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15 and pregnant
I went to the doctors about two weeks ago and found out that i am for sure pregnant. My boyfriend i am currently with is the father. My parents and his parents know. Also our siblings know. My mother has been telling me what to name my child. The middle name my child has to have if its the girl. My mother is telling me the child has to have my last name. My house is very stressful and im scared to stay here because i dont want to cause a miscarrage. Im not sure what to do. My aunt had a cat and while she was pregnant the doctor told her that was the cause of her dizziness and vomating. I have 7 cats. i am wondering if thats the cause i cant get rid of them because of me. I want to find away to move out of my home, before i am 18. Any ideas on all of this. It is driving me crazy.
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I believe that the task of a finding a name for the baby will sort itself out; this is really the decission of the parents and nobody else.
All though this will not be the advice you want to hear, it is my sincerest hope that you consider adoption. I believe that you would be a hero to find a home with 2 loving parents who are ready to be a family so your baby could have the best possible life. From what I understand, if you were to go this route, you would have the say in which family adopted your baby. Think of the stress you are under right now. I am sure you realise that your stress will only be added to once the baby has arrived.
This is no offence to you but I cannot imagine any 15 year-old in the world who would be ready to be a parent. Perhaps you could talk to an adoption agency about talking to women who were once in your position and decided to have their child adopted. This might help you in making this decision.
I wish you all the best in this.
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Approach your mum, tell her that you are having a baby and maybe you and your boyfriend, who is the father would like to find a house to move into together to start your own family.
This a serious mature thing to do and your mother should understand this, your whole family should.
As for the baby naming... its your baby, find a name that you and your partner agree on.
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Your mom is probably just excited about having a grandchild on the way. You are the one who will fill out the birth certificate not her. You can name your baby whatever you want to. So just don't take it seriously if it is a hideous name. Just don't give it that name. No need to argue about it now. Same with the last name. You are the one who fills out all that paperwork. You decide what last name the baby will have.
There is no way to avoid all stress when you are pregnant. Believe it or not your condition is not that delicate. If you want to go to the trouble of becoming emancipated you can live by yourself. It takes a lot of legal paperwork though and living on your own is expensive.
The cat thing could be a problem. Discuss it with your doctor next visit and have HIM tell your mom all about how cats are not good for pregnant women to be around. Basically the litter box needs changed daily and you need to stay away from it. Here is a web site that explains all that. Talk to your doctor about any questions you have.
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Good luck. :)
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