Okay... uhm. Here's how it's going. I got dumped by a toootal a$$. Anyway. I've moved on, its been about... two months? And I like this boy, we'll call him J. J is super duper nice and I really like him but I don't really know what our relationship is right now. We've been talking for about a month and a half and we've hung out a few times never kissed or anything but we're both really flirty. I just don't know if we are "talking"... Like I don't know if I should ask him...? Cuz I don't wanna scare him off... And I don't wanna ask him who he likes and then him think I'm asking because I don't see what we're doing as something that could become romantic ya know? I just don't know what to do but I wanna know where we stand...
You should be cautionary as lots of guys like to flirt around for the attention that you're giving them. If you are surely serious about taking it to the next level with this guy, then the only thing you basically can do is ask him how you feel. Tell him that I know we talk a little bit more friendlier than friends, but is that because you actually mean it or is it because you find it fun. And see where the conversation goes from there.
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I have raised my sister since she was 14 and now she is 19 and pregnant.. father is in jail. she has spent $25,000 and is broke. our parents died and i am her only family. she has a tramic brain injury, which basically means she shouldnt drink or do drugs, but she does. Her judgement is bad. She wont listen to me. she does not have a job and she dropped out of high school. She hangs out with random guys from online. (she once had a run in with a pimp) I dont want to kick her out, but i dont want to support her forever. But most of all i dont want her to think i approve and i dont want to help her kill her self. what should i do? I love her, but i am tired of this.
i work in law enforcement. im trying to have a family of my own.
Do you think your sister would be willingly ready to listen to you if you wanted to have a serious talk with her? If not, why not take her to a psychologist who can find ways to getting through to her if you cannot. This is a really tough decision having to watch out for her but it'll come to a point where you have helped as much as you can and she will have to make the decision for herself at one point. For now, try to get her as much help as you can. Hopefully, someone can break through to her. :)
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My crisis is that I'm 12, my parrents don't know anything that I do at school or who I like. I have been crushing on this guy named Sam since 5th grade when I moved to his school and he asked me out. I said no because I just moved to the school and I didn't know about his reputation. Now that I just finished sixth grade I realy like him. He I quarterback of the football team and is a really good student. He has dated a lot of popular girls just to think he is cool but yesterday his friend came up to me and said that my bestie Christina told him that I liked Sam. I said no because I want to tell him in person and I knew my friend didn't tell him because she has no way to tell anyone because she's on vacay. Sam is moving at the end of this summer and I don't know what I would do without him in any of my classes. I think about him all day. It's not very easy to just come out and say that I like him because I don't know his cell phone or a facebook, but the worst part Is that he lives 5 houses down and he walks home from going down town with his friends and walks right past my house and dances right in front. He has been showing me signs that he likes me but I don't know what I should do. I'm thirteen and I'm a girl just to be clear. The bag of lies part is that I pretended to date this other guy to make him jealous. I know it's wrong but Sam was gettting on my nerves and dating a popular girl just to make me jealous. Help me please
You should just tell him how you feel. At least you know you said it. If you guys are meant to be together then you will be. But if odds are against your being together, then your situation of him moving is probably for the best. Tell him the truth about you not having a boyfriend and just let all the feelings out. If anything, you guys can still be close friends, which is better than nothing and maybe sometime in the future you guys can meet up again and hang out. The possibilities are endless :)
to get him away from his group you gotta make some alone tim for him. It's the only way. Just tell him i need to talk to you soon and let him pick a time.
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i am from india gender female age 25. actually i am in love with a guy of other cast. their parents accepted me but my parents didnt.after knowing this my parents asked me to resign the job. i resigned it.i am house arrested now.my parents are so good and soft but because of cast feeling they r not accepting.that guy tried to convince my brother but my brother didnt accept. that guy asked me to come out and lets get married but i cant go out like that leaving my parents. they get hurt.now i cant get settled in career and cant marry him what to do. i am standing on two boats.i am a coward girl.dont dare to do anything.dont even dare to die.dont even dare to go with him.if i go like that if my parents die then that curse will come to me.
You remind me of my friend who is 18 and faces a similiar Indian culture. To be honest, the Indian caste system holds no true meaning today. You need to realize that your parents will not live with you for the rest of your life. I understand it is hard to break from tradition. You have to think, am I willing to give my love up for my parents or am I going to be with the love of my life, regardless of my parents' decision. You are 25 and it is a suitable time for you to get married. My advice is this, now it's your choice whether or not you will take it. I say, try to make your own life for you and live for yourself and not your parents. If you truly want to be with this guy, regardless then you should fight for it. When you decided to fall in love with this guy, you knew he was from a different caste and something in your mind told you to continue with it. You came this far and you shouldn't shut the feeling out. If there's one thing you fight for in your life, fight for this. At least you know that you tried.
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17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what?
if "im sorry" is all he's giving you, then that's not good. for now, keep mentioning it and see if there's a change. if not, sit down and talk with him and ask him if why he's not. at least get a reason why.
maybe there's a reason and maybe he doesn't like texting. why not have him call you instead? even if its just to say hi.
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ok, so im 14 and i really want a boyfriend but im not sure if im ready. i feel totally ready but then when i see guys in person and talk to them, i can't imagine kissing them because i feel nervous and sort of not ready. it's like an easier said than done thing, you know? so, am i ready or what's up with me?
hey, i feel your pain, except ima lil older.
these types of situations are like, you never know until you try. i mean, with me, i had the guy and i wanted to do so much but when it came to actually doing it, ny nerves took over and it didn't really make the experience enjoyable. i think you need reassurance that you're ready. if theres a guy u have in mind that you like, why not try it out.
make sure you both have mutual feelings
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I had sex with my girlfriend for the 6th time today, and she bleed a little.. and she just told me that i popped her cherry and it wasn't her period. but she's used tampons and she has already had sex with another guy before me... so is it possible that i really was the first to pop her cherry??
she can't say u popped her cherry if shes already had "vaginal" sex before. unless she meant some other kid of sex.
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Okayy so i am going to be a 7th grader.. I had a few dischargez, cramps...... Is that the sign of me getting my period. When will i get my period?!!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!!!?!?!?!?!?>:(
Yeah, it most likely is. You're at the right age to get it anyway so be on the look out. Also, make sure you have some Midol with you because the first time is painful. Trust me. Well, at least it was for me :(
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I am not sure where to begin….I have a cousin that I have been extremely close to over the years. I would consider her my closest and best friend. Recently, my brother has been forced to acknowledge he has had a chronic drinking problem. We all live in the same town, and we have always gotten together for kids’ parties, holidays, etc.
At the critical point of my brother’s alcohol problem, my cousin was deciding whom to invite to her wedding. My brother’s wife had moved from the marital home with the children. When asked my opinion, I suggested that she at least invite the sister-in-law and the children, as we didn’t know if my brother was going to stay on the recovery program. She elected not to invite my brother, and his immediate family. When she sent me a text message stating this, I expressed that it wasn’t right. This starting a text message war of words, so to speak. Countless times, I tried to speak to her via phone and in person, and she refused to correspond except texting. I explained that I thought we were misunderstanding tones, etc., but she won’t communicate any other way. She explained that she didn’t invite my sister-in-law and the kids because she considered them “ex”s from the family. I honestly didn’t think that the circumstances were the same as a divorce, but I understood and respected her opinion. She has said very nasty things via text messaging, and all were hurtful. She seems like, for the past few months, she really doesn’t want to resolve this. Now the wedding is in two weeks. I have received an invitation, and didn’t RSVP because of the nasty comments made. I am wondering though, if I should take my kids to the service only, at least to show support for my uncle. I initially didn’t want to go because I believed that since my brother and his family wasn’t invited, it wasn’t right for me to go. Now, I am not sure. Any advice is appreciated.
If your kids are interested in going, you should let them go because the argument is between you and your cousin and not the kids. Also, the man is your uncle after all. Whatever problems you have with your brother's wife should remain between you too. If you do not want to attend, as well as your kids, well, there's no reason to go.
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18/f. Why is it that every time I make a friend, they eventually leave me? I've had good friends at church and school or so I tend to always believe then I find that they aren't interested in me or being my friend. Every time I try to get into a close friendship with people I associate with, I never get invited to do fun things with them after school or on the weekends. Also some of the people I held closest and even the friend that came to see me in the hospital didn't even invite me to their birthday parties/dinners. It's been like this with me ever since I came into this world. I think I may be the cause of the problem but I don't even know what I do wrong. I sometimes try to invite them somewhere and they agree to it but when the tables are turned, I'm not the one they ask to hang out. Also they admire and adore their other friends and when they are around they want to hear everything they have to say and they start to ignore that I'm there with them. It's every group of friends I've tried to fit in to. I've even tried people who are loners like me and I get shoved out of a friendship with them when I introduce them to my much prettier, more interesting friends. I'm never valued as someone's friend. They don't even adore or admire me like all the other people. I know people chose friends based on self want. Why can't I ever be wanted? I've tried diverse groups and I never seem to be the one they want to keep around. I've even had a few people hang around with me more than their valued friends because they thought I seemed left out but even those peoples don't invite me to their parties. I've been to one party my whole 4 years of high school and I've just graduated. Which is very sad. My boyfriend values me and maybe one friend whom I haven't been able to hang out with in a while. She's lost interest in our friendship but she use to treat me with respect and we were very good friends but she accidently got me into some trouble which put a huge dent in our friendship. I started questioning if she was a good friend because she never pays me back the money she owes me but on the other side, she sticks up for me and gives me great advice and use to be always there for me. Now our friendship faded and only half the time she listens to the words I say and she's always cutting in when I'm speaking. Anyway maybe I've had a couple successful friendships but I hate it when my friends are desired more than me. Once I had this one friend and introduced him to my very good girlfriend. He started speaking more to her than to me and he even didn't reply when I sent him a message and after I find he was there to send the reply because he said something to my friend and she doesn't even like him. She thinks he is annoying. He asks us to hangout and I want to but we don't because she doesn't want to. I feel like everyone is living their life and growing older and i'm just watching. I wish I could ask someone up front why I don't fancy them as a friend. I really want to know so I can change the right things about me so that I can be valued and missed and wanted when I'm not around.
You know, if there is something you want, something that you really want, you have to be aggressive about it. I think that you let people take charge of situations and run you down along in the process. When you find a friend or a group, you get trampled with other, new-coming people, who feel just the same as you, looking for new friends. You need to be a little more agressive and try to keep the conversation going and make sure you're in it most of the time. Do not try to hang with the wrong crowd, just to fit in. Those friends that you said you were close to, try to build back a relationship with them and who knows, it might be a long lasting one
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So, me and my 2 bestfriends are really close.
But sometimes i feel like im being left out. I know that they can hang out without me and everything but it seems like they do it a lot. Also, i feel like one of them dosent like me or has as much fun hanging out with me as the other one does. Whenever im hanging out with one of them, they will be texting the other one the whole time and it gets on my nerves. I just feel left out and i dont want to tell them that because i know they wont understand. What do i do?
I understand how you feel and it used to feel like that with my two best friends. The key to a great friendship is being able to put your feelings out there without the fear of being judged negatively. I think the best thing to do is to tell them and tell them how you feel. If they are your true friends, they'll find a way to work at it. Things like this make your friendship stronger :)
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So, I'm a sophmore, and my guy friend I've know since first grade likes me.
He doesn't know I know, but me and my friends ave figured it out.
I doubt he'll do anything about it. Cause last time he dated one of his chick friends it ended horribley.
But if he DOES happen to tell me one day, how on Earth to I let him down without compleyely ruining our friendship?
I love him to death, but I'm not attractied to him like that.
I did have a pretty huge crush on him seventh-eighth grade, but that is compleyely over and done with now.
Tips?
Well, if you're pretty cool around him, why not just be friends? During that time you can let him know that your interests are not in him :)
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Okay guys will be uys i understand that.
Why do guys always say they love a girl but really there just playing her. i dont understand any of that.
guys your advice would help me..
13/f
Well, you're pretty young and you know the guy rule for being young. Their maturity level is waay below that of a girl. If the guy who told you or a friend that and is around 14 or 15, I wouldn't be too keen on it. True love is something that is experienced in a mutual way and boys react differently than girls. At this age, when a guy says he loves you, it means he likes your attention. Not EVERY boy is like this but the general population is.
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ok so when i shave down there, i can get to everything like theres some hairs that are noticable but they're kinda short. do guys care about that like everything else is clean and shaved all the way down
17/femalllle.
I don't think guys care but if they bother you, why not let them grow and then shave. Also, keep shaving the ones that are easy to come off as well.
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i stay with my babydaddy but we not together.he broke up with me on my birthday last year cause he though i was mad cause he work that day.which was sad cause that was not true.nut he was my first or everything including virginity.but i feel like he using me.lik if i say i won't give him money he would kick me out.and othe girls he talk to they don't give him money and he respect them more then me and im the mother of his chilld.he call me stupid slow.one day he love me the next he say he can't wait till i get out his life.then i found out he guve girls money.and im working hard giving him money and he don't help me out.he not even working.and when he go out of town i let him stay at my mom place.and he let gurls pick him up over there.and he tell me oh we ain;t together.i no we not together but y u doing that.and we have sex i give him a blow job.and i found out he having unprotected sex and he laugh and says we not togetther why u geeting mad for.i mean you my first that took my virginity why he doing this to me.its lik every time i stand up 4 myself he want to kick me out or something.ploease help me please....
I'm sorry but he doesn't seem like a very good person to be with in the first place. Relationships aren't about abuse and if he's doing this to you then I don't see why you should be with him. I know he's the father of your child, and it's going to be tough for you. Have you looked at abortion? Or, are you planning on keeping the child? You need to ask yourself these questions. Also, I don't think it's smart to be with him. He's using you for his pleasure and he doesn't respect you and your feelings at all because of his taking advantage of you. If I were you, I'd leave right away. This isn't fair to you. Tell him it's over and your decisions on the child. Also, you might want to take a trip to the clinic to make sure you haven't caught anything from him.
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I'm 21f, my boyfriend (James) is 23m, his brother (Andrew) is almost 22, and they live with their parents. James and I have been together for about four years, and love each other very much.
But his family hates me, and we're starting to fight because I think he could fight them more on this, and he thinks he can't. He has no job and not much money, so he can't move out.
According to him, his parents think I'm not good enough for him. That makes sense, they want the best for him. They have good intentions. But they periodically tell him that he's hurting the family by seeing me, and that's just not true.
He said, "The only way they'll stop is if I break up with you, and I really don't want to."
I said, "It's your decision, they should respect it."
He said, "Yeah, well, they don't. So that's where I am."
I've tried everything from speaking candidly and honestly to his parents to writing his mom a thank-you letter (which she received, but refused to read). I've tried pretending that nothing is wrong, and I've tried playing the saint. Nothing I've done has worked. James claims to stand up for himself (and me) when they say disrespectful things, but I really have trouble believing it. They even have a problem with my CAR on their street.
Even his brother, Andrew, hates me. He invites James to do things with him, and when James tries to bring me, Andrew complains until James either says "forget it," or I tell him to go without me...but I hate doing that because I want to do fun things with them, too.
I feel left out, hated, and frustrated. Never in my life have I been the target of such discrimination. How can I help James deal with his family? How can I deal with this situation?
Any ideas/advice would be helpful.
Well, whatever you do decide to do, let it not be leaving James for this. You have a big challenge to face in your life right now. James' parents need to understand that you're not giving up. I'm sure James loves you to death but he is probably afraid of his parents. I'm sure he sticks up for you too. If his parents are intense he might just swallow his words to them because as you said, he cannot move out or basically do anything for himself. Therefore, he has to watch what he does around the house and to his parents. Don't worry about his parents, you're not in love with them, you're in love with James. And forget Andrew too, he's not yours, James is. What matters is what happens between you and James. James' parents are being ignorant and quite frankly, I don't think there's anything you can do about it. You just need to work everything out with James. :D Hope this helps.
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15/f
I'm usually pretty quiet. I have a small group of "closer" friends, maybe 8 or so. Then I don't really have any other people I would consider "friends". More like "acquantices"[sp?].
In school, I'm really shy and I probably just appear unapproachable because I'm not really social. At home, I LOVE it. My dad is amazing and he's really involved in my life. If I had to choose between him or my friends, it would definitely be him. Well, most of my friends are pretty social. They have a lot of friends and hang out with people every weekend. I'm always invited to stuff, but I always make up excuses not to go... but any time I DO end up going to the mall with my friends, I have fun. However, I'm always a bit reluctant to make plans with people. I just feel better staying at home and watching tv or reading or something then I do hanging out with my friends. I can't really understand why I'm so reluctant to have fun with my friends, but when my dad wants to take me some place, I really want to go. Isn't it usually the other way around with teenagers? You know, they want to spend as much time away from their parents? I don't know, I just feel really antisocial. Like, I don't have as many friends as some other people... I don't want to miss out on the highschool experience because I'm off spending time with dear old dad...but I just have more fun. Sorry, I got a little off track, but how can I become more social? Like make some new friends, hang out with them more and stuff?
Thanks!
Well for one, there's nothing wrong with you because you're closer to your dad than your friends. Hanging with your dad is your comfort zone and getting out of it would be pretty tough to do. For one, you should try not to cancel plans with your friends. Although you might prefer to stay home, you have to ease your way into hanging with them. The first couple of times would be uncomfortable but in the end it will help you become more social. You need to ask yourseslf what the specific reason is that you don't like hanging out. Is it because you're scared of what your friends might do? Is it because you feel they're pitying you? Other than that, try what I suggested and see if it works for you. :D
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so i am 5,4" and i am about 130 lbs
i am not chubby, like with extra fat, but i have a lot of curves
my arm muscles are big and my thighs butt and boobs are big. how do i make them smaller without getting bigger muscle? i want to be slimmer and not so curvy.
Try some simple routine exercising to lower the fat content in your diet. Doing things like push-ups, squats, and cruches might help you loose the extra baggage. Also, try running or jogging for 15-30 minutes a day.
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there is this guy at work that i have hung out with several times and we have hooked up. i thought things were going great on both sides and that we were on the same page and then i think i scared him off. i told him i had feelings for him and i dont think he was ready for that. either way, how do i get him to get back the interest in me? i feel like i may have fucked this one up. but i would really like to get to know him.. how do i get him to start calling and texting me again?
One way to look at it: If you're looking for a committed relationship, he isnt the way to go. Honestly, if he felt the same way about you, he wouldn't have been scared.
Another possibility: he's scared of a committed relationship and you need to show him what that is like. Start talking to him again, just as friends. Don't mention the past until he does. See where it takes you.
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You recently responded to a girl who got drunk and made out with some guy. I'm really confused about these lines: "Anyway, someone being "forced" into sex has a lot of self esteem issues, and just being forced into doing something like says a lot about her judgement and character. You know you're better than that and you know your actions were not meant to harm her. Apologize to her, and hang out with your friends."
How can you say that? What is your form of definition of rape? According to dictionary.com it means: the unlawful compelling of a woman through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.
So, why are you saying she has self esteem issues and everything? She got raped. She was forced into doing something she didn't want to do. What do you mean her judgment and character? She was forced into doing something she did not want to do. I have a friend who was raped by a boy she went on a date with, he took her back to his house, forced her into having sex with him, and then he stopped talking to her. My friend was a very good person, she never did drugs, got good grades and everything. So are you telling me that my friend has bad judgment? That she has low self esteem? Guys aren't always what they seem. You have honestly no idea what you're talking about. And you should really consider redoing your question to that girl.
Okay, i guess i read it wrong. Sorry.
Why don't you tell someone about the guy then? If you still have high feelings for your friend then why was she acting like that to you?
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