I am white and I pretty much only hang out with black people. i started out at a school were only white people go until 8th grade, then i switched to a school where its only blacks and stuff so i basically just hang out with black people and i like it that way, i like hanging out with black people and i just dont really like white people. anyways...at lunch i sit with my friends that are black girls and these white boys theyre like skater racist rednecks (im not trying to judge them) and we pass them, and i know 2 of them from my old school..and so they obviously talk about me because when i passed them the other day they go hey white girl and i just ignored them, then today they did it again and i turned around and my friend manolitha who is black said "you need to take that white girl shit and shove it up your ass bitch!" and we jsut walked away...the thing i dont get is why are they saying 'hey white girl' when they are white too? im just really confused and i dont get them for saying that to me. please help.
because it gets your attention, and because it's what makes you different from most of your peers. i can't really tell if they mean it insultingly, but i guess they could be. ignore them. you know who your real friends are. best of luck.
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This is going to be long because I have to give a bit of background information to make you understand this better. I am 14 years old, a freshman in highschool and I have a great friend named Brian, aslo 14 and a freshman in highschool. When Brian was in 4th grade he had to get surgery on his... area (if you get where I'm going with this) The reason for the surgery was that one testical wasn't where it should be so basically they had to put it back in place. He had confided this secret in his best friend, so he thought. About a week later he found out that his "best friend" had told everyone about the surgery and that he had said to everyone that he had a tesical removed. From then on, he was known as uni- ball, one balled brian, rude, childish names like that. He has a somewhat feminine voice so his voice would make you think that he was gay. He isn't gay at all, he's completely straight and has had girlfriends in the past. On top of him being called uni-ball and whatnot, people started calling him, fag, homo, fudge packer... that kind of stuff. He got depressed and started cutting. We are now in 9th grade and he seems to be okay. Everything just mentioned is only what I know from him because he will not for the life of him go into detail about anything because he is too embarassed and will not trust anyone. When we started highschool the rumors started up again. Today in class we were assigned to get into our groups and I sat with him and asked him what was wrong. He was ready to break down and cry at that point. He was so upset that the rumors had started up again. Brian is a very nice guy, he's not gay and he is NOT missing a testical! Everyone is tourmenting him about it and I fear for him that he is going to start getting depressed again. I want to help him out and be there to comfort him but I don't know what to say to him, I obviously can't say I know how you feel because I don't. I just met him this year and he's one of my best friends. I'm very hurt by everything that is being said about him and I want to have the rumors stopped. With me, my friends come first no matter what. I want to help him out so bad, it hurts me to see him so upset. I gave him a hug and told him everything was going to be okay and he just broke down in tears because of everything that was going on. He can't trust anyone. I want to make him beleive that he can trust me and he can tell me anything! I understand that he's not able to trust people but I feel so horrible about everything that is going on. How can I help him? And how the hell can I make these terrible rumors stop because they are hurting one of my wonderful friends. I hate to see my friends in so much pain. Please help. Sorry this was so long.
Also... Please don't give smart ass remarks because this is a touchy subject.
I have no feelings for Brian in anyway like that because I have a boyfriend... that was for anyone who might have said why don't you go out with him.... or something stupid like that.
Thanks again.
Well, if you ever hear someone spreading those rumors, you should tell them that they really shouldn't spread things that aren't true. it's hard to stand up to your peers and everything... but it's best. anyhow, he does trust you, he told you what was wrong, and you can't make him trust you i guess... just don't tell others what he tells you, and be there for him, there's not much more you can do, sorry chica, best of luck
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do u people think its weird if ur a girl and tell a gurl u luv dem like when they are about 2 get offline? cuz my friend online who is lez said dat 2 me and i said it bak cuz i have known her 4 a while and she is like 1 of my best friends. is there sumthin wrong with that?cuz now that i think about it it kinda seems weird i juss said it witout thinkin.
much luv people!!
holla
lol, friends have a different kind of love than bfs/gfs so i wouldn't worry... if she starts hitting on you, i dunno, just grab the nearest guy for a hug or something, best of luck!
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well today in lunch my boyfriend, i duno if hes really my boyfriend, but im guessing he is cuz he told me he wass. i can't trust him AT ALL. he took my purse from me and took my cellphone and wouldn't give it back. i thought he was goin to do something to it, like break it or call people n stuff. so i turned him in, because hes like that he would do something bad to my phone, and that phone was so expensive. my friends say i did the right thing. but would u hate me? he got 3 days suspension by the way.
ok, ignoring the cell phone thing, why are you dating someone you don't trust?
i think if he'd threatened to do something to my phone, i may have done something too... but i think it'd have to be if he said he'd do something flatout bad to it... i mean, what if he was going to just write "i
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Ya I have this situation with this girl. Like we hung out a couple times and it was an awesome time. Like we both cuddled with each other made each other laugh and kissed. Then the last time we hung out which was 2wks ago, like i kept in touch with her always asking her to c if she wanted to do something and she says ya but when it comes down to it, she always has something else to do. This just didnt happen once but a couple of times during the 2wks. I know she doesnt mean to cuz she is always apologizing saying she is srry that she couldnt hang out and when im always online, she will always i-m first just sayin hey. Like i know she wants to c me more and she knows i have feelings for her and that i like her but i wanted to know what u guys think about this situation.. Hope u can give me some advice for this... Also she like rlly never calls me. Like i feel im always the one to call her and i hate that. Im sure some of u guys know what im talking about. lol but if u anyone has advice to give i would like to know what u think. thx -TiM-
try asking her what a good time to get together would be... that way she gives you a date that works for her, and therefore will work wonderfully!
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Lately a girl has been hanging out with my group of friends, and some of them have been getting to be really good friends with her. I don't really know this girl so i have been making it a point to invite her places, and include her in things that i am arranging. Well recently, i have found out that she has been having all of my friends over that i have know since middle school and making a point not to invite me. Should i confront her about the way that i feel like she is trying to exclude me?
Hmm, that's tricky. because you wouldn't want to seem like you're forcing the friendship... maybe try asking her about it if it happens again, just kind of a "aww... i wish i could have been there" thing may work... if it doesn't, i think i'd make sure to ask her
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there is this boy that goes to my skool and i used to have a crush on him until my friend called him on 3 way and she told him that i liked him and he was like HELL NO SHES UGLY AND FAT AND JUST HELL NO!!!! as you can tell 1 i was upset and 2 i was just str8 up MAD!!!so the next day at skool i told him my cousin Nikki(not a real person)had a crush on him well i pretended to be her on the foneand stuff and when we went to the movies my cousin pretended to be Nikki and he fell for it and he really liked her but some gurl thought that me and my friends were being mean and she told him what we were doing and hes mad...do you think he'll forgive me???Should i forgive him 4 what he said abuot me????PLEASE help me
if he doesn't forgive you, i wouldn't worry about it. he's being a craphead... i have trouble believing any guy worth your time would say what he said about you, about anyone. so don't forgive him, you deserved better!
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i hope you can help because everythings really weird and i cant figure out what to do. ok there's this guy and i met him about to years ago over the summer. we went out for about a year all together (it was an off and on relationship & he had other girls and i dated other guys) but i cant shake the fact that im in love with this kid... even though its been about 3 months since the last break-up and hes had 3 other girls. i like too other guys and the both like me. ones older ones my age (im 15 - if it helps any) the older one i like more ... alot more and hes always there but he wants sex. the one my age we hang out and always have fun but im not quite sure if hes on the same page as me... please help!! soon
ditch the older one, he's using you.
the one your age seems sweet, at least try it. try an move on from your ex, it's better for your sanity and self-esteem.
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okay. i'm a girl and i have hair on my....breast area, and i was wondering if there was anything i can do about it. plz help!!
wax? tweezing (can i get a y'ouch!?)
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My younger sister will be 18 soon, but she has a crush on a boy who is 15. He's a nice kid and they're good friends, but her self esteem is really low because he doesn't talk to her a lot and won't ask her out. I told her it was because he would be intimidated by her being older, and he doesn't seem interested in dating yet anyway so she should stop taking it personally and go find a guy her own age. She also displays some odd behaviors like buying a baby bottle to drink out of, and eating baby food. Am I being a stiff or should she grow up and move on?
You're definitely right... it's best to stay within a year of each others age... at least until they'll older... she really needs to start acting her age.
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If anyone has Internet Explorer, please help me..
You know how you click the arrow on the right side of the address bar, and all the sites you've recently been to show up?? Well how do you clear it? My friend told me how to "Clear the History" on it, but I forget and I forget who told me. But if anyone knows please tell me, thanks!!
push ctrl + h, then delete the folders that show up in the history bar
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Ok well, for Halloween I'm being Samara from The Ring. I have everything, i just need to find a white long, worn out, dress. Does anyone have any ideas where i could find one? thnx
xoxoxoxoxox
you can always try thrift stores around where you live
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Hi, I am a 14 year old female and I am in love with my best guyfriend. We have known eachother for 5 years and we go to the same school and we always sit together at lunch. But, I dont know if he likes me back! He is always sending mixed messeges to me and I can never figure it out! It is really frustrating me and I need to know if he likes me. We always mess around by like tripping eachother in the hallway or hitting eachother with books and stuff. I dont know if its just fun or flirting!I really want to know! Also, the other day, we were talking about who we liked, and i made up some guy and he was wondering who it was, so if that helps and the only reason that he sits with me at lunch is probably cuz im his only friend that goes to Sprayberry! thanks so much! i rate high!
ask him...
or! when he asks you who you like, make him guess... when he asks for a clue, tell him essentially something nice about himself, for example, "well, it's a constant struggle not to fall for him... he keeps trying to trip me," etc... (comment on his hair/eyes/whatever)
good luck
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I have a big problem.Over the summer I was smokin,drinking and doing alot of bad shit but know im here know and I want to change everythin in my life. I dont want to be so despreased or sad. I want to be happy.I'm trying to say that I want to change alot of things that has happened in my life.I also want to stop cuttin myself I try to but I just cant.So can you just please just help me a little that its all that I'm askin I dont want to be this way anymore.It's horrible!
So please help me!
-Amanda Marie
honey, don't let yourself get sucked back into that world. please, go to your school counselor and ask him/her for help on the cutting issue. once you move past that, being happy is going to be a lot easier.
you're already an extremely strong person, you have the courage to tell all of us that the smoking drinking and bad stuff, was wrong. that's the hardest part... now it's just time to make you even stronger and help you stop cutting. i have a few friends who used to, and they said that they would go exercise whenever they got the urge to cut, that way they were getting healthier in more ways than one...
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I have a pretty hard life, it's not easy in this town. I always have alot on my mind, but since last year I've been counting on beer to clear my mind...I wanted to know why a little alcohol makes me think about nothing...even when I'm not drunk?
because it's a depressant and apparently your body reacts to depressants by completely losing touch with the world around you. yeah. that's a great idea.
for your own health, please try and stop drinking, it can kill you... liver damage, alcohol poisoning... i bet you have more to offer the world than a bumbling alcoholic.
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ok my bestest friend i new scence i was in dippers she took my boyfriend.one day i was walking to my boyfriends house,and i open the door and they were kissing i just broke down and started crying.i miss him really much .what should i do get a new boyfriend?im not my friend lisas anymore
i'm so sorry about all this, sometimes crappy things suck...
but... i know you care for them, so i would really recommend moving on... if they want to be together that bad, there's not too much you'll be able to do... besides relationships that start like this normally break down due to guilt. when that happens, you cna decide if you'd rather but chicks before dicks, or vice versa. best of luck~
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what songs can a group of girls ( lets say abt 4 or 5 pple ) sing for a school contest ?
( rv idol ) preferably a simple song with a good chorus and a easy solo ? ( or none at all )
ok, i've seen a lot of talent contests at my school, and i've noticed that the girls who do the best job are those that pick a totally random, but fuuuun song to sing... you know, like disney ones, singing in the rain, musical type number, and those slightly older ones (like the car wash song they used in shark tales) gl!
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ok i have a problem..wel its not really a problem but i wanna lose about 10 pounds but i dont now how to?
start walking maybe a mile every other day... then jog, eventually try and run it... it's just hard to get to that endurance. eat less sugars and fats, drink more water, and not only will you look better, you'll feel amazing too...
fruit is your friend!
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please read this and answer .. ill rate u a 5! im a 14f and ok there is this guy that i met over the summer, he was friends with my guy friends and i met him and i thought he was cute, i dont go for guys because of looks, i go by personalit, and lets say his name is joe.. well joe tells people he thinks im hot and then we talk a little bit and flirt and then like 2 days later my friend Marie calls me and is like hey joe wanted to know if he can call u ... and she mentioned he might ask me out, but i wasnt sure if i was ready to go out with him and i was like ill talk to him tomorrow at the park because everyone hangs out at the park so i decided yeah ill answer him tomorrow. the thing is that he only was gonna stay for like a month so pretty soon he'll be leaving so yeah next day he totally ignores me at the park and later on this girl Jessica is having a party which i didnt get invited to and i hear that everyone gets drunk and jessica gives joe a blow job ... then i talk to joe and hes like idk we were drunk and stuff and then me and him were back on the track until then another girl pops up and he ditches me again, then he tells all his friends, which are my friends too that he was talkin to me on the phone and he said how we were gonna hook up and he makes a bunch of bs up too them, so yeah then he leaves back to Michigan (where he is from) without even saying anything. i talk to some of my guy friends about him and they tell me how much of a player he is and stuff how he brags he likes to be a pimp and all this bullshit but yeah then i talk to him over the internet a lot and hes like so sweet and tells me all these nice things how he misses me and wishes we would of hooked up and how he shouldnt of been with jessica and stuff and he tells me hes gonna be coming in a month but he doesnt come and then next time im online he is like im coming in 10 days so then i get REALLLLY happy but he ends up not coming and now my friend was talking to one of her friends Mark, and finds out that MARk & joe are cousins. and mark is like i heard u hooked up wit my cousin, he says that to my cousin, and shes like ur cousin? hes like yeah joe, he told me u and some other girl and him went partying a lot ... and she finds out more stuff that he is going to come and visit soon and now i dont know what to do.. i've fallin for him and i dont wanna hear forget about him, i need actual advice, i mean i think about him 24/7 and its just getting me mad ... what do i do? thanks a lot! sorry that its long!
call him, discuss this with him. explain to him that he hurt you when he did those things with jessica. let him know that he hurt you when he lied about being able to visit. let him know that just because you've fallen for him doesn't mean your going to accept all the crap he doles out. take a stand... and if all else fails, sweetheart, find someone less likely to screw with your emotions and a little more likely to love you for you and not go off for a blow job while DRUNK! being drunk is bad enough...
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hey, well, about a year ago, this random guy IMed me, and he and I have become good friends after that. Well, his name is Will. And when we first started talking, he had a g/f.I started to like him a lot, and his g/f absolutely hated me. She kept thinking that I would take Will away from her.Ever since she started thinking that, I tried to stay away.(getting new s/n and never talking to them again)Well, he ended up finding my new sn, and I just let it go, and we started talking again. His g/f finally asked me my # so we could three way. So, I let in and gave it to her.We started talking all the time after that. And just recently they broke up. While they were going out, I had a b/f. And then he dumped me after about 3 months.(that was the 2 time we went out)Well,Will called me about a week ago, and told me that he was so happy that he and his g/f broke up.and then he told me that he really liked me.Well...i got anothe b/f, let's call him "JC", and he's my friends ex-b/f. now she's all pissed at me. one day i was talking to Will's friend. and now Will's friend keeps saying to dump JC and go out with him.so now, Will and his friend are mad at each other, and i feel like it's my fault. So, Will called me last night and said " what if i figured out your address?" and i got kinda scared. cause, i know how dangerous it could be.What am i supposed to do?! Will and his friend are mad at each other, and my friend is pissed at me,and Will has my address. Please help. And sorry it's so long.
-jena
wow, i think i would talk to his ex and see if he's potentially dangerous. if you get an answer remotely close to yes, tell your parents! this is one of those things they should probably know...
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