Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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Age: 17
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16/f.
Ok well, i want to get my hair dyed/cut but i have no idea what to do,i want to do something different,my hairs been light brown with lighter highlights for..my whole life.i want a change. heres my picture :
if this code doesn't work,thennn it might be either this code :
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or this one :
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hah,ok. i was thinking darker..any ideas you think will look good on me. what hair cut should i get? also what color to dye my hair? pictures would help. thankss! (link)
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well i had long hair like you and i just got it cut. it looks pretty cool. yea i think if you did like dark brown [chocoalte color] it would look cool. heres a pic of me with my new hair and i think it looks good on me. and thats saying a lot because usually i think i look like crap. haha
http://i131.photobucket.com/albums/p289/dionnespicy/CIMG3582.jpg
you might not want it that short but its an idea. btw i wanna change my haircolor too. any suggestions?
SAM
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what are some good books for 13 yr olds?
like something interesting but it cant have anything about sex in it.i like stuff like mysteries and stuff like the gossip girl series but of course it has sex in it so im not aloud 2 read it .
and you no those fearless books?do all of them have sex in them or just the second one?
thnx sooooo much!
(i rate!!!) (link)
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"hard love": its a really good book about well teenage love but nothing about sex in it at all and its by ellen wittlinger
SAM
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ok so ill make this as short as i can. some background info: i went to a private school for 9 years where i had a small extremely close-knit group of friends. their parents were always very strict on them and they werent always allowed to do things most kids/teens can do, which basically irritated me because my mom let me have my freedom as long as i wasnt a little hoodlum you know but they became very close-minded basically because of their parents i guess, although they were good friends. soo after 8th grade i switched schools and sadly lost touch with most of them except my best friend of the group. two years ago in 9th grade i got my cartilage pierced [i already had 2 holes in each lobe.. and she had just gotten her first hole done like the yr before i think because she wasnt allowed before]. she hated it. she said if i get any more piercings she wouldnt talk to me. honestly what kind of friend says that? i was basically like wtf? but let it blow over. and nevertheless i pierced the cartilage on my other ear that summer. she never said anything about it, so it was ok. well our communication became less and less since we both had busy schedules, and we basically didnt talk at all for a long time.. occasionally on myspace or text but didnt see each other. now a month ago i got my industrial pierced but havent seen her since then. well im hanging out with her tomorrow, were going to an amusement park and my hair will have to be up and i know she'll see it.. and cant WAIT to see what shes gonna say about it. same with her mom. what should i do? im obviously not gonna take it out or anything just because she doesnt like it but i know im gonna end up pissed off when she says something about it. i dont care what people think about me with the exception of my close friends and family, so if it was anyone else i wouldnt really care.. but yeahh.. any ways on how to deal so i wont be stuck with her for hours tomorrow being pissed? (link)
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you know it sux that she cant be more supportive but its not her fault. its what she was brought up believing. you are very fortunate to have open minded parents but your friend is not. it reminds me of how some parents and friends are not supportive of having a gay friend or child. although i believe that there is nothing wrong with being who you are some people were raised differently so try to think of it that way. by the way i have 2 holes in each ear too and i think itd be awesome to get a cartlige piercing. hopefully ill get one soon =]. anyways try not to let it get to you because your friend loves you and im sure her mom thinks you're a great person. anyways have fun tomorrow and dont worry about it.
SAM
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This guy acted completely into me and than he does a 180 and ignores me, why? (link)
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im sorry. i have a question though. did he tell you he doesnt like you? did he find out you liked him? yea same thing happened to me. a guy obviously liked me by the way he acted towards me then he told me he didnt because he found out i liked him. i was really confused but some guys are just natural flirts. im sure he didnt mean to lead you on or anything. its weird how he just ignores you all of a sudden though. i think you should forget about him if you're sure he doesnt like you or you can try to find out if he does. but ive learned that its not really worth it. anyways hope it goes well.
SAM
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Ok so you know how underneath your belly button theres like that fat? Its like a band of fat around the bottom of your stomach? How do you get rid of that? Do you know any exercises to get eliminate that? (link)
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do sit ups or if you have an ABlounge that works too. i have one and it gives you a really nice firm stomach free of fat. and it gets rid of the fat under your belly button too
SAM
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Okay so thanks for opening this up and wasting 5 mins. of your life on me. LoL. Anyways I just wanted to know what is going on in this dude's head. So I know this guy and he went out with this girl for like 3 years and really they seemed like they were in love. Okay so I saw them hanging out and he seemed like he really loved her but two weeks later he breaks up with her because he is bored with her and he wants to explore other people. I really didnt see how he could just break up with her and not say anything but that he's bored. I mean doesnt he miss her? He said he was in a depressive relationship with her. But then he tries to get hooked up with another girl that doesnt like him back and he gets all depressed yet he still doesnt run back to his old girlfriend! After he realizes that the girl that he liked didnt want anything to do with him he then again moves on to another girl that he is now going out with now. I just dont understand how he can just move on from a beautiful girl that he talked to all the time and hanged around everyday of his life almost! For three years. It just seems unreal to me. Does anyone understand? (link)
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yea i understand. its what he said exactly. i know because in middle school i "went out" with this guy for a long time like 2 years. then after a while i felt like i was changing, i was becoming a different person. my bf was going in a different direction than me. i doesnt mean that he was a bad person or that i was. it just wasnt the same anymore. so i ened it more or less for the same reason that i was bored in the relationship. it doesnt mean that he doesnt care about her, he simiply lost interest as time went by. sometimes things dont work out but im sure they can still be friends. hope i helped a little
SAM
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Can anyone help me to predict when I will get my period?
Info.
F/15 -going to be in 10th grade
dicharge: about 1 1/2 years
Mom started: summer going into 8th grade
Dad's side: late bloomers
Bra size: 32A
Arm pit hair: none
Pubic hair: much
will i get arm pit hair after i start or before?
please any estimate is good!
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When will my breasts get bigger. My mom isn't small and my dads side is just late but not really small. Just want to be bigger!
any brands of bras I should try to help me look bigger in tee shirts and low cut ones? (link)
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armpit hair is different for everyone. so that doesnt matter too much. you'll get it pretty soon. umm push up bras work really well. and i heard victorias secret has these like push up swim suits that you can only order through catalogues. your boobs will grow and so will mine so dont worry so much
SAM
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i need a good heading for my myspace. any ideas?? plz & thank you. :) (link)
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use an inside joke. or something stupid that you like. randomness is the best!
SAM
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well ill say hes sean im sue and my other guy friend is john. ok the party...i kinda talked to him but nothing good i guess like hi and in the pool he played football i did some of the time but when i wasnt he kept catching the ball and running towards me and say sue move and be smiling. then i was with my other best friends that came 2 girls and a guy. were the kinda people to wrestle and stuff and just do stuff to eachother. well the guy and i were with eachother alot...and like sitting RIGHT by eachother on the pool steps and wed jump on eachother throw pool toys squirt eachother with squirt guns ok it was a war kinda a play war lol. i guess in the pics someone took we were kinda close flirty. they kept retaking pics of us because they were gona give them out and i had only one that was me sitting. sean looked like he was gettin so jelous hed come over say dont hurt her im like im fine were just joking and he would just like splash john or something when i wasnt looking. they hated eachother before people call john rainbow and he used to before i became friends with him then i told him to stop. sean is NEVER the jelous kind of person with any other girls but lately...me. and also when we went to the carnival. sean he was spying and i was with alot of my friends including john i asked a question about that acting as sean. i couldnt help it i didnt notice ive just been so love sick lately. i sholdnt be at john he did nothing or sean he didnt either or me i just dont know. WHAT DO I DO? HE WONT TALK TO ME now he wont even sign on aim. i didnt notice it hurt him so bad. i told him i was sorry that john is JUST my friend nothing more. but i also said that before to sean that we were friends nothing more when it was going crazy when we loved eachother. WHAT DO I DO! i cant take it. i hurt him so bad and i couldnt help it i didnt notice it i can talk to him till the next party in about a week which he might not go cuz its one of my bffs and id go unles its fixed by then. i just feel so love sick and i know that is NOT an excuse but it became worse then ever i NEVER felt that bad. -13/f- (link)
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well first of all its not your fault. i have guy friends too and sometimes it seems like theres a lot of flirting going on when really its nothing. well is there any other way you can contact sean? do you know his number, myspace, email, or something? if he has a myspace or something like that then send him a message and say your sorry and ask him if hes going to the party. tell him you want him to go to the party because you miss him. if you cant call him or contact him then try and wait for the party. if he goes then talk to him there and tell him that you dont like john and try to be flirty with sean. show him you like him. you dont have to actually tell him you like him just show him. hope it works out. =]
SAM
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ok my friend likes these 2 guys can she CANT pick who to choose so would u please help me. 1 man is evan- whos 2 years younger, hes a cutie and he asked her out twice and she denined him and wishes she didnt and ever since then she loved him for like a year but hes in florida now but hes coming back in middle of july. the only thing is she hasnt seen him in a year and she doesnt kno if he likes her. ok next guy is kevin- who just met her and hes in LOVE with her and obsessed. he cares about her alot and hes a year older. hes a cutie and they just started hanging out. shes torn between both of them and i doesnt know what to do. please help! any advice!? ill love you forever
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i say Kevin, because you know for sure that he DOES like her. what if evan doesnt like her anymore? plus if she denied him twice then he probably moved on.
plus older guys are better in my opinion haha
SAM
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how do lesbians have sex (link)
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they can have oral sex like a blow job. or they can also finger eachother. those are the oly ways i know of.
SAM
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Ive known this guy for like 2 years now. We've been best friends since we first met. Over the time i've fallen in love with him. He says he only loves me as a friend. But, sometimes he acts like he wants to be my boyfriend. Hes starting to confuse me. He'll do anything for me. Hes soo sweet. When I make him mad at me, he'll end up giving in because he hates not talking to me. He says it kills him.
How do I get over him? everytime it seems i do, he draws me back in. Even if i have a boyfriend! (link)
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wow this sounds just like me. ive been in love with my best friend for a long time too. he confuses me too. if theres one thing ive learned though its that no matter what it may seem like if he tells you that he only likes you as a friend then you have to believe him. my friend always tells me how much he misses me and when we see eachother it seems like he likes me. if you still have a doubt about him liking you as more than a friend then you need to ask him directly. maybe he does like you i cant say for sure but if you love him you should try. if he says he doesnt like you then you need to understand that he loves you very much as a friend and he'll always be there for you but you need to forget about in "that kind of way." now if he says he likes you then you will need to decide if he means more to you then your current boyfriend. well i know its tough and i hope ive helped in some way. anything you need im here.
SAM
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Does anybody know any signs that a guy might show if he likes you? Like a guy that you havent ever talked to? (link)
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well if you havent talked then he probably cant like you yet. but if this guy is looking at you a lot or you know that he might be talking about you with his friends or something then he might think youre hot. i say you talk to him and get to know him better. then see where it goes. good luck
SAM
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14/male
Im not sure why, but I am in this odd time where I feel like i dont care about anything. My great grandmother may be dying soon, and I may be close to losing my girlfriend, but the weird thing is, I have not been stressed. Normally I would be. I love them so much, I should be stressing but im not. This has been going on since school let out, when my best friends were fighting. Is this some awkward teen stage or something, or a result of stress? (link)
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that happened to me once. im not exactly sure if it happens to everyone but i do think it is related with stress. for about a week or two a lot of things were terrible in my life but i really wasnt stressed about it and it didnt affect me as much. i was just ok with it. i dont know if its good or bad but i wouldnt worry about it. it will pass soon. i wish you the best and your great grandmother as well.
SAM
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out like 1 or 2 weeks now and we're gonna make out and he's most likely gonna feel me up haha I'm okay with it and everything haha.BUT he said I can feel him "down" if I want to so if I have the courage tonight haha how would I go about doing this without putting my hands down his pants or anything ? I just wanna get him exited haha thnkx a million !! [p.s. no lectures please haha]
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grab his legs and his butt! haha fun
SAM
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okay im sortof freaking out a bit.
my friend alex gave me a condom as a joke.
obviously im not going to use it, i'm too young.
so i hid it in my purse.
i woke up this morning to my mom looking around my room!
i think she was about to read my diary or something.
but now i'm SO scared she'll find the condom.
i didntg know what to do so i opened the condom and threw it into the road.
but now what do i do with the rapper?
wont they find it in the garbage?
aah! please help! (link)
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cut it up into little pieces of confeti and then throw them away or flush them down the toilet.
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Okay, so it's the 4th of July and I'm looking for something to do with my friends. We were gonna go to the beach to watch fireworks, but that happened yesterday and we didn't know. So we were still going to go to the beach, but it's POURING outside. I thought, hm, why don't I just have a cookout and maybe a bonfire, since I don't have any fireworks it'll be kind of blahh. But it'll be kind of tough to have a bonfire/cookout in the pouring rain. What could we do that'd be fun for the 4th, besides just hanging around at one of our houses?
Btw- I want to do something fun, because I didn't do anything last 4th because I just had surgery and I couldn't really move too much.
& we can't watch fireworks somewhere else because it's raining.
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hey depending on where you live there could be other fireworks around. go on google and type in fireworks 4th of july and then youre zip code. i bet theres something close by. or you can buy those little popping things that have confetii in them and pop em at nite. id be pretty fun. heh well have fun =]
SAM
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14/f . Okay welll i have been in alot of relasionships, and i have only had one that was long.. and it was with this kid matt we dated for 2 years and it was great.. Untill he dumped me because he was tolled i was cheating on him but i wasn't and i tolled him that and he didn't beleave me. So i got with this kid braedon we broke up. and then matt asked me out again and i said yes becuase i love him so damn much but now that we are back together, i never see him like he is always gone i have talked to him two times in the passed month i have NOT seen him so i need help here what should i do??
sighned ,
i never ever see him (link)
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talk to him. sometimes long distance realtionships dont work out so well because you need to be in contact with the person. tell him that you want to spend more time together and that you really miss him, but if nothing changes then you should just be friends with him.
SAM
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hay...
i like to read before i go to bed but i have nothing to read at the moment... i just finished my last book and cant find another to read that interests me!
i just finished reading
'missing judy' by anne cassidy and i'v also red
'lola rose' by jacqueline wilson twicw cos i really enjoyed it.
have any good books i cant read? like the ones i'v mentioned? ones i can relate to??? (link)
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read "Hard Love" by ellen wittlinger. hands down best book ive ever read. =] its about teenage love and how things dont always work out so well.
SAM
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Me and my best friend (kahli) went to party a couple nights ago. And emily came up to us and told us that Makayla was saying she was going out with brien (kahli's boyfriend,) And then makayla came over and said not to be mad at her because brien asked her out and said he broke up with kahli on the last day of school, but he never did.He also said that he didnt ask out Makayla .So kahli keeps texting and calling him but he won't respond. Is he cheating? (link)
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i think he might be. or these girls r trying to play games with kahli's mind o that she will be mad at brien and dump him. girls do that sometimes. make sure she gets all the facts strait before accusing him of cheating and breaking up. good luck
SAM
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