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I am Maria, I don't answer inbox questions (with very few exceptions, for example those people that use proper grammar and spelling). I try my best to point people in the right direction when I am answering questions.

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i am a c 36. which i consider "bigger" than most, considering a lot of my friends and a's or b's. anyways, like my breasts look quite big in t shirts but in low cut shirts i barely have a lot of cleavage..idk its confusing. but they dont look as big as my size actually is. and its not just one bra, a few of mine are that size. anyways, is that like weird at all..normal..what the heck? 15.f. thanks.

Its normal. You just have more "meat" by your armpits instead of towards the middle of your ribcage. That's what is filling out your bras. If you want more cleavage, then get a push up bra.

~Maria, 16

my boyfriend and i really want to have sex. but i haven't even let him go to 3rd base because id on't now what to do about down there. like do i shave it or trim it or what? what do guys like? please help!

In my opinion shaving would be better. Easier to clean up, and I heard it heightens the pleasure. I know that some guys are very turned off by pubic hair.

If you decide to shave, use a sharp razor, and shaving cream. If you can get one, get one of those small razors especially for the bikini area, they reduce the risk of cuts by like a gajillion percent. Moisturize and baby powder afterwards.

Oh, and if you do have sex, please be responsible; use protection. The pull out method does NOT work. Use a condom, and birth control if you can get it.

~Maria, 16

16/F
I'm due to get my period at the worst possible time! I'll be on a two-day class trip and we'll be going to a theme park. How can I prevent my period from coming? =/

Well, if you're afraid of leakage, wear a super tampon, and super pad. Change the tampon every three to four hours (or at least as often as you can). The pad will soak up the leakage if you have any. If you get cramps, bring whatever meds work for you, I recomend Iboprufen (sp?)

~Maria, 16

when would be a good time to put up a christmas tree? i was thinking firtd day of december, but thats a little early isnt it?

Well, my family celebrates New Year's like you would Christmas, so we need the tree to last 'til then. We get it about two weeks before Christmas, and its still green by the end of February.

~Maria, 16

what should i wear?!
i'm so nervous, and just don't know
any advice would we mucho appreciated!

thanks :D

Nice jeans, dressy top, nice shoes (small heels, nice flats, etc), sensible jewelry, and do something nice with your hair.

~Maria, 16

Hey i'm going to this guys birthday party and i don't know what i should get him. I'm a 13/f and he's a year younger than me what do you think I should give him.

Legos. My 12 year old brother loves them.

Friends say i have bad breath.

How can i prevent having bad breath?

Thanks in advance!

Kronix

Brush your tounge daily. Most bad breath bacteria are found towards the back of your mouth on your tongue, but be careful not to make yourself gag!

Also, you know that mucus-y stuff at the back of your throat? Try to couph it up somehow (Its hard to describe, it's almost like your blowing the stuff from the back of your throat). This is also a big factor in bad breath.

I assume you brush your teeth, so keep that up. Also, flossing makes a difference, too!

Avoid sharp foods such as onions, garlic, coffee, dairy products, spicy foods, and even mints and gum!

For more information:

http://www.coolquiz.com/trivia/explain/docs/breath.asp

~Maria, 16

my cat's about 8 months old, she's a girl. she's been whining for the past two days, nonstop. meowing so freaking loudly... she breaks down and starts rolling around on the floor and has these convulsions..., waiting for a male cat. we have a male cat, but he's older and castrated.
i'm supposing she's in heat...?

how long does this usually take and is there anything a person has to do to help her..?

Well, it does sound like she is in heat, but it also sounds that she might be having seizures. I would take her to the vet to get some blood tests. It could be something serious, but if its turns out to be just her being in heat, definitely spay her. It'll decrease the chances of her running away, and also, if she does find a non-castrated male, she will have babies, and there are more than enough cats in the world.

~Maria, 16

PS. I advice you to neuter her when she's out of heat because that will save you some bucks.

What does your family eat for Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner? I want to cook for my family this year and we have never celebrated either of those holidays before.

Thanksgiving:
Turkey, stuffed with stuffing and small whole apples
Stuffed eggs with crab
Marshmellow covered baked, spiced yams
Stewed cabbage
Cranberry sauce
Mashed potatoes with gravy
Corn on the cob
Pumpkin Pie

Christmas:
Goose, stuffed with small whole apples
Assorted salads
Cake

ok well i am dating this guy and he wanted to kiss me but i told him no because i didnt know how but i didnt tell him that i didnt know how because i didnt want to look stupid ok but then i thought if i dont kiss him then i well never learn but i am afraid that he wont like the way i kiss and break up with me plz sme one tell me what i am suposed to do!!!

xxxpoetxxx

If you have feelings for him, then kiss him. Start out with just simple pecks at first, like you would do kissing your mom, but on the lips. When you feel comfortable doing that, just pause on his lips a little. If he starts opening his mouth, open yours. Basicly repeat what he does, and you should be fine.

Don't worry too much about it! You'll survive.

~Maria, 16

I hit a deer with my car, well actually the deer hit me. There is no damage to the front of the car, the windshield isn't broken, and the airbags didn't go off, the only damage is on the hood of the car itself.

http://i13.tinypic.com/7yga9uo.jpg

My parents don't want to report it to the insurance company, how much do you think it would be to pay it out of pocket? Do you think they could just bang the hood out so it would fit again or would we need to replace the entire hood?

Poor deer, did it die?

Okay, first i'll say i'm 15 years old. After I pee, I usually feel like I still kind of have to pee afterwards like my bladder hasn't completely emptied. I don't have to go like REALLY bad but I feel like I kind of have to. And I always feel wetness "down there" and I'm not sure if i'm like leaking really small ammounts of urine or if it's discharge. And I also have an odor down there. I have no idea what this could be and i'm really embarrassed to talk about it. If I went to a doctor i'm scared they woudn't know what was wrong with me. Is this really weird?

It sounds like a urinary tract infection. I would go to the doctor ASAP (they tend to get worse pretty rapidly... of course if that's what you have, I'm no expert, I just had a UTI before and your symptoms are similar to mine).

~Maria, 16

ok im getting the fear of death now, is this just a phase im going through? my sister had this in like 3rd grade but it went away..

Its most likely a phase. But to make you feel better:

I was watching this show about all these people that had dying experiences: like in hospitals when their heart and breathing stopped for as long as five minutes but started up again.

All of them said that they felt very dizzy, and then all of a sudden they could see the room, themselves, etc, if that makes sense. One lady even said someone came in, and in fact somebody did come into the room. She even pointed out the correct person, even she was literally dead when the person came in.

I wouldn't be scared of death. The actual dying process was described as completely painless.

I personally believe the soul lives on. I'm not religious so I don't believe in heaven, but I don't think souls can see other souls. But I wouldn't know because I never died...

I hoped I eased your fears a little

~Maria, 16

My nephew, who lives with me, wont eat anything. if he eats anything its unhealthy foods. the only reason he even gets unhealthy foods id because my sister (his mother) is so worried that he wont eat anything at all. I've read up on it and im sure he's more than just a picky eatter. he eats next to nothing at all. he gets milk at bed time and his mother gives him granola bars because he likes them and they arent as unhealthy as the candy he beggs for. the doctors tell her to feed im high callerie foods but her idea of high callerie foods are junk foods adn i dont know how to get it in her head that those foods arent good for him. i know she only give him thoes foods because she knows he'll eat them. but he seriously doesnt eat any healthy foods. and hever since he stoped eatting baby food, he wont eat anyting that looks like it like yogert or soups. Hes 2 years old and weighs 25 lbs. hes not lossing wieght but not gaining. the doctors say hes not mal-nutritioned.

i need some ideas on why he doesnt eat and what i can do for him....

Thank you to anyone who can help me

I'm not that great with children's nutrtion, I'm not even exactly sure when babies stop drinking milk, but what if you try to disguise the healthy foods?

For example, smoothies are naturally sweet, and depending on what kind of fruit you use, you can add in some spinach, or carrot juice, with no added flavor, because the taste of the fruit overpowers the vegetables.

I understand you said he won't eat anything that looks like yogurt or soup, so why not serve it in a cup that isn't see through? and make it a very liquid consistency (lots of milk/juice!)

I hope I helped somewhat, or at least provided some ideas.

~Maria, 16

Whats a good way to begin to stop procrastinating? I've had this problem since middle school, and now as I'm almost finishing high school, I'm afraid it will affect my chances of getting into college with the grades I have now.

What really helped me was blocking certain websites on my computer: myspace, this one, and a couple of other ones. I deleted my favorite computer games.

While I was studying, I would turn off my phone, so there would be absolutely no distractions what's so ever.

If you tend to watch tv, try to do your homework before or after you favorite show. Set an alarm clock to ring after the show is over, then turn off the tv and do your homework.

After you do your homework, you can do whatever you want!

Do this for about a month or two, because that is when you will realize that you can survive without the computer and tv (those are usually the causes of procrastination).

~Maria, 16

is ti bad to microwave food? i dont know why i hear its bad... changes chem composition of food or w/ee??

Well, the more food is frozen then reheated, the more vitamins and minerals it loses. But it would lose just as much if you were to use a regualar oven.

~Maria, 16

hi. i think im going to do something for my mum. just because she's great. now her room isnt somewhere you would think of relaxing. so im thinking i might spruce it up a little. im going to move all her clothes into the spare room, so its like a wardrobe room, and then put a bedside table on one side of the bed. its jsut me and my mum, so she has the double bed to herself, and i cant afford another bedside table. im going to put a new lamp on the table, and get some artwork for her, and expensive bedsheets.

my question is...what can i put on the other side of the bed? to make it look more symetrical? i cant get another bedside table, so what could i get?

A floor lamp would be perfect if she reads at night. Otherwise, you can just go to furniture stores that are having "going out of business" sales.. there's a lot of them and you can really find some great bargains. Even if you don't know what to get, just look around for ideas, and you might find something that's perfect.

~Maria, 16

I just read that sperm can live for 24 hours in water and it got me thinking.

Im in the swim team, and we practive twice a week in a regular sized pool. Theres a bunch of kids (including boys) and we all practive together.

I always wear a one-piece bathing suit

What are the odds that i could get pregnant from swimming? Am i at risk?

I mean im 13. I dont want a baby yet

Chlorine does NOT kill sperm. However, the chances of you getting pregnant are very slim because first of all the sperm need to make it through your bathing suit, then up your vagina. Although theres like a billion sperm cells in one ejaculate, they are all spread out so the chances are slim of you coming across one.

Trust me I swim 9 times a week on a boys and girls swim team and no one has gotten pregnant yet.

~Maria, 16

15/f
so me and my boyfriend just had sex yesturday. Only im not sure if its considered sex. I was a virgin and he wasnt. and his penis did go inside me but he didnt finish. It was taking a while and it kind of hurt and i was tired so we stopped. So i dont know if that counts or not.
help?
thanks

In my opinion, you are still a virgin unless you orgasmed. The whole point of sex is to orgasm, right? So if you didn't, then you are still a virgin.

Most people think if you went through the whole 'penis in vagina' thing you're not a virgin, so they might disagree with me.

If you ever read the Color Purple, you will see what I mean.

~Maria, 16

im a 13 year old girl in 8th grade and i wanna know if it would be slutty if i wear this for halloween. http://www.wizardofozcostumes.com/sexy_cutie_scarecrow_costume.html i mean it doesnt show that much.. just legs. like at my school we have a dress code and i think its fine on that level.. but im going as a group with my friends wearing other wizard of oz costumes.. are these fine for them to wear?

http://www.wizardofozcostumes.com/sexy_tin_girl_costume.html
http://www.wizardofozcostumes.com/sexy_cuddly_lion_costume.html
http://www.wizardofozcostumes.com/dorothy_sexy2.html

thanks! :)

At my (high) school, where there is basicly no dress code, it will definitley be considered slutty and sleazy, even if a senior wore it. Those kinds of costumes are more for girls that are planning to go to a party to pick up guys. Definitely innapropriate for 13 year olds. I also think you will run in to a lot of trouble with the school, because the outfits slightly resemble lingerie.

~Maria, 16

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