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this is probably the stupidest question ever. lol but if your on birth control would it be ok for the guy to cum inside of you? and have sex without a condom? (link)
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There's no such thing as a stupid question. The answer to the question is that if neither of you have an STD and have been tested or are virgins and committed (not cheating or having sex with others) that if you are using birth control correctly that you could get away without a condom but I would not advise it. You cannot protect yourself from STDs that way.
He could also ejaculate in you as long as the birthcontrol you are on is being used correctly. If you are missing pills or not taking the birthcontrol pill at the same time daily on time you could be jeopardizing yourself and be at risk for pregnancy.
My advice is as tempting as no condoms sounds to be sure you continue to use one. It will protect you from pregnancy and STDs as birthcontrol pills and devices aren't flawless. They're always at the mercy of those using them.
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I feel like everyone else is always socializing and everyone else can have a good conversation except for me. wWhen im around people who are having conversation i feel like they are talking over me and withot me it seems like anything i say isnt important or pointless becasue no one would rather have a conversation with me why is this? How do i come up with interesting conversation? (link)
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Your problem is that you have no faith in yourself. If you keep going through life thinking you cannot do something such as converse with people easily guess what?
You won't be able to. People are seeing your body language and insecurites when you try to talk with them. They don't know what to make of that or you an keep talking to the person whjo just goes with the flow and looks comfortable.
I doubt they are talking over you or trying to exclude you at all. They might be waiting for you to jump in when the time is right and have continued talking as though you weren't there as you didn't seize your opportunity to talk.
A person who can have a great conversation is one that does a lot of listening and waits for when they can jump in about a topic. Don't be scared to and just go with the flow. You just have to let go of your fears and just talk to people like you would your mom, dad, siblings as it's no different.
When it comes to making interesting conversation with others ask about their interests, ask about music and movies, sports as that always leads somewhere and don't be afraid of saying something as they just might be waiting for you to seize that opportunity and are not sure how to deal with someone afraid to talk.
You NEED to believe in yourself and know that you have the same qualities and skills to hold an interesting and natural conversation with people. Your problem is you are believing a lie about yourself and something that isn't so about your abilities.
All you need to do is practice your social skills at home and do a bit of role-play with your folks to see what you can do better in conversations and initiating them. Build confidence that way and start trying out the tips your family can give you.
You can do this. You just have to relax and start talking to people at school like you would your own family. It's no different. If they aren't receptive of you find another group of people who are.
Sometimes it's hard to break in with a bunch of people who know eachother well or are in a clique. Don't dismay though or count yourself out.
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okay i have to do a debate in class tomorrow over the "nature vs nurture debate" and im on the nature side only im going to have a lot of trouble defending myself when i dont even know what to say. can someone please take the time and give me some ideas! thank you sooo so so much (link)
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For starters there's an excellent Wikipedia article that explains "nurture vs nature" debate in an easy to grasp way. I would start with that article and make notes and take down crucial points and facts from it.
When it comes to a debate the biggest thing you need to know is do not focus on having to defend yourself at all. You are probably scratching your head right know asking why. All you have to know is the facts about your stance on the issue.
During a debate you have to state them like you believe them and any time the other side mentions something bring it right back to your own agenda and lead them in circles and pepper them with more facts and evidence.
You have to know your stuff about your side of the argument isnide and out and do not worry about what they are going to say or do. You have to confident in what you know and always bring things back to those points and try to refute what you can.
There is no way for you to know what they're going to come up with so you really cannot practice for that or for defending yourself in any way.
You just have to know your argument and agenda better than they would by studying it hard and keep hammering away with them on what you feel the truth is. Trust me, once you start studying the Wikipedia article and others and start soaking it all in you won't have to worry about what to say.
My best tip for you is to actually write a speech (or an essay if you prefer) on all your key points and facts and read that to open the debate up. leave no question unanswered or lose ends in it. When the debate starts use it as your opening argument. Theyll have opening arguments too and then you both get to refute the others claims.
You teacher is looking for what you know and you have to be well researched here and write your points out on cue cards or do an actual speech. Focus on what you will and can do and not on what the others will do.
You will do fine and even if they did declare a winner of the debate know that nobody can really win these things outright anyway as all points are equally valid.
You will do fine as long as you do your homework, forget about what they'll have to say, and forget about the audience and just focus on what you know and have fun with it.
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16/f. I think I may be bipolar but I'm not sure. I've been feeling like this ever since like October. A lot has happened, and I don't think I'll get it all down, but some things that have happened are symptoms of being bipolar. Sometimes I feel so like "high", I've gotten on people's nerves when I'm like that sometimes, and sometimes the littlest thing can irritate me, and when I'm pissed off I snap. I throw things, yell, hit anything in sight, etc. Sometimes I feel really down and depressed. I have even sorta cut myself several times, or tried w/e. I've gone through both in one day, several times. Sometimes I'll feel down for several days, and sometimes really happy and such for several days. And sometimes I'm just in a normal mood. And I've looked up bipolar on the Internet, but I still don't know. I know I should talk to someone, but I can't. I can't just go to my school counsler and talk to her about this. Or friends. And defiently not my parents. But I know I need to do something if I am really bipolar. And some of the things on the Internet confused me about it. So if anyone knows what they are talking about, help. (link)
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I am bipolar myself actually. Are you experiencing any strange thoughts an or voices and especially delusions? Are you talking rapidly all the time? Those are key signs and if those are not present you are not in any immediate trouble and may not be bipolar.
Mood swings are just the half of it with this disease. From what you are describing your mood swings appear to be consistent with everyone else's. You just happen to be someone who reacts to things when angry/frustrated by throwing stuff against the wall etc. This does not make you bipolar.
It just means you have issues with anger and frustration and that's how you get them out. If you feel really down most of the time and that usually doesn't change from high to low and then back you're okay. You are however, in my opinion depresed and not bipolar.
The self-mutilation is part of a mental illness but from what you describe and based on me dealing with the disease and being around manic depressives it sounds like you have clinical depression.
Keep track of when you are feeling high though as you could naturally feel elated anyways and down over something normal. If you are always teetering between the two and going up and down with it then you might be heading towards a manic episode.
As long as the highs you experience are never accompanied with delusions, voices, weird visions etc or you think you're telepathic you likely are hypomanic and not manic. Hypomanic is where you feel the highs but not the delusions of bipolar. Keep a watch on it though as these signs can often mean you are headed towards being manic.
Getting on people's nerves can be pretty normal. With bipolar it's usually a person getting on someone's nerves while high and completely delusional or teetering back and forth and having strange behavior, visions, delsuions that others are encountering and don't know how to deal with.
You mention that you cannot talk to a guidance counsellor or your parents. I'm afraid you will have to do so for your own health and protection. They need to know what is happening with you and that you are afraid. There's no shame in saying you need help or would like help.
In this case you would see a normal doctor unless delusional and be referred to a special in mental health that deals with teens and kids. They can prescribe something to help you and diagnose your problem and take care of the issue with cutting.
Do not be afraid of this as the only way you're going to a hospital is if you are full-blown manic and delusional and a danger to yourself. To prevent that from happening you need to tell your parents what is happening either face to face or in a letter. You cannot hide this issue or gamble with your health like that.
I think you have clinical depression based on what you wrote but you need an official doctor's diagnoses and fast. You are on the cusp of big trouble here but can stop a potential manic epsiode if you are indeed bipolar by seeking medical treatment.
If you or your parents parents think you might be manic or others may think this you need to proceed to an emergency room where they can assess you and determine if you have a problem that needs hospitalization.
You have to come clean on this to them as mental illness, cutting, highs, delusions or bad thoughts etc cannot be taken care of without getting help. I urge you to do so.
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I was going to run for student counsel. Everyone was excited and the president encoruaged me. So I did and I found out I didnt sign up. EVEN THOUGH I DID ALOT OF WORK AND GOT OVER 100 SIGNATURES. The advisor was like "Talk to the president we are going to have an open space." So I did. She didnt even want to talk to me and told me "Sorry, Kelsey already asked me so yea."
I was really upset and my mom called the advisor and she told my mom that rules are rules. Then my mom asked her "why does someone get appointed when they dont get signatures, thats not following the rules" and the advisor advoided the question. I talked to several relatives and they said that its unfair and that the advisor needs to be more in charge.
I understand why she would appoint her friend BUT I DID ALL THAT WORK FOR NOTHING! I actually felt good about myself and some people will be like "I told you were a loser...you couldnt get enough signatures!" (she also asked me why i was wearing Hollister, cuz losers shouldnt wear hco a few yrs. back.)
Theres nothing I can do, Im just really upset. (link)
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There is EVERYTHING you can do. You have over 100 supporters and this other girl didn't. Have those people continue to back you and go with your parents to the principal of the school and outline to him or her the actual rues and how this girl was apointed because so and so was friends with her and did not do any of the required work to be eligible.
The principal should see your list of signatures and take care of the situation. If he doesn't have those 100 students plus their families rraise a hell of a stink at a PTA meeting as they are supposed to be teaching you about a fair democracy. Let that advisor know through this action that bending the rules is not appropriate.
If this doesn't work write an editorial about your highschool's student council and the teachers, advisors not doing what they are supposed to and appointing someone who is not truly eligible to a position. Keep it at 200 words or less and it ought to get into the municipal paper that comes to houses in your community with fliers.
Don't give up as you are in the right and the amount of pressure you keep applying will get people to re-examine their choices and behavior. Prepare to make a few enemies doing this but you'll be okay.
You just have to keep bringing up your record vs hers. Also, if this is how your school runs student council think long and hard if you really want to be part of such a corrupt bunch of people including the teacher who picks favorites. You might be meant to do something much better in that school or outside of it apart from student council.
Trust me, if this girl stinks at what she is doing or will be they'll soon turf her. Justice always has a way of dealing with these things and we don't necessairly have to lift a finger. But you should raise a little hell as the song says about this.
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I have no personality. It kinda sucks 'cause that means I don't have lots of friends. How can I gain a great personality? I'm very shy, so that doesn't help at all. What are somethings I can do, say, and talk about with other people to make them think I have a good personality? Please help. =[ (link)
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EVERYONE has a personality hon. You are still in the stages of discovering yours and learning who you are. That is perfectly fine and should be an interesting journey. You are an intravert where as your classmates are all extraverts.
What you need to do is be yourself as cliched as that sounds. Next, you need to approachthe people you want as friends. Just talk to them like you would mom, dad, siblings etc. as it's the same thing and ask about their interests. invite them to a movie, the mall, tohang out etc. on the weekend and see how it goes.
You have no reason to be shy around your classmates as they will not judge or mock you for it. They may in fact feel as insecure as you are dealing with new people but hide it a bit better than you do.
Another thing you could do to make friends is host a party and invite people you like over. Throw on some music to dance to or play trivia or muder mystery games or buy that DVD game Scene it as you'll be playing for a good hour. You'll need to relax and just go with the flow there.
Another tip is to think in your mind over and over like a broken record that 1) these people want to know me as much as i want to know them and 2) These people want to hear what i have to say and be my friends.
How do you show them you have a good personality? You do this by being friendly, saying hello in the halls, complimenting people when you should/can. Approach people at lunch and just talk to them like you would anyone you know.
Offer to be a home work buddy and or tutor for your classmates or start up a study group. That's a fast way to bond. The most important thing of all is to stop thinking you have no personality and lack friends. If you keep thinking that people will sense your feelings of insecurity and inferiority and outright avoid you.
You need to know that you already have all the qualities everyone else does to make friends and that people will be attracted to you. Think in your head each day that all you have to do is be you and that I will have more friends than I will ever need. Sure enough these thoughts will help you relax and an abundance of friends will materialize.
All you have to do is talk to these people like any other normal person you talk to. Ask about their interests, what they like to do after school, movies, sports, parties etc. Let them talk and do not offer any info about yourself until and if they ask. This will work well for you and garner the desired results you want.
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13/female this boy i like is about to get hooked up with another girl but the other girl already have a boyfriend! would it be wrong if i try to get him to go with me seen that they are not going togahther yet (link)
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There is nothing wrong about letting him know you like him or showing him signs through flirting etc. that you do. You have to be prepared though that the other girl may wind up with him. She may break it off with her current boyfriend to be with him.
The best thing you could do is approach him and say something like this: "So, what's the deal wth you and X are you an item?" If he says no then you know whether to waste your time or not in trying to snag him.
If that does not work try to become his friend and get close to him over time. When he breaks it off with someone you can then swoop in and stand a good shot of being his girlfriend that way.
To reiterate nothing is wrong with seeing if he would go out with you provided you know what is going on with the other girl and him. Your only problem might be that shegets very jealous and annoyed at you if he chooses you over her. You have to be prepared for that as a possibility.
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1. what are some books you would reccomend for a 16 year old. I like teen books that consist of a person's perspective on high school, sex, life, etc. so far i have the earth my butt and other big round things
ps im not interested in the sisterhood of pants lol i forgot the name.
2. what are some books you reccomend to bring up self esteem and standing up for yourself bringing up your self confidence, etc. kind of like high school survival books (i hope this makes sense)
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I haven't been in highschool for a number of years now but do know of an amazing author you should check out. The person's name is Paul Kropp. He writes books on a wide-range of topics from teenage dating, dealing with high-school, peer-pressure, sex, sexuality and life.
His latest two books are Homerun and Running The Bases: Definitely Not About Baseball. Homerun is a sequel to the latter which is about a guy who has zero experience with girls and a girl who agrees to help him find a girlfriend if he pays her for her tutoring services on how to score a relationship with a girl that will last.
Kropp is a lot of fun in my opinion as his books are dramatic and comedic at the same time. I have no connection to him or his publisher (I have to say that as I'm giving you links to an outside source) Check out paulkropp.com for more info on him.
He says on his Web page that his books are designed for teens in a 13-18 series of books as well as kids. He's even designed a special series of books for teens who absolutely hate reading.
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You know those surveys on Myspace that other people fill out for you? Well, the guy I like, who likes me too, filled one out and sent it to me. One of the questions said, 'what would you do if you knew I wanted to kiss you?' And he put, 'go and kiss you in the most public place possible.'
I thought that was very, very sweet. =]
But I wondered why he'd say that?
Any ideas?
Thanks!
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You never can be sure with chainletters or goofy surveys exactly what people were thinking of when they put in their answers to questions. This could be nothing but then again it could be him telegraphing to you that he likes you and wants to kiss you. You just cannot be sure.
Why don't you hit him back with a message to his Myspace account and mention "I noticed your answer to the question about kissing. Interesting. What did you mean by it?" Wait and see what he says as he might just tell you that he likes you. If he doesn't like you at least you'll know it was a goofy answer or something.
I think he does like you. Write him that e-mail and put "If you would like to hang out with me and my friends some time let me know. We plan to go to X this weekend." If he shows no interest after you've e-mailed that you'll know he just isn't in to you.
The signs though seem to point to him liking you. He's just being cryptic about it. You have to make a move without asking him out using the tips above in e-mail. I hope you get your answer as you can only know the truth by approaching him yourself.
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ive always liked guys and ive nevr been attracted to girls and ive nevr evr wanted to date one but recently i came across a porno on my dads computer and i watched a little bit of it and i did masturbate.. does this make me lesbian? bi? :(thanks in advance (link)
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You are absolutely fine and this incident does not make you into a lesbian (far from that). You noticed the video and were sexually curious and got turned on by it. Men and women often watch porn together were both are straight and women get turned on by scenes with other women. It's fine.
It does not make you gay even if you did masturbate to it or it turned you on. A lot of girls your age have watched videos like this and the same reactions have happened with being turned on. It's normal and okay even if you did masturbate to it.
As long as you are not attracted to other females whatsoever and like guys only you aren't gay and this interest and liking the video you saw will not a lesbain make either. I hope this helps you and ends the confusion.
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ok, so i am a little confused. i am a female, 14 years old, and a catholic cristian. i was wondering what we can and cant do with sex. i know God wants us to wait until we are married, but could we get naked infront of a guy? or what? please explain this to me!!!
thanks!!! (link)
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Everyone interprits the bible and Christianity differently. I don't think you would be any less a Christian, a catholic or follower of Jesus's works for having sex, touching others/yourself or being naked n front of anyone male/female.
None of that affects your core religious beliefs or makes you any less a Christian. God's not out to judge or punish you for having natural and sexual desires. At your age however, it's best that you not act on them by having sex.
This is to keep you healthy and safe. But as far as God punishing you or condemning you it's not going to occur--or all of us would be going to hell for acting on desires. Think about it. You're still a devout catholic, a good person, and following your religion.
It's all about practicing the religious principals, following Christ etc. but as for condemnation I wouldn't worry. While the bible may make mention of waiting until one is married all of this is open to intepritation and the book is not meant to be taken literally all the time.
Regardless of if you descide to have sex before marraige most teachings say God is a loving God and not one who condemns or punishes people for things like this. He would for murder etc. Everything about sin etc. is interprited a million ways to Sunday School by each different religion sect.
Don't worry as you're a good Christian and practicing what you are taught and doing the best you can each day. That's what you should be doing. If you choose to have sex before marraige it's okay.
Nobody else can make that choice for you or has any right to try to do so or impose their beliefs. You have to listen to your own heart and act accordingly to make such a big decision.
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I'm about to graduate from a trade school next week and there is a teacher who I grew close to. And i'm kind of sad because I don't want to lose contact with him after graduation. It's nothing weird, I have just always gotten along better with adults than people my age...
Anyway, How can I ask him if we can stay in touch and remain friends without it sounding weird I guess, because he is my teacher and also i'm the youngest one in class and I don't want him to see me as just some weird kid.
I'm 19 and he's around his early 30's (link)
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I'm exactly like you. I had two professors I liked and got extremely close to them so I could learn more from private discussions about the topics they were teaching. I bet like me, everyone in your class resented you for it. Anyway.. on to your question.
There is NOTHING wrong with talking to this professor of yours and telling them how much of an impact they have have made on your life and career thus far. Tell him that you would like to keep in touch and ask if you can e-mail or call from time to time about what your are doing or seek ther advice.
If they say yes get their in-school e-mail info and give yours. A lot of people who are graduating do this and let their former profs. know what is happening in their careers from time to time. It's perfectly fine and normal to ask about.
This is also why alumni associations exist. Make sure you sign up for their bulletins etc. Profs. and classmates can stay in touch this way and through e-mail at the school. So, I guess what I'm saying here is to ask them if you can keep in touch via e-mail and phone from time to time.
It's not improper and it is becoming more and more common for grads. to do so. They will not see you as weird or anything of the kind. As long as your reasons are proper and related to your career going forward and your studies and accomplishments post grad there's not a single thing wrong with it as long as your e-mails and calls aren't coming in constantly.
Every now and then is usually fine with teachers and profs. They benefit greatly form it as they can see how what they taught you influenced how you became and your accomplisments in the field they trained you for. It's validation for them that they're doing a good job.
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OK, when i moved here 3 years ago i met two girls who were best friends and i wanted to be part of that group because i liked them both, so i try to hang out with them, but i just feel erally left out, so for a while i would ony hang out with one of them and try to make the other one feel left out, then, if that didn't work i would do the same thing with the other one. I didn't do it conciousely but i realize now that that's what i did. Well, i decided which one i wanted to be friends with and tried my best to leave the other one out. Well, now, 3 years later i am best friends with one of them and they hate eachother. I didn't realize it at the time i was only in seventh grade but now i realize that it could be my fault... is it? (link)
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It's not your fault from what I can see based on what you wrote. People decide on their own whether to be friends or hate eachother.
Something must have happened in their relationship that you aren't aware of that drove them apart. It has nothing at all to do with you at all. People grow apart naturally especially if one is more mature than the other or no longer interested in any of the same things.
It would appear though that they had a fight over something and you were not aware of it and why. It's up to them to patch it up or not. Stay out of it though and do not get drawn into it or pick sides. It's not your worry or business to be concerned over. They'll figure it out or move on.
It's not your fault at all. You cannot control what they do or how they treat eachother. Nothing you said or did had any influence on this situation happening at all. So, you can relax.
The only bad thing you did was in the past pretending to be friends with one and then being friends with the other without being friends with both. It was wrong to make either feel left out for your own gain. That was wrong but you have learned from it since. That situation has nothing to do with the situation where they hate eachother though.
I would be friends with the girl you are friends with and let people sort out their own mess on their own. By doing this you will not lose your friend for getting in between them.
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okay so i've never been fingered before, but i probably will by my boyfriend soon. will i bleed? i use tampons and i have no problem using any size so i don't know if that stretched out the hymen already? also i know this is gross but what if they finger you when you have discharge down there? any help would be appreciated! (link)
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Communication is key before, during and after this sexual act. You are not supposed to bleed at all. If you do it's because he's being too rough and doesn't know what he is doing.
It's your job to tell him exactly what to do and what you like. Most guys make the mistake of ramming their finger up the vaginal canal thinking that's what fingering is. The girl then feels pain as she isn't lubricated and can and will bleed.
If you've heard stories from friends about bleeding thgis is why and how it usually happens. As you know all fingering really mean is masturbation done by your partner rather than yourself. Most people focus on clitoral stimulation but some girls find that too intense.
You know your body best so you need to guide your partner through this the first time and make sure he understands what you are not comfortable with and not to be too rough or ram his fingers up your vagina and hurt you.
As long as you communicate with him about this you'll be fine and will not bleed or feel uncomfortable. The bottom line is teenage boys have no clue (none at all) about female anatomy and what they're doing. You've got to educate him to avoid an embarassing scenario or in your case pain.
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okay well my science teacher absolutely hates me and i have no idea why. she picks on me in front of my whole class and is always like well unless you get a's in my class you shouldn't be talking. she gives me 0's on homework just cause i missed half of a question. whenever she says shit to me i usually take my phone out and text my mom. but she only picks on me. i work my ass off in that class. like no joke. i answer all the questions and i pay attention. she e-mails my mom and says i don't do anything and i talk all class. im so sick of it i swear. i went to the counselor with my friend and he said to talk to her. well we didnt want to because shes a bitch. sorry but she is. my mom called he conselor and she said he was going to talk to her but i think shell b even more of a bitch. she always yells at me and everything. i got my grade of 27 points but she doesnt think i try. well whatever what should i do (link)
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You should approach her after class one day alone. Ask her why she thinks you aren't trying hard and ask straight out "why do you hate me so much?" That question will hit her in the gut hard and make her think. You may also find out then and there that she doesn't hate you at all.
This teacher might have seen glimpses of something good such as a gift you have or knowledge etc. that isn't coming through enough in your work, in tests or when you participate in class. She may have a high standard she wants you to strive for. she may not be the bitch you think she is but then again she might.
You need to go to the source herself rather than the principal or guidance teacher and try to speak to her with maturity and handle this yourself. If you are not satisfied by her statements than approach the principal again or guidance counsellor and ask to tranfer into a science class with a different teacher or if you cannot do so drop her course.
I was in a similar situation and I must tell you that the principals, counsellors and school board are only concerned with what it will cost to bus a student or transfer them to a new school or out of a class. They will always take the side of the teacher and not you.
They're useless as are all guidance counsellors in high school period unless they're asked to photocopy a schedule or provide a transcript ;) Continue to document in a diary exactly what the teacher is saying or doing with you and present irrefutable evidence to your parents and let them go from there.
My advice to you is if your teacher is truly the bitch you desrcibe her as is to drop the course now and have no contact with her in your academic career at high school ever again. Don't stress yourself out when you don't have to.
Get your science credits through correspondence courses, night school or summer school at the end of the year. You don't need someone bashing you and ruining your self-esteem if that is indeed what is happening.
Approach your teacher when nobody else is around and ask these questions and don't hestiate or blink 1) Why do you feel I'm not trying? 2) Why do you hate me so much? 3) Why do you tell people they cannot ask questions unless they earn A's on everything.
You'll have her in a corner she cannot back out of. Listen to her explanations and judge from there whether to drop the course or not or have your parents meet with school officials again. If her reaction is a negative one tell her "It's no wonder half your students are completely turned off by science period"' and leave.
Tell your parents not to e-mail her ever again on your behalf or answer the e-mails she sends. Instead document every one of them by printing them out. This will work as having evidence of her behavior and whether she is ganging up on you.
Like I said, summer school isn't that bad but being exposed to someone who is as you describe her and not someone doing this to just motivate you to excel is not a good situation to be in for your self-image and stress.
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OK, Well, I like this guy...
But he's two years older.
At one point one of my friends were like, "He's going to ask you out." But I was like noway.
Then,
That friend was like ya, he is.
But then he went and asked my friend out. She said no because she was being a good friend, because she knew I liked him. So, that was good, but, I don't know how to get his attention, because ever since her found out that I liked him, he doesn't talk to me anymore.
He says its weird because he is good friends with my older brother, and I can see how that could be weird, but sometimes I wish it wasn't like that, because I REALLY REALLY like him. Everyone expects me to get over him now, but to tell you the truth I can't!
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
13/f (link)
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I have a hunch your brother must have told him to keep away from you and not date you. Something has happened here for him to suddenly refuse to talk to you.
Have your friends been bugging him about asking you out? If so that can turn a person off of you. The next time you see this guy ask him straight out "why don't you talk to me anymore?" and try to get an answer out of him.
As long as your friends have not pestered him about whether he likes you have one of them ask him "We notice you don't like talking to X anymore why?" You should be able to get an answer and reason why from one of these approaches.
I would also corner your brother and tell him I know X is one of your best friends why has he stopped talking to me? If you brother doesn't know get him to find out.
Odds are the guy knows you like him and want to go out with him but has no interest in you romantically. He likes your friend more than likely and not you. The situation is too weird for him for tell you how he feels because of yourbrother being his friend.
If he won't talk to you after being approached again than you must move on. This might be his idea of how to reject you and not hurt you or cause shit with your brother by ignoring you. He may be hoping you'll get the message he doesn't like you that way or as a friend too.
I would try to find out why he's giving you the cold shoulder and go from there. If he continues ignoring you it's not worth it. Your friend might have also told him the truth about you liking him when she turned him down. He may be angry at you over that as he wanted her and she told him no.
Who knows? You have to try and find out using the ideas above and then move on. It doesn't sound as though he's going to date you now or in the future just to be honest.
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I am freaked out here and I want some assurance. Well, yesterday a guy lay on me and was kissing my mouth and smooching and all and I was fully clothed as in I was wearing a salwar kameez and had my panty, my top of the salwar and my kurta on...and he too had his lungi on...I don't think he came or something but even if he did what are the chances that it would have travelled from his penis to his lungi from there to my bottom and then to my panty and finally to my vagina. And just for the record there was no direct penis-vagina contact at all as throughout I was fully clothed and neither his penis nor his hands touched my vagina or my genitals. Every body's telling me I have nothing to worry but then I just needed some assurance and I am sure this is the best place. Please help me! I am going crazy (link)
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You have nothing to worry about as sperm dies once it hits the air. As long as you were fully clothed semen cannot get through your clothing, make it through your underwear and into your vagina. You cannot get pregnant here. There was no penis-vagina contact so you are A-okay here. I hope this helps you.
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I am very shy about my body.
I never get in a bathing suit even around my friends because i dont have big boobs, and like they all do. I always feel so insecure. I don't like it. I was invited to a pool party and i'm mainly going because of the reason
but thats not the fool reason.
any help I can get on being comfortable with my body ? (link)
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The truth of the matter is that your friends are likely as insecure about their bodies as you are. They'll never admit it but they probably feel judged and as if everyone is looking at them because of their brerast size, height and or weight. All teenage girls feel this way at some point while growing up.
It would be absolutely foolish of you to allow your fears to dictate what you do and your ability to have fun. You need to go to this party and relax and have fun. Focus only on having fun and swimming and you'll soon forget everything else.
Your friends won't be judging you or looking at your physique. They'll be hoping other people don't do that to themselves. Believe me the fears you mentioned above will not come into play here.
People grow and bloom at different stages because of their DNA and family history. If your mother was a late bloomer during puberty and took quite a well to grow or develop you'll be the same. The good news is you will catch up to your friends eventually and become taller as well as your breasts will grow bigger.
The best help I can give you is to recommend you attend the party and have fun. When you notice that nobody is thinking of your breasts etc. it will boost your confidence as you can remember from it that it's not a problem or issue.
The other advice that I can give to help you feel better about your body is to know inside your head (repeat it to yourself over and over) that everyone develops at their own rate and you are normal. People will like you for you and not your body anyways. So, relax, don't worry and have fun at your party.
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this doesnt ahve much to do with sex but some what i want to get a piercing down there. ANd i wanted to know if it hurts? And is it any use? would i be wasting my time trying to get it. And how much does it cost and where do you go a tatto and piercing palor? What do you say yeah i want my crotch piered? Is there any way you could get it being 17? Thankss -- (link)
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You have to be 18-years-old to get a genital piercing in most U.S. states as well as in Canada. To get a piercing you would need to book a consultation with a piercing expert at a tatoo-body piercing parlor.
They would sit you down and talk about what piercing is the best choice for you. There are several kinds and each hurts and feels different from the other. Some piercings are easier to get than others but it's all based on your own pain threshold and what you can handle.
Costs can vary based on where the piercing is and how complicated it is to put in. What drives the price up is the actual jewelery they will be putting in. They charge for it and the reason you need two appointments is that each piece is made for you and you alone in their shop. That takes about a week or so.
Is it any use? genital piercings can increase your sexual pleasure so if that's why you feel you need one i guess the answer in short would be yes.
When you go to the piercing place (when you turn 18 as they will not do it otherwise as you're a minor) you need to know the different types that exist for females. For example, you can pierce your inner or outter labia, clitoris or clitoral hood or ask for triangle piercing or to pierce the sensitive area of skin between your vagina and anus.
I'm sure if you do a Google search on these kind of piercings tons of tattoo shops will come up as will descriptions of the piercings themselves and photos where they insist you muust be 18 or older to proceed on the page.
I cannot and will not give anyone links etc as their are laws and kids here so please do not ask and to all other posters do not post them. I didn't for those reasons and you can bet that anyone that does will get booted from here. I just have to mention that to keep you all safe and prevent someone else from posting it.
Also, EXTREMLELY important here: Do not try to pierce your own self with a piercing gun or needles be it a gential piercing or other area of the body. When it comes to gential piercings if you pierce them wrong you can get an infection, have your body reject the jewelery and or in extreme cases die from piercing that area yourself.
It's not something to do on your own and it's why there are professionals trained to do it right.
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ok, so like our best friend( like a great friend that i have known 4eva!)) has a really hard time choosing the right guys. she goes out with guys that have like done bad things. we try to help her but theres nothing more we can do. should we just tell her straight up how we feel?
or
keep feeling badfor her??
hElP (link)
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It is up to your friend to learn on her own that she is dating the wrong people and to make better decisions about guys on her own. You and your friends have already told her how you feel and it didn't make a difference then and unfortunately will not now.
It all goes back to the saying "You can lead a horse to water but cannot make it drink." Your friend is always going to make her own choices regardless of what anyone says. She is the only person who can convince herself of what you are saying and start making changes.
Unless you want to make her angry you guys should keep out of her business when it comes to relationships no matter if her beau is a complete ass or not.
First of all, you need to know that if you ever come between two people who are dating and tell one you dispise the other have they'll both choose eachother and cut all of you out of the picture and cease being your friends. I've seen it happen time and time again (and yes to my own self too).
You have to let your friend go out with whoever she wants and let her figure things out for herself. Eventually she will learn not to fall for jerks on her own even if she has to learn that the hard way.
It is not your place not your right and or a good idea for you and your friends to give her any advice or tell her not to date certain guys. All that will happen is that you'll get her angry and she'll choose the guy over her long-time friends. So my advice, M.Y.O.B and let her learn for herself.
It's the only thing you can do as you'll get kicked to the curb rather swiftly if you get involved in her relationships and between her and a guy or guys period.
I wouldn't feel bad for her either as she has to open her eyes up on her own and take a look at what people have told her in the past about her choices. You and your friends already told her once about your feelings so she knows your position. don't tell her again as it's falling on deaf ears.
She has to see for herself all of the things you mentioned and you cannotget her to do that. She has to get to that point on her own by learning lessons through her mistakes. You cannot feel sorry for someone who will not accept the truth or open their eyes when someone has told them the facts. Stay clear of ever bringing up guys with her again or prepare to be without your friend.
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