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how can i get a hot bikini body b4 spring break?!!?

Try to exercise or lose weight in the areas you of your body that you want to look better. Start running or jogging and do crunches and sit ups. Eating healthy, watching what you eat, and drink water will help too. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I think I like this guy, and he called me hot and everything but hes in the grade bollow me. Should I go for it or just forget about him?

If you like him, definitely go and ask him out! Who cares if he is a grade below you, age doesn't matter. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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ok well i have a friend but lately shes been pissing me off... last year she made out with this guy and all they did was kiss but she went around telling people that he fingered her... then this year she hooked up with him again but she says she doesnt like him anymore... she still like makes out with him and i guess its like the "friends with benefits" sort of thing but i get so mad at her because i know the only reason shes doing it is to be "experienced" so she thinks shell be cool... then she tells me not to tell anyone but she like advertises it all over her live journal thing... the rest of the people that know are annoyed by it too and i dont want to talk to her because everytime i talk to her about anything negative she takes it way to personally and gets all mad... help!
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You need to talk to her some way and explain to her how you feel about the things she does. Well since she takes things personally when you talk to her in person, you should probably write her a note or email her, if she has an email address. In this note, explain that the things she says and does effects other people and how they think about her, especially you. Just give a lot of examples about the things she does and also write how and why you are her friend. You don't want this note to be bad so in it, just write the reasons on why you are her friend, like I just mentioned. You could also ask other people to do this as well she your friend knows that you aren't the only one that is annoyed by her actions. She is going to be hurt or mad at first but she will understand and will try to change for the better if she gets the idea of why people are annoyed by her. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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My school is doing Aresnic and Old Lace, and I am playing Elaine. We will be doing some "stage-kissing" and I don't know what they mean by that. Could someone explain this technique?

To "stage kiss", you basically put your thumb over the guy's mouth and kiss your thumb, not him, so it seems like you are actually kissing him. That's pretty much one of the techniques in "stage kissing" and it's pretty simple. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Well I am 14 years old and in 9th grade of high school. I have this really cool girlfriend who goes to a different school and we have been going out for 4 months. I also have this girl who's my best friend who I've started to like too. I can also hint that she likes me and I've been thinking about possibly asking her out. I mean, I love my girlfriend but i don't know what i should do. I know it isn't fair to like someone else while you're going out with someone so I wanted to know what you guys thought.

Thanks,

Confused

You're right, it isn't fair to like someone else while you're going out with someone. You should definitely choose one of these two girls. List the pros and cons of each girl like who do you see or talk to more often and who makes you feel better? I think you should pick your best friend, since you like and and she might like you and that you see her more often. It isn't fair for your girlfriend to be lead on as in that she doesn't know that you like someone else. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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im 13f n ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost three weeks now and we still havent kissed. he kisses me on the cheek all the time but thats it. is this going too slow?

Hey, don't worry, it isn't going too slow and things will be faster eventually. You're only thirteen and you only have been with your boyfriend for a few weeks so it's normal for things to be slow. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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hey well me and my g/f have been goin out for like 5 months and i dont kno wat to get her for valentines day..i got herr a bear and a heart necklace already for x-mas ...plz help..
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You could get her a bracelet that goes with the necklace that you gave her for Christmas. That would be sweet! You could also take her out to a fancy resturant that you can afford and that she likes. You can give her some flowers too because girls love flowers, well I know that I love flowers! Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I just found out that the guy i like is friends with my worst enemy, whom is really very rude to me, and now Im afraid to talk to him. What should i do?

You definitely need to talk to this guy that you like and tell him about this girl and what she has done to you. It's alright to be afraid to talk to him but you should talk to him and tell him. Tell him not to believe anything that this girl says about you and to just come to you to see if it was true. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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i am in 8th grade. and i am not doing VERy good in school. on my report card i got 2 F's! my mom is taking my phone, comp. after school act. away from me if i dnt get that up! what should i do??!!!

Well, you really can't do anything about how your mom is taking away things, unless you try to show her that you are doing better in school. In the classes that you are getting bad grades in, talk to those teachers and ask them to write a weekly note, stating that you are improving or showing that you are. My friend had the same problem as you and she did what I just mentioned and her mom just grounded her until she got a good grade on her next progress report. If you don't want to do what I just told you, then just try to get better grades and study in front of your mom. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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what does "STFU " mean? i get the "FU" part but "ST"...what does it mean? i see it everywhere and it drives me crazy not knowing what it means!

All together, "STFU" means "Shut The F*ck Up"
-Karen

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Erggg...I'm 13 and i STILL weigh only 70 pounds!! i'm not worried that i'm short, it's okay with me, but i really need to gain weight! i dont wanna die form this! And pigging out on junk food dont help either....

To gain weight, you need to eat food that has a lot of carbs and calories. Try not to eat so much food that is unhealthy for you because in the future, it will affect you. You should definitely talk to a doctor about this because he/she will help you out, much better than all of us. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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ok, i'm not ugly, but i'm not exactly beautiful. does anyone know if there's a way to make me look and FEEL prettier? and by "pretty" i dont mean "slutty"

Like what others have said, having confidence in yourself will make you look and will definitely make you feel prettier. A little bit of make up will also help with this. If you just wear eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara, and cover up, that will also help you look and feel prettier. Wearing make up as little as possible is the best way, instead of wearing a lot. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Hey Karen, i was just wondering are you the one on the chat "Karen8" i think it is? if you are then sorry about that one day in the chat i'm "Cort" and me and all my friends were at my house and they got on my cpu and decided to go on the chat room, so sorry about that day, i just wanted you to know that it was not me and my friends didnt mean any of the stuff they said, so sorry about all that. *Cort*

Yeah, that's me. It's alright and I really don't care that much. It's just that this chat isn't a chat where you should invite all of your friends in it and talk because it is annoying. It's not a rule but then again, it is. Just tell your friends not be rude and/or annoying. There are just a lot of people that come into this chat and it's hard to remember who was who and such.
-Karen

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heyy everyone. ok i was wondering if a guy is 18 years old and your 15 is it illegal to go out as boyfriend and girlfriend? because theres this really hott college guy and i really like him a lot but hes like i cant ask her out because its illegal. thanks yall!

Yes, it is illegal, well where I live it is, because if your parents find out about you going out with him, they can bring him to court. If you ever have sex with him (just giving an example), it is considered sagitory rape, since he is an adult and you are a minor. You can still go out with him but you can't do anything and your best bet is to just wait until you are legal. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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i told this guy i liked him and he told me he likes me. well we are unable to go out cause of his grades in school and because he can't have a gf right now. but he today he touched me in the stomach and he was hugging me today once again. we are cuddling a lot does this mean anything?

Yup, this does mean something. Since he can't have a girlfriend at this moment, he is trying to make you not leave him or forget about him so when he can have a girlfriend, you will be there. He's flirting with you and you need to flirt back. This also means that he definitely likes you or is interested in you! Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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i'm dating this guy who i've known for a really long time, and i'm afraid that if we broke up we wouldn't be friends anymore. anyone have some advice? f/14

Hey, don't worry, if you ever do break up with this guy, you definitely will be friends with him. A relationship usually starts off with two people being great friends and staying friends for a long time. So yeah, you will be friends with him still, after if you've broken up with him (if you ever do). Knowing this guy for a long time definitely helps too. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Ok. There is this girl at our school and like 2 monthes ago, i got the same shoes as her. Now, yesterday she wore these shoes to school and my friend and I alreayd have them but we were just too scared to wear them. So anyways, should we wear them to school or what, beacuse this girl gets mad whenver people :copy: her. What should we do?!

Hey, don't worry, you should definitely wear these shoes to school. They are just shoes and if this girl actually gets mad over a little thing like this, then that's just sad and lame. If you bought these shoes, then wear them. There is no rule stating that you can't wear the same shoes that someone else has, right? My friends and I all of the same style and we usually wear the same kind of hoodies to school and we don't care. So yeah, you should wear these shoes to school. Don't be afraid too. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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what is an accelerator?

If you are talking about the accelerator in a car, well, an accelerator makes the car accelerate or makes the car move. It's also known the gas pedal which is located near a car's brake pedal. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Is it okay if you have little hairs on your boobs? I think its sort of gross and I'm not about to shave my boobs but does everyone have it or am I the unfortunate one?

Sweetie, it's definitely normal to have hairs on your breasts. It's normal and every girl has it, whether it's dark or light. Never shave it because it will just grow back darker, longer, and thicker. Don't worry, you aren't the "unfortunate one". Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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ok... for the past 6 months i have found blobs of mucus in my under wear... what does this mean? (13/f don't have period yet)

That "blobs of mucus" is called discharge and it basically means that you are getting ready to have your first period. It could take months or even years until you get it. Discharge is another way of cleaning out your body. If your discharge is a white color, then it's alright but if it's a green or yellow color, then that means you have an infection. Don't worry about it, every girl discharges and it's normal. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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