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My mom won't let me use tampons, she thinks that I'm irresponsible and she's afraid that I won't take it out every 4 hours or w/e. What can i do to persuade her?..I hate pads.
Also, I didn't get my period all last month...at all. Is there something wrong with me?
Honestly, no matter how old you are - it's your personal/hygienic preference & no one should have any rule over that. If you're responsible & feel like you strongly prefer to wear a tampon over a pad, that's your decision & your decision ONLY. You can talk to her & tell her you are aware of the risks & that you'll change very frequently so there's nothing she needs to worry about. If you have to, just buy the tampons out of the machines they have in the public bathrooms. It's not a big deal & I don't understand why it should be made out to be one if you are a responsible young lady.
To answer your other question, there's nothing wrong with you. Your period will be irregular for the first few years & even after that, it may not always come on time. It's completely normal & nothing you should be concerned about - unless you are sexually active.
i'm thinking about getting a magic tan this weekend and it would be my first time. i have some questions on it though..like i know you're in the nude (i mean, it's preferable so you dont get any tan lines and your clothing won't get stained) but is the booth private or is there some intructor out there watching? or do they speak over the intercom or what?
Yes, it's absolutely private at any tanning place you go to - typically with a lock on the door. There's no such thing as an "instructor" that watches you WHILE you're tanning. No one should interrupt or come in your room during your tanning session; I've never heard of that.
i want a good, yummy energy drink for a long day tomorrow. preferably something that's most like pop. the only one i've tried is red bull, and i didn't like it that much. is the monster drink any good, or the mt. dew drink, whatever it's called? i'm a super picky eater so i just mainly want something that'll taste good-- any suggestions?
I'm very picky myself. I usually stick with Rockstar. I don't think any of them taste like a soda.
when you have sex is it really necessary to be on the pill and have the guy wear a condom? or is it safe enough to just have a condom
According to Plannedparenthood.org:
"Of 100 women whose partners use condoms, about 15 will become pregnant during the first year of typical use.* Only two women will become pregnant with perfect use.**"
*Typical use refers to failure rates when use is not consistent or always correct.
**Perfect use refers to failure rates for those whose use is consistent and always correct.
Basically, you're not always going to be 100% protected with a condom. There's always a chance it will break or it won't be properly used every single time. If you are willing to take the risk to rely on that protection alone, have a back up plan to get the morning after pill within 72 hours after sex. But if you were smart, you would get on birth control AND wear a condom every time you had sex. If one method of protection fails, you'll always have something there to immediately back you up. :)
what would count as mental or emotional abuse from parents?
Mental/emotional abuse would be anything said or done that would make you feel like less of a person. My example: You fail at something like a class, test, or a sports game. & your parents say that you will never succeed at anything in life. Anything said that is extremely negative that brings down your self esteem would be that form of abuse.
Ok so i plan on getting my tounge peirced soon and i just wanted to know if those of you if any that have your tounge peirced or have gotten it peirced if it hurts? and if so how bad? and how long should it be swollen for?and also where i can buy a vibrating tounge ring also if possible can someone explain to me like how the prcess of getting peirced works please and thank you in advance
I have my tongue pierced - infact, I've gone through the process twice. I had it pierced one time, took it out for a few months because of job policy, & decided to repierce it again. A tongue piercing is different than most of the other piercings because your tongue is a muscle. I can tell you that it's a LOT less painful than it looks & sounds. Before I got mine done the first time, several people told me it wouldn't hurt at all & I thought that they were crazy. But from experience, I learned that they were right. I honestly, didn't feel a thing the first time, but felt a little prick the second time. If anything is somewhat painful, it's only for a couple seconds. The swelling, on the other hand, is not the part to look forward to. TECHNICALLY, it takes several weeks for your tongue to completely "heal." But the swelling has always gone down dramatically within a few days after. Those days, it'll be very difficult to eat, drink, swallow pills & talk..so you should avoid making too much movement then. After those days, you'll be fine & back to normal again. Just talk to your piercer about the precautions, procedures, & things you should avoid then. The piercing process is a very short procedure: they'll have you sit down, rinse your mouth out with mouthwash, check for veins & mark a dot on your tongue. You'll stick out your tongue & they'll apply the clamps to hold it out & pierce it with a needle within a second. Before my tongue piercing, I was NEVER a fan of needles, but I can tell you it's not bad at all. I'd have no problem doing it again if I had to - which I did, haha. About the vibrating tongue ring - I've never heard of that. I'd ask the piercer. But, if you have any other questions, feel free to ask. :)
In your feedback, you asked me how old you have to be to get it done. Most states require you to be atleast 18 to get a piercing without parental consent. But you can get it under 18 if you have a parent present & there to sign for you. Some places won't even do certain piercings, such as tongue piercings, for people younger than 18. It all depends on your state's & piercing place rules/laws.
16/f
alright me and my friend, dustin, have been friends forever. and like yeah we fool around.. we're kinda each others rebound.
well long story short.. tonight he came over.. and i figured he wanted something.. boy was i right.
at first he said he didnt want anything... and then night went on, we watched a movie and fooled around.. well.. then things started getting hot and heavy and he asked if i had condoms.. i said yea. well yeah i may have wanted it for a long time but it felt wrong because i was cheated on and didnt wanna get screwed over.
also i think that sex shouldnt be the only thing involved in a relationship.. it shouldnt matter. to me its the most distant thing in a relationship.. i guess what im trying to say is that i have morals.
but like did i make the right decision or was that his way of telling me he wants to be with me or something?
i need serious answers.. please and thanks =]
If you didn't sleep with him, you are making the right decision not to. But by continuing to fool around with him, you are putting yourself out there to get used & hurt. Being moral is being respectful to yourself & waiting until a serious relationship to do those things. You'll appreciate it later.
My boyfriend always promises me he's going to call and that we're going to hang out. I never get a call and when I do its to late to do anything. Or he will tell me to call him, and I will call, and he doesnt answer and when he does, he always says he'll call me back. Don't get me wrong, sometimes we do, but it seems theres more dont's then do's. Is it wrong for me to get upset ? I'm not mad at him, but I'm not sure, I just.. I feel upset when he doesn't call.. Is it wrong for me to feel this way ?
No, you have every right to feel upset. I have been in your position before & it's very frustrating. Just talk to him & tell him not to say anything he can't stick to. He doesn't need to be making promises to call you, but tell him you like for people to stay by their word. It can be possible he's avoiding you, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions quite yet until you talk to him & find out if there's a solution to this.
Well this morning at work I was really bored, so I sent an email to my friend then I decided 2 look in my boyfriends emails, were both totally comfortable with doing that other wise we wouldn't have given each other our passwords! We've been together for nearly 2 years! He's 20 and i'm nearly 19!
So I clicked in his inbox and found an email from him to this girl who is a lot younger then him! From what I could tell they were talking to each other before hand then my boyfriend sent this girl an email saying 'hey yeah its me hope everything will be ok i hope you feel better soon, just remember i'm always here 4 you ok? bye bye gorjus xxoo MWAH xoxox talk to you real soon' something along those lines.
Then she replied, oh thank u for your email it was so sweet it means so much to me, yeah i've had a bad day hopefully everything wil be ok soon. well like you said i'll talk to you real soon luv Nic xxoox. (something along those lines)
Now when I found this email I couldn't contact my boyfriend because he works in a factory, so when he finished he came to my work, I totally believed him that he hasn't or wont cheat on me. But I wanted to talk to him about it, i've spoken to him about it and he's apologied and I guess I made him feel a bit guilty but now I feel guilty because I made him feel guilty!!!!
I love him so much and I know that he loves me.. were suppose to be moving in together but I just don't know! I do not want to doubt him at all but I just need your opinion on this!
I keep asking myself why would he want to throw away 2 years..?! He's not like other guys he's sweet and different!
I just don't know what to do.. I don't want to break it off with him! I love him too much!
I can tell you it's completely fine to be a little worried about your situation. The best thing you can do in your position is to stay calm & get the facts before pointing fingers. Your first step is to admit to your actions: you came across some emails from this girl. He might get upset about you going through his emails, but if he was worried about that happening, he should have not given you access to his account in the beginning. Usually, you can tell by his reaction whether he's telling the truth or not. So have this discussion in person. If he overreacts & blows up when you approach him in a calm matter, it's possible there's something more going on. But if you confront him calmly & he explains who she is with no hesitation, then it's possible he's telling you the truth. Just whatever you do, do not accuse right up front. It could be very well possible that this girl just speaks/flirts like that to all her guy friends & has no intention of ever going after your boyfriend. If you can't trust or communicate with your boyfriend now, then I would not move in together until you can. Honesty & trust are important - & without either, your relationship isn't going to last very long. Good luck! :)
I'm wanting to get a monroe piercing. I was wondering how much it hurts from people who have gotten them. Thanks.
I had my monroe piercing for awhile. I'm pretty well with pain/needles/piercings & none of my piercings have ever hurt more than just a pinch. (I have my tongue pierced & my ears pierced three times in each.) But I must say the monroe piercing is a more painful piercing than the rest, but nothing most people can't tolerate. Pain is always going to vary per person. But it usually lasts for about a good 10 seconds & after that, it's not a big deal. :)
When you went to High school, did you meet a lot of new friends? Or did you tend to stay around the same people you hung around with in middle school?
thanks =]
I remained friends with about five people from middle school all the way throughout high school until now. I'd say that I definitely met a lot of new friends in high school. But moving out of state & starting a new school contributed to that as well. :)
woah. im really impressed
your 19 and your not on of those mindless 19 year olds
you have a good head on your sholders
and are really mature
and give really really good advice
no wonder you made top columnist!!
keep up the good work!!!
Aww, why thank you for the compliment! :)
Do the Parents actually have to go in with their kids into an r rated film...or could they just go with them and say "Yah these are my kids they have my permission to go to the movie". and i dont want anything like ooh just sneak into the movie....thanks abunch
You need an adult to be with you in the rated R movie.
what are some good comebacks to say when someone calls you a lez/bi and your not.. like theress a rumor going around saying that im a lez/bi (and yes it does get to me alot but i dont show it) like what would i say?
You don't need to say anything. They're probably just trying to get a rise out of you & by reacting or showing any sign of being upset, they're getting what they want. Just shake your head & walk away. You know what you are & aren't & that's all that matters. Once you get out of high school, you'll realize nothing anyone said or thought about you NEVER mattered. So don't stress over stuff like that. :)
okay my boyfriend cheated on me multiple times.
i really need to get back at him. how can i
make him really jealous or heartbroken?
and trust me when i say this.. HE DESERVES THIS
i know that revenge isn't good but sometimes
there is exceptions. dont start lecturning me
because i wont listen. k thanks
I can say that the mature thing would be to move on with your life & completely write him out. If you try to come up with some revenge, it shows that you still care & he still means something to you. The last thing you want to do is give him any attention. Yes, being cheated on is a horrible feeling - I've been there twice with 2 previous boyfriends. & I can understand you wanting to "get back" at him. But in the end, it doesn't solve anything. So be the better person, continue on with your life, & find some better people to spend your time with. Trying to make him jealous is immature. But if he sees that you're happy without him, you're absolutely free & he, just might, see what he's missing out on. :)
15/f
Okay. This is going to sound very weird...but how on EARTH do girls in my school show off their cleavage so damn MUCH? I mean...it's like WHOAH CLEAVAGE MUCH!??!....is it the kind of shirts they wear? Or do they just push themselves up? O_O
Push up & padded bras. Some are just naturally born with it & just wear tight, low cut shirts to flaunt them. Honestly, too much is tacky & disgusting. Certain colors, materials & styles of shirts can also make you look bigger.
15/f/110-115 lbs./5'4"
if i eat 0-500 calories a day and excercise for 10-30 minutes 3-6 days a week how much weight do you think i will lose over the course of a week?
That's extremely unhealthy. You're supposed to be getting around 1,800-2,000 calories a day. Cutting back your calorie intake that dramatically is a sign of anorexia. If you keep that up for so long, you're going to suffer from a lot of heart/health problems later on in life, if you live to see them. Trust me, I have to deal with a few myself. If you were decide to temporarily stick with that diet, your metabolism will crash & you will gain all that weight back (& quite possibly more) once you returned to your normal eating habits. A healthier approach would be to eat 5-6 small meals/snacks throughout the day. If your body gets in the routine of eating every few hours, it'll burn those calories faster because it knows it'll be eating sooner. Then stick to a 30 minute-1 hr workout 3-5 times a week & you should see results within a couple-few weeks.
ok im 15/f and i've never had a boyfriend IN MY LIFE. when i go places guys tell my friends they think im hott but they never talk to me! i dont know why i get lots of pretty compliments and im not fat (5'4" 120 lbs) or anything why dont i ever have a boyfriend? i hate it so much cause at dances and stuff a slow song comes up and i have to leave because i dont have a boyfriend and all my favorite songs are like romantic so it makes me want a boyfriend and i just want someone to love me as much as i love them i'm tired of "waiting" for the right guy i just want a boyfriend i dont want to be like "yeah i had my first boyfriend at 18" when everyone else is like "i had my first boyfriend and first kiss at 11" its kinda embarrasing. sorry i just need advice about this situation and what to do sorry this is so long. thank you soooo much if you help me out.
First off, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you or your situation. I was in your same shoes till I was 17 & I felt a little out of place too. But later on I realized there was no rush & no need to get worked up about experiencing those things "later" in life. Whether you have your first kiss at 11 or 18, it doesn't make you any better or any less of a person. There's nothing to be embarassed about. Maybe guys are intimidated by you. Maybe you're too pretty or out of a guy's league & they're too shy to approach you. Just because you haven't had a boyfriend yet doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you. You're still 15, you have plenty of time to find a boyfriend. In the meantime, be flirty & be yourself. If there's someone you're interested in, be the confident one to initiate something. Just don't fall into the thinking that the only way you'll be happy is if you're with someone. Someone will come along, don't worry. :)
i got new brown pants and i was just wondering what color shirts would match nice and what kind of shirt (sweatshirt, jacket, blouse, t-shirt etcetc.) would look good with the pants. thank you :]
A specific light pink or light green, white, or a cream color. Sometimes, I think it's possible to put together whatever colors together & top it off with a necklace or jacket that matches your pants. That way your pants will match something & your outfit won't look randomly put together.
how come people who want to lose weight drink like, 5-6 bottles of water a day?
Water cleans out your system & makes you feel full (& of course hydrated), making it easier to lose weight. :)