Sima's advice column

Okay, first. I am 17/f. Last October my best friend,lets call her Katie, stated dating this boy, lets call him Mike. Mike is the biggest jerk in the history of the world and he completely hates me for no reason at all. Since she fell head over heels for him we stopped hanging out and talking since then pretty much, not including the fights every once in awhile. Okay well, so. Supposedly they’re completely in love, although he calls her a slut, treats her horribly, and breaks up with her every other week. Last weekend she found out he is moving this weekend halfway across the country. Messed up, right? So, I really want to talk to her and make sure she is okay because supposedly she hasn’t eaten in days and is like totally depressed. I still love her and im really worried about her but she really hurt me when she started ditching me for mike. I want to forgive her and all and help her through this but at the same time I want her to apologize before I forgive her. I am afraid she wont apologize for awhile and when she does it will be too late for me to help her. I don’t know what to do.

When people fall in love, they are very oblivious to what is going on outside of their relationship. Love is a very powerful thing, and I don't know if Katie stayed in this abusive relationship for love, or because Mike forced her. Your friend is subconsciously crying out for help, and she really needs you there. I just want you to realize that she might not apologize at first, it will definitely take her awhile because she's been through a lot. Imagine yourself in her place. Normally, if a person was having trouble, they'd go to their friends for advice. People have many different ways of dealing with heartbreak.

Call her up, and ask her if she wants to hang out. If she rejects, don't keep nagging and pushing her. You might push her over the edge.

Give it time.

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Does anyone know hold old you have to be to work at Glamour Secrets in the Moreno Valley mall? I'm really interested!!! :]

Why don't you call them and ask? I'm sure that the actual employers would provide better information compared to the people here.

(714) 543-2888

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Ok so, my boobs are kinda sore, like, on the inside of them...if that makes any sense :/ does that mean they're growing? how can I tell if they are? Thanks!

This is nothing to see a doctor about. Unless you see weird bumps/cysts in your breasts, maybe THATS the time that you should see your doc.

It might be:

1] That yes, they are growing.
2] Your bra.
3] What millions of others girls go through at your age.

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Uhh can anybody explain to me what exactly is going on in Lil Wayne's song "I Feel Like Dying?"
I don't get the lyrics or what they're tryna say...

He wrote the song while he was taking lots of drugs, specifically X. In my opinion, he was crying out for help.

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is there a way to save a video to your computer off youtube?

I just wanted to add on to the previous columnist's answer, which is to click the ARROW next to the blinking icon. Don't click the actual icon. Click the little arrow, and you'll see something like [this is an example], Alicia_Keys_No_One.flv. FLV is a very common file extension, it's used by Google video, Youtube, ect. and it's just a flash video.

To convert videos that are playable on iPods and Windows Media Player, go to vixy.net or zamzar.net.

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When a girl is having sex and is aroused (stimulated), does her breasts get bigger and kinda swell?.. its hard for me to explain.. but they kinda get bigger?..

The nipples start to perk up and get a little hard, but the actual breasts would most likely not swell.

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some random guy told me i had hairy arms?? ive never noticed it before... should girls shave there arms??

I shave my arms, my mom shaves her arms, my cousin shaves her arms, my aunt shaves her arms. Basically, yes, it's okay to shave your arms, but like the previous columnist noted, it does grow back a little thicker in a week or two.

You should try Nair.

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i've given a guy a hj but he didn't get a full on b*ner
[plus we couldn't finish]
is there any techniques to give a better hj?
[15/f]

It is against Advicenators policy to post this type of information seeing as there are many younger users on the website.

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yeah, so valentines day is tomorrow.
and me and my boyfriend have been going out for a week, and day.

i don't think he's getting me anything.
so i guess i'm not getting him anything either.
but its fine, i guess because we haven't been together long, at all.

so what can i do? to make valentines day cute for us? =/

urgent

I think that maybe a small stuffed teddy bear and a bag of candy would be great. Like you said, you two haven't been dating that long, so it's a small but cute gift.

Even if he doesn't get you anything, it's not like you spent $100 on a new watch for him, it's just a stuffed animal and some candy, you know?

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i need a song that's about guilt and innocence, guilt vs. innocence. anything like that. or that has something to do with guilt and innocence. school appropriate please!

thanks to anyone who can help, this is hard haa :D

Virgin Steele - Guilt or Innocence

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okay this might sound like a dumb question but is there any way to make your eye color lighter? i have blue eyes, but usually they're dark blue, and i would really like them to be a lighter blue. i don't have contacts, but is there anything that can brighten the color? thankss.

Okay, please do not take the below columnist's answer for the sake of your eyes.

If you were to buy those contacts without an examination and prescription from your eye doctor, you'd pretty much screw up your eyes.

Try putting a little white eyeliner in the corner of your eye to make your eyes pop.

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why so some sleep medicines not make me feel dizzy but a whole new, weird feeling like my heart is racing?

It is never good if any type of pill makes your heartrate jump up. The same goes for diet pills.

Stop using whatever you take right this instant.

Consult your doctor.

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what is WEBSITE the thing i can read like a book, like i don't have to go Libary and read it, i want read it on computer, like it read there, you know, i remeber one of my friend's cousin doing that reading a book on computer, i want do that, what WEBISTE?
I'm been LOOKING for it ugh, help???

Unless you plan on reading classics, you will most likely not find the Clique online. It would take forever to get every single page on there, and causing the eyes to strain while continuously reading on a screen wouldn't work either.

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i usually shave my pubic hair every so often but it hurts when i shave it.
then when it starts to grow back it gets itchy.
does nair work?
[15/f]

NEVER EVER EVER EVER, AND I REPEAT EVER USE NAIR ON YOUR PUBIC HAIR.

Even if the slightest drop of Nair dropped into your genitals, it would irritate and burn like hell.

If you don't want to shave, consider getting a trimmer just to keep the hair short and tidy.

Don't use Nair.

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I know Hitler violated the Versailles Treaty. I know HOW he did it. What i don't know is WHY no country held him accountable for it/ stopped him?

England? USA? France? Any of the hundreds of countries who knew what was going on!! What were their reasons for not doing anything?

'Simply put because no one would stand up to them when they started nibbling on the edges of the Treaty and breaking the provisions of it. many sided issue because of the Great Depression, and lack of potical will in England and France. The US had bowed out of the world scene and gone isolationist after the Treay of Versailles, most American political leadership thought it way to far in punishing Germany for a war it didn't start and also that te provisions were mainly based on a wish for revenge by the French for the losses of World War One and previous conflicts wit the Germans such as the Franco-Prussian War. One problem not considered when they did the militaary size/length of service restrictions was that keep the German military both small and for extended periods of time meant you would have a large nucleous of professionals to build a larger military around fairly quickly. Manufacturing of weapons and research were done with the assistance of several countries which allowed German engineers to work in German built factories with the understanding that the knowledge would be shared an design work for civilian and "speciality" aircraft; the ME-109 was a racing plane and not a fighter while the tri-motor aircraft and the Condor were a civilian transport/passenger not military transport or recon/bomber. One of the things that bothered many Germans in and out of the military was the movement and occupation of areas which were German held when the armistice was signned 11 Nov 1918 and the Treaty of Versailles; the armistice was supposed to freeze the militaries in place with no movement. The German Army was withdrawn to German territory to fight rioting and disrest in Germany and the Allied troops, primarily French, then moved into the positions the Germans left which was a violation of te armistice. The Americans did protest but the British refused to take sides and the French did as they pleased which drastically changed to territorial position for negotiation at Versailles and when they were forced to cede land to Russia, which had already signed a seperate peace treaty with Germany and Austria-Hungary prior to the arministice. Those actions did cause widspread feeling of being treated unfairly, cheated and too harshly by many Germans and again this was in and outof the military. WW1 was probably the first time that a country lost a war but held and maintained huge areas of the other sides territory and had no foreign troops with its own border when they lost. One of the reasons for the rise of Hitler, who played heavily on the unfair and illegal treatmen of Germany at the end of WW1 and the subsequent WW2 could be layed fairly at the feet of the French quest to win through peace and treaties what they had been unable to do militarily, the lack of political will of the British government and the withdrawal of the United States from world affairs.
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Copied and pasted from Yahoo! Answers.

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i dont have crabs, but like i was just thinking.
if you shave "down yonderr" can you even get crabs?
gracias.

I see what you're saying, and now that I've thought of it, that is a pretty good question.

I'm pretty sure that you can, because I'm looking at a website, and it says that you can get crabs under your armpits [warm, moist area], down 'yonder', and even in your eyelashes. I would say that yes, you could still get crabs, [but, most likely in the inner thigh region [between your outer part down there and the inner part of your thigh, if that made sense]].

http://menshealth.about.com/cs/stds/a/crabs.htm

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in the movie john tucker must die i really like kate's outfit when she goes out with john, its the greenish short sleeve top that kinda looks like a net, and it ties in the middle, does anyone know where i can get it?

I don't know if you can find that exact shirt because the clothes are usually made by the costume designers that are in charge of making clothes SPECIFICALLY for the actresses/actors.

However, these would be called 'cropped cardigans'.

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=sweaters&product%5Fid=2046282372&Page=1
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=sweaters&product%5Fid=2046285468&Page=all
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=sweaters&product%5Fid=2037798171&Page=all
http://www.like.com/all/green_cardigan

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What is it? and how do you get it? Thanksssssss

dafont.com

It's a website where you can download new fonts for your computer.

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has anyone used "the pink patch" and does it work?

do these weight loss patches tend to work or are they just gimmicks?

testimonials appreciated. kthanks

It looks like you're looking for an easy way out.

No patch will help you lose weight.

The only way to lose weight (heathily, and long term) is by good old diet and exercise. Limit your portions, take a light jog every day, include more veggies and fruits into your diet, limit your portions of sugary drinks/foods; it really isn't that hard.

And by exercise, I don't mean spending 3 hours at the gym. You can do some simple lunges at home, even while watching TV.

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