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i need advice
i am from india gender female age 25. actually i am in love with a guy of other cast. their parents accepted me but my parents didnt.after knowing this my parents asked me to resign the job. i resigned it.i am house arrested now.my parents are so good and soft but because of cast feeling they r not accepting.that guy tried to convince my brother but my brother didnt accept. that guy asked me to come out and lets get married but i cant go out like that leaving my parents. they get hurt.now i cant get settled in career and cant marry him what to do. i am standing on two boats.i am a coward girl.dont dare to do anything.dont even dare to die.dont even dare to go with him.if i go like that if my parents die then that curse will come to me.
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You remind me of my friend who is 18 and faces a similiar Indian culture. To be honest, the Indian caste system holds no true meaning today. You need to realize that your parents will not live with you for the rest of your life. I understand it is hard to break from tradition. You have to think, am I willing to give my love up for my parents or am I going to be with the love of my life, regardless of my parents' decision. You are 25 and it is a suitable time for you to get married. My advice is this, now it's your choice whether or not you will take it. I say, try to make your own life for you and live for yourself and not your parents. If you truly want to be with this guy, regardless then you should fight for it. When you decided to fall in love with this guy, you knew he was from a different caste and something in your mind told you to continue with it. You came this far and you shouldn't shut the feeling out. If there's one thing you fight for in your life, fight for this. At least you know that you tried.
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hi there
shame sounds pretty hectic, look i think you should do what your heart tells you, your 25 your a grown up girl, a adult and its time to make your own choices not your parents, you cant live by momy and dady forever cause what if something happens to them, how you going to fend for yourself, you need to put your foot down, your encharge of yourself and they are just going to have to live with whatever choice you make cause if you dont let go you will be stuck with them for the rest of your life, misserable wishing you have gotton out of it a long time ago is that what you want? so it is truely up to you, its time to start thinking about you and not others and your parents will never stop loving you no matter what and they might learn to forgive whatever choice you make.
hope everything turns out well
good luck
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I don't know how it is in India culture but your 25 you show be able to make your own decisons. I understand you don't want to hurt your parent and have that on your mind,but are you living your life for them or you why don't you talk to your parents,and explain. They raised you but it's for you to make the choices now and live your life and they should support you no matter what and behind you through everything. Good luck=)
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