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Im in love with my best friend
Ive known this guy for like 2 years now. We've been best friends since we first met. Over the time i've fallen in love with him. He says he only loves me as a friend. But, sometimes he acts like he wants to be my boyfriend. Hes starting to confuse me. He'll do anything for me. Hes soo sweet. When I make him mad at me, he'll end up giving in because he hates not talking to me. He says it kills him.
How do I get over him? everytime it seems i do, he draws me back in. Even if i have a boyfriend!
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I know exactly how you're feeling-i just finished dealing with your exact same problem, and I know how hard it is. I think the biggest thing you should remember is that guys don't always realize that they're actions have hidden subtext; that is, they don't realize what they're actually doing isn't how it's being perceived. As a good friend of mine once told me, 'God gave men a dick and a brain, but not enough blood to run both' - meaning that sometimes the horniness just takes over and he doesn't think rationally. He probably doesn't realize that the flirting - or whatever else may be happening - confuses you, and if he knew that how much it confuses you I'm sure he'd try to stop.
Taking your friendship to 'the next level' probably isn't the best idea. From what you've said, it sounds like you don't want to, and it's hard to go back to being only friends after you've messed around, even if you've both agreed that it was an experimental thing, hooking up. I've messed around with my best friend, and even though we're alright now we were both really weirded out doing...intimate...things together. I don't suggest friends with benefits, either, because things get really fuzzy that way, and that can easily ruin a friendship.
Getting over him is going to take time. Remind yourself that he's your best friend and that you wouldn't want to risk the friendship for something that could only possibly work out, unless he's specifically stated that he wants to be more than friends with you. If it keeps up, I'd talk to him about it. If you're really close something letting him know how you feel probably won't make things weird. Communication is the best option if you're having a hard time figuring things out. Take your time, and don't expect to get over him overnight. Good luck!
JM
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yeah, but since hes youre best feind i woulnd recommend it youll just ruin youre freindship after you break up, it ruined mine evn though i thought i could keep us together even after we break up i couldnt, so i would recommed just keeping youre freindship as it is
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wow ok so i know exactly how you feel, and the best thing to remember is everything happenes for a reason, and if you try to force yourself to stop liking him, your just gonna end up falling even harder, so play it cool and relax. soon but surely you wont relize it yourslef but you will eventually find taht he isn tthe one and youve become so close that if you ended up goin out it would hurt both of you.
but try talking to him about let him know how yo ufeel, it wont hurt to try and you will neevr know if you dnt.
hope i helped
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wow this sounds just like me. ive been in love with my best friend for a long time too. he confuses me too. if theres one thing ive learned though its that no matter what it may seem like if he tells you that he only likes you as a friend then you have to believe him. my friend always tells me how much he misses me and when we see eachother it seems like he likes me. if you still have a doubt about him liking you as more than a friend then you need to ask him directly. maybe he does like you i cant say for sure but if you love him you should try. if he says he doesnt like you then you need to understand that he loves you very much as a friend and he'll always be there for you but you need to forget about in "that kind of way." now if he says he likes you then you will need to decide if he means more to you then your current boyfriend. well i know its tough and i hope ive helped in some way. anything you need im here.
SAM
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he's making it obvious that he likes you. He only doesn't tell you directly because he's afraid you'll reject him.
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