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Left out
My childhood best friend wants nothing to do with me, and I can't stand caring for her and she doesn't even care if I'm alive. For example, the other day I emailed her congrats on her graduation and received not even a thank you, however she was quick to reply and reunite with the old group of friends we use to share, I even feel left out of that group now...I just don't know what is wrong with me. (side note: people often tell me I am kind and fun to be around so I'm even more confused! I am completely open to suggestions on how to improve as an individual.)
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always there's two sides to a story. maybe you did something that offended her and she couldn't get over it. or maybe she's just picky now. i dont know, there could be tons of reasons.
but don't give up over her not replying. if you still wanna be friends with her, just continue caring. email her asking whats up once in a while. and when she's in town or you guys happen to cross path, say hi and invite her for coffee or lunch or something.
you guys may not be Best Friends, but it's nice to still have a childhood friend.
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Don't be concerned with changing yourself.
If your friend isn't interested in talking to you, then thats her problem. People spread apart and decide what friends to pay attention to and what friends they don't exactly want around anymore. This can hurt a lot, but if she decides you aren't worth your time, then she most definitely is not worth yours.
All you can do is try, be nice and friendly, and focus on yourself.
Good luck,
-Abby
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There is a reason they call it Childhood friends. It means "childhood".. Some people are fortunate enough to stay friends with their childhood friends for a very long time. But there are people who disconnect from their childhood friends, and you are one of them. Don't feel left out, I'm one of them too. I'm just about to graduate high school and start college, and I learned that you don't need to have a best friend in order to be happy. However, I am fortunate enough to have my boyfriend be my best friend.
If she wants nothing to do with you, fine, let her. Its her decision and you can't control that. You can't force her to be friends with you, that would be unethical. What I suggest is that you let her be. Let her make her own choices, and let her make her own mistakes. Possibly, one of her mistakes was letting you go.
If she is reuniting with your old group, why don't you do the same thing? How is she capable of doing that, but you aren't?? you can very well do the same thing. Reconnect with that old group, and show her that you aren't going to let her put you down. Stand up for yourself and show her that just because she can act like a bitch, doesn't mean you have to stand down and let her take your other friends away from you! Have a little competition if you must. Dont just back away like a coward. Sorry if that comes off rude haha, but I'm a very competitive person. If my "so called friend" started turning my other friends away from me.. I would do something about it and stop her.
If for some reason your old group of friends don't want anything to do with you either, turn around with your shoulders back, chest up, nose up high in the air and walk with pride. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and they can go in a hole and rot. They aren't true friends if they are turning their backs against you too. Show them that you're better than they are, and you can find people who actually respect you and are loyal to you. Don't be afraid to be a little arrogant too. Show them that just because they exclude you, doesn't mean you're going to go cry in the corner. Show them that you're stronger than that :)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
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