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quarter-life crisis; unhappiness
hi! my name is trish and i'm a 22-year-old marketing exec from the philippines. in a nutshell, i'm your average working girl, loving daughter, devoted girlfriend... life is pretty much good, but lately, i've just been so stressed and depressed. there's the mounting pressure at work and just some conflicts with my family.
i feel so bad bec my boyfriend is like my shock absorber and he says i've been so grumpy lately and i'm afraid he's just going to leave me because i think i lost the joy and life that i used to exude. when i think about it, i can't find the reason why i feel this way. i don't know what to do. i actually had just celebrated my birthday but somehow the celebratory mood didn't last.
quarter-life crisis? i don't really know. i'm bound to make really life-changing decisions next year such as leaving my current job to pursue MBA. my family is pressuring me to go back to school but i'm not even sure if i want to do that. the complacency i've allowed myself to sink in is taking it's toll on me.
i want my old self back. i want the drive and the life in me back. can you help?
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Well, I know how you feel. I had similar issues with my boy. Now he's my perk-up guy.
You need to sort out your life, and that sort of thing can really take a toll on your love life. You need to talk to him about it, apologize for what you've said and what you might say, and then change your connection with him. Make a point to go out and do fun things with him that take your mind off your problems. Watch a movie, kick his butt at some video game, play strip scrabble, anything to get your mind in a good place with him.
As for getting your spark back, I'm not sure. I know when I lose mine that just trash whatever is bugging me, but you can't always do that. Get the negative out of you. Write it down and burn it, go to your room and scream about it until you feel better, but just get that negative out of you and the positive will have no choice but to fill the space.
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Well I dont know if I can help but it sounds like what you want is to be happy with your boyfriend and pursue your MBA. There has to be something that is making you this way, maybe its your parents presuring maybe its because you havnt got your mba. Maybe if you try spending more alone time with your boyfriend and go somewhere for a weekend you can relax and clear your mind. Personally I think you need rest and you need to acomplish your goals. You may seem miserable because you just arent happy right now and have other dreams. Well I think You should go after your dreams and goals. BTW if you have had any weird dreams your should find out what they mean. Dreams are like subconscience msg and you may find your answer about what is making you so depressed in your dreams. A good site is www.dreammoods.com
Hope I helped.
P.S. Relax and enjoy life and the relationship you have with your boyfriend. Your parents may be presuring you but just listen to YOUR dreams and goals.
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