Name is Layne, age is 17, occupation is babysitter. still answering questions on here even after 3 years is awesome, right? no, just proves i don't have a life. so. if you have a question, feel free to ask it on here or you can IM me on my screenname. i can answer most questions about the categories i have listed. i don't know much about sickness or physical health, or stuff to wear when your husband just died but the man who killed him, whom you're having an affair with, is going to be at the funeral. :) have a wonderful day.
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im going out with this boy and he really likes me and we have been going out for a long time but i like some one else and for meh and him to be going out for this long period of time and me and him dont see each other as much its a waste of time but i dont want to hurt his feeling or anything or tell him that i dont like him i just dont want to go out with him please help me find a way to break up with him without being like i dont want to go out with you any more (link)
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just take him aside (IN PERSON) and tell him that you just feel like the spark is gone, you're not feeling it anymore, you guys don't see eachother as much, and its just not the way it used to be. this method is being honest and being nice about it, being sure to have a concern for the guys feelings.
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Okay. My best friend won't answer her phone right now and I'm gonna do what this site is intended for- vent! I don't really feel like re-explaining the motive behind this question, so for any-one who's reading this and is confused, just read my first question and you'll understand. I have a little bit more than 9 months before I'm legal and can get my own prescription without a parent's consent. 9 MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know you dont know me, but I don't like pain in any form or fashion. And mental pain is one of those things that I've learned to despise because of what it brought me time and time again. Right now, I'm tired and I don't feel like fighting. I have no reason to feel depressed, and I know its only going to get worse. I can't let it ruin my life again- I need tips. Somebody tell me how to kill the time and still maintain sanity!!!! (link)
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**UPDATE**
okay i just read what you commented on my rating, and i just thought i'd let you know, i know how depressed people tend to act. i suffer from clinical depression, too. which is why i thought i could answer your question. now this is me giving you an answer you could possibly use: when i'm in a really down mood, i usually make lists. lists of stories i could write, or song lyrics that i enjoy, favourite bands, foods, baby names, people i'd like to marry, celebs i wanna meet, other list names, things to do when i'm home alone, things to do when i'm sick and have to stay home from school, etc. this is good because it keeps your mind moving forward and since you have your mind on trying to come up with things for your lists, you're not thinking about whatever is bugging you. also, you could actually think of trying to do a few of those things. it helps me for those reasons, and also, it takes up a LOT of time. because every time i'm creating a list, i think of new things to put on a list, and the cycle just keeps going.
also, when you feel like crying, watch a really sad movie and get a bucket of your favourite icecream. it gets the emotional pain out of your mind, and thats healthy. and the icecream is a good touch. i hope i actually helped this time :) take care.
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So, me and my ex boyfriend dated for about 10 months. He was a really sweet guy except that he lied to me sometimes and talked to other girls. I was mad at him for the longest time and now we are kind of friends. Its been about 2 months since weve been broke up. All my friends hate him because he made me cry. But he wants me back really bad and calls me crying and i know he loves me still. He tells me he is going to try to be a better person but i have already gave him many chances. I feel bad and im not sure what to do? I like him and still have feelings for him but my friends would kill me and i dont want to be treated wrong again. Even if i really wanted to date him, i wouldnt right now anyways. im just confused. What should i do? (link)
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here's something you'll learn once you've been in a really long, committed relationship; communication is the link to a perfect relationship. whenever you have a problem with one another, you should come right out and say it, that way, the other is fully aware that something is bothering you, and if they care, they'll try to make it better so you guys can stay together. picture this: a boy and a girl are dating, they are very much in love and have so much in common, so basically perfect, right? anyways, the guy gets a text message from his ex, wanting to meet him. he doesnt tell his girlfriend because she knows this ex and would probably be very upset to know that he met up with her, so he goes to meet his ex without telling the girlfriend. the boy goes and talks to his ex, who wants him back. he says, no, he's in a very good relationship now and he doesn't want to ruin it. bad news? his girlfriend's bff saw him with his ex, and she told his girlfriend. she confronts him about it, and when he tries to explain, she thinks he's making up excuses and breaks up with him. this could have been totally solved if he had told her in the first place.
liars can make communication problems pop up. if he lies and talks to other girls, this is strike one. you guys break up. you decided to give him another chance, and it happens all over again. you try AGAIN, and it happens again. each time he swears he'll change but he won't. the problem is, he's probably not ready for a relationship that'll last. your friends wouldn't hate you for doing what makes you happy, but is it whats best for your heart? you just said you didn't want to get treated wrongly again, so dont. you guys can still continue to be friends, and who knows? maybe in the future he WILL change, and things will work out :) for now, just do what you think is best for you.
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weve ben going out a year and a half and were extremely close. him and my bestfriend fell in "love" and hungout alot without me. i still dont know if they did anything. but that was about two months ago, and once again hes acting like he doesnt know me he didnt even get me a christmas present or even feel bad about it. he keeps cancelling plans on me. i have two exs and they both cheated on me i cant take it if he does it too. but he acts like he loves me so much when were ever together alone. today and tomarrow we have snowdays and were gona hangout all day and he cancelled on me both days and saturday. help? i cant handle this, he acts like im his world and his true love, half the time.. (link)
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half the time. that means 50/100% of the time, hes a total asshole. that is not enough to keep a relationship going. here is what you need to do:
1) come into terms with the fact that he cheated on you before, and nothing is stopping him from doing it again.
2) he cheated on you with your BEST FRIEND. what the hell does that tell you?
3) your best friend does not deserve that lable. shes as guilty as he is, and i would not call her even as much as an aquiantance.
4) he keeps cancelling on you and didn't get you anything for christmas and doesnt even feel any remorse. that's not a good boyfriend at all.
5) you deserve so much better, because to me, it looks like you want love so much, you're willing to stay with an asshole who treats you like dirt.
6) have you ever thought that maybe you don't like him as much as you like the feeling of having a boyfriend? think about it.
what i would do if i were you, (this is my advice) call his ass and dump him. tell him you're tired of being neglected and you want it to work, but you can't keep being let down like this. he needs to meet you halfway and make an effort, and if he doesn't, then its not going to work out. like i said, from what it sounds like, he is cheating on you, and that's wrong, even in a highschool relationship, this is assuming that you're in highschool.
try to take a break on guys for a while. you'll find someone who would never do anything to hurt you, will get you presents all the time, even on christmas, and wouldn't cancel plans unless they were bleeding internally or dying. there is such a guy out there, and he's looking for you, too. and, i'm so sorry to say, since i know how much you care about him, but that guy is not the guy you're with.
think about what i said. and good luck :)
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My Original question:
Help! I am 2 weeks late on my period.
I am never regular (and usually late) but this time especially, I am freaking out. I have not had sex since October, but I have done other things (in a safe manner) since my last period involving male body fluids. I am not on birth control.
In October, I had 2 periods and it was really weird. In November, I was on my period from around the 19th to the 24th. December has been super stressful for me because I have had college midterms and I found out my boyfriend of 2 years has cheated on me and I broke up with him.
Do you think I could be pregnant? Or what the chances are of becoming pregnant without having sex? I can't think of any reasons I could be pregnant. No fluids ever went inside of me.
Do you think it could have to do with doubling up on my period in October? Or the stress?
Exactly 1 year ago I had the same problem and skipped my December period all together.
I don't know what to think anymore and I'm very scared.
UPDATED*****:
It's been about 3 weeks now and a few days ago I started getting this dark red/brown discharge. It looks like old blood. It's been a lot by now and still going and this has happened before. Do you think I am okay when it comes to being worried about being pregnant? Is this a sign that I'm not pregnant? I don't really know what this is.
I've gotten the brown/red discharge type thing instead of a period before. (link)
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you usually get that when you're either about to start your period or when you just ended; its dried blood that your system is emptying out to keep from making you ill.
no, you couldn't be pregnant without any sperm going inside of you, even if you perform oral sex and swallow, you still couldn't get pregnant. since you've said you're never regular and usually late, i'd say your period is either late or not coming this month. girls skip periods all the time without being pregnant, and it may have to do with stress, and since you were stressing about midterms and whether or not you were pregnant, that could be the cause of it.
so stop stressing and start relaxing, you're fine. now if i were you, i'd do one of two things; go to the store and buy 3 pregnancy tests. take all three and if 1 says you're pregnant and the others are a negative, then you're probably not. if all of them are positive, you are. if they're all negative, obviously, you're not. science projects should always be taken in 3 tests, same with pregnancy tests. always take 3.
the other thing i'd do is go to my doctor and get a prescription for birth control pills. not only will they help you to not get pregnant if you're sexually active, but they also regulate your period. talk to your doctor about different options and get his okay on it, and his professional opinion.
good luck, and try to breathe. :)
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so my friend asked me to ask...
like a week or 2 ago she had sex and she relized when she got horny her clit got bigger... and now it wont go back it normal size ! and sticks oout what can she do to make it small again ??
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mine did the same thing after i had sex. and if it doesnt go back down after a couple of weeks, it won't. but thats no big deal. it just means that she will be really sensitive down there now, and probably get more pleasure from clitoral orgasms. tell her that this really isn't a bad thing. it's not unhealthy, its not abnormal, etc.
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OKay so i like this guy, hes 17 and im 14 (im not big on ages, i dont think they matter) and hes a senior, im a freshmen..and he has a girlfriend of 2 years steady and 1 year of on and off. So i met him when we both started staying after for a sport. im the manager-type person and we started talking on the bus. well after a while i started likeing him, as well as he likeing me. Well then he started sitting right next to me like, on the same seat and after a couple days of still talking...he kissed me. and i loved it. so after that, on the bus he would always give me little goodbye kisses and i loved them. Then one weekend i was walking over to my friends house who lives very close and i find out he lives right by here so i start kind of hanging out with him when im on my way to my friends house. Well, we kiss. Alot and we love it. We talk about deep things and iv never trusted a guy this much. i like him. alot. and he says he likes me alot too. Well, my brother was reading my text messages and found all the cute texts this guy had sent me and told this guy that he couldnt be my friend anymore or whatever. So now im confused and hurt because i told this guy everything. and i mean, he told me he likes me alot and then once my older brother says he doesnt want us being friends he says okay. But we havnt stoped talking because he says he doesnt want to. Im so confused about all of this. Does he just want me for a piece of ass? or does he like me?
What do you think this all means...? (link)
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he probably felt threatened by your brother and decided to back off before he got his ass kicked. it does sound to me like he likes you, but i'd STOP before i let this go any further. he has a girlfriend, from what you've said. and he's pretty much cheating on her with you. if you guys were to start going out, how can you trust him when he was cheating once before? i wouldn't trust him, and i would stop hanging out with him so much. it's no fun being known as the "other woman" anyways.
take care.
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I took a test at a phiciatrists' office, and it said I was insane. Actually insane. They said I should get "help" but I won't. Do I really need help? NO! I'm insane, mabye even crazy, but I will NOT get "help." Any @ home things I can do? (link)
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if you truly are clinically insane, there is absolutely nothing you can do at home to help it. its not like a virus that you can take some antibiotics for, its far more serious than that. and don't be alarmed; what they meant by "help" is psychiatric help, not being tied up in a straightjacket taking sedative after sedative. what i would do if i were you is go to a psychologist, talk to them about what you found out, and see if they have anything to say about it. but again, like the person below me mentioned, you can't completely rely on those paper tests to be completely accurate. but like i said, go talk to a psychiatrist or psychologist, and they can tell if you really are in need of psychological help.
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Okay so lets get one thing straight first. I HATE my father, he didnt want me in the first place but now he wont seem to leave me alone. Anyways, it started in september, on september 11th to be exact, went to school normal day yada yada yada and me n my dad wernt talking for about a month now. We fight alot n long story short i got sick of it. Three nights before, my stepdad kicked my mom out of the house because he wanted to live with his mom and we wanted to live closer to my highschool. He demanded that i stay there with him n his mom or "he'd do what he has to do" i went with my mom by choice and we didnt have a place to live so we stayed with her friend who is also my godmother, an hour away from my highschool. Still didnt talk to my dad. That september morning i was in my first period and i was called to the front office for early dismissal. To my not-so-great of a surprise my dad was in the office. I refused to go with him anywhere and i turned around and proceeded to my second period. I was chased down by cops and assnt. principles from my front office and when they finally caught up with me they told me i had no choice but to leave with him. Let me also say tht 1/2 the school saw me crying and being escorted off school by a cop. He had gotten temporary custody. Meaning that i couldnt keep in contact with my mom (whom i very close with) and i was forced into his hands. 10 days passed n i was released back to my mom. I managed to work it out to where i got to stay with my grandmother instead of dad but she had taken his side. Normal day at school goes by and mom picks me up from school. I was unbeliveably happy. Next morning i find out he did it again. This time in the right county. ANOTHER 10 days with the bastard. I was sent through court. But im with my mom now, and i couldnt care less if i never saw him again. However i do miss my dads side of the family so i went to see them for thanksgiving, no suprise he was the only ride i could get and i regret going. Im with them again for christmas and all i want to do is spend time with my family excluding my father, but he wont leave me alone and keeps making me seem like this bitch in front of the entire family. So i want to leave early, (the same time all my cousins leave) so that its not just me n him alone. And he wont let me. Im trapped with this man how biologically may be my dad but i want nothing to do with him. Please, How do i get out? (link)
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you sound like the problem to me. (rate me however low you want, this is my opinion and my advice that you asked for.)
maybe he's actally trying to have a relationship with you, and due to past fights and experiences with him, you're pushing him away. he tried to get custody of you twice, now. is that not saying anything to you? maybe he actually realizes he was a dick in the past and wants to make amends. don't be a brat, you don't have to be the perfect child, but be nice to the guy. or, you know what? you dont even have to be nice. but dont push him away. hes your dad, hate or not. and remember, hate is still an emotional attachment. the opposite of emotion is indifference, and that would mean you have no other connection to him besides blood. if i were you, i'd suck it up and try to deal with whats going on, no complaints. maybe hes "making you seem like this bitch" in front of the family because you ARE being a bitch.
again, suck it up, put on a fake smile, and give him a chance, little by little. you may find that in order to get anything good out of this guy, you have to meet him halfway.
take care, good luck, and sorry if my advice makes you angry. you'll get over it. :)
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I want to go skydiving.
Is it safe? (I know that it's statistically safer than scuba-diving, but still. I'd like to know the best-case and worst-case scenarios)
How much is it?
Where is it? (Where's the closest area to NYC?)
What's it like?
What would I need for it?
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i've never been, but i know a lot of people who have. the worst case scenerio is that you have a hole in your parachute, or it doesnt deploy at all. and this happens at least 1 in every 10,000, i believe. the places that get people ready for skydiving do their hardest to make sure nothing like this would ever happen.
you wouldnt really need anything, except to make sure you're not wearing anything that would fall off while in the air; any type of jewelry, etc. they would supply you with the rest.
but my spanish teacher has gone a few times, and he told me that when he went the first time, he really didnt worry about anything and said it was fun. he said the second time is usually worst than the first. because when you're about to go again, you're thinking "well, what if something goes wrong this time?" because that is when you start thinking about everything that can go wrong.
everything should go just smoothly. take care :)
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So, here's the senerio.
You're ina verbal argument with someone and they drop the F bonb(and others) like every other world.
And you stand there calmly replying back, with insult, but no swear AT ALL.
What does that mean?
Like, last year I remember reading somewhere someone said it was insecurity, or the person knew they were losing the verbal battle or something?
What are you opinions on this and what do you think it means? (link)
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usually, when someone cant think of anything else to say, they just say f*** you. it can hurt someone without really trying. plus, getting angry could lead to cursing. and yes, insecurity, meaning they know that they have nothing better to say, so lets drop a few swear bombs.
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this is kind of a weird question but I was wondering if anyone knows of a movie with a really good sex scene in it. Not a porn movie or anything like that, just a regular movie with a pretty steamy sex scene like the note book or something. Thanks! (link)
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in one of the underworlds, theres a scene that is seriously the best one i've ever seen. it looks almost real. and also you could check out some liftime movies. they usually have really good ones.
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okay, i'm getting a 80G Zune for xmas i know this because my brother told me. but my only problem is that i have no idea how to use a Zune? i'm so use to iPod's already and iTunes, and i've downloaded Zune to try and get use to it but i have no idea how to use it and if i can still use frostwire to get music, or if it even changes wma files into what ever format it uses? or if i can put videos on it and so on. and i don't think i could just tell them that i would like to have a new iPod and not a Zune because then they would know. so any help here?? thanks :) (link)
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believe it or not, ehow can answer stuff like this. i just went to ehow.com and typed it "how to transfer music to a zune" and a bunch of links popped up for different stuff. here's the link to the page:
http://www.ehow.com/search.aspx?s=how+to+transfer+music+to+a+zune&Options=0
you can just find the link you need. but ALSO, the zune may come with some information and instructions, you could try waiting until christmas, since you obviously don't have the zune right now. anyways, i hope i've helped.
take care. :)
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i've been tasting a bitterness in my mouth for 2 days now.. has this every happened to anyone else before? (link)
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yes. and what i did was look at what i was eating, and stop eating it for a while. is there something you eat all the time, more than anything? if so, just don't eat it for a while. and get a new toothepaste and mouthwash. that'll make the taste go away, as well. maybe you have some hidden plaque that you can't get to while brushing, this sometimes leads to a nasty taste. just brush and rinse with mouthwash really good for a few days.
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weird to say, but is it normal for a girl to erect just like how guys do? i hear that it's like wanting to urinate, but for some odd reason it never happened to me before.. i still don't think it does? but ever since i took plan b.. after sex, white stuff comes out of me.. it's not liquidy it's more like kinda gooey or something? i can't really describe it.. the only thing that worries me is that it comes out ALOT. not as much as it did a month after i took plan b, but it still comes out. is that normal? did plan b do something to my body? (link)
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to me, that sounds like thick discharge. its just your body probably cleaning itself out. but i would check with your gyno just to make sure.
and girls urinating during sex is normal, but its also normal to not have the urge to pee during sex. every woman is different.
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So I met this guy Kirk at a bar the other night and I thought he was so sexy. I thought he kept looking at me but then I turned and he'd be looking elsewhere. Well my friend works with him and he asked my friend if I was in a relationship with my guy friend I was hanging out with. He told my friend I had a lot of spunk and that it was a great asset. I take it as he likes me what do you think? How should I pursue this further with him? Any ideas? I just got this news today and it made my day!! Thanks! :) (link)
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i wouldn't get too ahead of yourself. i mean, you only saw this guy in a bar once. you guys didn't even talk. i think you should tell your friend to "casually" mention you're going to the bar again on saturday, or whenever you plan to go. and then if he DOES want to get to know you, he'll be there again. and if he is, then you can go up and talk to him.
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well 15/f and sorry if long . but me and my bestfriends we all chill and hang inside and outside of school well when they all got mad at me for breaking up with my boyfriend and they told me that i was stupid for it and the fact that i did it i told them to leave me alone and then they finally became my friend they said that they wont get mad well someone said that i said something about them and now that i said that they were a slut they said they dont want to talk to me and that they hate me should i confront them about some of the stuff i heard that came from there mouth about me or should i just leave me alone. (link)
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those girls are not your friends. friends support you with every decision you make, which it seems like they don't. you shouldn't be the one trying to hold the glue together. and did you notice that they gang up on YOU? you can't fight alone, so don't try. and don't try to "explain" anything to them. it might have been a misunderstanding, but its mostly their fault. if i were you, i'd be trying to find some new friends.
take care.
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ok so heres the thing... i have an amazing bf i love him to death. i really do but i have no idea wat to get him for christmas! i wanna get him something special but i dont really know wat he likes. he said he already got me the perfect gift but i cant think of anything for him and i dont have much money so wat should i do? wat can i get him? something thats a great all-around gift that everyone will like but not ordanary. plz give me some ideas or tell me some things you guys have givin ur past bf/gf that they really liked (link)
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i don't really know where you guys are in your relationship; serious, just started dating, etc. but if you guys are pretty serious and you both truly love eachother, i'd get him a promise ring. it doesn't have to be for marriage, but just one that makes a specific promise to him; like if you've been stressed or moody, promise that you'll be a better girlfriend. or promise that you'll make him happy as long as you two are together. or promise that he can always trust you and that you love him.
something from the heart. that's what i'd do.
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Hello sir first of all thanks for replying me. I want to know will my sex life disrupted when i am having sex with my wife in future such as sperm count less or something like that happen due to masturbation i mean here that i am self satisfied and wasted my resource for past 6 years so that only i am asking will it create any problem in future.Moreover people say that one who masturbate get lean and it may cause nervous problem is it so? please give me your answer i am expecting your advice ..
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your body is constantly producing sperm, so that won't be a problem. and i havent heard of any problems being caused by masturbation except sometimes, it can cause a slight erectile disfunction. my boyfriend was on a "schedule" i guess you might call it, and he only masturbated once a month. and whenever we'd try to have sex, he couldnt get up. so he started doing it more often, and everything was okay after that. but i guess thats not really counted as a problem. the only other REAL problem ive heard of is that you can get too addicted and it can cause problems with your work and stuff. (like you get the major urge to while you're at work, and so you shirk your resposibilites) but as long as you have it totally under control, this wont be a problem either. :)
take care.
P.S. im a ma'am. ^.^
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Hi i have habit of masturbating when see sex videos or when i read any sex stories.its continuing for the past 6 years i am 23 years old will it create any problem in my sexual life in my married life in future please reply me..how come i am able to stop it (link)
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it shouldnt cause any problems in your sexlife, and i dont see how it would cause problems in your married life, considering that most people masturbate in place of sex...and when you're married, you should have plenty of sex so you wouldnt even have to worry about it.
masturbating is totally normal for everyone of all ages..you dont need to be worried.
take care.
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