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This guy who likes me likes pot, too
I like this guy a lot. And only my best friends know I like him. And I think I love him. We talk from time to time. But we arn't friends: he is popular and I have lik 20 close friends, but we're not popular, just really friendly. So we talk about hockey (Because we both play) and that is basically it. I was planning on telling him how i feel about him next time I see him.
But today, I was talking with my really good friend who I just told the other day (making her the 4th person who knows) and she said that he smoked pot. Now, this person isn't one to gossip--- she never does, doesn't say anything unless its true, but today, she said she was almost positive that ricky smoked pot.
My dad is very ANTI drug ANTI sex ANTI anything illegal. But he really likes this kid; they met via my hockey. He says we would make a great couple.
I would date him if he smokes, because I care for this guy so much, I think i might be able to change that *it sounds mean,-- i dont want it to* but my dad wouldn't stand for it.
I really don't know what to do. I'm sure if I tell this guy that I like him, he'll like he too, because everyone knows he has a thing for me. Please help me!
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Yeah my boyfriend does it too. Just don't tell your dad and he will never have to know! I dont think you should get him to stop because it might offend him..he might think you are tryin to change who he is. Just some info...you don't get addicted if you are smoking pot so if he wants to stop he could.
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just don't tell your dad he smokes, its not really a big deal. it should be legal anyways.
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If you really like this guy then I suggest you tell him how you feel.
As for the smoking pot business, there are certain things that you can't change about a person and this is one of them.
Smoking becomes addictive and if he's being doing it for a long time them it wont be easy for him to give it up...that's even if he wants to give it up.
You can't really change it about him or make him stop but you can let him know how you feel about it and that it's not good for him.
If you guy's end up together and you keep harping on him to stop smoking because your dad wont approve of it he might decide to leave you.
Just remember that if he's into smoking and your not, it might affect you and you could start too.
Then again if he really cares about you like you care about him, he will make an effort to stop smoking.
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He might of tried pot but no offence almost everyone in highschool has, unless yur a really good kid. Just ask him about it. Tell him you like him, but if he smokes pot you can't go out w/ him. If he really likes you he'll give up pot for you. Sorry, I don't know what else to say. Good Luck!!!I hope the rumors a lie!!!
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Like the first person said, find out if he smokes pot before you do anything. After that it's up to you.
I'm not gonna tell you to go after him, or to leave him just because he smokes pot...yeah it is obviously not one of the healthier things a person can do for themselves, and you could try to change him, but no guarantees. I, myself, do not smoke pot. However I do have friends that do, and I wouldnt be judgemental and rule out somebody just because of that. It's really up to you, you can talk to your dad about it and see what he says too.
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It is not reality to think that you can change another person. He will probably just get good at hiding it from you. Sorry that you like him so much, but he won't be popular for long. Smoking pot will drag a person down and you don't want to be involved in that. You deserve better. Tell your Dad "He's not my type and if you knew more you wouldn't approve" and leave it at that.
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Well, first find out if its true that he smokes pot. Like just come out & ask him or be like "Theres a rumor going around, you smoke pot. Is it true?" Or you know however you wanna phrase it. Then, if he answers no, tell him you like him. If he says yes, then I'd move on to someone else..because even though you say you won't smoke it, or say he won't talk you into it, theres a good chance he will. Because you'd want him to 'still like you' & all that other kinda thing. So, I'd just move on. There is plenty of other boys. Trust me.. inlesssssss.. before you date him, you get him to stop smoking pot.. then it would be all good. But, if you can't I'd just stay away from him.
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