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Q: One of my guy friends is really starting to annoy me. He just won't leave me alone! I will just be walking in the hall to my next class and he will follow me, even if he's not in the class. He's always poking me and putting his arm around me, and I don't want people to think we're a couple, which we're not. What should I do?

Just tell him to stop cuz you dont people to think that your a couple let him know how ya feel about it all. say you guys are only friends and thats all. nothing more nothing less. -trix

Q: My best friend is dating this guy that ive had a crush on for weeks now. I dont know what to do. When they go out i always have to go with them so their parents dont think they are doing bas things(which they are) and it kills me to watch them, what should i do??? Im so confused.

Just say i dont like to watch what you guys are doing it sorta grosses me out.. try to find someone else to go with you guys next time.. and try to keep your mind off him. sorry -trix

Q: ok there is this guy that really likes me i kinda like him to but he lives in oregon... but than the other day i met this kid who likes me and who i like alot and he lives here by me... i dont know what ro do i will feel bad if i get rid of either

Well if he lives in oregon and you dont.. and your most likely young.. i wouldnt date him because long distant relationships do not work usually and you may feel like you are only tying yourself down also... and i would go for the guy that lives there.. cuz you will see him and ect. sorry im not that awesome with this ? -trix

Q: I am a fourteen year old girl and I've been writing fiction, particularly fantasy, ever since I can remember. I'm suffering a minor case of writers block, and I'm looking for a challenge or a contest, preferably online with no entrance fee.

Does anyone know of any online contests going on right now? Any challenges?

Well i did that for poetry and i got mine published in a book and what i did is i looked at pop-ups and those sort of things. I also went to www.askjeeves.com www.ask.com same thing shorter version and there is also www.google.com or the search engine and just type in the kind of contest you want and type -free at the end or something like that. trix

Q: there is this guy that i REALLY like. but my best friend likes him to. im not sure what to do. do i keep liking him or do i look for another guy.

Well.. thats a tuffy.. honestly i have been in that situation before also.. i think we made a promise to eachother to not get mad at eachother if he likes me or if he likes her.. and then he ended up liking me and we went out and she never did get mad and then he went to her and back to me and now he is in the past. So just make sure you dont let a guy get inbetween you to cuz that is one of the most stupidest ways to end a good friendship and you would really regret it! trix

Q: HOW DO I KISS A GUY???? THIS IS URGENT.

Alot of people ask that same exact question.. there is no real way to kiss a guy. theres no instructions or anything like that. Just make sure its the right moment at the right time. and everything should be fine. Just be calm and be yourself. good luck, trix

Q: Well I love me girlfriend to death she is the best and we have fun all the time but I am like running out of things to do we usually do the same old things all the time so I think its time for something new so can you help me think of some ways or place or things to do with my girlfriend that will just make her melt.....you know nice romantic stuff like that.....lol any help will be greatly appreciated thanks much.

Hmm i like looking up at the stars at night in the park and just laying there and me and nathan talking.. i know its nothing that cost money but its still the sweetest thing ever. and before hand we go swing.. do something she loves alot. and that you know would mean something to her and it would be rememberable. trix

Q: Lately I've been getting on my parents nerves. I can tell cause they're always mad at me. They say it's because I have a really bad attitude. Even though I really don't think I do. I usually have a great attitude about things. I've also been really into acting and every time I talk about it they just ignore me so I get mad. Just the other day he told me I did something when I knew I didn't so I calmly told him I didn't and he told me I was lying so I got mad. He told me to get rid of my attitude so I said no because he called me a liar. Then He got up in my face and just started screaming at me. I'm really confused right now and don't know what to do. Could any one give me some advive.
I'm 14

We are at that age. where everything we say or do.. they think.. we are being just plain pissy and have nothing but attitude.. honestly they dont relize what they are doing.. sorry im not much of a help, trix

Q: ive been crushing on this guy for a while and so i told my best friend. Her bf and the guy i like are good friends so i had him to talk to the guy. He said that he liked me but wasnt looking for a relationship right now. Its summer break so when school starts back up again should i go for it?? of move on.

Well keep your horizon/options open. dont hold on to much cuz if you do you could pass meeting mr. perfect if you just ignore every other guy that walks on by. so keep him in mind but while on summer break.. live life to its fullest. and meet other boys!! trix

Q: There is this guy who I can't stop thinking about and my BFF told me that he like me and was going to ask me out. I didn't believe her until one of his best buds told me the same thing. I was going to ask him myself but I really don't like asking guys out. So my friend told me not to cause he was going to ask me out at the end of the week. Well really I thought it was impossible for he to like me but he started talking to me more. Well the week passed and he didn't ask me out. now it summer break and I won't see him until August 4. I have his Phone# cause he told me to call him in my year book. I've tried but I didn't get an answer. What should I do. P.S. I'm 14 soon to be 15.

Why wont you see him till august 4th? is that when school starts or something? well what i would do is call him and when he does pick up talk and see if maybe he wants to hang out. then you guys make plans and im sure he will eventually ask you out. and if not.. talk to his good bud and see what happans. maybe you could ask him through the phone or online or through a friend or something of that sort. good luck! i hope you 2 go out!! trix

Q: WHAT DOES idk STAND 4

I dont know... sometimes if people dont know how to spell.. or spell incorrectly they mean I dont Kare.. one time my friend was acting dumb and said i dont Koncentrate.. but its usually I dont Know

Q: HOW DO YOU START YOUR OWN WEB PAGE FOR FREE ?

Well.. this is one place and you can go to askjeeves.com or google.com and you can have a xprofile or buddy4u profile they allow for you to have anything and 60 pages in there. so its a pretty good deal. sorry im not much of a help or hometown.com or something like that but thats the best i can do. trixy

Q: I have a friend w/a drinking problema and smoking problem. I don't wanna hurt his/her feelings about sayin sumthin. What should I do?????

Well if you are concerned about this friend you would confront this person and let him/her know that you are worried about what they are doing and that you dont agree. Point out the bad things in it and ask her/him why they do it. Just ask them to stop at least to cut down a little bit becase you are concerned for them and their health and also theyre future. Let them know if they need anything your there for them to talk to them about it. I know this can kind of be hard one of my best friends has this same thing. I just let her know that i care about her and how much it would mean to me if she would stop. good luck, trixy

Q: ok, me and my ex broke up..and i want him back but he has a new gf now..and i dont think he wants me back..we went thro a lot..we are still good friends but i dont think he wants me back and ive tried to move on..i just cant...what should i do?

Well maybe the whole online thing is maybe a hit of him saying he does want you back and right there would have been a good moment to say how you feel about him. and he probably would have answered back the way you would have wanted him to. I would wait for another moment like that or maybe be like how come you were wondering what i would do if u came back me right now.. and maybe he will tell you and you could tell him there.. trix

Q: i really REALLY like my boyfriend. we are totally in love. but there's this guy in my class who i get on kinda well with and i cant help flirting with him and he flirts back. i dont think i fancy him but theres something there. i dont wanna dump my boyf i like him too much but i feel uncomfortable around the other guy cause i know i shouldnt be flirting. i really like them both but i like my boyf more what do i do?

I would stick with your boyfriend i dont know if you should take a chance with the other guy unless you are really willing to do that. You may loose your boyfriend for good and maybe if he gets hurt enough he may not even be your friend. Thats what sucks about these kind of situations. But do what your heart tells you to do and what you feel is right... good luck, trix

Q: i can't kiss my boyfriend. i said i wanted to and he said he wanted to and we do but we're both too shy. what do i do????

Thats a tuffy.. alot of people have that same problem. I know i did one time. but i really liked the guy so when it was just us to he had his arm around me and i looked up and it just sorta happaned. You can tell when its the right time to kiss and when its not. Give it time and one of you to will make the move. You wont really worry about being shy at that time. sorry i cant really give that much good advice on that sort of question theres no real way except good luck and just try to forget being shy. trix

Q: Hi this is April, and I like this boy, but I don't know if he likes me or not. I was wondering what should I do??

Try to find out if he likes you or not. maybe through friends or messanger. or maybe at skateland. hope he likes you to. trixy

Q: COULD BORING GET ANY MORE BORING!!! I'm stuck in the house with my little sister and it's sooo boring. The computer and tv and playstation are losing there fun...so any creative ideas on what i could do to when stuck in the house?? I'm 14 and a girl.

Call a friend. Clean. Make art. Get a bunch of pictures of you and your friends and make them into a lil scrap book or something like that. Go outside ride bike draw chalk go to the park swing or something sorry i am not much for a creative thinker.. trix

Q: What would u do if you found out that your worst fear came true and that u HAD to face it because no matter what it's gonna happen? (Like, u couldn't just avoid it like bees or spiders.)

I can't describe my fear because it's to complicated. My best friend and i have known each other for a very long time. We planned our life together and now that we are growing older our plans are totally ruined. We're going to different schools and she has already kissed a boy and i'm a bit nervous around them. And i'm afriad of being alone. I want to freeze time because talking and playing games with my friend is changing to more mature things for her but not me. Everyone seems to be getting older and the change and time and me are all just clashing. Fears are usual stupid but how can u be brave if you aren't afriad of anything??

When my friend first told me she kissed sum1 the feeling was deeper than depression...fear, and i wasn't completely sure why. Is there sumthing bigger that i'm afriad of??

Maybe your scared of getting yourself into something you really dont want to be involved in. Like for instance if you feel you kiss someone one thing will lead to another. That might be holding you back. We all take our own ways of life. Dont follow in someones footprints exactly make a lil turn of your own and walk back in. Its your life and not hers. So go at your pase. ANd when you are ready to do more mature things then go for it. But until then "make your own footprints" otherwords.. just take your time. hope i was a help!! trix

Q: I like my best friend....
He doesnt kno, but im crazy about him.
Wat should i do?

Well i would tell him maybe he feels the same way about you. Ask a good friend that is good friends with him if they might no anything. I would tell him cuz if he is like your best friend then if you tell him he wont freak out. If he liked you wouldnt you like to know? If your shy right a email or a letter or a note or something. Or do it through a messanger of some type. Maybe on the phone or through a friend. Either way can be tough but if you really like this guy everything should turn out fine!! good luck!! trixie

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"