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I got my period near the end of 2008-so I've had it for almost 2 years now
15/f
It never bothered before, but lately I've been noticing some slightly concerning things about my period...
-My period is NEVER regular. I've gone months apart without having a period. I don't think I've had my period in quite awhile. It just skips around randomly... Some times I'll go two months apart and then have another period a week after that one is finished.
-I wear a pantyliner everyday...Not just for odor though. For some reason, (and this is going to sound gross...) I always get sticky, clear, odd-smelling discharge in my underwear. I also sweat a lot down there...unfortunately.
-Also, when I AM on my period, it seems rather normal. It lasts anywhere from 3-8 days (never gone longer or shorter, I don't think) and it's a pretty normal flow.
-Sometimes, I'll get very light, very quick periods, very soon after i have a more normal one. I'm not sure why that is...
Anyways...should I be very concerned?
Is there any way I can treat this, if I need to at all, without assistance from a doctor? Of course, if it is highly advised to see a doctor, I certainly will.
On the topic of a doctor-what should I tell them questions should I ask if I need to do so?
Thank you so much, any help is appreciated. (link)
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Sometimes a woman's period is delayed, I have gone a month without a period before and I will end up getting the first week of the following month. If you have gone TWO months without a period then I would make an appointment with your gynecologist. Two months is a very long time to go without a period.
Discharges are normal for woman, I usually experience discharges after I had my period sometimes during and before.
To help with foul smell down there, You could try shaving (Hair traps odor) You could also try using baby powder or I know this sounds weird but spray on deodorant also helps a bit too.
3-8 days is a normal flow, Mine is about that long too. However, If you go two months without a period I would call the doctor that is a bit too long..
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sorry i did not know what to put this under.
I wanna spray on tan,how much do cost? (link)
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Depends, It can range from 20-100 dollars usually.
However, If you do get a spray tan make sure you don't go too cheap. Someone I knew got the spray tan and she looked unnatural and orange!!!
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14/f.
i really like this guy alot hes a year older than me He's probuly eveything i could ask for honestly
Hes's extreamly nice and everything that goes along with it. When were toghther we have such a good time. And idk he wants me to meet his parents because i guess they have been bugging him but i think i maybe a little young to start meeting parents and stuff.
I have with other guys but its a little weird
him wanting me to meet his parents. So i'm gunna sum this up why would he want me to meet his mom and dad and when i do meet them what would impress them? (link)
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There is a saying...
"Guys only bring the good girls home to Mama"
This is a good thing, Guys don't want to bring the slutty girls who fool around home to meet their parents. They want a decent girl who has respect for themselves. Obviously this guy picked you, You are the one he wants to meet his parents. Not only is this a good sign but it must mean that you have respect for yourself and you aren't the type that gets around (If you know what I mean) Guys usually want a lady, not a whore. If you want to put on a good impression just be yourself, Be polite, Introduce yourself and smile. Eye contact is plus, Dress appropriately. I'm sure they will think highly of you ;)
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hi
i need help
wheneva i go out with guyz i end up not liking them as much as when we arent going out and i dont kno wat to do cuz i always think i want a boyfrend but then once i get them i stop likin them what should i do ? (link)
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Maybe you should ask yourself if you are really into him, Not all guys are the dating material. Some girls have their standards, taste and like certain types of guys. Maybe the ones you are dating are just a friend type for you
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Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex? (link)
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In my opinion how do you know when you are ready? ..
1) If you DO end up pregnant, Are you ready to except the consequences?
2) Are you able to except the possibility that things might not go as you expect them too? (Sometimes people have high expectations for their first time of having sex, Then later feel awkward)
3) Are you willing to possibly risk the friendship? (Anything can happen, Even when you least expect it)
I honestly think you should wait, Sex is NOT everything. To be fully honest with you is isn't nothing more than a few minutes of fun and then it's over. Virginity is a ONE time thing, Which is usually why they say wait until marriage. Many people end up having sex at a young age these days, They get pregnant when they think it's impossible that it could ever happen to them! and then their young lives are all on the baby and things start going down hill. I say wait
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The only computer in my house is in my room. My dad is the only one who used it today and in a minimized window is "Literotica." I flipped back through the pages and he's reading titles in the Incest section under the searches "love," "lust," and "daddy."
I am his only daughter. I'm 17. He's 60.
I'm really disturbed. I've seen it on the history before but I've figured, everyone has strange fetishes. But incest?! This is really grossing me out. I feel like I have to hide my body now around him. I dress like most teenage girls-- short shorts, low cut tops-- and now I just want to cover up and die.
Should I bring it up with my mom? She's the only other one living in the house. I'm too embarrassed to tell my boyfriend. This is just so weird. My dad's seriously not a creep or a perv, this is just so unexpected.
Thanks for any advice =/ (link)
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Well, If it were me I also would be a little weirded out but on the other hand I would try to bare in mind that maybe it's just one of the guys weird fantasies? On the other hand you'd ask (Incest..) I would also be covering myself up more, God only knows what a person really thinks about. (I'm not saying your dad is a perv) I'm just saying people don't always tell the real truth of what they think about a situation. If you and your mother are close you could calmly explain to her how it made you feel. Don't take it all personally just yet, This might not even involve you. However on the other hand I don't think it would hurt to cover up a little more skin..
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I want to start using Mirena, which is a small insert that your doctor puts in. But i dont know if theres any horror storys about it.
Does anyone use this type of birth control, and if so what are the pro's and cons? (link)
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I was on the Mirena for 2 years, From my experience when I first had it inserted the pain was beyond bearable however at first it was great, After a month or so it got even better I didn't have a heavy period and all I had was light spotting and the best of all what could be any better than a birth control that lasted for 5 years?! ..That is until I started experiencing some nasty abdominal pain and had to have it removed....
I've also been on the Depo Provera shot worked well for awhile then gained 15 pounds.
Birth Control works differently for everyone, You may want to talk to your gynecologist about what one would be recommended for you.
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Okay so I'm 22/F and I'm in a relationship with a 24/M. I think I maybe bi...and I'm curious to maybe starting dating a girl or hooking up with a girl. My boyfriend says he doesn't mind it. Are there any websites to meet girls who are into hooking up with girls in a relationship? Or where could I meet a girl who would be interested in something like this. Any advice? Has anyone felt this way? Please share your experience! Thanks! (link)
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I am not going to listen this site publicly but if you message me to my inbox, I'd be happy to advise a site for you.
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What companines hire 14 year olds?
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Almost none, Most jobs require you to be at least 16 years old and they do DO decide to hire you even at 16 in most cases you need to have working papers. If you want a job at 14, You might want to try babysitting or dog walking.
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Can someone give me a link to the music video I Kissed a Girl? Who sings this song? Lyrics would be helpful also. (link)
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That song is sung by Katy Perry
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13/f
okayy well i sit next to this guy in science and i think hes cute..hes always makin me laugh and we argue over everything but just teasing..whenever i turn to him i catch him lookin at me and then turning away to talk to some other guy..he smiles alot whenever he sees me and i smile a lot when i see him...do u think he likes me?? (link)
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Probably, Ask him
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18/f
okay so this has really been bugging me and i was hoping you guys could give me some insight. not trying to sound conceited at ALL, just what i've heard .. alot of guys think i'm this hot girl and i am confident but i'm not a slut. i don't sleep around, still a virgin but why is it that guys with girlfriends ALWAYS try to talk and get with me? i don't understand!! do they think i'll cheat with them on their girlfriends or what? why me? it always happens to me, always. i'm just concerned i have something about me saying "i'll sleep with you even if you have a girlfriend" which is obviously not the case, and i haven't given anyone a reason to think that but i think it's ironic how guys who have girlfriends are always trying to get with me... why?? (link)
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Guys are visual, They make the wrong assumptions and half of the time they think about nothing but sex. If they have a girlfriend well...that sure tells you not only are they complete pigs but would give you the idea that maybe that is all they are in for. At 18, If you have not slept with anyone I have to say good for you.. Hands down! Finally someone out there that has respect for themselves. Most girls these days are about "getting laid" to keep their boyfriends or "think" they are in love continue on what you are doing, Don't give in to them manwhores.
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So my gf left me for her ex. About 2 weeks after that she started textin me and finally asked me to come hang out. So I did and ended up staying 2 nights. Had great sex, she told me she did have sex with her ex but pictured my face, knows she made a big fuck up, would do anything in the world to have me back in her life that we could and would make it together this time so I was gonna give her another chance but I needed time to get her trust back. She didnt understand what the wait was for and felt I was givin her the run around. I wanted to tell her the day after i left there in person i did wanna try again, but she went to her exs house and stayed the night. she said you expect me to wait on you forever im gonna be with her i just think its for the best and I do love and care for her. This was a week ago. She just now put on her myspace shes in a relationship and like 2 pics of her ex and one of them kissing. I left her a comment that said never let go of us, she hasnt deleted it and I am still on her top friends list. I do wanna be with her in time but what should I do? Not to mention her ex kicked her out of the house and if it wasnt for family shed be homeless. (link)
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It's pretty clear that not only had your ex betrayed you but you two ended up having sex and she left you in the shit hole and crawled BACK to her ex and you want her back?!!? Listen kiddo, She seemingly made up her mind, She went back to him for the second time. Sounds like someone who likes nothing but mind games and is a little on the immature side. Why you want her back, Good lord the ocean is full of fish.. and you want to wheel in a shark?
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so,, im 16 and i have had sex with 8 guys.. does that mean im a hoe?? or that i love sex too much? also. what is the best way to have sex that will feel the greatest?? make me orgasm faster?? (link)
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If you were to ask me, I certainly wouldn't say you weren't a little loose. 8 Guys at 16...Sheeshes
Sorry I couldn't help myself...
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There's a guy in my lunch period and everyday I walk by him he looks at me and lately I've worked up the courage to look him in the eyes as I walk by as well. It's really quite sweet, we hold each other's gaze until I'm behind him at my table. I'm the one to usually break the gaze. I'm really diggin him, he's cute and he skateboards, he used to smoke weed but he quit for lacrosse and because he didn't like who he was when he was high. Anyways, I feel like his looking at me is his first step to try and like.. tell me something. I want to talk to him but I don't want to just sit at his lunch table and he like "HEY!" haha so what do I do? Do you think I should even try to talk to him? What do you think him looking at me all the time means and him not breaking the gaze first.. ever? Thanks! (link)
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Smiling and eye contact should drop him the hints that you like him. If you want to make the next move then why not ask him to the dance? To save awkwardness you could simply say "Hey, I'm going to the dance that is coming up and I was just wondering if you'd be interested in being my date" That is simply put, It's not too forward and it's not awkward. If you don't feel comfortable with that then you could just walk up to him and start off with small talk. Compliment him, Say Hello, If you know he likes Lacrosse then go to one of his meets and afterward compliment him. If you go to his meet you could even wait until he approaches you first, If you keep smiling and making eye contact sooner or later he'll get the hint.
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Ok so I was wondering if I could make it so one of my friends doesnt see my facebook posts? I dont want to delete them from my friends but I dont want them to see my posts. Is this possible? (link)
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Yes it is possible,
You can separate your friends and make certain groups for them so they can only see what you want them to see. If you don't want certain friends to see your photo albums then you can make your albums private so only certain friends can view your albums. You can also go into privatecy settings and change who is allowed to view your profile in search.
If you want to make it so only certain friends can view your information you want to create a separate group for them, Go to the private settings on the upper right hand corner and go into "Privacy settings" There will be a list you can check off, It can be set to "Everyone, Friend of Friends etc." You want to select Customize and you can create a separate group for page viewing.
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Do I have to be 18 to get a bus ticket from Los Angeles to Las Vegas? (link)
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I've spent 5 years traveling from Rhode Island to Boston, MA by train and by bus they never ask me for my age or even my credit card. (I've always paid in cash) Never had an issue
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I was with my boyfriend for 1 year and a bit, he broke up with me last week on Tuesday. Then, the day after, we spoke and he said he just wants to call this a break and he already missed me and the only time he was happy that day was when he was talking to me. He then said he needs a few weeks to decide if we're going to get back together or not. Sunday night he was being a bit off with me (we decided to still be as close friends and we have been) so I said to him "It seems as if you've already made your decision" and he said he had. And that he doesn't want to get back together. Then, Monday and Tuesday night we just had such a good conversation on msn, like on Monday it was for about 5 hours non stop, only a few hours on Tuesday. He's told me he misses me, and we've got school holidays starting tomorrow and he had said last week that we can meet up in the holidays. So, I asked him last night about meeting up this weekend and he said he's not sure yet.
We can't get into a conversation about 'us' without us nearly arguing - one of us backs off, we've never ever had a serious argument, so I don't know how to get him to tell me how he feels. He's said he needs time but in the meantime we can be still be good mates and I have done that. He's just confused me so much. I've thought maybe he just needs to sort his own head out as well as deciding about us? Because it's a mystery to me how he said he needed a few weeks to decide, yet he decided in about 3 days!?
Idk really. I guess I'm just looking to vent or something. I've recently found out I'm depressed and have been since for a few months which I hadn't even noticed,(my mum dealt with the same thing a while ago) and I know I'm not ready to give up on him yet. I mean, it was only 2 weeks ago he was saying he couldn't imagine us not being together. We're each others first love.
I think I've come to the conclusion to meet up with him during the holidays as friends and just see where it goes from there, if we get back together then I know what to do right this time round.
I think most girls on here would say something along the lines of "guys are arseholes", "guys do nothing but play with girls' emotions". But no, he's the sweetest and nicest guy I don't think he would cause me this pain on purpose.
So, does anyone have any experiance with something similar? Or just any input on this whole situation? (link)
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Not to be harsh, but sounds like the guy is playing mind games with you.
Why wait around for a guy that doesn't know what he wants? If you two were to get back together personally (If it were me) it would leave me guessing whether he was really into me or not. One minute he says one thing and then the next day he says another? Well, We all have a life to live..and waiting around for some guy to get his facts together is just ridiculous I'm sorry to be harsh but I wouldn't wait around and play his games. If he was as sweet as you say he was, He wouldn't be playing with your head.
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What can i use instead of a dildo, because i can'not buy one and have no one to buy it for me. I use a plastic coat hanger (but ofcourse i clean it)but it doesn't seem to be working. All i do is stick it in and move it in and out which is what you are suppose to do but i feel no pleasure! PS: if i clean it with soap and water real good, can i get an infection? what can i use and how do i make it feel good, can i get an infection? (link)
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Yes you can get an infection, You can possibly get an infection with anything you use. Only because it is not sterilized and most of all IT IS NOT MEANT TO GO UP THERE.
Not only could a coat hanger possible tear you up there, but the chances of an infections can be high.
I do not suggest using anything that does not belong up there, They recommend dildos for a reason. If you can't buy one then use your hand not something that is unsanitized
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Been taking the pill for a month - perfect no problems.
On Sunday had sex (took my pill on sunday morning at 8)
Took My Pill Again At 8 On Monday - Which Was Fine, It Was Also THE LAST pill in the pack
Then had sex on tuesday morning BEFORE the time I would of taken my pill - but didnt take my pill because I finished the packet.
Am I pregnant?
I have to wait 7 days - should get my period then - if I dont should I go to the doctors? (link)
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I don't know why this is such a popular question ... "Am I pregnant" We do not know if you are pregnant or not.
The answer is simply take a test!!!!!!!!
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