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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I split up with a girl i was seeing and i think as a revenge attack shes saying shes pregnant?
Im not on facebook but shes emailing everyone i know including family saying she is on the social networking site.... Im 21 and shes 30 with 2 kids already?
She keeps sending pictures of ultra sounds as well how can i prove wether these are real or not?
Can please someone give me some advice or a number to call?
the only way to make sure its real or not, is to go with her to the doctor. Let them run tests or ultra sounds and make sure you're with her.
find out for yourself.
Hello. About sometime close to a year ago, I wanted to have a "scene" haircut. You know? Like, really short layers? Well they've grown out a couple few inches, so the shortest layer of my hair is at around the middle of my ear(s). What I would like to know is if I will be able to french braid my hair, into one french braid in the back. And No, I will not braid my hair into two french braids, I want only ONE. :)
why don't you try it out?? then tell us..
if there are hairs sticking out, just hair spray them back and use bobby pins.
Okay, so I'm 15.
I've been in a relationship with my boy friend for a year and 5 months. I love my boyfriend, and I admire him. He's caring,smart (even though he doesn't think so),talented and he is an amazing friend.
We've had SO many issues though, with him falling for his best friend, and him developing feelings for someone he use to like in the past. When he has done something wrong, he will admit to it, but I'm so paranoid about things.
Just recently him and I broke up twice, over stupid arguing. Were back together things were going great until one of his friends Joanna was talking to my friend saying my boy friend "loves her" My friend deleted her for all of it.
My boy friend was trying to help her with a break up, and she said she didn't need help and stopped talking to him, he hasn't talked to her for months? Now she's saying this stuff. I told my boy friend he has to be careful, people can take advantage. Sometimes I wish he wasn't such a good friend.
I hate being paranoid, but I just am. I love my boy friend but I don't know what to do. Please help?
I think you should just focus on your own relationship with your boyfriend. Stop listening to other drama or problems between joanna or whoever else.
I doesn't make sense to break up with your boyfriend if you love him.. so just don't listen to the other stuff going on and only focus on your relationship :) work hard to make things better between you 2.
i wanted to know, what should i know about my boyfriend by our three month anniversary.
well mostly the general things like favorites color, movies, music, animals, food etc.
Then some other important things like how many siblings, info about his family, his close friends, his pets, what kinds of things turn him on or turn him off, if he has any pet peeves (things that annoy him), what makes him happy, what he wants to be when he grows up, his dreams/ambitions etc.
Are thongs uncomfortable? Do they make your butt feel like you've got a weggie?
the first few days/weeks, yes it will feel like a wedgie.
but you get used to it :) just like tampons and pads. It takes time for your body to get used to it.
thongs are great if you are wearing something that you don't want any underwear lines to show.
i was wondering if creamy white discharge and cum are the same even if sex is not a factor if so what is the difference what are all the signs of a yeast infecton
i think discharge is more of a clear gooey thing. But cum is more milky white thick thing.
I have no idea what the signs are of a yeast infection are haha sorry. just google them.
hey i need a list of good songs to play at my graduation party..kinda like what would be played at prom..like hotel motel..dougie..stuff like that not too old and good.thanks!
All I do is win- dj kahled
bottoms up- trey songz
donk- soulja boy
halle berry- hurricane chris
like a g6- far east movement
one tribe- black eyed peas
outta your mind- lil' jon
take it off- kesha
take your shirt off- t-pain
i kissed a girl- katy perry
i just had sex- akon
wired to the T- dorrough
beggin- madcon
as we enter- nas amp damian marley
stanky legg- gs boyz
bojangles- pitbull
i like that- richard vission amp static revenger
crazy possessive- kaci
ET- katy perry
hottie tottie- usher
lemonade- gucci mane
bass down low- the cataracs
blow- kesha
my chick bad- ludacris
14/f
Every year my junior high has a Last Dance, which is kinda like a mini prom. Last year, all of my friends got ready with their other friends that I barely knew. I had to get ready alone with my mom.
This year, I'm scared the same thing will happen. They're all getting ready with one of the popular girls that I don't really know. My other friends aren't going at all. And my mom is going away this year (not that I want to get ready with her again, anyway). What should I do? Please respond quickly, the dance is this weekend!!
OK.. you're 14 so this may sound crazy.. but trust me. I'm 18 and when you get older you'll understand.
ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD!! Just because you need to get ready alone, doesn't mean the world has ended and you're gonna die.... ITS OKAYYY.
I was once your age and I thought I had to get ready with my friends too. But boy was I wrong.
Let me ask you this.. is there any "rule book" or "manuel" on how to get ready for a dance?? is there a written rule that says "you need to get ready with your friends"?? no. so why does it matter so much??
What's the whole point in this dance anyways? To go and have fun? or to stress out over something so ridiculous like getting ready with friends? WHO CARES IF YOU HAVE TO GET READY BY YOURSELF. Nobody is going to look at you like "omg she got ready alone.. what a freak..." umm trust me, i've been to plenty of dances. I've gotten ready alone plenty of times. Nobody cares.
you'll be fine. trust me. nobody cares if you got ready with friends or not..
I've been hanging out with this guy for a month and a half now he's 26 so it's not like he's young and immature. We really like each other and yes we have sex. Basically I want to be together and he said that we need to be patient and just get to know each other. I don't really know what is a good time say take it or leave it. I don't like this false hope stuff and the longer we wait the more I'm gonna have feelings for him and get hurt if we don't start dating. I found out that he talks to 2 ex girlfriends he said they are just friends but he said they are unresolved situations. I kind of feel like they might be having an influence on our situation he said no but I mean what do you think of this hole situation?
It sounds like he's leading you on..
He's interested in you, but at the same time still talking about his ex's and might get back with them??
Thats a red flag right there.. If I were you (since you said you don't want to get hurt), I would stop talking to him for a while and if he makes an effort to talk to you, then ask him why.
The way I see it, you should make him work for your trust and your love. Don't give it out so easily. Don't talk to him for a while and once he starts chasing you, then you can talk to him. But make sure he's already committed to making it work, instead of just leading you on and "testing the waters". That means danger because you could get hurt in the long run.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
I've been talking to this guy.. We hang out a lot.. we like eachother.. we have sex... were getting to know eachother before make a jump into a relationship. Anyway he's in a hip hop group and they travel everywhere and do shows. The other day ago they had a local show and I asked if I could go and he told me it wasn't a good idea. He likes to keep his personal life and music separate. What do you think of that?
I think its entirely his decision.
If he doesn't want you there, well that's his choice. You can't/shouldn't force him to make you go.
If you want you 2 to work out and have a good relationship with him, you need to respect his decisions.
I am going to be maid of honour for my best friends wedding and we have been planning it for the last two months. I love her dearly but she is now going through hell. Her Fiance is ex army and we have recently found out he went awol and they have caught up with him. She wont be seeing him for over a year and is left on her own with 2 children. I want to do something amazing for her to take her mind off the wedding and to make her understand how much I love her and am here for her. The kids are going away for a week and I want to do something amazing for her. We are both 25 years old. What can I do? Please help!
Take her out for some quality girl friend time. Like a vacation. It depends on how much money you want to spend- but you could book airplane tickets and go somewhere warm and be at the beach all day and relax. Or if you're on a budget, maybe go on a road trip and do some sightseeing?
Some other ideas are going to a concert, amusement park, skiing at a mountain, shopping spree, spa day (getting massages, facials, mani-pedi etc)
But just remember- Its the thought that counts. No amount of money, or what you do, will help her as much as you being there for her. Just be with her and spend time with her, she just needs a close body to be with. Make sure she know's you're always going to help her and be by her side.
Oh and my mom said you guys could bake together, garden, scrapbook/look at old pictures, go on a nature walk and take pictures of each other/photoshoot. She said those are her favorite things to do when she needs to take her mind off things.
Since Saturday, so for three days I have a runny/stuffy nose. I cried on Friday(idk if it has anything to do with it) but it never really does this to me. Saturday my throat and ears would itch but not anymore. I never really get allergies and when it's a cold, I usually go immediately to the doctors, however I can't tell what it is...I don't have a fever but I'm like very congested and sometimes feel a headache. I'm 15 btw. I can't stand this :(
its probably a sinus or ear infection, or it could be strep throat.
I would go to the doctor to get it checked out.
She thinks I'm gonna be mean to her and leave her like her ex did. What can I do to make her feel better ? What should I say to her ?
make sure she knows you love her. make sure she also knows that you're a completely different person.. that you are NOT her ex.
Do something sweet for her like buy her a rose :) surprise her by putting it somewhere she might find it like her school locker or in her room or on her car. Take her out to dinner and let her order whatever she wants- dessert is a must.
Make sure you spend enough 1 on 1 quality time with her, like watching a movie in the basement. or going for a walk outside and talking, or having a picnic, going swimming etc.
Smile a lot and have fun around her. Tell her she looks beautiful (not hot or sexy) and that you are madly in love with her.
What my boyfriend did for me, was he bought me a diamond ring for my birthday :) It was sooo sweet! It wasn't too expensive, but yet it let me know he is serious about me and our relationship.
Kiss her like its the first and lass kiss ever. And just tell her you love her!! :)
Hi im the 16 year old girl from before.There is one more thing though. This past week, the guy that is cheating on her right.. well this guys friend asked me to prom. They are all going in one limo together. She found out about this yesterday. I havnt said yes or no to the guy. He wants to go as friends. I am wondering if I should go or not? Prom is a very big deal to her n she's been preparing for months now, just so its perfect. I don't want to go and ruin her night just because I am there.. prom isn't a big deal to me and I don't really care about going nor do I like the guy, he is just a friend. I wouldn't mind not going, like I said I just don't want to ruin her nite. I asked her if me going would bother her, n she got mad and like 3times I don't really care what the hell you do just go if you want, just don't mess up his night, I don't care. I have a feeling though that she does care a little bit and im wondering if maybe I should just let her have her special night? Like I said I really don't care about going at all I would be going just to go, plus I have my own prom next year.. everyone is telling me go n mess up her night don't be dumb here's your chance. But I feel doing that isn't right if I still want her as my friend, also I was always taught two wrongs don't make a right.. I have no clue what to do and I have to answer this guy soon..(mind you she will only be at prom if the guy dosnt break up with her before prom which is friday) I don't think me not going will ruin his night becuss he only asked a few days ago, originally he was going with a bunch of friends anyways.
I think you should go :)
why the hell not?? Why would you miss out on a fun night of dressing up and going out to dance with friends? what are you going to do instead.. sit at home alone and do nothing??
You really do need to stand up for yourself. Stop letting this girl push you down!!! She's pretty much saying "you don't deserve to go to prom, only I do".
Let me ask you this... If one of your friends (doesn't have to be her) says "Hey everybody I have tickets to a VIP backstage pass concert for a really popular singer" and she says "everyone can come but you. IF you want to stay my friend, then you can't come because this means a lot to me and I dont want you to ruin it." well what the fuck aren't you going to get pissed off?!? I'm really sorry if i sound bitchy right now but I have no clue how you can just sit there and let her do that to you. If i were you, I would stand up for myself and say "hey. If i want to go to prom, then I will go and have a good fucking time. I'm not going to let some girl tell me i can't go"
Let me tell you this- one time I went homecoming dress shopping with my friend Dani. I found 2 dresses I loved, but couldn't pick which one to buy. I was a little biased on 1 of the dresses but still wasn't sure. So i asked Dani for her opinion and she told me to buy the other dress (the one I wasn't sure about). Then literally 5 minutes after I bought that dress, she went and looked for the other one I was about to buy, and she bought that one.. SO pretty much she made me buy an uglier dress, just so she could have the prettier one and make her look good and make me look bad.
That is exactly what this girl is doing to you... she's playing with your mind and you have GOT to open your eyes and see it!!!! She sounds like my friend Dani. She wants to be the center of attention and be the prettiest and have the most awesome night. She will take down anything in her way... which in my case, dani made sure I didnt buy that dress, so she could have it. In your case- This girl is making sure you don't go to prom, just so she can have an awesome night.
Well if you want my honest opinion, she can have the shittiest prom of her life. You deserve to go to prom WAYYYY more than she does!!!!
So please please PLEASE take my advice. Go to prom. HAVE FUN!!! don't let this bitch (sorry for excessive swearing) get in your way of having a fun night with some friends :) Yeah you could go next year.. but what if you don't get asked?? take this chance and show her that you are strong enough to stand up for yourself. Don't let her or anyone else take you down like that. Its YOUR decision. She can't force you not to go... Just go and have a fun time and let her do whatever she wants. If she has a bad night, well karma. She shouldn't have treated you like that.
Good luck and PLEASE take my advice :) I garuntee you'll have a great time. and if you do go- don't let her or any other drama or troubles get you down. Shake it off, don't pay attention to her, and just dance and be with your date and have fun :)
If you go, please inbox me and let me know how it went :) I would love to hear about it!
Me and my friend had a sleepover last night and he wanted to cuddle with me and we started kissing and we had sex ! He's my best friend and were not even dating we were just playing with each other. But I do have a boyfriend. How do I tell him i slept with another guy ? What should I do ?
break up with him and next time be more smart of what you do...
ok. let me rephrase the question since i don't think anyone understood quite what i meant last time. People think i am emo and gothic. What i meant when i asked how to get people to stop thinking i am, i meant like how do i put on my makeup and dress so that i won't look goth or emo?
Here's a great idea.. why don't you just be yourself?? Who cares what other people think of you. If they want to believe that you're goth, fine let them. What are you trying to prove?? Why do their opinions matter so much? If they want to call you goth, just turn away from those people with your head high, because the thing is- you KNOW you're not goth. The fact that you posted this question says " i know i'm not goth" So if you know this.. then why do other people's opinions matter?
If it bothers you that much.. just change the way you look. But don't change who you are. Don't change your inner personality because thats the real you. And if you change that, then you are being somebody you're not.. which is unethical and immoral.
Here are some ideas-
dress more girly, wear skirts, dresses, wear push up bras, wear high heels, wear less makeup (since goths wear tons of makeup) dont use eyeliner. Use a sparkly eyeshadow (like a silver or light brown) wear some lipstick (not too bold, just a shade darker than your lip color, or even nude color) wear lip gloss, put some blush on your face. Change your hair style, wear your hair down, curly, straight, put in some highlights and lowlights, smile more, be more outgoing and friendly, show off something like your legs or your smile, be proud of yourself and walk with your head high.
Dont let other people's stupid silly useless opinions break you. Just be yourself and you can find people who appreciate you for who you are, and who wont try to change you...
Mostly everyone I know who hAs a facebook posts pictures of themselves in bikins. I then feel like I am over weight a fAt becUse I don't wear bikinis.. I don't know whAt to do to make me feel comfortable in a bikini.. Any suggestions..???
honestly... who cares about your other friends posting pictures of themselves in bikinis.. they are arrogant and stuck up if they want to show off like that. Its their choice what they want to post and what they don't want to post. Who cares..? Just be yourself and do what YOU want to do. Don't try to show yourself off or change yourself, just to "fit in" or be like the other girls.
If it bothers you that much.. just go work out some more. Swim, run, even walk! Watch what you eat and be more careful about your health.
But honestly.. its just facebook pictures.. who cares what they post. You shouldn't have to be concerned with what other people are doing.. only be concerned with yourself as an individual and improve your life. Stop comparing yourself to other people and live your own life!
i am a 13 year-old girl. i spent $50 ON MOTHERS DAY. i bout my mom 2 kingsized reeses $2.50 my grandmother 2 kingsized almond joy $2.50 i bout mom 2 candles at bath and body wotks $7-8 and i bout 2 candles for grandma $7-8 bout mom a lotion $4 bout grandma a lotion $4 bought grandma 14k gold earrings $20 bought mom a phone cover for $17 do you think i went alittle OVERBOARD on mothers day?
Mother's day isn't just about gifts.. its not about how much money you spend.. its about giving love to your mother. I'm sure your mother won't care how much money you spent, she will be happy that you took the time and effort to make it a special day for her :)
but if you want my honest opinion.. a 13 year old spending 50 dollars for mothers day may be a little overboard. Don't be afraid to do something simple next time. What I did was made pancakes for my mom very early, served them to her "breakfast in bed" style. Bought her new perfume and make up, then took her out for the day to do whatever she wanted. She got to pick what to do. We went to the movies, then shopping, then ate ice cream outside :) went for a walk in the park, talked for hours and hours, laughed until we cried :) it was a great mothers day. And it didn't cost me much money :) the point i'm making is that.. you don't have to buy your mom's love. Mother's day can be priceless :) When you're older, you'll understand that its not just about the money and gifts.. its about showing someone you care and love them, whether its a hug and kiss, or giving them a surprise party or even doing the little things they love like helping them do the dishes. Its the little things that matter the most. never ever forget that..
My childhood best friend wants nothing to do with me, and I can't stand caring for her and she doesn't even care if I'm alive. For example, the other day I emailed her congrats on her graduation and received not even a thank you, however she was quick to reply and reunite with the old group of friends we use to share, I even feel left out of that group now...I just don't know what is wrong with me. (side note: people often tell me I am kind and fun to be around so I'm even more confused! I am completely open to suggestions on how to improve as an individual.)
There is a reason they call it Childhood friends. It means "childhood".. Some people are fortunate enough to stay friends with their childhood friends for a very long time. But there are people who disconnect from their childhood friends, and you are one of them. Don't feel left out, I'm one of them too. I'm just about to graduate high school and start college, and I learned that you don't need to have a best friend in order to be happy. However, I am fortunate enough to have my boyfriend be my best friend.
If she wants nothing to do with you, fine, let her. Its her decision and you can't control that. You can't force her to be friends with you, that would be unethical. What I suggest is that you let her be. Let her make her own choices, and let her make her own mistakes. Possibly, one of her mistakes was letting you go.
If she is reuniting with your old group, why don't you do the same thing? How is she capable of doing that, but you aren't?? you can very well do the same thing. Reconnect with that old group, and show her that you aren't going to let her put you down. Stand up for yourself and show her that just because she can act like a bitch, doesn't mean you have to stand down and let her take your other friends away from you! Have a little competition if you must. Dont just back away like a coward. Sorry if that comes off rude haha, but I'm a very competitive person. If my "so called friend" started turning my other friends away from me.. I would do something about it and stop her.
If for some reason your old group of friends don't want anything to do with you either, turn around with your shoulders back, chest up, nose up high in the air and walk with pride. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and they can go in a hole and rot. They aren't true friends if they are turning their backs against you too. Show them that you're better than they are, and you can find people who actually respect you and are loyal to you. Don't be afraid to be a little arrogant too. Show them that just because they exclude you, doesn't mean you're going to go cry in the corner. Show them that you're stronger than that :)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
Me: 16/F.
My sister: 14/F
Last year, my sister attempted suicide and a couple months ago, she was planning another attempt, but it failed. She's on medication and we're trying to get her involved in more things to keep her busy, since before she did nothing, but sit around and complain. Recently, she's come across this boy at our school, we'll just call him J. Well, J is a senior in high school and he's one of those guys who works out constantly because he seems to have a low self-esteem. He's pretty friendly, but he doesn't trust people right away. So, my sister started to message him on facebook to start being friends with him and he seemed eager to meet her at first, but she started acting weird. By this, she always asked him what he was up to and if he one-worded her, she'd get snippy and demand why he didn't want to talk to her and when they met at school, she refused to talk to him because she's so shy, no matter how much he tried to get her to talk.
So he kind of gave up trying to be friends with her, but my sister didn't. She kept pushing and messaging him and then he ended up going out with another girl and my sister was furious. She started insulting him and getting nasty with him and when I told her to stop, he wasn't going to like her if she did that, she told me to shut up and that she wasn't doing anything wrong. So I did, but I also sent an apology message to J about all the drama she's stirring up with him. This happened about a month ago or so and now she's literally stalking him, she watches him all the time at school and she's always demanding that I check his facebook, since she deleted him from her friends list out of anger. And this is really aggravating me because this poor guy isn't getting a break and now my sister has gotten her friend in on this obsession, so it's all I hear about. This is extremely unhealthy, it has to be. And not to mention, really creepy. Her therapist probably doesn't even know about it and my mom doesn't do a thing about it, just shrugs it off. I really want my sister to stop this crazy obsession. Is there anything I can do, or try to do? Any other help I can get for her?
If her therapist doesn't know about this.. well thats dangerous. Try to contact her therapist and tell her immediately! If you dont know how to contact her, ask your mom.
It sounds like she needs something else to take her mind off of him. First of all, take your computer and hide it. Probably not in your house since she could find it. Ask one of your friends (someone that is not friends with your sister) and ask them to take your computer. If its not a mobile computer, try unplugging it or something to make it not work. I know it seems silly, but if the computer is broken, she wont be able to creep on him.
The way to stop her from this is cutting off her resources. Which is you, her friend, and probably school. Talk to her friend about it and tell her that its unhealthy. Try to convince her friend that she needs to help you to make your sister stop. Its creepy and it could potentially be dangerous to her (what if she never stops, gets insanely mad, and goes suicidal again because of this??) Then try talking to her school principal, counselor or whomever. Maybe they can relocate her classes or locker so that way she wont interfere with him?
She also needs to make some new friends. I knew someone like her (has weird obsessions and is on medications for certain things like depression) the key to solving this is making her feel comfortable. She needs comfort, safety, friendship, love. Try spending a night with her and letting her do whatever she wants (minus the creeping) she can pick a movie to watch, or where to go shopping etc. She needs you, her sister, to make her feel loved. Same with your mother. Speak to your mother about this and let her know that you 3 should spend some quality time together to make her feel loved. Also, try to get her involved with other people. Introduce her to a new group of people, people who are true, loyal friends who might help her.
There was this one time that I wasn't feeling to great for about a few months. My mom tried to make me feel better, and one time she bought me airplane tickets to Florida. Spring Break it was just her and I in Palm Beach :) it was amazing. It took my mind off everything and I just had a great quality time with her. Maybe your sister needs a little vacation away from home. It doesn't have to be far, maybe just a road trip and sight seeing?
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions! :)