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Dads a dick. What do i do?
Okay so lets get one thing straight first. I HATE my father, he didnt want me in the first place but now he wont seem to leave me alone. Anyways, it started in september, on september 11th to be exact, went to school normal day yada yada yada and me n my dad wernt talking for about a month now. We fight alot n long story short i got sick of it. Three nights before, my stepdad kicked my mom out of the house because he wanted to live with his mom and we wanted to live closer to my highschool. He demanded that i stay there with him n his mom or "he'd do what he has to do" i went with my mom by choice and we didnt have a place to live so we stayed with her friend who is also my godmother, an hour away from my highschool. Still didnt talk to my dad. That september morning i was in my first period and i was called to the front office for early dismissal. To my not-so-great of a surprise my dad was in the office. I refused to go with him anywhere and i turned around and proceeded to my second period. I was chased down by cops and assnt. principles from my front office and when they finally caught up with me they told me i had no choice but to leave with him. Let me also say tht 1/2 the school saw me crying and being escorted off school by a cop. He had gotten temporary custody. Meaning that i couldnt keep in contact with my mom (whom i very close with) and i was forced into his hands. 10 days passed n i was released back to my mom. I managed to work it out to where i got to stay with my grandmother instead of dad but she had taken his side. Normal day at school goes by and mom picks me up from school. I was unbeliveably happy. Next morning i find out he did it again. This time in the right county. ANOTHER 10 days with the bastard. I was sent through court. But im with my mom now, and i couldnt care less if i never saw him again. However i do miss my dads side of the family so i went to see them for thanksgiving, no suprise he was the only ride i could get and i regret going. Im with them again for christmas and all i want to do is spend time with my family excluding my father, but he wont leave me alone and keeps making me seem like this bitch in front of the entire family. So i want to leave early, (the same time all my cousins leave) so that its not just me n him alone. And he wont let me. Im trapped with this man how biologically may be my dad but i want nothing to do with him. Please, How do i get out?
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Tell him to fuck off. If you don't want to see him, then TELL him your true feelings about him. If he objects, say "If you really love me, you would respect my decision." I'm sorry to hear about all this stuff that's happening. I hope it sorts itself out. =)
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you sound like the problem to me. (rate me however low you want, this is my opinion and my advice that you asked for.)
maybe he's actally trying to have a relationship with you, and due to past fights and experiences with him, you're pushing him away. he tried to get custody of you twice, now. is that not saying anything to you? maybe he actually realizes he was a dick in the past and wants to make amends. don't be a brat, you don't have to be the perfect child, but be nice to the guy. or, you know what? you dont even have to be nice. but dont push him away. hes your dad, hate or not. and remember, hate is still an emotional attachment. the opposite of emotion is indifference, and that would mean you have no other connection to him besides blood. if i were you, i'd suck it up and try to deal with whats going on, no complaints. maybe hes "making you seem like this bitch" in front of the family because you ARE being a bitch.
again, suck it up, put on a fake smile, and give him a chance, little by little. you may find that in order to get anything good out of this guy, you have to meet him halfway.
take care, good luck, and sorry if my advice makes you angry. you'll get over it. :)
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