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Q: I love helping people, and when I say that, I mean the kind of "giving advice" kind of help. I know I can be a psychologist, but are there any other options? I don't want to be a psychiatrist, so please don't suggest that. Thank you!
You can also create a website for helping people, and live off of the proceeds. But I do not know of any other particular job that involves that, besides like a "Marriage Counselor" or a Guidence Counselor...
-Steven

Q: can you get pregnant if a guy is wearing a condum and pulls out before he cums?
Yes and Yes. A condom work 99% of the time, but there is always that 1% of the time. And if he pulls out, there still is a possibility that there were sperm at the tip. It's only like a 0.01% chance, but it can happen.

Q: for about 2 and half years the boy next door would make out with me a couple times a month.He was 3 years older than me but we never had real intercourse.He would finger me and I jerked him off and we both would cum.there was never any blood from what we did,I do not see him any longer and I was wondering if I still had my cherry? also am i still a virgin? i am almost 15.
1. You may have lost your "cherry", as it does not require bleeding at all.
2. Yes. Virginity is defined as not having sex. You never did. It's not doing both things seperately, but at the same time.

Q: I am having heartburn today - I think from my garlicly dinner last night. Any quick remedies I could use here at my office. I am stuck at work.
Tums. They work really well, and always soothe my stomach.

Q: can someone help me out why do good things happen to bad people ?
Good things happen to bad people because they do still have some good in them. Nobody is ever truely lost. And if you believe in a God, he is trying to make them become good again by giving them gifts. Those who are lucky may believe that there is a greater creator that is helping them, and is doing so then.

Q: I really like this guy and i want him to like me soo bad but I don't know what to do. I've heard he liked or likes me. And I'm also having friends try to spy. And I'm also being flirty and dressing myself up. What else can I do
Talk to him, possible in long engagements. Then, if he doesn't ask you out, you ask him out. Maybe go to a dance with him or something as well? It's only that much that's needed.

Q: One of my dad's friends gave me a Texas Instruments TI-82 graphing calculator but no user guide to go along with it. I was doing some math homework and one of the equations had a base number then a exponent of 3. On the calculator I can only find the button to make the exponentto be a 2, how do I tell the calculator I want the number to the third power, besides typing in the number 3 times. thanks for any help and yes I did go to the product site and look at the user guide but it didn't help
I believe there is a key that looks like "^". Type 4^3, or whatever it is, and the calculater reads it 4 to the third.

Q: 13F I'm a very small and in 8th grade (I still wear kid size...) and at the end of out eighth grade year we have an eighth grade dance. I was wondering how the hell am I going to find a dress to wear and where am I going to find a dress. This is in May so I don't really have to worry about it but I'm kind of worried that I won't have a dress. Please help me. I'll rate 5's!
You will find a dress, don't worry. A girl who was 4'6 in the middle school got a dress. You just don't go to a regular department store. You go to a special store, and they'll fit you customly. You will get that dress.
-Steven

Q: this is written like its for a guy but girls can answer if they switch it around

lets say you like this girl rite
but she doesnt like you
she found out you like her but she told you you guys should just b friends rite now because she doesnt rlly kno you that well
ypu said ok wutever but you were really thinking "oh my gosh, this sucks but now i have to think about how to get to kno her really well so shell like me"
so now in skewl the next day (after she found out you like her) its awkward
but the next day you flirt with her but she doesnt flirt with you
or talks to you or nething
then you find out she likes another guy
but yur still flirting nd shes not doing a thing
would you get over her or would u keep trying to get to kno em??

thanks mwa bye
Keep on trying. After she's done with the last one, she's for you. And if you know her, it'll be easier to go out with her then.
-Steven

By the way, try to have correct spelling, this was REALLY hard to read.

Q: i like this guy, as a really good friend, but we dont live near each other,and we hardly know each other, hes hott, and claims hes never had a girlfriend but i think thats totally a lie, beacuse hes really hott. haha does this sound like someone to you? but were like 4 years apart in age, but hes really cool, and i talk a lot on aim. of course i wouldnt want to go out with him, because we hardly know each other. does this sound like someone to you? MAYBE BECAUSE ITS YOU! lol
I don't quite get what you're asking. It's definately not me, for I'm ugly, but it does sound like someone, yes.

Q: when are you turning 17? lol
February 7th,

Q: hey i was thinking of changeing my hair brown idk why but i do but i dont know which is better do you people think blonde is better or brown is also if i keep my blonde i was going to go get highlights what do u people think?? thanks
Unless you are trying to change your personality from a blonde one to a brunette one, I wouldn't. Keep the naturality. Personally, I find blonde hair really attractive if it is kept naturally blonde.
The nautraller, the better.

Q: can someone please help me with some math problems because my teacher didnt finish the lesson but still gave us homework and no one in my math class is online

(-6) to the negative 1 exponet

4(10) to the negative 2 exponet

7 to the zero exponet + 6 to the negative 2 exponet

10 to the negative 2 exponet times 10 to the 5th exponet

(10x + 2y) divided by 5

(tr - r) divided by r

if you can help me with ANY of these i will be so grateful
If a number is to a negative exponent, put it under 1. Then, make the exponent positive and apply it to the bottom number. For instance:
4(10)^-2
The rules say that you do exponents first, so.
4* 1/10^2
This can go to 4* 1/100, which is 1/25.
Anything to the 0th exponent is always 1.
That should help you on the first 4.
10x+2y divided by 5 is trickier. You need to divide it all by 5. That will be 10x/5 + 2y/5. AKA, 2x+2/5Y.
(tr-r)/r is one of my favorite things. Factoring. Both tr and r have an r in it, so factor out an r. r(t-1). Divided by r, it makes t-1.

I'm in precalculus, so if you need any help on any problem, just drop one in the inbox.
:)
-Steven

Q: a couple months ago i had tendonitis in my wrist. i stopped playing tennis for about two weeks and it seemed to heal. but when i sometimes hit the ball really hard it hurts like it did. not all the time though. i think right now it's because of my holding my racket too hard.. but it could be tendonitis. do you think it came back? yesterday we played another school and i played doubles and a really long tiebreaker singles and won.. and it hurt a little during singles. i dont think i'm just over hitting because i can play for hours. what do you think?
I do not think that the tendinitis came back. Physical therapy stops it forever unless you reinjure it, which is harder the second time. Yet, I don't think that you every trely fully heal.
For instance, I had knee tendinitis/bursitis from October 31st 2004 until Late June 2005 (17 sessions of physical therapy. Bleh... :P). It was diagnosed as cured, yet I still have some of the symptoms I experianced (Unable to straighten knee, pain, etc...), just to a lesser extent.
I think that the same thing happened to you. You are cured, yet you have it at the lesser extent. It must be some aftermath thing...
Hope this helped!
-Steven

Q: Okay lately everytime I eat something my stomach hurts right after.
I can't even eat a small bowl of cereal without having to lay my stomach on a pillow for a few minutes without feeling nauseated. Any one have an idea of what could be wrong here?
I think you may just have a temporary stomach virus. Sice you said lately, that's what made me think of it. However, if that is not it, then I believe that something may be worse. Go to a doctor, and he'll tell you.

Q: Okay last night I had a really weird thing happen to me. I woke up, but couldn't move. I remember dreaming something and caught myself dreaming and thought about what I was dreaming and I knew for sure I was awake but couldn't open my eyes or move a muscle. It got so scary, I tried to yell out for someone to come shake me but I couldn't make a sound. I tried to fight it so hard, tried in my best will power to move my finger. All the while I felt a certain strange feeling like I was lead toward a dark tunnel, I felt like I was being pulled from my body and I felt if I didn't fight it I would end up dying. And I know this wasn't a dream because I finally came free from the paralyzation and sat up just confused. After this experience I remembered having them all the time when I was a child, and that's why I am so intrested in finding out what this is....I looked some of it up and found that it could be sleep paralysis, but I don't know. Anyone have an idea?
Sleep Paralysis. But I really would not worry about it. You know you have it, so it will make you less afraid when you wake up.
Go to a doctor, he may be able to give you something for it.
-Steven

Q: okay so i have this friend, and weve been friends forever since 3rd grade and now were 14 & last year he cameover to just hang out and stuff and we ended up alone making out on my couch and i gave him a hand job then we were at our friends house and i was spending the night and so was he and he fingered me is this slutty cause i dont even really like him like that
It may be viewed as such, but you'd be best to just keep that quiet or lie about it. If you were gonig out, no. That's normal. But maybe just a little.

Q: can you be in love when your 13?
Yes. You can be in love at any age. Age is just a number.

Q: Hello. My name is Ali and I am running for President of my Freshmen class. I am having a lot of trouble with making the speech. I dont know what to say and it has to be 2 minutes long. Can someone help me?
You need to say why you would make a good president, what you would do, what makes you more qualified than the other candidates, and how you would help the school community and the Freshman Class. Just think for a bit on each topic, and say actual changes that may occur and appeal to your audience.
Yet, speeches aren't really important. Really good ones may boost you a bit, but most elections are just popularity contests. I wouldn't worry about it. :)
-Steven

Q: me and my best friend (amy) were wondering
if was to marry her cousin (jack) would me and amy be related? like sister in law or what ever?
its kinda weird lol
thanx
You'd be a cousin in law. Close, but not exactly a sister in law.

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sbloemeke
THE PENGUIN RULES ALL! AHAHAHAHAHAHA! *Cough*
Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
Oh, and I'm a L1 moderator, which means I rate questions.

Don't hesitate to IM me, I'm usually on. If I'm not, just drop one in the Inbox!

Oh, by the way, I am liberal in everything. That means that abortion is a woman's RIGHT, and gay marriage should be LEGAL.

Ask away!
-Steven

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