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alone again on prom night
14/f
Every year my junior high has a Last Dance, which is kinda like a mini prom. Last year, all of my friends got ready with their other friends that I barely knew. I had to get ready alone with my mom.
This year, I'm scared the same thing will happen. They're all getting ready with one of the popular girls that I don't really know. My other friends aren't going at all. And my mom is going away this year (not that I want to get ready with her again, anyway). What should I do? Please respond quickly, the dance is this weekend!!
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Pick your bestest friend that isn't going and invite her to go with you. You guys could get hair and make-up appointments.
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Just to kind of be disruptive here for a second:
why don't you just go hang out with your friends who aren't going? Couldn't you have more fun with them? Why is the dance so important to you? In the long run anything that happens there will ultimately prove meaningless anyway.
Try to look at the big picture and not get caught up in trivial matters. Your life will be a lot less stressful if you do that.
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As someone who spent many nights alone as a young teenager, my advice to you is don't be like me. I was always too shy and afraid of rejection to branch out and ask if I could come along somewhere. I always waited to be asked which is never the best solution. People often forget to invite you or assume that you don't want to go since you haven't brought it up yourself. Ask one of your friends who is going if they would mind if you came along as well. I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem. They are your friends after all. Don't wait to be invited. Be proactive, and ask for what you want. The worst they can do is say "no".
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I know where you are coming from, and it is more fun to get ready with the girls.
Ask one of your friends if you can tag along with them. It doesn't matter if you don't know the popular girl, you can get to know her and maybe make another friend.
If thats not possible, maybe agree to meet up with those friends at a certain place so you all can walk in together?
Don't let it stress you out, trust me, junior high dances are just the beginning! Think about prom!
Good luck,
-Abby
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OK.. you're 14 so this may sound crazy.. but trust me. I'm 18 and when you get older you'll understand.
ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD!! Just because you need to get ready alone, doesn't mean the world has ended and you're gonna die.... ITS OKAYYY.
I was once your age and I thought I had to get ready with my friends too. But boy was I wrong.
Let me ask you this.. is there any "rule book" or "manuel" on how to get ready for a dance?? is there a written rule that says "you need to get ready with your friends"?? no. so why does it matter so much??
What's the whole point in this dance anyways? To go and have fun? or to stress out over something so ridiculous like getting ready with friends? WHO CARES IF YOU HAVE TO GET READY BY YOURSELF. Nobody is going to look at you like "omg she got ready alone.. what a freak..." umm trust me, i've been to plenty of dances. I've gotten ready alone plenty of times. Nobody cares.
you'll be fine. trust me. nobody cares if you got ready with friends or not..
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