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ok so i know a few people who are mormons, i honestly didnt know what to expect when i went there, so what makes them different from other religions, and what about how they dress is it different/....? (link)
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Mormons have a more far out belief system than most Christians, though to me that's pretty far out too. Most mormons are normal. They're strict, but they're good people most of the time.
I don't agree with a lot of what their beliefs are based on but they're good people and that's the most important thing. Contrary to popular belief they are not as weird as people think.
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Is cussing bad, like does God not like it or does it say in the bible not to do it cuz i cuss all the time but i have a gut feeling im speaking viley. (link)
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I grew up Catholic and, the way I see it, if a priest can do it so can I. Most priests curse like sailors.
Just a thought.
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freshman
i am a christian.
i have been serving god all my life.
and i have had plenty of christian and non-christian friends.
i try not to talk about religion a lot because i dont want to push my friends away.
i am not a rebel or emo or anything, but lately i have been wondering if i am two different people.
i love god with all my heart.
and that will never change, but i recently told my friend about my releigion and she said she had no idea that i was christian. does that mean that i dont act like a christian.
i go to church every other sunday, i read the bible and i love singing praise songs, and pray. but my friends didn't know that i did anything like that.
how can i be chirstian in front of my friends without pushing them away???
from,
confused about being 2faced (link)
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People don't appear Christian, they just are or aren't. Follow your religion and you're a Christian. That's all there is.
I'm not Christian, I'll tell you that upfront, but when I was in school I had a lot of Christian friends. They all invited my to their churches and I'd go. I refrained from inviting them to my rituals though because I didn't think they'd like it. That simple thing right there caused an uproar when someone found out I was a pagan. They were all in shock because I acted like such a good Christian girl.
A good person is a good person and you needn't worry about acting like a Christian.
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Hey =].
I like to consider myself a religious person. But sometimes it's hard. My question is specifically what are some things I should be praying about? I mean, I don't like to pray about the same things over and over, though I do. Should I be praying for better questions on Advicenators? ;]
If you pray, what are things you find yourself praying about so that it's not always the same thing each time? (link)
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As a rule of thumb, pray about things that are important to you. It's great to pray over world hunger, but God knows about that. What can he do to affect YOUR life? How can he help you and those you care about? That is what you should bother God with: things that you sincerely care about.
At least that's how I look at it.
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okay, so i have 3 cats. one female, two males. well my female i've had for almost 5 years. my two males ive had for like 3. well, once i brought in my two males cats my female cat started using the carpet as the bathroom. now its like a daily thing for her and the males began doing it as well. i know they do it now because the smell is there and everything. well i was wondering how to get them to stop?? like i know cats dont like moth balls. If i were to put moth balls in the area they use as the bathroom, do you think they would quit? Any help would be nice. i need my cats to quit or i have to get rid of them :\ (link)
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There's this stuff that you can buy at the pet store that lifts the smell out of the area. Use that and then throw a litterbox on top of the spot. When they start using that instead then move the litterbox where you want it. It's a process but it works.
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I died my hair (this is not the first time) and after about 2 or 3 weeks my friends say its already fading. My hair was light brown and i died it dark brown. I normally use Loreal or Revlon hair dyes and i use Dove Intense Damage Therapy shampoo and conditioner. can anyone help me figure out why my hair dye is fading and how i can resolve it? I could go to the salon but that takes too much time and costs too much and i dont have the time or the money. thanks! (link)
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It's the intense therapy shampoo. That stuff can strip dye out of a concrete block. Switch to a less severe shampoo and conditioner, and use a LOT of conditioner. Use it twice when you wash your hair.
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i'm normally an honest person but about recently i just got a new boyfriend. he's amazing and i could never wish for a better boyfriend. i want to keep him with me forever!! but i told him a lie and i regret doing it! and its a pretty big lie too. I told him that i finger myself but i really don't. I havent even worn a tampon yet! and i really really really really REALLY do not want to tell him that i don't finger myself because he will get mad that i lied and he told me that he really wants to finger me and if i tell him that i've never done it then it will all just crash and burn. we've been talking that when we are going to hang out again soon, that he wants to finger me but i'm not sure what to do. help!!! i don't know what to do! (link)
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Oh dear.
That was a dumb lie... Let me just say that, but it's not as big as you think. Tell him, don't tell him, irrelevant. The important thing is what he does to you and if you want it. I know women having sex daily that don't like to finger themselves. It's a thing, it's a personal choice, but do you want this guy doing it to you? That's the real concern here.
Don't let this guy take advantage of you. A lot of the "great" guys in high school just want to get in your pants. I learned that the hard way over the course of four years in high school hell. So, like I said if you want it cool, if not don't let him.
The lie isn't really as crucial as you think.
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What is the dffernce between catholic and christian religion? (link)
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Catholicism is a sect of Christianity (which is the belief in the Judeo-Christian God).
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my boyfriend was feeling really down because he has a temporary depression. i prayed to God (i'm Christian) and asked if he could make my bf happy and i implied that i'd do anything just to see him happy, even give up my happiness for his. A week later he dumped me and i've never seen him happier. i'm hurt and i'm just wondering if you think it's the work of God or just a weird coincident. (link)
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You asked for his happiness and you got it. Your prayers were answered. It was a crappy trade-off, I'll give you that, but you got what you asked for.
I am not a Christian anymore, I happen to keep a Pagan faith, but the rules are the same, you can't get something for nothing. On the bright side, you reap what you sow, and karma will come back to you and you, in turn, will be happy as well.
I'm sorry for the loss.
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hi! my name is trish and i'm a 22-year-old marketing exec from the philippines. in a nutshell, i'm your average working girl, loving daughter, devoted girlfriend... life is pretty much good, but lately, i've just been so stressed and depressed. there's the mounting pressure at work and just some conflicts with my family.
i feel so bad bec my boyfriend is like my shock absorber and he says i've been so grumpy lately and i'm afraid he's just going to leave me because i think i lost the joy and life that i used to exude. when i think about it, i can't find the reason why i feel this way. i don't know what to do. i actually had just celebrated my birthday but somehow the celebratory mood didn't last.
quarter-life crisis? i don't really know. i'm bound to make really life-changing decisions next year such as leaving my current job to pursue MBA. my family is pressuring me to go back to school but i'm not even sure if i want to do that. the complacency i've allowed myself to sink in is taking it's toll on me.
i want my old self back. i want the drive and the life in me back. can you help? (link)
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Well, I know how you feel. I had similar issues with my boy. Now he's my perk-up guy.
You need to sort out your life, and that sort of thing can really take a toll on your love life. You need to talk to him about it, apologize for what you've said and what you might say, and then change your connection with him. Make a point to go out and do fun things with him that take your mind off your problems. Watch a movie, kick his butt at some video game, play strip scrabble, anything to get your mind in a good place with him.
As for getting your spark back, I'm not sure. I know when I lose mine that just trash whatever is bugging me, but you can't always do that. Get the negative out of you. Write it down and burn it, go to your room and scream about it until you feel better, but just get that negative out of you and the positive will have no choice but to fill the space.
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does anyone belive in long distance relationships? Does anyone have advice on how to make them work? (link)
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I've had a good mumber of long distance relationships... James, V, David, Matt, Corey, Spike, Lon, Mike, Erik and Kevin, to name the top 10. None of them really worked. James and V were my two longest... James just stopped calling one day... V and I got in a fight. V and I are still friends, he came to see me recently, but that's all we can ever be because of the distance.
They don't work, I've tried. I've tried a lot. There are too many trust issues, closeness issues, even communicative issues. The only time I condone long distance is when your spouse joins the army. That can work... I've seen that work, but I've also seen that fail. I've never seen any other kind of LDR work...
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Me having a lot of friend problems these days. . .
I hope you can help! :D
The story is:
I have a two friends and I LOvE them both dearly. One friend, she like my sister and the the other friend I love to talk with her and like play around with her.
You see the friend i see as a sister hates her because she think she's annoying or something.
The other friend doesn't know that.
By the way, the other friend has a friend named C and she my friend too.
C told me that she doesn't like the other friend because of something but I forgotted xD but but like she don't like something about her but she can't say no to her cause she a really NICE person so yeah.
When my sister friend heard of this she told me not to hang around with her even though I don't hate her but she told me too. But if she is with C friend then I can but I have to act like I'm hanging around with the C friend.
So the point of this whole thing is my sister friend won't let me hang around with the other friend because she hates her. Even though she hates her I don't. But if I hang around her I think my sister friend will get mad at me and not talk to me because she a sensitive/bipolar friend. Meaning she changes mood.
So, what should I do?
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There are two answers... I'll give you both.
You can do the right thing: Tell your sister that while you love her that you have a right to other friends even if she doesn't like them. Girls your age are fickle and she won't know what to do. Chances are she'll close her trap and just let it go after ignoring you for a while. I'm bipolar, I know how her brain probably works.
You can do the easier thing: Drop the other friend to keep the sister.
Neither will be completely how you want it to be. That's just how like works. It's stupid and it's painful, but it's life... and it never changes.
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I really really like this guy. We can talk about anything, he makes me laugh, smile, all those things. I just feel so happy whenever I'm around him or talking to him. And, I even feel happy when I'm not around him...by this I mean it's not some kind of unhealthy "I need to be next to him at all times or else I die inside" crush.
Anyway, I really want to go out with him. And I'm pretty sure he wants to go out with me too. The only problem is...his parents.
They don't let him date anyone outside of his beliefs. And I'm Catholic and he's Protestant. So we can't be together. It really hurts that the only reason we're not together is because I worship in a different way than him. It just seems like such an old-fashioned way of doing things. (link)
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At least you aren't a pagan. I had such problems with that in high school because I was the pagan that dated a lot of the Jewish guys.
What I suggest is reminding his parents that you're still a Christian and your beliefs are based on the same principle of worshiping the one true God and living a good life. I've seen it work.
All Christian beliefs are the same at the core: believe, worship and trust God. I was raised Catholic, went to a Baptist private school and when I went to my dad's place I used to go hit a Protestant church. They're all fairly similar.
Just remind them that you're a child of God and that you wouldn't think of changing his beliefs even for a minute.
Catholic families tend to be very protective like that... It's just how they are... You should see what happens in my family when you come out as a bisexual pagan... they went through the roof... Hahahaha.
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what are the possible suggestions regarding treatment for deep acne scars? (link)
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For scars your choices are acid peels or facial resurfacing. Both expensive.
My brother is doing both, and it's really hit his wallet. If you think it would make you happy, go for it, but I recommend learning to just go with what you have. I'm hopeless, I know. ^_^
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is it weird to look at another girl and have feelingd for that person (link)
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Well... no. In any case it's never weird. It also doesn't mean you're a lesbian or bisexual, if that's what you're worried about. It just means that you have a connection with that person and that they have a place in your heart.
I happen to be a bisexual, but I have girls in my life that I don't lust over and are just people that I have a special connection with. There is never a problem with loving someone. Ever.
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my best friend and love of my life wants to join the marines wen he gets out of high school. he is into all the dangerous stuff n im so scared that something will happen to him. i want to be happy for him and i support him in his decision but i really dont want him to go. can anyone give some help on how to get through this because im having a really difficult time with it and ive even cried about it. and i dont want to tell my boy about it because i want him to know i support him in everything he does.i just dont want anything to happen to him but i always see how many marines die on the news and stuff. thank you for the help!!!! (link)
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A lot of my friends from high school joined the army, navy and marines as well. It was scary to think that they're going off like that, especially because I don't support the idea of war and such (but I back those willing to defend the country 100%). They went and they're fine, but I know they might not have been.
I talked to them about it later, when we were sitting around and such. They told me how glad they were they joined and how much they enjoy it. I told them that I'm scared every day that they won't come back. They were really surprised that I showed such concern, but they just told me that they know what they're risking and that they'll always come home.
Talk to him about it. Chances are you won't change his mind, but at least he'll know. Also, if he doesn't know he's your best friend and the love of your life, you need to tell him. Things like that will really make a difference in the way people live their life.
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It's taken me a long time to admit to myself that I have low self esteem and am uncomfortable in my own skin. In most social situations I worry about what I say, how I stand, how I should act, and even how to look at people. It isn't a good feeling because I feel like it's destroyed my understanding of who I am. I know what like, what my hobbies are, and what I want to get out of life, but I just feel so confused about myself. I first started to notice this when I started to like a guy at school. I couldn't even maintain a steady conversation with him for very long and found myself questioning my actions. After that, I couldn't even sit normally. And now see how in denial I've been because I am always conscious of myself. And I take out my frustration on my parents and friends. I feel like I can change and when I do, I know I'll feel wonderful, because this has been going on for a long time now. I decided that I had to let go of liking this guy because I'm not ready to pursue someone if I don't even have a clue about myself. If anyone has any ideas or experiences with self esteem, I would appreciate you help so much. Because wow, I really need help.
thank you :) (link)
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A lot of people are insecure, and everyone has insecure moments. The real thing you need to start with is not trying to change so much as control.
For instance, when you're in some social situation and you start to feel that insecure "oh my god what if I (insert insecurity here)" feeling come on, wipe your mind of thoughts. Just close your eyes for a moment and pretend no one's there.
As bad as this sounds, it helps to not be sober at first. It's like trying to learn hacky sack. You can't care what people are thinking of you, so I learned while drunk and high in high school. I'm not promoting underage drinking or smoking weed, but that's how I learned hacky sack and how I got over a lot of insecurities.
Another, more legal, way to get over insecurities is to force yourself into the situations that make you seize up the most. Sooner or later, when you keep throwing yourself into these, you'll adjust and you'll feel okay. Then the ones below that that give you the willies will seem like nothing.
It's scary and there isn't one set way for anyone to to do anything, but I hope that I helped at least a little bit, and I hope you can overcome this so you can go after that cute guy you gave up on. ^_^
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Hi, um i have been making myself throw up quite a lot after meals lately. I dont binge, but i do throw up after nearly everything i eat. Im normal weight for my age, (15-female-58kg-163cm tall) but I cant help thinking that all my friends are WAY more skinny and beautiful than i am.. I just want to be like them..
I need to lose weight. I want to be skinny too. Noone really understands why i want to be skinnier though. This is the only way thats even had a small chance of helping me lose weight though, so..
I havent been doing it for very long, only about 3 weeks and only about 2 or 3 days a week.
What should I do? (link)
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This is where I get to tell you what I think of your situation... But I won't.
Instead I think you need to grow up a little bit because if you, in fact, had some actual form of eating disorder you probably wouldn't suspect it.
If you want to be skinnier then cut what you eat in a day in half and start walking, running, etc. Making yourself vomit only deteriorates the lining in your esophagus, gives you awful breath and messes up your teeth. You'll be thin and sickly with bad teeth that no one will love. You'll, in essence, look like a meth addict, and no one loves meth addicts.
Find a healthy way to be sickly thin if you want to, but all this really SOUNDS like is that you want some attention and you're checking to see if you're faking bulimia correctly.
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what are some things to talk about when you're just getting to know a guy that you're attracted to? i dont want to be boring or have long awkward pauses (which always happens) so im kind of nervous
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Easiest route is to talk about him, not you (unless he asks). Family, friends, activities, classes, what his favorite sandwich consists of, anything really. Avoid MySpace, make-up, and teddy bears. Ask him what he likes and act interested in it.
Eventually he'll ask you about yourself... and that's when it's okay to talk about you.
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Hi there,
For some time now, my cousin (who lives in Thailand with her boyfriend) has been struggling to find a job/career which suits her. She's the outdoor type, not the desk type; the kind of person who likes a job which requires her to travel all over the world, but doesn't like to be told what to do or what she's doing wrong.
She's never had any proper support from her mother or father since she first got out of school, so she was kinda left on her own. When she went looking for a course, she was desperate to take the first one which would accept her without really looking into it and wasted a year doing something which she didn't really want to do. And since then, she's been in Thailand doing what she loves doing best : kick boxing and working in small cafes.
Now, the family has tried to talk to her and has even tried outside help for her to get a good, strong job. But the thing is, is that any help which is sent her way is shot down by her even before she's even tried properly. She doesn't want to listen to the rest family because she thinks that she knows best.
As a fellow advice columnist, I get the feeling that she's become so used to doing things her own way that she doesn't know how accept help when she sees it. And I've suggested things which the family can do, abut now I'm out of ideas on what to do.
Details about her family:
Mum - Nice, kind, devote Christian etc. but doesn't know how to support her daughter in any way.
Dad - difficult to talk to under any circumstances and makes things very complicated.
Older sister - working in london doing a medical degree and working as a restaurant manager.
Younger brother - Doing a degree in university.
Youngest brother - too young to help.
Boyfriend - treats her like a diva (in my opinion) and is wrapped around her little finger.
Cliff notes version:
I need new ideas to put forward to the family in ways they can help her or how I can help. Links to jobs which might suit her would also be greatly appreciated whilst she's in Thailand.
Sorry this is so long,
triquetra (link)
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The girl sounds head-strong and being head-strong as well, I can tell you, straight up, that nothing you do is going to help. She's used to being on her own and she's not going to listen to anyone because of that.
If you want to help her, support her even if she decides to kick-box and work in cafes the rest of her life. Let her know that you just want her to be happy with her life and that if she ever WANTS some help with finding a career or something, you'll be there to suggest and help.
I know that if I were her I wouldn't listen to my family... because I don't listen to them now. She knows what's best for her life because it's hers and no one will ever get her to think differently.
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