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Q: I'm 14/f. I have a dozen good friends, and I need to find cute gifts to get them all for Christmas. They're all girls, and I'd appreciate some cute ideas or something (preferably 15 bucks or under per gift). If anybody has any ideas, like how to wrap the gifts or what I should give them, then let me know. They're all normal girls who like girly things, just to give you an idea of what I'm looking for. Fives for all who respond.

Lip gloss. Every girl loves lipgloss. Or you could get them jewerly. Cheap jewerly.

Q: ok. i say labels should be between a soup can and its wrapper. im NOT A GOTH and im NOT PUNK! i hate labels. and i wish theyd stop. how do i get people to see im not a goth or anything,but keep my style of clothing and stuff. please dont say dont worry abt what people think. even my own friends call me emo

--thx

ugh, i hate labels too. What you need to do is not bring it up a lot. People are gonna label you, you cant change that. But by not thinking of it, you'll get by.

Q: okay when i was younger i slow danced with a lot of guys and i haven't done it in like 3 years because we havent had a dance in forever and someone asked me if i would dance with them at the dance and im not good at it and not sure how to do it. can anyone help me?

Well, put your arms on his shoulders and move. Let him lead, and it shouldnt be very hard, if you've done it before. And if you are so worried about it, practice with a friend

Q: Okay so the past week I started to have to use the bathroom a lot and there was like a burning fealing but then when I would go to the bathroom there wouldn't a lot of pee. So then on tuesday I got a head ace
And a stomac ace my mom said it was a bladder or kiddney infection cause a lot of people in our family have had that so she made me drink a whole gallon of cranberry juice. I was also going through "I'm so fat I have to stop eating" stage. Then on tuesday it was much better but I still had a stomach ace so we went to the docters. She had me you know pee in the little cup. Then she came back and said that it came back fine but she wanted to send it out just to make sure. Okay now I am better now I still get a little dizy when I sitt up but that's all except for an ocasional kiddney pain. Okay now I read on a website the signs of being pregnet befor. But right befor I got sick I had my period . I have only had it for a year but my 2 best friends had theirs at the same time when I didn't. Okay now about a year ago I think. I let my dog lick me down there. Then my brother saw and he said that he had let our dog lick him befor to. This disturbed me but it felt funny when the dog licked me so I let him lick me again then one time I saw the dog licking my brother. Now I know that my brother didn't you know cum in the dogs mouth. I know for a fact he didn't but anyways I let the dog lick me after he had licked my brother. Is there any chance I could be pregnant or is it just a bladder infection like my mom said? Oh and one more thing my mom said it was good to drink a lot of fluids so she had me drinking water and juice a lot. So for the past few days I can't tell if I am bloted or if I am getting fater cause I might be pregnant. But I pushed on my stomach and it went in but I could only hold it in for like 5 seconds then I like farted throught my vagina. Is this a sign of being bloted or pregnant?

-sacred

Okay.. If you think you can get pregnant from having a dog lick you down there, well your wrong. The egg needs to be fertilized, like by sperm, like coming from a guys penis. And if your thinking that could of been what happened with your brother having the dog lick down there... its possible.. but i doubt it. I think that the dogs tongue wouldnt have any more sperm on it, if it did, by the time the dog licked you. If your really that conserned about it, get a pregnancy test.

Q: I have exams coming up .. i have C's in biology and geometry, and im sooooo nervous. Like in both subjects i study wicked hard, understand everything, but then when i take the test, i do bad. It's hard to relax cus i needa bring both these grades up to at least a B-. Theres sooo much pressure, how can i just learn to relax and chill out?

Okay, study every day for 15-30 minutes. Then on the day before the test, dont study. If you do, you will be cramming to much into that brain, and you wont stay very relaxed. Just be prepared, and you'll do fine!

Q:
I have been given a birth date for my baby of 27 june 2006...Unfortunately I am not sure who the father might be,.....I know I had sex on 30th September 2005 and although we used condoms, on the second occasion it slipped off and remained inside my vagina for a while....my cycle has been about 26 days and I am aged 47...is it at all possible this baby was concieved on the 30 Sept 2005..? I am not really that sure of the first day of my last period..... thank you

Well it seems like the correct date to me. Have you have sex any other times, around then? Because you might want to consider that. But.. it seems right.

Q: Is there anything that can make you grow taller but without pills and/or a prescriptions 13/f

No smart comments please

No, I am sorry, but you are just stuck at that hight. All that can make you seem taller is if you stand up very straight and if you wear heels.

Q: I bought my boyfriend of two months, an Ecko tshirt, an earring, & a 10 dollar gift card @ Barnes and Nobles. I didn't want to go overboard since we've literally only known each other 2 months, but do you think that seems like enough?
Thanks.

That seems like more than enough. I wouldn't even spend that much on a boyfriend of 6 months. Haha. So, I think that is good.

Q: i really really really like this guy in my global, gym and study hall classes he always glances or stares at me but ive never really had an acutall conversation just shot backs how do i get him to ask me out/like me?

Well you need to talk to him first. Maybe bring up a friendly conversation about your teachers or homework or something. Then you need to keep talking to him so you can become friends. You dont have to, but it makes it easier. Just flirt a lot, and maybe tell your friends to tell him you like him, and maybe he'll ask you out. Or you could always ask him out

Q: f/15

so me and my best friend went to high school and we met up with one of our elementary friends and she became really close with her again and i felt like i was getting pushed out tho i was becoming friends just not as good with the other girl. So i told them both but gave more crap about it to my best friend and they say that they are making an effort but they still do it. So i was talking to my best friend today and she said that she went to the mall with just the other girl and they went christmas shopping and i got kinda upset when she mentioned that she didn't invite everyone else..cuz im her best friend and now shes makin it seem like we are nto as close..and i accidentally cussed her out i was so upset. What do i do now? i cant even get up the nerve to talk to her.

Well you need to get the nerve to talk to her. You need to apologize for "cussing her out". Then you need to explain, calmly, that you feel like you two are getting farther apart, and you dont like it. (Never blame it on her) Say it makes you sad to be left out all the time. Hopefully, if she is nice, she will understand and include you and stay close.

Q: This is going to seem really ridiculous, and I am sorry for asking such a stupid question. I'm too insecure for my own good sometimes, I think.
I'm meeting my boyfriend for the first time ever in 3 days time and we're picking him up at the airport really early in the morning. I want to look my best for him. I never look really good in the mornings; so I'm just wondering where there's anything I can do the night before to make sure I wake up and look and feel nice and fresh. Is there any creams or exfoliation that i should use for my skin, or anything? Should i get up early? Thanks.

Okay. So you dont have to wake up to early follow these instructions.

Night duties: Well maybe get an ingredient for a face mask, and put it on the night before, so you can wake up to nice fresh skin. Take a shower, well. Use your best smelling soaps and shampoo. After your shower style your hair. (Unless its scrunching, then dont do it at night.) Then you want to put on the face mask. During your face mask, if you would like, you can plan an outfit. Make sure its cute, and you feel confortable and confident in it.

Morning: Brush your teeth well, pop in a mint afterwards. Wash your face. Put on deoderant. Put on your make-up, make yourself pretty (not that your arent already.) Put concealer under your eyes, so there are no bags. Put on a little dap of perfume, make you smell nice. Maybe put on moisturizing lotion on your arms, legs, and hands, (maybe your face, before make up, if its not to oily.) Get dressed. Touch up your hair. Brush it well. And off you go.

Q: Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..

For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!!

I say, call it off with your fiance. If your having doubts.. then its really not worth taking the risk of getting a divorce. And it does sound like hes playing games with you. And I don't think he is ready for marriage. And I think the sam about you (but i really dont know you two, so i cant really say that, but its just a thought) Of you like this guy.. then go for it. AFTER you break it off with the other guy.

Q: ok so im havin my sweet 16 party and im having a dj with food and all that jazz i want the theme to be very cute, sexy, grown up, formal, punk type vibe i want people to get dressed up but a casual dress up like jeans and a nice top or something i just need ideas for a theme and like ideas for decorations a stuff your help will be appreciated thanks so much x0x0x0xx0

I like my idea of a black/white party. Everyone has to wear black and white, and nothing else. Put on your invitations that its casual. Hope you like

Q: Hi, I would REALLY apprecaite some advice :) OK, my partner (male 32) is driving me (female 26) up the wall! We have a 6 month old baby. My parner works, I am at home alone with the baby all day. He has this really annoying habit where he get's home, sits on his lap top and then only goes to bed at about 5am! His alarm goes off at least 6 times before he gets up for work (obviously making him late!) and then he has to stay at work late to make up the time. By the the time he gets home from work, I am so wound up that we argue! I have tried to comprimise by designating "laptop evenings" but when we do this, it lasts for a few days and then we are back at square one. The worst of it is, that he he has difficulty with "demands". He sees everything as a demand and then feels that he must rebel! This makes him worse. Please can you give me some practical advice to get him to sleep earleir and to wake up on time for work. We are due to get married in Jan and I feel that this is a real reason for me to call it all off :( Thanks :)

Hmm. Well in the morning, when the alarm clock goes off, make sure he gets up. If he doesnt cooperate, pull him off the bed. Maybe dont tell him to do something, just suggest it. ask him nicely to give you and your baby time.

About the "Calling it all off" you need to do some serious thinking. If thats enough for you two to split up, are you really in love? Think hard about it.

Q: Okay i know this happends to alot of girls but its happend to me all the time and i want it to stop and i want a guy to take me serusly.....all guys want from me is sex and blowjobs and i want it to stop and i want to have a good relationship with somebody but it just doesn't never happend. for instance my best friend has this brother and i went over there last week and we were getting in to it and i thought that i might acually have a chance and he just says"Don't tell anybody about his" and of corse i know that that means i mean i'm not that stupid but really what should i do.. and i dont' want to sound like a slut but every time a guy asks me for something i give it to them because i just want somebody to love me but there'll all just playing me and playing me........Will i ever find somebody that loves me for me? what should i do?

Haha I think i had answered your other question. Because its the same situation. But you need to get the right guys. They will come at some point. Dont go for the bad guys, (i know its hard, right?) but go for the really nice guys.

Q: So basicly i just got my heart broken by this guy. But I want to go out and show guys i am worth having and see if some guys are interested.. what can I do to go out and meet new guys or show some of my male friends that they should start getting interested? Do you get what i mean?

Thanks
I rate well

Flirt. A LOT. Maybe start acting more and more bubbly. Eye contact, touch the guys arm while your talking to him, smile a lot, make jokes, be really nice, just be a nice person.

Q: Alright, so I have this friend. Let's call her Diana. Whenever I tell Diana something that I am excited about she just brings me down. She'll tell me "Oh my god, no one cares" or "Does it really seem like I care?", stuff like that. Sometimes she will even hurt me physically also. She always flirts with all of the guys I used to like or even my boyfriend. Diana is very beautiful and she knows it. All of the guys adore here and such. Sometimes she can hurt my feelings so bad that I just want to cry. I really am not trying to be mean about this but how can I help get our friendship back on track? Sometimes when I tell her things I feel like she's jelous. Am I the one doing something wrong? Please help me, this is making me go through a lot of pain! Signed, Best Friend is hurting Me

Well.. you can always tell her what she is doing. Tell her you dont like it. And hopefully she wont get mad.

Q: if my period wasnt late at all and its only just started and not really really heavy does that mean that im pregnant?

No, how do you figure? If you were pregnant, you wouldnt have your period. Its just your flow, light.

Q: Okay i have this best friend who is pretty much like a sister, we've lived nxt door all of our lives well anyways recently b4 skool started her and her bf broke up..these 2 are like bound to get married no joke their 2 perfect together..well now that its december and she still talks to him they still talk about being together and she shows me all the conversations and everything...What im getting at is that its really starting to annoy me about how obsessed she is because all she talks about is him we will be watching a movie and shell start talking about him..everything is about him and its like its not ever her anymore. I want to tell her that its getting kind of annoying but i dont know how to tell her because i dont want her to get mad and stop talking to me. Any ideas? srry its so long i rate!

Well dont tell her annoying. That sounds mean. Say maybe "well, you've been talking about this guy for a while, and i was thinking we could talk about something else." Or... if she starts talking about him, change the subject.

Q: What should i do i went to my best friends house last weekend and we were all having a good time and i go there every weekend...and she has a brother who is almost 18 and hes cute and well i have hooked up with him befor like 3 knowing it was a one night stand but this time it went to far and we had sex....and i have never had sex with him befor just made out.....and i thought maybe he would like me but no....right as we were doing it like right in the middle he says " don't know anybody about this" who does he think he is really? I mean it hurt my feeling and let along i didnt' enjoy my self from then on out if you know what i'm saying.... and i don't know what i should do...his sister knows cuz i tell her everything...ooo and another thing i get used by everyguy i have ever been with and i have never had a boyfriend but i have been with guys kinda alot and i guess the reason i do it is because i just want somebody to love me for me you know? but they always ask me for sexual favors and i am just tired of it and tired of being treated like a bootie call everytime they want something....but i just can't say know and i don't want to sound like a whore but what should i do....

Wow. Tough. I suggest not haveing sex untill you've dated the guy for like 3 months. And about this guy... get over him. Thats mean of him to do. So, just move on.

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