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Im 20 years old, I have faced many obstacles and problems that I have had to go through alone with no help and the help I recieved wasn't ever any good. I have faced women problems, friends moving, suicide, killings, deaths, car accidents, sibling rivals, fighting, weird hobbies, my best friends being raped. I have been through a little of everything and I was the one many of them turned to so I like to help out.

Hobbies: I do a lot of work in recording studios, and video/editing studios so I know film pretty well. I am a director/producer. Thats what I am in school for, to further my knowledge of set production for I am a pre production wizard. I read a lot so I have knowledge. And more.

Education: I graduated at the top 15 percent of my class in high school which was college prep, and right now im in my 3rd year od college. I have an AA degree in media arts, a 6 month screen writing certificate from NYFA. I am 11 months from my BA in FILM and HDTV, and I am a semester away from an International Business Degree.

SO if you have any questions im polite and easy to talk with and you can ask me any question you have, I will be honest no matter what.
E-mail: spin18@aol.com
Gender: Male
Location: New Mexico but live in AZ
Occupation: Sudent/Film and TV Producer
Age: 20
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I already do know, and I want to be what I want to be. . (link)
I answer a lot of questions so are you the goth? Or which person might I be talking too?


Does It hurt to get your nose pierced? I really wanna get it done!! (link)
Depends on what part? If you get the outer nose pieced it doesn't hurt that bad, but if you get the middle pierced it stings a little nothing to bad. And it also depends on how sensetive your skin is.;

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I have a problem, I put posters all over my walls, I act depressive & miserable, just because thats how I am, and I write poetry & i do things I want to do, and I wear black nail polish and tons of bracelets, But I dont have much money to buy the clothing, and everyone thinks Im weird becasue I act what they say I am *goth* but I dont really dress like one, I try to explain that I dont have alot of money right now and Im not poor, but my mom doesnt like paying for me, because I liek to get these clothes that are exspensive at hot topic. . I like the music too. . I dont know why I just do, so I decided that maybe My heart is telling me I should be. . Gothic. I wouldnt mind being gothic either, but is it the right path for me? I dont care much whne people make fun of me, I just ignore it, like they are invisiable, its like I enter my own world and I am just staring at things, I dont see outside of my head and someone said i looked like I was possed by the devil! I like love satan! I cant help it, it is just my beliefs Im not trying to fit in, im not trying to be cool its just how I freaking feel! I like to wear dark make- up and black is like my fave color, I try to mix my clothes ot make i look funky, untill I get some money to buy more clothing. . I just got a bass/guitar too . . I am also ina school with tons of ghetto people, they always make fun of me and make me go through a life of torture, I only have acouple friends there, and thne I have 3 others outside of school who live where I used to live, I have 7 friends in school, 10 friends total, but 2 out of 10 are guys and the rets are girls, and htey guys r kidna my firned but not really like they act like my firned but they barely talk to me, well one of them makes me laugh all the time and talks to me. . Well
All I wanna know is, am I following the right path? LyA, Bye!

Signed, Confused. (link)
Ok let me tell you this, most people who say they are goth aren't even goth. You are or you aren't. First you have to understand what Goth is what a real Goth is. SO until you know and have the feeling for what it means I would suggest you just say you like wearing the clothes.

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One time when I was washing dishes I went to wash A knife, but I stopped and I started feelign angry and I got sad i starte dto cry I tried slitting my writs by my hands got too weak, I dropped the knife back into the sinka nd I just had a tear drible dwn my face when my mom wlaked downa nd asked me what was that. . I otld her nothing. Then the day afterwards I was washing dishes again when I decided to do it again, But I couldnt, I just couldnt.!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? WHYA M ID OING THIS TO MYSELF? I feel so frustrated because people at my school make fun of me, but I try not to let it get to me, and My frineds are ditching me because IM chnaging. I only have 3 friends I really trust and at my new school I have like a group of 5 girls, and 2 guys that talk to me! Its just not fair. !!!!!!!! Please help me figure out my life! (link)
Hey im sorry to hear that things are going wrong in your life. We all have things just as bad some times, from the story you told me it looks like your looking for a way out. Let me ask you do you feel lost in life? And let your friends be the least of your worries, because trust me they are there just when you change or they change I feel the need for space to figure things out, I know this I have lost so many friends for so many different reasons, and what I've learned a friend thats worth keeping is a friend that waits and helps. I can't say what is wrong with you because I don't know what else is going on in your life. So this is what you are going to do tell me what ever else is going on/wrong in your life and we will take it one step at a time. if you want you can email at Cspinoza1@aol.com

And my name is Chris, you can trust me I know the feeling.


my friend ........ likes me and i dont like him and i heard from my friends and alot of other people that he is going to ask me out but i dont like him. i dont know what to do i dont want to go out with him but i dont want to hurt his feelings because he really likes me and a laot of people say i should go out with ........ but i dont like him what should i do ???????? (link)
Just be honest, I know you don't want to but it will get a hell of a lot worst if you wait to tell him because he will continute thinking you like him. Why not accept the date and explain to him that you don't want to be more than friends im sure he will understand.

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Those students in New York State are required to take regents either in January or in June. If New York is one of the only states that has to take regents, then why don't they just do what other schools in other states are doing? (link)
Dude, just accept it, every other state in the Us has different regulations if you will, so that means there is nothing you can do.

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i have had my belly button pierced for 4 years and lately i have been filling the bar in between the top of the bar to the bottom i used to always be able to fill it but lately i can feel it more than ever so i was wondering could it be possible that it is growing out and should i take it out before it gets ripped out please help (link)
Yea take it out or it will rip, the best thing to do is go and get a new one, sometimes you gain and lose weight or strech out and you can't tell so I would take it out, and if you feel like it get a different bar.


i want to get a gutar, but i dont no what to get? i dont want it to hurt my fingers but i want to rock!

what should i get? (link)
Its impossible for your fingers not to hurt when you buy your first guitar, so if you don't want your fingers to hurt don't buy one. But if your life me I saved to by the best I would a a fender that was my first guitar, but if you want something decent not so expensive get an Epi Sg300 its a good first start. Even a soft guitar will hurt the tips of your string fingers because they need to get calatyst so. The easiest way for your fingers not to hurt is wear skin tight gloves, I forget what they are made out of but they don't get in the way or they aren't think so they won't press other string or even touch them.


a girl likes me i dont like her and she wont leave me alone.what do i do

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Dude tell her don't lead her on of it makes matter worst and you will feel a lot worst .

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ok i was having sex with this one guy tony and i couldnt stop. but finnaly it was time u know to take off my thong and put on a condom (on him of course) and so my thong wouldnt come off (it was one of the ones that u r supose to tie) and so he ripped it off and when i was putting the condom on him the door bell rang so i had to get up u know and i was like oh damn we have to stop but he was like oh let it ring we need to do it anyways i hope i am going to do it all night and i was like oh u bet ur luckie ass on that and i couldnt stop and we were burning rubber (when u go really fast and it starts to burn) then i had to go pee so i told him i had to stop so i did then when i came back i saw his friends looking and they have been looking since we started! so i told them they can come in in 10 mins so they were still looking and i was yelling oh tony oh tony and he was like oh jenny oh jenny and then i told his friends to come in. then i got drunk then i was having a three sum and then another guy came in and so in was like a 4 sum. and then they had to go home but i told tony to stay and we were doing it all night. then the next day was school and everyone was staring at me and i was asking the guys i did it with wut wuz going on and they told the whole school and i turned around and 3 guys were humping me so i told them to come to my house so when we went to my house i grabed a whip and everything so i was doing it all night with them! but i took a pregnantcy test and it said i was pregnant but i didnt know whos baby!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
The only way is a blood test. And honestly I wouldnt be worring about that, I would be worried about an STD if I were you. SO get yourself tested because right now being worried about being pregnaut should be the at the bottom of your list. And what the hell were you thinking 6 guys?

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Does it hurt to get your ears pierced or your nose or your cartilige or whatever????? (link)
Your ears don't hurt, your nose a little sting depending on the place but I thought it hurt a little.

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Anyone here skateboard? I mean, I really want to know how to. I live in California. Does anyone know where a cool skateboarding lesson guy person is or something? I really want to be like my brother and skate with him all the time!

Thanx! (link)
Yea I can skate. What part of Cali. If your in La look for any shop called the Frontier I believe they are a chain in Cali and if in LA ask for Brian Kingston he is the best and he teaches anyone who is willing to learn.

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Can anyone tell me if surfing is hard or easy or anything? I mean, it looks totally awesome! I lived in Hawaii for 5 and a half years, but that was when I was in, like, 1st grade. Well, I moved to CA in the middle of 1st grade. Please tell me if it is hard or easy. I really want to know!

Thanx! (link)
Its fairly easy you can learn to stand and hold balance really fast in like a few hours, but becoming good is just like everything else it take practice. Its a lot easier than a lot of other sports. But just remember every sport takes time.

Cspinoza


Can someone give me some names for a girl and a boy, please? I love writing stories, but I don't know any good names! PLEASE help! (link)
James Smith
Adrienne Miller
Chris Romero
Regina Martinez
Kelsey Nelson
Isaac Ortega

Hope those work, and yea I came up with them I don't know anyone with those names


I have been friends with this guy for 6 years ever since i was 9 as we got older things started to change i started to like him for more than a friend. he is the guy that when i see him i always feel better i haved some major medical problems and afterwards he always cheers me up but latly he hasen't been comming to his moms house that much so i don't get to see him but once a month i don't know what to do? (link)
Fix the relationship if you know what I mean. Call him talk with him more often so that you don't feel like your on the side burner you know what I mean. Gradually bring him back into your life and gradually pull him back into your life, with small conversation (making up for lost time)


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I told my friends and family that I was thinking of becoming a lesbian and they just laughed. What do i do to make them believe me? (link)
You can't make them believe by saying im going to become a lesbian. You are or you aren't, so if you are the only way to show that is by bringing a girl home. ANd make sure you are a lesbian though because it will be kinda weird saying you are and you find out your not.

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HERE IT GOES!!
I answer Questions but its time for YOU to HELP me.
I know this guy "Keagen" and I totally like him! I THINK he likes me but I can't be sure! I don't know of I should tell him how i feel or not. we can't date til' were 16 but thats not the problem. I mean we have been alone togather before and stuff but its hard for me to really know. when i think of him i feel as if im floating and there is nothinkg better in the world than thinking of him! i have this feeling at pit of my stomic when ever ithink of him i can't get rid fo it! i think of him even if im trying not too! when he see's me he is allways watchinkg me and when he looks at me its different then when other guys look at me. his voice sound TOTALLY different when he talks to me. its like he is be EXTRA sweet to me! and he is guy that goofs off ALOT! i just don't know what to do! last year i sent him a valentine marked and "the cat" well the next time he saw me he said "hello cat" well i lied and said that i didn't send him a card but when told him that his face just fell! like he was dissapointed! so I REALLY need some advice! PLEASE help! should i tell him or not? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sincerely
KATHLEEN (link)
I say tell him, because if you wait to long someone else might tell him and where does that put you? In a position you don't want to be in. And its best to get the feelings out so that you have time to figure out where the relationship is going. And its to my experience its not good to hold those feelings because you normally wait too long.

TELL HIM!!

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How come there is no boys asking questions? I'm a guy and I have a question... anyways... I'm kinda shy when the topic asking girls out comes up. I'm 13 and I dont ever think im going to get a girlfriend, because im so scared on what would i do if i asked someone out and then they said yes? i mean i dont know how to make out and stuff like that... what should i do? (link)
Hey, im a guy and well the only thing to do is swallow your shyness and ask, and most girls don't want to make out on their first date with a guy, it rarely happens so I wouldn't worry about that. And I know what you mean I would never cheat on a girl either. The only way to get rid of being shy, is just talking to people you don't know. And just follow the norm if your too shy a movie and a dinner or get creative im sure you habe it in you.

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I know this guy lets call him CTW and i told me friend to call him she did and she told him i liked him... i do. and i don't know him that well but i'm in 7th grade and he rode my bus in 5th grade he's been at a couple partys and i think he's really nice. There is only one thing, i think he has some brain problems cause my friend said he is dangerous and he spazes out and hurts people while he spazes like on purpose but uncontolably he is going to sit at our lunch table when he is unsuspended for punching this kid but He would never purposly hurt someone. I know he will go out with me i just am not sure. can someone help me? (link)
TO tell you the truth I don't think its worth putting yourself in that situation. Come on he could hurt you, because you don't know someone that well because you talk to them and or like them. I say spend some time with him, with friends around because you don't want to get caught in a situation where he gets angry and your the one he takes it out on. SO its your choice, I say be careful and get to know him a lot better.

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Not to be rude or anything, but I'm not trying to follow the trend, I just like it, and If i like it, then I should do it right? Im not trying to be cool, or popular. . I just wanna be what suits me best. I happen to liek the clothing gothic people wear, and I sometimes act as if i were gothic. So I guess you misunderstood. . well bye (link)
Your not being rude. Or your not posing actually its hard to find a real goth now a days because everyone has become fasinated with the clothes they wear. like the plaid colored pants only goths used to wear those and now they many people do. SO its cool keep your style dont change

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