectly normal and your not alone.
It is also easier for you to know how you like to be touched so when the time comes you can show your partner where and how you like to be touched.
A lot of young people and older like to experiment with their bodies.
If you would like to cut down or stop completly try and occupy yourself, surround yourself with other people and make yourself busy, find something else to do to take your mind off of it.
Hope I helped :)
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i took piano lessons when i was 9 years old,and then because the teacher was so strict and i cried after sessions,i quit.and now i wanna study piano again but i don't think my mom would let me.i'll really stick to it,be strong,and work real hard on it.i just wanna learn how to play the piano again....13's not "too late" age,right??how do i convince my mom???tnx in advance (link)
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Talk to her. My grandmother always said that music and sport and the most two things that you will be remembered by.
Tell her that you want to start again and that you are older now, and you can do it.
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