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A shy but outgoing person
I know the subject seems confusing, but I'm a person who's very shy but I'm outgoing around my closest friends, but I want to hang out with other people and still have them close to me, but the thing is I'm too shy and when I start to hang out with someone, I end up ignoring them because of my friends. So how do I start speaking up to a person to make them my friend? (too much "friend" in this subject)
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Reading the other answers, mine is a bit different. I'm also more outgoing than shy so you may just disregard what I have to say. Anyway, I think going out to places like shopping and stuff alone is a great idea! Of course, I'd still go with my friends but sometimes I just like to get out by myself and have different social interaction. Also, when you do find some new friends or a friend. Hang out with them one-on-one first or with the new group. See how they're like. Are they like your old group of friends? Or are they totally different? Do you think your friends would like to have new friends too? If they do happen to like the same things as your old friends suggest that they meet your new friends. Some friends don't want to feel replaced. I mean, would you? Some groups of friends take it offensively when you make new friends. I really don't think you should ignore ANYONE because your friends don't like them.
I hope my advice helped and I hope you make new friends and keep them! I love meeting new people. It's sooo fun!
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I'm like that too. I'm real shy around people I don't know, but once I start making good friends, I loosen up and become myself and can be very outgoing.
You said when you start to hang out with someone, you end up ignoring them because of your friends? Why would your other friends cause you to ignore someone else??
Try doing things by yourself once in a while. Take this for example- I recently got involved in shopping by myself. Normally I shop with friends at the mall. But one day I had nothing to do and I encouraged myself to go to the mall by myself. I really enjoyed it and I actually spoke to strangers. I'm learning how to be more social and sometimes doing things alone allows you to do just that.
Once you make a new friend, introduce them to your new group of friends. It sounds like you have an old, good group of friends. but when you make new friends, it seems like you have 2 groups which is confusing. So try introducing all of them together. Throw a party and invite everyone :)
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I'm the same way, actually. It takes me a while to really warm up to people.
If you want to expand your circle of friends then you have to make more of an effort to pay attention to new acquaintances. The thing is that your age is a good time to take chances with stuff like this because after you graduate high school everybody is going to go their separate ways, so whether they accepted you as a friend or not becomes kinda immaterial in the long run. So night as well get in some practice making friends.
Half the battle in life is just having balls. If you develop that bravery then you vastly increase your chances of really getting somewhere.
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