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So confused?!
I was with my boyfriend for 1 year and a bit, he broke up with me last week on Tuesday. Then, the day after, we spoke and he said he just wants to call this a break and he already missed me and the only time he was happy that day was when he was talking to me. He then said he needs a few weeks to decide if we're going to get back together or not. Sunday night he was being a bit off with me (we decided to still be as close friends and we have been) so I said to him "It seems as if you've already made your decision" and he said he had. And that he doesn't want to get back together. Then, Monday and Tuesday night we just had such a good conversation on msn, like on Monday it was for about 5 hours non stop, only a few hours on Tuesday. He's told me he misses me, and we've got school holidays starting tomorrow and he had said last week that we can meet up in the holidays. So, I asked him last night about meeting up this weekend and he said he's not sure yet.
We can't get into a conversation about 'us' without us nearly arguing - one of us backs off, we've never ever had a serious argument, so I don't know how to get him to tell me how he feels. He's said he needs time but in the meantime we can be still be good mates and I have done that. He's just confused me so much. I've thought maybe he just needs to sort his own head out as well as deciding about us? Because it's a mystery to me how he said he needed a few weeks to decide, yet he decided in about 3 days!?
Idk really. I guess I'm just looking to vent or something. I've recently found out I'm depressed and have been since for a few months which I hadn't even noticed,(my mum dealt with the same thing a while ago) and I know I'm not ready to give up on him yet. I mean, it was only 2 weeks ago he was saying he couldn't imagine us not being together. We're each others first love.
I think I've come to the conclusion to meet up with him during the holidays as friends and just see where it goes from there, if we get back together then I know what to do right this time round.
I think most girls on here would say something along the lines of "guys are arseholes", "guys do nothing but play with girls' emotions". But no, he's the sweetest and nicest guy I don't think he would cause me this pain on purpose.
So, does anyone have any experiance with something similar? Or just any input on this whole situation?
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Not to be harsh, but sounds like the guy is playing mind games with you.
Why wait around for a guy that doesn't know what he wants? If you two were to get back together personally (If it were me) it would leave me guessing whether he was really into me or not. One minute he says one thing and then the next day he says another? Well, We all have a life to live..and waiting around for some guy to get his facts together is just ridiculous I'm sorry to be harsh but I wouldn't wait around and play his games. If he was as sweet as you say he was, He wouldn't be playing with your head.
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I feel like this exact thing has happened to me! A guy broke up with me but then we'd still be having these long talks and we even continued to hook up for awhile! I think that guys like this don't know how to treat girls, but they're not doing this on purpose. My advice, play hard to get. If he's going to be confusing and indecisive, he should have to work to get your attention. If you don't go running back to him everytime, he might figure out that he does actually want to be with you and he should get his act together before you lose interest! You're the girl and the girl is the one that should always hold the cards!
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