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my mom hates that i'm bi
i dont know what to say to my mother when she calls me a stupid lesbian, a worthless faggot, and other demeaning things. it doesnt hurt me like it used to (everyone knows my mom's a bitch, and that she's the epitome of insanity) but it makes me pretty mad. i really dont know what a can say back to her to get her to shut up and back off. bitch doesnt phaze her b/c people call her that everyday. i know i sound like i'm putting her down, but that's what she's always done to me since i was about 5 (i'm 16 now). anyway, i'd appreciate some suggestions on what i could do or say to make the situation better. i really cant take it anymore.
and please dont leave me an immature comment saying 'oh well why don't you just quit being bi' or somthing like that. it's just not that simple.
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You need to tell your mother to quit worrying about your life and start worrying about hers. Because you can make your own descisions being bisexual isn't really a good descision, but it's your life, and that's the way you want to live it so she really needs to back off. You can talk to a guidance councelor, or get family counseling.
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i would tell you to have a talk with your mom but you said she's a bitch so that wouldnt work.
so all i can say is tell someone because thats what you call emotional abuse.
and this can cause serious damage in the future
Jazzy**
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OK, look if you want your mom off you, give this a try: think back to a time when she did something too you when you were really young and she didnt know you were bi at that time. Ask her to remember that time then tell her thats the reason your bi. She will be stammering after that bit.
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Verbal abuse is still abuse. She shouldn't be doing that, so just tell her what you think. If she cares about you she'll listen and stop. Just tell her you can't live around that kind of abuse and she's only making your life hard.
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Talk to your mother. Show that you are a mature adult and you want to talk things over, tell her that what she is doing isn't right.
Tell her that you are her daughter and she should love you no matter what or who you become.
I'm not bi or gay but I know for sure that all my family would be against it.
I don't have anything against people who are bi or gay or lesbian, I give them credit for 'coming out' and telling people.
She should see that you are happy being this way, don't let her get to you, you'll just show her that she's won and she obviously wants that satisfaction.
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My friends mom is like that, so I know what you're talking about. What always gets at my mom is tears. I'm not saying you should cry to get what you want, but like real meaningful tears. just sit her down and tell her that you can't help being bisexual. Is she not a meaningful talking kind of person? Then show a little backbone!! Does she do some bad habits? Something you hate? Show her! Embarress her! Create a plan with some of your friends (I know that's mean, and it's your mom, but sometimes getting back is good.) I really hope I helped you and not have given you the worst advice ever :/
May I just say that I think it's totally awsome that your bi! People need to stand up for themselves in this country!! You really are an inspiration to the future of america
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Hi
I'm not going to pretend to know what it must feel like to be in your shoes, but I will try to help.
Being bisexual, homosexual, or anything that doesn't fit in the "norm" can be very hard for some people to accept. That part I don't understand. You are who you are, and you deserve to be loved and respected no matter what.
I get the feeling that you and your mother didn't exactly have a great relationship even before you told her your preference. It's really sad that she isn't more understanding of your life.
The way I would handle your situation is to not give in to her childish ways of name calling. When she calls you worthless, and stupid, the best thing to do would be walk away. This may seem hard to do, because naturally you want to stick up for yourself, but by walking away you are showing her that you will not tolerate her offensive behaviour towards you.
It sounds like you need to be the grown up in this situation. The bigger person would not let the name calling escalate into a full blown fight.
Hopefully one day your mom can accept you for who you are, but please know that if she doesn't, you have done nothing wrong. You need to live your life for you, and only you.
Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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im also bi but i chose not tell my mom till im a lil older but you should just sit her down and tell her how you feel and that thier is no critisisim that is gonna change the way you are and that she and you should try to make the best of it and not 2 be immature about the situation i hope i helped
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your mom has no right to say those things to you. you could try to show her (pretend) that it doesn't bother you, or say like, "i don't care what you think of me. people that love me will accept who i am." if you want to develop a better relationship with your mom, you could try talking to her about it, and explain how you feel. maybe she doesn't know how much the things she says hurts you. in any case, she shouldn't be saying those things at all - she's your mother! to get her to back off, just be mature with your comeback by saying something like i previously mentioned. good luck!
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