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Nothing to fear but fear itself
What would u do if you found out that your worst fear came true and that u HAD to face it because no matter what it's gonna happen? (Like, u couldn't just avoid it like bees or spiders.)
I can't describe my fear because it's to complicated. My best friend and i have known each other for a very long time. We planned our life together and now that we are growing older our plans are totally ruined. We're going to different schools and she has already kissed a boy and i'm a bit nervous around them. And i'm afriad of being alone. I want to freeze time because talking and playing games with my friend is changing to more mature things for her but not me. Everyone seems to be getting older and the change and time and me are all just clashing. Fears are usual stupid but how can u be brave if you aren't afriad of anything??
When my friend first told me she kissed sum1 the feeling was deeper than depression...fear, and i wasn't completely sure why. Is there sumthing bigger that i'm afriad of??
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Everyone is afraid of moving on; I'm probably a little older than you (I'm 18) but I just finished sixth form, and I've been with all my friends (including my best friends) for about 14 years now. Now everyone is going to different universities and I'm afraid I wont see them ever again. But you have to think of it in a positive way; This is going to be a new start for you. You have to make new friends in your new school. Everyone is afraid of being alone, so you're not at all alone in this fear.
Just because you're going to different schools does not mean you still can't have your best friend as your best friend. My best friend is going to a university that's almost 40 miles away from me, but we know we're going to stay in touch because we really care about each other. We'll visit and write. If you and your friend really put the effort in, there should be no problem with you remaining friends.
Growing up is a hard thing to do; but everyone has to do it. Perhaps there's something there that you are repressing, some deeper rooted problem that you're trying to ignore. Talk to someone you trust; your parents, a friend, a teacher. Sharing the problem will make it easier to deal with :)
I hope you feel better soon.
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Maybe your scared of getting yourself into something you really dont want to be involved in. Like for instance if you feel you kiss someone one thing will lead to another. That might be holding you back. We all take our own ways of life. Dont follow in someones footprints exactly make a lil turn of your own and walk back in. Its your life and not hers. So go at your pase. ANd when you are ready to do more mature things then go for it. But until then "make your own footprints" otherwords.. just take your time. hope i was a help!! trix
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Everyone changes...it's only natural to do so. But some people are not ready for change yet. And I think you're one of them. This is good but this is bad too. You're fear of losing your friend and being alone is something that your friend needs to deal with as well as you. I think what you want is things to stay as they once were and nothing new to come. But you need to realize that things change, it sucks, yeah, but it happens and you can't hold on to the past. When you're friend kissed someone you either were probably A.) Jealous in some way because you want someone to have in that way, or B.) You are afraid that who ever she kissed will take her away from you, and that you will lose her. And unfortunally sometimes whenever your friend has a boyfriend or girlfriend they sort of take all of their heart and time to them. But sometimes not. As for me, I have a boyfriend but I know that I must keep doing things with my friends making them happy and making them feel like an importance to me. Because they truly are, I love them to death! If this happens, just give your friend time, he or she will come around. There also could be a change for life, somthing that you are not ready for. I've experinced it, but if your friend is loyal to you and really is a good friend she will never let you go. Just show her you care and care for some of the things she wants to do. Let her know you're there for her no matter what! Good luck hunnie, hang in there! Love you! -Mandee
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you need to talk to your friend about your feelings...even if she cant do anything it always helps for someone 2 listen. and plus yawl seem like really goo friends so she should understand and i know it starts feeling weird when u hit that adolesent stage....thing seem 2 go everywhere..but just give it time...everything will be ok...even though yawl r going 2 different schools u will still see her and yawl can talk on the phone. i know it wont be the same trust me i know the exact same thing happened to me but we r still best friends...sure we dont see each other as often but when we do its like where we ended and we still have just as much fun 2gether!!! and about the kissing...its not a big thing...its not like they r in love?!?! but talk 2 ger...talk 2 her about anything and everything!!! things may change but ur friendship wont!! if u need any other advice or this question or any question dont be afriad 2 ask!!:]
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