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true blue? or fake snake?
ok, so like our best friend( like a great friend that i have known 4eva!)) has a really hard time choosing the right guys. she goes out with guys that have like done bad things. we try to help her but theres nothing more we can do. should we just tell her straight up how we feel?
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keep feeling badfor her??
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well if you guys really really want to be her really great friend, then i'd calmly explain to her how i feel about her dating all these guys that have done bad things.
another choice you have is to start creating some space so you dont have to be so involved with her. cause if her bf for example does drugs, and she invites you guys to do drugs, then what? so if you have a little space to move around, she won't be as close with you guys.
she might get offended that you guys are barging into her business (i know i would) but that's what friends are for right? making sure we don't mess up?
hope i helped :]
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It is up to your friend to learn on her own that she is dating the wrong people and to make better decisions about guys on her own. You and your friends have already told her how you feel and it didn't make a difference then and unfortunately will not now.
It all goes back to the saying "You can lead a horse to water but cannot make it drink." Your friend is always going to make her own choices regardless of what anyone says. She is the only person who can convince herself of what you are saying and start making changes.
Unless you want to make her angry you guys should keep out of her business when it comes to relationships no matter if her beau is a complete ass or not.
First of all, you need to know that if you ever come between two people who are dating and tell one you dispise the other have they'll both choose eachother and cut all of you out of the picture and cease being your friends. I've seen it happen time and time again (and yes to my own self too).
You have to let your friend go out with whoever she wants and let her figure things out for herself. Eventually she will learn not to fall for jerks on her own even if she has to learn that the hard way.
It is not your place not your right and or a good idea for you and your friends to give her any advice or tell her not to date certain guys. All that will happen is that you'll get her angry and she'll choose the guy over her long-time friends. So my advice, M.Y.O.B and let her learn for herself.
It's the only thing you can do as you'll get kicked to the curb rather swiftly if you get involved in her relationships and between her and a guy or guys period.
I wouldn't feel bad for her either as she has to open her eyes up on her own and take a look at what people have told her in the past about her choices. You and your friends already told her once about your feelings so she knows your position. don't tell her again as it's falling on deaf ears.
She has to see for herself all of the things you mentioned and you cannotget her to do that. She has to get to that point on her own by learning lessons through her mistakes. You cannot feel sorry for someone who will not accept the truth or open their eyes when someone has told them the facts. Stay clear of ever bringing up guys with her again or prepare to be without your friend.
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tell her how you feel. if she doesn't except it, let her go with the guy... but also tell her to be careful, and that if anything happens, let her know you will also be there for her. some people just need to figure things out for themselves. hope i helped and good luck!
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