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hey i'm courtney! :)
i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.

advice

ok well..me and my bf have been datting for 8 months almost 9. Well the last spring break we had when we were out of school.. i meet some new friends..6 of them. 3 girls.. and 3 boys. well one night all the girls were watching the guys play basketball. Well out of the blue one of them says ok..jack( not real name) I dare you to kiss Summer ( me) if I make this shot. and of course he made it. well I kinda see jack glance over at me... and im thinkinh?? is he really going to do it? then he walks over and kiss's me on the lips twice. well one night I was talking to the guy that kissed me on AIM! and he goes "Just got my braces off' and I was like " kool" he said " that way when I come back down there will be more room for your tounge" and I was thinking " o god" well I have a bestfriend who I tell EVEYTHING to well I was talking to her and Imed her the convo. showing here what I he said! well I accidentally.. semt it to my bf instead of her! and I was so.. MAD! well now.. he broke up with me.. and were back together.. but..he still cant get over it. like he will call me and when im not there he will IM me saying "YOUR PROBLEY AT THE POOL WITH JACK" and I dont even like Jack and I dont know what I can do to get his trust back any suggestions?

MUCH LOVE

He'll hold it over you head for awhile. You just got to be glad he took you back and stick it out. Be happy with what you got hon. He just probably was hurt. Ask him if he needs to talk. And tell him how when he makes remarks like that how he makes you feel.

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Theres this one song in the movie 'Click' with Adam Sandler that I am trying to find the name of. It plays when he is flashing back to his father. It seems like a sad emotional song. One of the lines is something like 'you've got me wrapped around your fingertips', and I tried googling that but the song did not come up. I also went on movie websites to see the songs on Click's sound track, and the song wasn't even there. Please help me find the name of this.

the song is linger. by cranberries.

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ok...well I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I love him very much and he loves me. The only problem is he wants to have sex and I don't know. I am only 17 (will be 18 in December) and he just turned 19.! There is a part of me that wants to but another part of me that doesn't cause I kinda want to wait till marrage and I don't want to take a chance of becoming pregent. I thinks it more the pregent part. What should I do?

Well,I had sex at 16 with my boyfriend who was 18 then... and he wanted to and i didn't. but I still did.I don't regret it b/c I'm still with him to this day, but I wish I would have waited. Using a condum would make you not get pregnant. Or get on birth-control.

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With t-mobile, can you get a new phone after the first month & still get the phone with a discount or do you have to pay the phone's full price?
Or do you have to wait until your 2 years until your plan is over to get a new phone. I have a razr & I'm kinda getting tired of it.
thnkxx :)

I have t-mobile now... you have to wait a couple more months before you can get a discounted cell. or if you realllly want you could pay the full amount for a new cell.

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hey!how do I get a guy whos looking just for a one time thing to want more???can u guys give me some tips?plzzzz im not looking forward to commitment just not a one time thing more likely if it could last all summer..since hes leaving after anyway
help plzzz
tips would mostly help..
thx in advance

Girl, if you got it FLAUNT IT! Get your flirt on with this fella' and make him want you. Be a tease.

Also, tell him you don't want a "commitment" type relationship. Just some fun times! =]



GOOD LUCK SWEETIE! ♥

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What are some good jazz songs that would be fun to sing too? I have this Audition and I wanted to sing a fun upbeat jazz song for it. Any Ideas?

Look up some songs from Ella Fitzgerald. Supposively she's REALLy good. =]
Billie Holliday



Frank Sinatra... he's legendary. lol.
Nat "King" Cole.
Ray Charles.


good luck!

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when you ask out a girl what's a good way to do it, how do i ask her out, and when should i know i'm ready

Do something sweet. That will make her happy/smile/blush/etc..
-buy her flowers.
-text her sweet messages.
- get her, her fave. candy or something.

- tell her you're into her and you'd love to take her on a date. if she's smart she'll accept.


*you'll know when you're ready. If you like her, and she makes you happy or laugh around her constantly, then you're ready* GOOD LUCK HONEY!

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when you eat out a girls vagina does it taste bad?

I'm not bi or a les... but it shouldn't taste nasty. or smell horrid. Ifso, they need to wash! and that's a lot of bacteria, don' do it again unless their clean. bad hygiene is NASTY!

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okay so there is this one guy i met on myspace, and he goes to the other school in my city, and our schools are rivals, but he knows all of my friends, and we are really hitting it off, but we have not met yet, and we have a date comingup, but in one of his pix it looks like he has some acne, and i think to myself i get too shallow, and i dont want to hurt this guys feelings, but what if my shallowness effects the way i feel about him?

part of chemistry is looks hon. just tell him if it becomes a problem you aren't into him. it happens. you can't help it turns you off sweetie. He'll find someone eventually.

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ooook so to make the story short, i liked my best guy friend for a year, never said anything because he had a girlfriend. he breaks up with the girlfriend and we start a friends with benefits relationship, i only gave him a hj and we felt each other up. i started to like him again, like alot, like i thought i loved him and the night i decide to tell him he gets a new girlfriend right before i get the courage to tell him. so we ended the friends with benefits for the month that his relationship lasted...then we started again with the benefits. drama started with his first ex after she found out what we were doing and we stopped for like 2 weeks and then started again. now 3 girls like him and he wants to end it for good. so my non boyfriend is ending our non relationship. i hinted to him that i still like him and he knows i used to like him but him being a stupid guy said "well since there were no feelings involved it should be easy to just stop" now i dont want to complicate all this even more so i told him that i dont like him. guess what i do like him and there were feelings involved. even though it was friends with benefits when we were together it was like we were going out because he was romantic about it. so yeah i feel like we're breaking up and tonight i cried more than i did after i broke up with an actual boyfriend i had last year.

how do i get over this? should i tell him i really do like him before he gets another girlfriend? i know friends with benefits wasn't a good idea if i have attachment issues but its too late for that so dont lecture me please.

Okay... Men are idiots {some}.. this guy seems like he just wanted you b/c no one else wanted him and you wanted him and he took advanage of that. you can't help you liked him though. its how you feel you know? So do tell him yes. He made the situation complicated already by involving other girls. so don't worry about that. tell him how he made it romantic and makes you feel special. he probably likes you too and doesn't care b/c he knows he can have you.

hope I helped.

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I was in an abusive relationship for almost
2 years. I won't go into details, I will say
it was physical abuse.

I was smart enough to finally say enough is enough
and get out. I do not intend to ever get back into
a relationship like that. So I don't need that kind of advice.

The problem is, it has been almost a year since
this happened. To say I am scared to get involved
in another relationship would be putting it mildly.

I am on my own, I have a decent job and many friends. But there is nobody "special" in my
life.

I cannot afford the expense of therapy, so even
though that would be a good suggestion, I just
can't afford it.

Is there anyone out there who has gone through something similar and would be willing to advise me on how to start dating and trusting men again?

I know they are not all like my ex, but how do I
begin again?


From someone who use to be in an abusive relationship...

- take baby steps.
-you don't have to open your heart right away completely.
- get to know the person before you make accusations.
- build trust.
- explain to them that you need to take it slow.
- talk to your friends when you need support and to vent. thats why their there for you.
- don't be so hard on yourself.
- let someone back in to care for you.
-just take it slow. build trust and commitment. =]

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how can i get myself to STOP masturbating.
any ideas are great.
15.f.

Why do you need to stop? Honestly, masturbation is very healthy.

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ok i want to re-do this question.. if thats ok with you.

I'm currently using Fructis sleek and shine shampoo and conditioner and I don't know why but I don't want to use it anymore. I want a change. Before, I asked you what brands you think are best. Well after reading some of the answers, i did research and changed my minds on some of them.

Pantene IS bad for your hair because they put chemicals in there, and after you use it awhile, your hair starts to turn bad.

Suave is NOT good because it dries out your hair and is cheap

Herbal Essences- Doesn't really do much except make your hair smell nice.


sooo that leaves me hanging by Dove and Sunsilk.

I NEED HELP! if you think that any of the information i've given is wrong, then please explain to me! I don't know why i've become so interested in shampoos but I really want to know what brand is healthy for you and what brands are not.

Any other brands that you want to tell me about that you think work great.

All i'm looking for is something that can make my hair less frizzy, smooth, shiney, soft and great smell.

my hair is straight but sometimes it can be a little wavy, it's allways frizzy.

I like to rotate my shampoos. Change it up. and my hair is very healthy. But if I had to choose a fave it'd be Dove. Or ,John Frieda for brunettes. they have them for blondes and redheads too}

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when people call you on restricted(*67) is there any way you can find out who it is? thanks!

You could try calling the phone company to look up the number and trace it. But they might not even have the number either. Try it and see. Goodluck!

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how do you make your arms thinner. im skinny but my arms are huge and so it makes everything else look big! even when i lift weights, i heard that like it just makes it musclier and not thin. is that true?

also, upper part of legs. how do you make them thinner?!

you should run on a treadmill with little weights in your hands. it will help trust me. I got the same issue. well had all i did was run with them weights and the pounds came off after a month. =] good luck!

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alrght so i have this friend who i have been really close with him for a while now, the other day we did some stuff that i never expected we would do [there were other ppl there] my problem is that i have this other really good friend who could possibly like him and he could possibly like her backk but he keeps on wanting to do stuff but it just doesnt seem fair to her or the other person i like.. what should i doo! =[

Sounds like to me, that this guy is just using you. Ask him what he really wants. And you should decide if he is worth having a melodramatic fight with your other friend over.

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www.myspace.com/DanielleSomething
Ok I love this hairstyle, I just have no idea what the back of it looks like. So..help me out please? Thx! Oh, and do you think it would look ok on me? Heres mine.. www.myspace.com/brixmariex3 I'm just worried since ive never seen it on a wider/fatter type face its always on skinny faces. Yes I know I'm preppy, but I like the emo type hairstyles and the makeup.

i think it would suite you well. but go get a tan to make it look more cooler.

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Why do I feel sick after every time I eat? err it's so annoying! It's not that I eat too much, or too little though.

If you are a girl then it's possible you have some sort of infection. like a yeast infection a minor one. if the sickness feeling keeps increasing then go to a doctor and tell them.
Or, it could just be a virus bug that's going around.

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I just wanted to say thanks for opening this even if you're not going to answer it! LOL! If you're a guy then you can really help me with this. Okay! So I wanted to know if guys like girls that are really easy or they like the ones that wait. I just wanted to know if guys lose respect for girls if the girl is all over them. I've tried to flirt but I might just suck at that. Like guys dont like me for me they dont want a relationship and I think its because they have no respect for me at all. I just dont know how to make guys like me just by talking to them. Because there's this guy that I like but he doesnt like me back and I dont know why but he does like this one girl and he says because she flirts with him and they have alot in common. And she only made out with him. Why does he like her and not me? I mean I cant change who I am at all because I've tried and it doesnt work out so well. I just dont like being used by someone and then being thrown away like trash! How can I change the way guys see me?

If you have showed this guy all you have to offer than maybe he just really doesn't mesh well with you. Guys are all different. Some like the real "easy" woman. Some want commitment. This guy might just be looking for a good time. & if he isn't interested in you then there will be an even more special guy for you that is. Although, if you REALLY want him to notice you more than this other girl, make him jealous. It's a bit immature, but a definite thing that gets their attention. Good luck.

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I'm a cutter, and I have been for over a year.
I'm trying to stop. For the most part its working but I've slipped up now.
I have a very deep cut on my ankle, the spot on the outside where the anklebone juts out. I cut it over a week ago, and its just scabbed[lightly] today.
It has a pulsing feeling, and hurts like heck.
The cut is about an inch long, and fairly thick.
Is it going to be alright?
I can't go to a doctor, because I can't tell my parents. Also, Is there a way to stop the pain???

well if the pain doesnt stop then you have to tell your parents.

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